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We are (or say 'were') in love until 2 weeks ago. She always tell me about a guy begging her with engagement ring. This guy even gave her count down till December 24th, that if she does not accept it, he will take the offer off the table forever.

I checked the guy's profile, I sensed he is a player who uses marriage proposal to fvck vulnerable girls. I suspect this guy because he is so bold. He does not talk about love or affection. He always talk about marriage. He even told her that he will face another babe if my girl waste time in making decision. And i sense my babe have soft spot for marriage proposal. Every time I am with her, she always talk about the guy, showing me his chats. And its getting on my nerve.

But I didnt want to tell my babe who this guy is (let me not lie. I am not 100% sure if he is playing my babe).

So yesterday we had a frank discussion and came out blunt to her.

I told her she should consider him, because marriage proposal is a lifetime opportunity she may not get again. I am not ready for marriage now because I have other stuff I am working on now. I said "The way you always bring up his matter shows you are in love with him". He is better seated now than I do, so grab the opportunity.

She got moody and told me she thought I love her. I told her yes I love her but I won't allow my love to hinder her progress. We are created to love many people till we die. And the truth is, I dated a lady who always tell me a guy is disturbing her on chat. And I later found out that they were fvcking. Ladies will tell you about another guy disturbing them and still go behind your back and fvck that guy.

I considered all this reason and freed her to go do whatever she wants. Ever since then she has been snubbing me, abusing and giving me attitudes.

I am confused i must have wronged her, but i am not sure. Do you think I am wrong?

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U did the right thing bro...

omotoshodontee1:
U did the right thing bro...

a bit relieved

And the truth is, I dated a lady who always tell me a guy is disturbing her on chat. And I later found out that they were fvcking. Ladies will tell you about another guy disturbing them and still go behind your back and fvck that guy

You gerrit? if you don't gerrit, forget about it.

Op gerrit big time

She's gone, bro. No just reason her matter again. Focus on those other gainful things you were focusing on before.

hotwax:
We are (or say 'were') in love until 2 weeks ago. She always tell me about a guy begging her with engagement ring. This guy even gave her count down till December 24th, that if she does not accept it, he will take the offer off the table forever.

I checked the guy's profile, I sensed he is a player who uses marriage proposal to fvck vulnerable girls. I suspect this guy because he is so bold. He does not talk about love or affection. He always talk about marriage. He even told her that he will face another babe if my girl waste time in making decision. And i sense my babe have soft spot for marriage proposal. Every time I am with her, she always talk about the guy, showing me his chats. And its getting on my nerve.

But I didnt want to tell my babe who this guy is (let me not lie. I am not 100% sure if he is playing my babe).

So yesterday we had a frank discussion and came out blunt to her.

I told her she should consider him, because marriage proposal is a lifetime opportunity she may not get again. I am not ready for marriage now because I have other stuff I am working on now. I said "The way you always bring up his matter shows you are in love with him". He is better seated now than I do, so grab the opportunity.

She got moody and told me she thought I love her. I told her yes I love her but I won't allow my love to hinder her progress. We are created to love many people till we die. And the truth is, I dated a lady who always tell me a guy is disturbing her on chat. And I later found out that they were fvcking. Ladies will tell you about another guy disturbing them and still go behind your back and fvck that guy.

I considered all this reason and freed her to go do whatever she wants. Ever since then she has been snubbing me, abusing and giving me attitudes.

I am confused i must have wronged her, but i am not sure. Do you think I am wrong?

Op,you did the right thing bro.....Make she go . Any banny wey don dey recite marriage like national anthem for your ears constantly go always dey easy to lash by any sharp nigha wey come to her with the line of marriage proposal

Sonnobax15:

Op,you did the right thing bro.....Make she go . Any banny wey don dey recite marriage like national anthem for your ears constantly go always dey easy to lash by any sharp nigha wey come to her with the line of marriage proposal

Exactly my thought

They'll pressure you into marriage and then call you useless man when you can't provide for your family.
Don't allow anyone to manipulate you. Let her go and marry the guy proposing to her.

TheN1:
They'll pressure you into marriage and then call you useless man when you can't provide for your family.
Don't allow anyone to manipulate you. Let her go and marry the guy proposing to her.

noted. thanks

You better let her go... LoL, if I ever find out that any woman I'm with is entertaining the thought of being with another person (just thinking about it) I'd let her go, I'm not some kind of an option, I can't make you a top choice and be your option a/b nah, never. I've worked so hard to be high valued... You can go on and be with her if you don't know your worth. Bye

Let her go. I don't understand how y'all find it convenient going through stuffs like this.

Just read your new post....

The signs were there but the love you have for her couldn't let you see it

Jidemoo:
Just read your new post....

The signs were there but the love you have for her couldn't let you see it

The Ibadan babe is different and this thread suggests that the OP is a liar.

hotwax:
We are (or say 'were') in love until 2 weeks ago. She always tell me about a guy begging her with engagement ring. This guy even gave her count down till December 24th, that if she does not accept it, he will take the offer off the table forever.

I checked the guy's profile, I sensed he is a player who uses marriage proposal to fvck vulnerable girls. I suspect this guy because he is so bold. He does not talk about love or affection. He always talk about marriage. He even told her that he will face another babe if my girl waste time in making decision. And i sense my babe have soft spot for marriage proposal. Every time I am with her, she always talk about the guy, showing me his chats. And its getting on my nerve.

But I didnt want to tell my babe who this guy is (let me not lie. I am not 100% sure if he is playing my babe).

So yesterday we had a frank discussion and came out blunt to her.

I told her she should consider him, because marriage proposal is a lifetime opportunity she may not get again. I am not ready for marriage now because I have other stuff I am working on now. I said "The way you always bring up his matter shows you are in love with him". He is better seated now than I do, so grab the opportunity.

She got moody and told me she thought I love her. I told her yes I love her but I won't allow my love to hinder her progress. We are created to love many people till we die. And the truth is, I dated a lady who always tell me a guy is disturbing her on chat. And I later found out that they were fvcking. Ladies will tell you about another guy disturbing them and still go behind your back and fvck that guy.

I considered all this reason and freed her to go do whatever she wants. Ever since then she has been snubbing me, abusing and giving me attitudes.

I am confused i must have wronged her, but i am not sure. Do you think I am wrong?

Never leave your goals for anyone .. especially a girl
The right one will stay .. no need to chase

seguno2:
The Ibadan babe is different and this thread suggests that the OP is a liar.

you don't know girls. She could still be the one. You're talking as if you know them personally.

Make I analyze this scenario for you, one of them fit help you.
1. Your babe is desperate to get married, and you know how desperate babes Toto for 9ja dey be
2. She's still young/immature, hence she never know wetin street I.P dey all about
3. She wan use this guy take pressure you into committing yourself to her.
4. She may even be playing game with the guy so that dem go ginger you quickly rush to marry her. I don form toasting to one of my friend(girl), so that the BF go sit up.
5. She and the guy fit dey even fvck steadily for your back sef, but she go dey tell you say the guy dey disturb her so that you no go suspect.
6. She may be sincere with you sha, she truly loves you.
But make I advise you as a guy, no let any babe pressure you into marriage. Make sure say you're financially, emotionally and spiritually ready for marriage before you jump into that thing. Marriage is sweet, but not 100% sweet if you no marry right.


I don talk am before and I go talk am again, "The day I go mistakenly born girl pikin, I go ******"

Op.
You have not wronged her but only helped her achieve her aim.
This experience was similar to mine in which the lady eventually
married the guy.

Biko move on, there are better ladies out there waiting for u.

Oga op, is this lady the same with the lady in your story that made front-page?
Because, I don de smell something funny and fishy with your stories. come and answer

proxillin:
And the truth is, I dated a lady who always tell me a guy is disturbing her on chat. And I later found out that they were fvcking. Ladies will tell you about another guy disturbing them and still go behind your back and fvck that guy

You gerrit? if you don't gerrit, forget about it.

Op gerrit big time

He no go better for Ruth
My ex told me my friend was asking her out I no know say mama day Bleep my guy friend oooo
Later she she snub me and moved on with him me sef free am

Best decision Eva...free her bfr she will tag u a hindrance