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I will be very brief about it

My NL family,I’m really angry and at the same time heartbroken,I am a type that is fond of social media,I catch cruise,post funny memes ,about politics,celebrities,fashions etc and just flow with the vibes. Note-: I don’t post about my personal stuffs,in fact I do upload my own personal pictures just once in a blue moon. My boyfriend never complain about it and lot of time we do laugh together about some. I am not the type that will set my privacy and hide someone to post anything cause I may not remember to reset the settings in a year time.

Last month,I was at my boyfriend’s place and he told me that his friend called him and they discussed about me and he told him that I am too stubborn and I just post anything I like on my WhatsApp status as if I don’t care about anybody,I just laughed and told my boyfriend that he should have told him it doesn’t defines me,but he fired up and said I should quit posting all in the name of cruise,it got into an heated argument that morning and I angrily left him in the bathroom to do the bathing alone but we found a way to settle it and we were cool.

Last week,we were discussing about our introduction and he said he wanted something bigger and I said I needed something very small,one thing led to the other and he told me I can’t drag him to go against his wishes,i told him also that he can’t drag me to go against my wishes,I noticed he was really angry that I had to read his other messages without replying till the following day,cause he was angry and I was angry at the same time,I’m a very aggressive person and I am working so much on my anger,in fact I was surprised that I was able to keep quiet when he was ranting,I was really happy with myself. The following day,we went back to the discussion and it was cool though he said he was still angry that I ignored him for 22 hours,I apologised and told him the reason behind him,I don’t want to make the statements I will later regret. We were cool thereafter.

Yesterday,he told me his friend (that same friend)will be coming over and will be spending two weeks at his place and I can come over if my schedule isn’t tight,but I declined,I have lot of things to tidy up. It’s our normal routine to call on video call before going to bed, we were on the call when a topic popped up and I told me that him and his friend had a discussion about me again,and he was sounding angry again bringing back the issue that we already buried just because he claimed his friend said this,his friend said that,I maintained my silence and we talked it out again.

This is becoming too much that we only do have problems anytime his friend said this or his friend said that,I am not trying to take him away from his friend but at least,he shouldn’t be the one controlling my relationship .
I don’t know what to do and I am afraid I may end the relationship if it continues like this.

Note-: I have a good relationship with his friends and we do talk from time to time.

It seems your boyfriend isn't entirely in control of his life neither is he in control of his love life.

Your happiness with him isn't guaranteed.

Most times this sort of thing comes from his family female members. Now it's coming from his friend.

What's your relationship with this friend that he is stalking you on social media?

Did he frigging make a pass at you at any point in time?

I don't get his stake in this relationship. I don't also get why your guy cannot draw a line where you are involved.

This is a matter between two consenting adult. If your guy lacks the clout to be in a relationship.......

My dear, you should walked out of that relationship. He lacks the balls to handle a relationship.

If he wants you, then set terms and conditions.

If he ain't subscribing, let he shift.

Nonsense.

Aunty , you when you date a man and intend to marry him , you are indirectly marrying and dating three groups of people : His friends, His family and He himself .

So my own advice for you is that you start adjusting your lifestyle to suit his own . Now I am not saying you are to lose your own identity all in the name of pleasing him, but think about the time and investment(not to mention the premarital sexual adventures you had with him ) you have put into this relationship. Who stands a chance to lose : you or him ? Think well .

angrily left him in the bathroom to do the bathing alone

AdesewaAde:
What’s funny about leaving someone in the bathroom?

allow me wallow in my freaking imaginations

garriAndsugar:

What’s funny about leaving someone in the bathroom?

garriAndsugar:

Guy remove your mind from the fūckery.

She needs advice.

Your boyfriend friend think say him wise him be........... man
Putting your mouth in other people relationship is suicidal now you don carry the matter come here. He is a gunner.

Godada:



It seems your boyfriend isn't entirely in control of his life.

Your happiness with him isn't guaranteed.

Most times this sort of thing comes from his family female members. Now it's coming from his friend.

My dear, walked out of that relationship. He lacks the balls to handle a relationship.

If he wants you, then set terms and conditions.

If he ain't subscribing, let he shift.

Nonsense.

Thanks so much

yuping:
Your boyfriend friend think say him wise him be........... man
Putting your mouth in other people relationship is suicidal now you don carry the matter come here. He is a gunner.

Tell your boyfriend to date his friend.
If igive you the real advice you might nat take it

Sorry to ask this, is your boyfriend dating his so called friend?? Cos I don’t know why his friend is so concerned about you guys relationship

Talk to his friend na

garriAndsugar:



allow me wallow in my freaking imaginations

Is better you do

Candidlady:
Tell your boyfriend to date his friend.

If igive you the real advice you might nat take it

Give me the real one
I’m here cause of it

AdesewaAde:
Give me the real one
I’m here cause of it

You, what do you really want. What do you wanna do bout the relationship/situation?

Na lady wey get power dey date remote control....I moveee

VicM6:
Na lady wey get power dey date remote control....I moveee

This comment gat me laughing

AdesewaAde:
This comment gat me laughing

Abi na