Hey guys, what's up?

I was at my uncle's place today with my mum, I noticed his wife complained about something bitterly because they had a private chat and it was so unlike her.

After the whole visiting, I asked my mother what was wrong and she told me that my uncle cooks his own food all the time and even does his laundry alone and his wife doesn't like it, and although she's been complaining for over 5 years but he doesn't seem to change. I asked for my mum's opinion and she said she'd be totally uncomfortable if her husband doesn't eat her food year to year, same with my babe.

Is it wrong for a married man to cook his own food?

Women and their numerous wahala.

You cook, wahala
You no cook, wahala.


Wetin women want?

I seriously doubt if your uncle's wife knows how to cook

Nothing is wrong with that if you're the type that's liberal. But it's a shame for woman to just look on while her husband does the cooking.

There's something wrong with the arrangement and the wife is genuinely bothered.
It's either she doesn't cook well and the husband can't enjoy her food or he's a man who is only satisfied with what he makes.

Either way,it makes the partner unsatisfied.

Her food is tasteless and terrible that's why he cooks his own food, tell your mum to advice her on improving her cooking skills like catering schools etc. I know someone like her lol, she uses locust beans to fry egg

Him cooking his own meal sometimes isn't a big deal, but for that long, it's something I don't understand.
Cooking no be easy task oo, first you go think wetin you wan chop b4 even cooking it ....

Does he cook for the wife also? Just asking

JovialJune:
Her food is tasteless and terrible that's why he cooks his own food, tell your mum to advice her on improving her cooking skills like catering schools etc. I know someone like her lol, she uses locust beans to fry egg

You say it like you know it.
Five years ain't five days

The answer to your question: of course not.

But it's absolutely not normal for him to have been doing it for himself 'consistently' for the past five years.

There must be something wrong somewhere. Even if the wife doesn't know how to cook, five years is long enough for him to have taught her his own special recipes.

A man preparing food is normal...my dad they cook and all of us they enjoy am but for years without eating his wife food is wrong.
Men cook in the house for fun or when they want to help

thesicilian:
I seriously doubt if your uncle's wife knows how to cook

I think so too...
Maybe the man doesn't like his wife's cooking and doesnt know how to bring it up without hurting her feeling...

It's all shades of wrong. He's bringing discord in the marriage by cooking his meals separately.

What your uncle is doing can only mean two things. it's either he feels the wife cannot cook very well or he doesn't trust her; like she's going to poison him and that is a very bad impression he's giving about her.

Why marry and not eat your wife's food for five years?
Are they having any misunderstanding?
There must be an unresolved issue somewhere none of them is telling you and your Mom.

That your uncle is wicked. He's just punishing the woman.
If I'll advise her, let her Stop bothering about him. He's not worth it.

Why can't he cook for both of them and eat the food she cooks as well? There is likely a fundamental issue they need address between themselves.

theForth:

After the whole visiting, I asked my mother what was wrong and she told me that my uncle cooks his own food all the time and even does his laundry alone and his wife doesn't like it, and although she's been complaining for over 5 years but he doesn't seem to change. I asked for my mum's opinion and she said she'd be totally uncomfortable if her husband doesn't eat her food year to year, same with my babe.
Is it wrong for a married man to cook his own food?

All marriages no be the same. The man fit get him own reason for doing what he is doing in his own marriage... that is between him and his wife to resolve or agree upon.

If you are going to live like that, my question is why marry at all?

thesicilian:
I seriously doubt if your uncle's wife knows how to cook

If her cooking is the problem, then why doesn't he simply cook for the entire house instead of just for himself?
If she is bad with doing the laundry, they could always invest in a washing machine, instead of him doing just his laundry?

The man might be a good person.
Managing his marriage to a badly trained woman.
The woman might be bad in cooking and doing laundry.

I go to market, cook, wash regularly as a single guy and I already feel there’s no need for a woman except children. Making it worst girls this days Dey disguise for cooking wella, if there’s a place where foods are cooked in the market before taking it home some women for Dey extremely useless to a niqqa aside from totothings

Uwahala for marriage. I'm tired

Provided it’s of his free will and he enjoys cooking, baba carry go o. It’s only bad if he cooks only his own and leaves the wife to cook for the rest of the family. It’s really no big deal. Let the wife clean the house and leave baba in charge of the kitchen.

thesicilian:
I seriously doubt if your uncle's wife knows how to cook

Her food tastes okay, at least what I ate yesterday wasn't bad.

JovialJune:
Her food is tasteless and terrible that's why he cooks his own food, tell your mum to advice her on improving her cooking skills like catering schools etc. I know someone like her lol, she uses locust beans to fry egg

She cooks well my dear.

Odoogu:
Him cooking his own meal sometimes isn't a big deal, but for that long, it's something I don't understand.
Cooking no be easy task oo, first you go think wetin you wan chop b4 even cooking it ....

Does he cook for the wife also? Just asking

He cooks what he'll eat alone, they have two kids and his wife prepares her own and that of her kids.

irijuola:
Provided it’s of his free will and he enjoys cooking, baba carry go o. It’s only bad if he cooks only his own and leaves the wife to cook for the rest of the family. It’s really no big deal. Let the wife clean the house and leave baba in charge of the kitchen.

His wife cooks for herself and their two kids.

Kobojunkie:
All marriages no be the same. The man fit get him own reason for doing what he is doing in his own marriage... that is between him and his wife to resolve or agree upon.

If you are going to live like that, my question is why marry at all?

Marriage is for companionship na, or am I missing something?

God should bless me with good man that will be exactly caring as I do. She is just so lucky to have one, I pray for such

Mercychen:
It's all shades of wrong. He's bringing discord in the marriage by cooking his meals separately.

What your uncle is doing can only mean two things. it's either he feels the wife cannot cook very well or he doesn't trust her; like she's going to poison him and that is a very bad impression he's giving about her.

Why marry and not eat your wife's food for five years?
Are they having any misunderstanding?
There must be an unresolved issue somewhere none of them is telling you and your Mom.

That your uncle is wicked. He's just punishing the woman.
If I'll advise her, let her Stop bothering about him. He's not worth it.

Learn to hear from the other side before arriving at a conclusion. This is one topic one gets limited to express opinions because first, it's hearsay from one source. Second, the full context is not known.

theForth:
Marriage is for companionship na, or am I missing something?

Obviously not every marriage is that way. In fact, I would say the vast majority of Nigerian marriages aren't for companionship but because many believe body-no-be-firewood and all other ridiculous ideas that marriage helps resolve.

theForth:
Hey guys, what's up?

I was at my uncle's place today with my mum, I noticed his wife complained about something bitterly because they had a private chat and it was so unlike her.

After the whole visiting, I asked my mother what was wrong and she told me that my uncle cooks his own food all the time and even does his laundry alone and his wife doesn't like it, and although she's been complaining for over 5 years but he doesn't seem to change. I asked for my mum's opinion and she said she'd be totally uncomfortable if her husband doesn't eat her food year to year, same with my babe.

Is it wrong for a married man to cook his own food?

It is not wrong but it could be a sign of a bitter quarrel between man and wife. If the husband does his dishes, cooks his meal, does his laundry and provides for the home without asking for support from the wife then ask about their sex life. If the man has also refused to have sex with his wife then she must have done or said something horrible to that man and the man has reverted to his life as a bachelor. If the man sustains this pattern of behavior, the marriage will hit the rocks in the not distant future!

There is nothing wrong in that

Olunmercy56:
God should bless me with good man that will be exactly caring as I do. She is just so lucky to have one, I pray for such

Baby, let work it together. I am the most caring man in the world.

No, there's nothing bad in that. Although, I can't cook and I hate anything kitchen.

Olavenza:


Baby, let work it together. I am the most caring man in the world.

In the world? You didn't even say in your street.