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Greetings to everyone of you.
I started dating this girl around August this year, she was the first person I dated. We have know ourselves for long before we started the relationship. Few weeks into the relationship I started talking about the future including marriage, she is financially okay and she earned more than me but that doesn't stop me from giving her money to take care of herself.
Because I wanted us to be balance in all areas, I persuaded her to open her own business, she was not willing at first but I keep on persuading her before she accepted, less then one month into the relationship she opened her own business. She was very happy, in fact she almost worship me, I even borrowed her money to support her business. On my part I started expending my agriculture business and she also help me to buy a residential land here in Benin City. All I wanted was a great future for both of us so therefore I wanted us to used this/next year to plan very well at most.
I was very sincere with her, sincere to the core. I never cheated on her even when I have all the opportunity, I gave her all the attention she wanted. Go to her house to spend the weekend with her on her request almost every week.
When I brought up the issue of marriage, she said next year (2022), but I'm not ready for next year so I told her 2023 (after the election preciously) and I promise to do her formal introduction as tradition demand anytime she want but she said 2023 is too far, she is 28 I'm 32. Then I tried so as both of us can reason with each other...
Prior to the day of my conversation, I told her I'm expecting my family, that I would have loved to introduce her to them as my girlfriend but since she said she can't wait till 2023, there would be no need for me to introduce her to my family and friends as my girlfriend/future wife, she said "no oo"! that I should introduce her to them as my girlfriend/future wife.
On the day of my convocation, when she came, again I told her if I should proceed with the introduction, she said I should go ahead. For the first time I introduced a lady to my family and friends as my girlfriend/future wife and my family were happy to meet her include my Mom.
Because of the nuture of her work she beg to take her leave which I granted. When my boss came, she was amazed when they told her that my girlfriend came because I have never told her anything about girlfriend before she then said she is going to host her for a outing the following Sunday, my girlfriend was very happy about it when I told her and she accepted my boss request.
But to my greatest surprised, my girlfriend got engaged on that same day by her colleague at work. I saw it in her WhatsApp status.
I find it difficult to believe it, I thought it was a joke so I texted her in WhatsApp she didn't respond, I called and called and called she didn't pick my call... Even till now she has not returned my calls/text
I couldn't believe my eyes. I don't deserve this kind of treatment I said to myself.
I have a friend working in her office, she called me and asked me what is going on because she saw the engagement stuff in their WhatsApp group, then she told me that my girlfriend is being desperate and wicked, she told me how the same boy asked her out promising get that he is going to marry her but she turned it down then he moved to my girlfriend and she accepted.
This thing happened about two weeks ago but I'm yet to recovered from the shock.
Gosh!

Dude you are a SIMPle guy.. Pls continue begging her.. put your life on hold till she agrees.. You know women are angels.. So keep chasing the angel..
If she didn't bulge then try selling your land and other valuable properties and give her the proceeds..
Have you built a house for her parents yet ?? You should try doing that.. it would help you win her love..
Continue fighting for her love, remember she is the air that you breathe.. if you give up on her na you Bleep up oo..

Cheers SIMPle boy..

Na wa for fear woman and live long football club united oh

Mennnnnnnn,this is sheer wickedness . Like seriously,i don tire to dey comment on women matter on how dem dey maltreat men

Op, it's well.......I go only advice you to wish her well.....But so long you didn't wrong her in any way,no worry, everywhere go stew las las

Chebi when I commented in a previous thread on how my elder brother's friend had to collect all the money he spent on his gf when she was schooling,some nairaland miscreants were bashing me for what they know nothing about . Even someone even had the effrontery to call my story fake and even said he's fed up with my comments.......... Someone can not comment on nairaland without receiving bashing from Rams

Mosdii over to you!

@ OP u don't beg people like that to come back, work on your self and let her be.. stop calling her... once you stop calling her and you start focusing on your life, you will start to forget her..

She is wicked, she is aware she behaved in a heartless way, she thinks she is smart, that guy that engaged her Is smarter than her and she will be serve her the other side of life better...

Don't listen to anybody calling you simp, because it can happen to anybody.. and please heal before you date someone else so as not to pass the aggression to someone else child o

I can always assure you, she is coming back to beg u for what you she did and may even plan to come back, but bro forgive her and don't be mumu in accepting her back cos dem go serve u breakfast again...

You are a man, anyhow e hit you, learn to move on...

I am not surprised cos if Delilah can betray Samson.. No one should be trusted. Anyone can fuvck up anytime just like Nigerian NEPA.. If u know u know am out here mehn

But how people get mind dey do this kain thing sef?? Nawa ooooo. Both man and woman.

You go dey date person, next thing, dem don serve you invitation card to your boo's or bae's wedding.

The hustle for marriage sha.

ABANGWABOI:

Dude you are a SIMPle guy.. Pls continue begging her.. put your life on hold till she agrees.. You know women are angels.. So keep chasing the angel..
If she didn't bulge then try selling your land and other valuable properties and give her the proceeds..
Have you built a house for her parents yet ?? You should try doing that.. it would help you win her love..
Continue fighting for her love, remember she is the air that you breathe.. if you give up on her na you Bleep up oo..

Cheers SIMPle boy..

the land she bought for him...?


She earns more... It's more a matter of her desperation to get married than her using the op...(in terms of money)

From today onwards

Start to dey fear women

Be strategic while dealing with them. Stop telling them your plans.

I learnt this from nairaland

Better move on. Just six months and you started proposing, introducing and acting like a love sick puppy. It shows you needed her more than she needed you. Abi na her phat salary you been wan chop ni

How an average guy expects to get love from a biitch who earns way more than him in this modern days where hypergamy is the rule is the height of stupidity.

Stop simping fools.

Men have been betrayed by women they were in relationship with for many years... you are here surprised someone you met in August served you breakfast with Valium 5 on top...

Look.. her gender will soon be here to support her that your were not serious and she owes your nothing...

I understand it hurts
But a girl that can treat you like that had no regard for you in the first place....nigga.. she no worth your cry.....


dust your self and enter street.. u go dey alright las las

Magnoliaa:
But how people get mind dey do this kain thing sef?? Nawa ooooo. Both man and woman.

You go dey date person, next thing, dem don serve you invitation card to your boo's or bae's wedding.

Honestly! Shocking!

Extremely low...

ABANGWABOI:

Dude you are a SIMPle guy.. Pls continue begging her.. put your life on hold till she agrees.. You know women are angels.. So keep chasing the angel..
If she didn't bulge then try selling your land and other valuable properties and give her the proceeds..
Have you built a house for her parents yet ?? You should try doing that.. it would help you win her love..
Continue fighting for her love, remember she is the air that you breathe.. if you give up on her na you Bleep up oo..

Cheers SIMPle boy..

Guy you are funny
I'm not begging her, why should I?

Homeboiy:
From today onwards

Start to dey fear women

Be strategic while dealing with them. Stop telling them your plans.

I learnt this from nairaland

I can't understand how this relates... The op was heartbroken by a traitor... I don't see how your comment makes any sense... I'm sorry...

I mean the, 'Stop telling them your plans'...ish...

The op was honest in his relationship... Even if he hadn't introduced her to his family, she would have still betrayed him... And his heart broken...

I don't just get it.

Datboredberry:
I can't understand how this relates... The op was heartbroken by a traitor... I don't see how your comment makes any sense... I'm sorry...

I mean the, 'Stop telling them your plans'...ish...

The op was honest in his relationship... Even if he hadn't introduced her to his family, she would have still betrayed him... And his heart broken...

I don't just get it.

Only him will understand.

You might be different from them because you dey high and e de make you reason like man

Sonnobax15:

Na wa for fear woman and live long football club united oh

Mennnnnnnn,this is sheer wickedness . Like seriously,i don tire to dey comment on women matter on how dem dey maltreat men

Op, it's well.......I go only advice you to wish her well.....But so long you didn't wrong her in any way,no worry, everywhere go stew las las

Chebi when I commented in a previous thread on how my elder brother's friend had to collect all the money he spent on his gf when she was schooling,some nairaland miscreants were bashing me for what they know nothing about . Even someone even had the effrontery to call my story fake and even said he's fed up with my comments.......... Someone can not comment on nairaland without receiving bashing from Rams

Thank you sir
I wish her well
I just trying to move on with my life

Datboredberry:
Honestly! Shocking!

Extremely low...

Scary things, mehn.

Irijosa777:
Guy you are funny
I'm not begging her, why should I?

It's gonna be okay...

You didn't do anything wrong... I don't believe in karma but if she has a conscience, she would feel guilty...

Just delete every contact of hers... Block her social media accounts... Cut her off completely... She ain't worth it...

Good food... Music... And even a few tears... You would heal.

Betrayal is the worse thing... Especially when you've built a world in your heart for you and the other person...

She wants to get married? Let her go... She lost you... She's the loser in the game...

Just focus on getting back on your feet...

And don't let this woman ruin your perception of orhers... ❤

PS... If you need some company... Get someone to chat and hangout with... Nothing sexual... Just some decent friends...

Ebubechuwku:
@ OP u don't beg people like that to come back, work on your self and let her be.. stop calling her... once you stop calling her and you start focusing on your life, you will start to forget her..

She is wicked, she is aware she behaved in a heartless way, she thinks she is smart, that guy that engaged her Is smarter than her and she will be serve her the other side of life better...

Don't listen to anybody calling you simp, because it can happen to anybody.. and please heal before you date someone else so as not to pass the aggression to someone else child o

I can always assure you, she is coming back to beg u for what you she did and may even plan to come back, but bro forgive her and don't be mumu in accepting her back cos dem go serve u breakfast again...

You are a man, anyhow e hit you, learn to move on...

Thank you very Sir, I really appreciate it.
To be frank, I have started having the feeling that girls don't deserve honesty and sincerity, I guessed I a friend of mine perceived it and warn me not to allowed this incident spoil my good reputation.
I accepted it in good fate.
Thank you very once more sir

This is bad kia,i keep hearing this shit heartbreaking stories from Nigeria and Africa and i come to understand you should never ever trust woman in Nigeria d are hungry and desperate kia! what a sad story bro! Move on life no end you have learned ur lesson never give any black woman ur 50% just keep it 5% so that any nonsense u can move on.. Is well that's why i love white if a white lady says she's loves you oMA na so e be oh! E go get as e reach before she back out on you.

28years before you know 30..

She didn't want to let you know cos she knows you will start begging her..

Sorry that age is a critical age for ladies..

Datboredberry:
It's gonna be okay...

You didn't do anything wrong... I don't believe in karma but if she has a conscience, she would feel guilty...

Just delete every contact of hers... Block her social media accounts... Cut her off completely... She ain't worth it...

Good food... Music... And even a few tears... You would heal.

Betrayal is the worse thing... Especially when you've built a world in your heart for you and the other person...

She wants to get married? Let her go... She lost you... She's the loser in the game...

Just focus on getting back on your feet...

And don't let this woman ruin your perception of orhers... ❤

PS... If you need some company... Get someone to chat and hangout with... Nothing sexual... Just some decent friends...

I believe the fact that she's already feeling guilty is the reason why she ain't picking the op's calls...She know wetin she don do...She get conscience,even tho she don single-handedly use her own hands bury am

���This heartbreak go reach everybody last last..

That lady is not a good person at all, she is greedy, evil and wicked, mehn if you ever marry that lady she will turn out to be a torn to your fleshoo, so kuku dust yourself, get up and resume your normal life, then thank God for chasing such woman away from your life.

God really loves you my dear. Just know that you will meet another woman who will love you truly and you will look back and thank God for bringing you out of the hands of that woman.

Another simps learns the hard way. I'm happy you are in this condition now but trust me, it's for your own good.

Irijosa777:
Thank you very Sir, I really appreciate it.
To be frank, I have started having the feeling that girls don't deserve honesty and sincerity, I guessed I a friend of mine perceived it and warn me not to allowed this incident spoil my good reputation.
I accepted it in good fate.
Thank you very once more sir

The fact that someone is bad, doesn't mean we don't have good ones.. first try to heal from that heart break first and during that process don't date anybody cos at any slightest provocation u will be hurting the new girl... so work on yourself first and love .

You will still meet better girls..

Curvinus:
Better move on. Just six months and you started proposing, introducing and acting like a love sick puppy. It shows you needed her more than she needed you. Abi na her phat salary you been wan chop ni

How an average guy expects to get love from a biitch who earns way more than him in this day and time is the height of stupidity.
You are very funny guy, Stop simping fools.

She earned more than me I agreed but don't forget I also gave her money for take care of herself, don't forget I also borrow her money to support her business.
Is not about the money guy, she is finally independent same goes with me. I can bet you that the person that she is currently engaged to doesn't earn more than me.

Irijosa777:
Thank you very Sir, I really appreciate it.
To be frank, I have started having the feeling that girls don't deserve honesty and sincerity, I guessed I a friend of mine perceived it and warn me not to allowed this incident spoil my good reputation.
I accepted it in good fate.
Thank you very once more sir

Why generalizing it This is not a gender issue it's about personality, they are also lots of useless men out they that also toil with a woman's feelings, u go dey date your guy.. boom.. u don see pre-wedding pic on social media.... Leave this thing oooo. Just pray to meet a responsible and God-fearing person, that's all

Datboredberry:
the land she bought for him...?


She earns more... It's more a matter of her desperation to get married than her using the op...(in terms of money)

I still concur with you my dear.
I am encouraging him to get desperate and marry her too..
He should sell his kidney if need be, to raise more money to marry and lavish it on her..

He is a REAL man.. and I am encouraging him..

gift0123:
Why generalizing it This is not a gender issue it's about personality, they are also lots of useless men out they that also toil with a woman's feelings, u go dey date your guy.. boom.. u don see pre-wedding pic on social media.... Leave this thing oooo. Just pray to meet a responsible and God-fearing person, that's all

Lolzzzzz
Please pardon my generalization.
I have already have a rethink about that.
Everybody can't be the same

heniford2:
This is bad kia,i keep hearing this shit heartbreaking stories from Nigeria and Africa

Americans and Europeans have the highest divorce rates... you aren't aware of the millions there who've committed suicide over a heartbreak?

ad i come to understand you should never ever trust woman in Nigeria d are hungry and desperate kia!

Nothing about the Op's post indicates the the woman was poor...neither was she hungry... She even earns more than the Op... The reason she betrayed him is because of her desperation to get married... She did a shallow thing but this isn't a 'chop and run' case...

what a sad story bro! Move on life no end you have learned ur lesson never give any black woman ur 50% just keep it 5% so that any nonsense u can move on..

Yeah, give your 100% to a white woman who would put a bullet in your skull for cheating on her or so she can be free to run off with her lover... Genius...

Is well that's why i love white if a white lady says she's loves you oMA na so e be oh! E go get as e reach before she back out on you.

Trash... Black men and white women have the most unstable relationships... 40 times likely to end in a divorce...

Unlike Black women and white men... The least likely to split up.

The reason whites are a bit better is their honestly... When they wanna let go, they tell you upfront.

As for commitment... They are the worse... Black women even try to keep their relationships/marriages afloat... White women would ditch you for any little reason...

Have you ever met a white person?

Irijosa777:
Guy you are funny
I'm not begging her, why should I?

I didn't say you are begging her..
All I am saying is that you should Beg her and do anything to please her. That is what makes you a REAL man..
Remember you cannot do without her..

Jackyz:
Mosdii over to you!

Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them