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authority2006:
I'm meeting her needs today because I can now. Her dedication and uniqueness propelled me to try harder. Honestly speaking, I didn't expect what I got.



No, it won't. That's because we didn't start with me meeting her needs when we were dating and for like five years into our marriage.

Mariangeles:
Ngwanu ooo!

Munzy14:
gi na ngwanu gi a...

Okwa i mahu zi ihe i ga ekwu

Mariangeles:
No. It's more like you're right to an extent, and I'm right to an extent too, so the ngwanu ooo.

Remember that couple that I told you about? That they both were their firsts? I like their story.
Their union was just so pure, so innocent and so rare.
On their honeymoon, it took them 2-3 days to locate Jerusalem.
If I remember correctly, they were both doctors too.

Munzy14:
Lmaooo...I swear I was laughing out loud reading this comment

Oooohhh!!! Jerusalem kwa

I meela mu achigbuo onwe m na abalia..hehehe..You must be funny in reality.

The truth wu, when two adults are in love, they act like toddlers..Very fun and exciting to explore..

Okwa ndi nke Chinese ahu? Abii Japan or so.

Mariangeles:
Ndi Naijiria ka ha wu o.
The wife shared the story here on nairaland.
Diary section.

Munzy14:
Really?

The one I know was an Asian couple shiri ebe ozo, Instead of the wife's main local government...

Nwaanyi a na ebe mgbe o wula ha nwere mmeko..

And also, one a friend who is a nurse told me, the couples wounded themselves ebe nwoke sweatiga Igbahe local government nwunye ya..

Very funny but its the innocence for me..

Mariangeles:
Yes. At some point, the lady had to delete everything because of some monitoring spirits who knew them in person figured out.

Munzy14:
Nairaland anyi a..

Funny enough ufodu couples are passing through similar experience now sef..

Onwere akwukwo ana akpo "Every woman" I ma ya?

NickiSlay:
"Why are women in a rush to marry? They don't even add value to themselves, I'm now 80% in agreement that marriage is one of the greatest achievement for a woman, maybe in Nigeria"

It's stupid and ignorant to generalise based on what one person did to you.

Mariangeles:
I've heard about it.

samwillyco1:
Hmm, currently my girlfriend is telling me that she won't be answering her surname during her next birthday Wich is September 2022, and wants her marriage introduction latest April 2022 and am still thinking about it.
She is a good girl I love her, but financially am not ready because am just starting up my life, I don't know how to go about it.

ikenna44:
Super story

samwillyco1:
Hmm, currently my girlfriend is telling me that she won't be answering her surname during her next birthday Wich is September 2022, and wants her marriage introduction latest April 2022 and am still thinking about it.
She is a good girl I love her, but financially am not ready because am just starting up my life, I don't know how to go about it.

Felimax:
My reason may not actually or perfectly fit into your lifestyle.
We are not wired the same.
For me, it is more of a biological reason. When I married her everyone who cares rained insult on me, we did not waste time before the house gets filled up with babies. No single prenatal or postnatal stories, her body was still so young and I believe with little or no abortion stories. Again, I knew she will grow into me.
Presently, if I tell people I am older than her with more than ten years some people just wonder and for me she is evergreen. If I had not gotten married to her that young perhaps I would have been so tired but there is always a price to pay.
Secondly, regardless of the age difference women are always older than men, a truth too difficult to accept. You are very free to dispute this I won't get offended.

authority2006:
Yeah, the one that makes you sad. I got it, you will get lucky one day, be hopeful.

revived:
Niggaar 2secs everywhere for burst

Omooooooooo E pain me sae you dun conclude 10months ahead already.

Wooo E go be

olawaley12:
you should work something out between you both if she's lucratively supportive. You know what i mean

Excel70:
In what way, are they older

vikgreen01:
I just saw a post of one my classmate on Facebook. We went to the same polytechnic in 2010. He’s preparing to marry his long time girlfriend he met in school next year Nd that’s roughly 12years. Some people saying a lady can’t wait shouldn’t b uttering such statement but let’s just say it’s about individual choices. There are a lot of folks out there who dated or were together for a longer period bfr eventually getting wedded.

As for the op sorry about your ordeal do not blame her too much cos that’s her choice anyways. Believe me she will still be mocked if u later not marry her.

Felimax:
A woman of 25 years is already receiving pressure of marriage both internally and externally.
A guy of 25, even if he is so successful to be thinking of marriage will advice to take his time, some will even tell him he is still too young. A woman of 40 getting married to a guy of 25 is madness.
A guy of 40 getting married to a lady of 20-25 is normal.
Men and women are not equal, they will never be.
Anyway, I don't think I am making much sense. What do you think?

Excel70:
I get what you are saying but how it relate to a woman being older than a man of the same age is not clear

Fiscus105:
And you think the gf waited because she love the guy or serious and better guys come her for the duration?

ikenna44:
Notice how you didn't say anything about your happiness... Because it doesn't exist! And you know deep down one random guy is out there bleeping your stupi.d wife like the little bi.tch that she is... And you're dy.ing inside little by little!

authority2006:
Why all these nah? Did I attack you? You better direct your anger to those who neglected you.

Moreign001:
She has brought up this before, But I told her to just wait after our Nysc next year. But....

Moreign001:
It will hurt me the more. I just want her to happy.

Moreign001:
It will hurt me the more. I just want her to happy.

worldclass68:
Going through what may likely be the same for me too...
So I met this girl during my service year, and finished together bout a month now....
Did I all could do to break up the relationship ( broke up like 10times with her walai the thing no gree break o ) she fought for the relationship, and this is a very pretty baby face beautiful girl, and got other suitors trying to have her but even got to a point she was ready to die for the relationship (attempting suicide stuffs) we re both in love but age is not on side too,but she's insisting she wants me, but I doubt she's going to wait for me to generally balance...I don't put too much hope, I don't want heartbreak, although I'm not dating anyone else, if she's going to wait I'll marry her regardless of anything, but if otherwise, I'll wish her good luck and focus on my self even more...its a win win.....

Yoighaman:
@OP: With all this nonsense you just wrote, I have no iota of pity for you anymore and I won't mince words.

What is wrong with you? Are you sure you are in your right senses? Someone dumped you for another man without considering your emotions, and simultaneously using histrionics and gaslighting you, yet you are still supporting her.

Are you mad? You dey ment ni? Aaahhh! now I see why red pillers for nairaland dey always para...jeez!

Your own don pass simp, you don craze finish. What kind of a low-esteemed human being are you? A girl did all these to you and this is what you write?? Wow!..who do you this kain thing? You be mumu ni? Mr. Mumuni.

Let me stop writing, I dey vex gan....

Moreign001:
I sincerely appreciate all of your comments, and words of encouragement, the criticism too helps a lot
.
Let me reassure you guys that I'm fine, relaxed and mild. I feel bad for myself a bit because I lost a wonderful woman, but I'm sincerely gleeful for her. I won't cut her off communications, I will stand by her, support whenever. One thing I understood about love is this. If you genuinely love someone, their happiness should be your first preeminence. Allow them to do what ever makes them happy, and still love them regardless.

Yes we spoke lengthy tonight, and I understood exactly how she feels, I understood deeply how our parents and guidance keeps pressuring their children, pupils and siblings against their wish, not just in marriage, but even in careers and others. And also how parents are forcing children into marriage in other to help in assisting the family burden. How is this right?

Life is love, so I have decided that I'm never going to cut her off, or act as if she never exist, she deserves better. But I will never get involved with her again. I'm mentally strong, and I built it on love. Right now i'm so concerned about her happiness, not her leaving me. I just want her to be happy and fine, that's all. We should never criticize people when they make decisions, maybe we would have made worst decisions in that same position.

Yes, I had intention of marrying her, she knew. She is not a cheat, she's a very good girl and I respect her. The main reason why I brought up this post was because lots of girls are after marriage, some are forced into it without having nothing to offer. I personally asked what's her plans after school, and she said she will open a shop (Food items) until after her Masters programs. I was ready and willing to support her.

I told her to hold on until we're done with our Nysc which should be next year by God's grace.

And those asking why I didn't marry or engage her... Even if I had billions in my account, I still wouldn't have married until I'm done with my Nysc. You don't rush it, we were students for 4years and that's our love duration, we needed at least some time outside school to see how ideal we were.

And to some persons saying she doesn't have time... I pleaded for just one more year, for our Nysc..
Don't encourage people to rush into marriage because of age, she just met this guy, they don't know and haven't tolerate themselves. This is one of the major reasons why marriage keep failing because it can lead to trust issues, violence and others. I understood her very well, she's a very jealous individual, and I can tell you that the new guy doesn't know this, now how about if he doesn't want a woman who is loaded with jealousy? But it's fine, many read to criticize, not to understand and learn.

My advice to every girl out there, try and add value to yourself, this won't just make your husband respect you, it will also stop your parents and guidance from going against your preferred wish.