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Re: My Wife Kept Kids Hungry And Travelled To See Mum by Nobody: 9:12am On Dec 24, 2021

akpunda86:
Good morning fellas and compliments of the season. Some are happy some are not but we all thank God for life.
Happy Christmas all.

Well fellas sincerely wish I have the power to terminate my marriage I'm fed up 200%.

Is Christmas season of love all families stay together but my wife left home to her villa to see mum, yeah is a gud stuff going home to see parents, but if well planned. We planned after 25th she can go at least stay with the kids, suddenly she said she wanna go, I let her go, just yesterday wanted to eat, our helper said no soup in freezer, Kai I have to go buy soup outside. Today 24th, I'm gonna go to market to buy soup stuff.

It is very painful. I regret getting married cos in this season any sensible person knows families gonna be together. In fact kids need to enjoy it as we did during our time.

Salad we can't do, not that I don't have the money but I can't do it.

Her mum I told I'm not against ur daughter coming to see you, but she has to put her house in order first before embarking on a long journey.

Makes me regret a lot of stuff marrying outside my state, infact one can remarry, my spouse no go pass Enugu/Anambra.

Her mum sick, going see her I'm not against, my kids all crying all day long mummy mummy, I try pacify them.

Every December Na stress. It is true it is women that are mostly good in taking care of parents though we guys also do our best, but my wife has 3 brothes all married, as it is Xmas none of the wives is around so the daughters fall on.

I'm not writing this long epistle just that I feel bad as I don't know wat to do, sexually I gain noting from her, financially she doesn't support, it is only challenges she brings to me. If it continues like this, I'll leave the house for months 4 her and let her brain reset.

It's okay to feel this way but you are not acting well on this . Women have feelings and have their own mind just like men. Yes you are the man of the house but sometime consider the fact that she's a human that got feelings and self-will. Biblically, a woman is part and parcel of her family irrespective of the fact that she's now married to you. ..."For this cause shall a MAN (not the woman)leave his father and mother". The woman does not leave . She's still a vital part of her family. She's got so much emotion and care to both her parents and your family. You don't compare her to her brothers who are also married. Think about yourself as a man and compare yourself to your female siblings. ..who visit parents more ? Female don't abandon their parents like men do. Men normally send money but money is not about everything. Parents need care . My elder sister(married with kids) takes care of my mum far more than I do. I normally send money likewise my elder brother (men do feel everything is about money grin

), my sister may not have money but she's always there. There will be a time your age parents may not need that money and can't eat much or think about good clothes but at that time, all they need is care. My neighbour lost his dad(87 years)two days ago. The man wept because he wasn't close to his dad at that age. He always sent money . He said, there were some discussions I felt I needed to pull of out of my dad , I didn't think he was going to die so soon.

Your problem is that, you feel the children should primarily be taken care of by their mum but she has been doing that for years. She ain't doing it this time doesn't mean you have to nail her. Give her a break . And also learn how to. Who do you think should have taken care of her mum when she's sick...her brothers ? A million times no. If the children so much miss their mum it means you have made their mum a greater part of their life because you are not helping out in domestic work. Don't merely consider your wife as domestic house help. Treat her nice and spice up your love life no matter how busy you are . But if you are looking outside for another woman , you may never think of how to spice up your marriage. I am from a broken home but I have made up my mind that my own marriage must work . That's a choice Sir

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Re: My Wife Kept Kids Hungry And Travelled To See Mum by 1x2x3: 9:12am On Dec 24, 2021

MartinsD12:
Hahahaha exactly what I suspect, this guy cannot cook , infact he doesn't know anything concerning food preparation or even going to market but he said he has a helper in the House let them both do the cooking and house chores together

For me it's interesting. I believe he can't cook, a man wey know him way go vex but will still figure it out. If money dey, go buy food stock for fridge....case closed.

Re: My Wife Kept Kids Hungry And Travelled To See Mum by Guyman02: 9:13am On Dec 24, 2021

Druhill:
Then you have not make your kids to get acquainted to you as their father, i have 2kids 2yrs and 4month old, each time my go out she take the 4month old with her and the 2yrs stay with me, she wont even notice her mom is not around she enjoy staying with me than her mum and i do go to work but still i create time to make my kids feel me as their father.

My kids will always choose to stay with me which their mum doesn't find funny, they know it's opportunity to get snacks and other goodies which their mum won't like to spend money and play games.
I don't know how this guy was raised and I hope after reading comments like yours he will readjust his life

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Re: My Wife Kept Kids Hungry And Travelled To See Mum by Mariangeles(f): 9:14am On Dec 24, 2021

Kriss216:
Jisie ike.

Ooo!

Re: My Wife Kept Kids Hungry And Travelled To See Mum by nuelyoyo(m): 9:14am On Dec 24, 2021

I think the issue between you and your wife is beyond her travelling this Christmas period. If communication is good between you and your wife, she supposed to have told you to provide money so she could stock up the house with food. Or you should have even planned for the money for the festive season, and given her since last week, that way she would have cooked and put in the freezer

You said you have a house help, why can't you go to the market with the house help, buy the things you need, and cook?

Re: My Wife Kept Kids Hungry And Travelled To See Mum by 1x2x3: 9:14am On Dec 24, 2021

StylesX:
Yes dude, I don't have double standards.

Then good. He's whining, if na me I go stock up that refrigerator with food that will get her jealous on return. grin

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Re: My Wife Kept Kids Hungry And Travelled To See Mum by UKBobo(m): 9:14am On Dec 24, 2021

Bros, Bad wife, na bad wife, irrespective of area.

As for leaving without spending time with her pikin on Xmas Day - that is wrong and unfair on them. She should have stayed or you all visit Grandma together - food is another matter - kitchen dey - learn ooo.

Re: My Wife Kept Kids Hungry And Travelled To See Mum by WhatCanIsay(m): 9:14am On Dec 24, 2021

KiNg0G:
you are a bufoon

my wife can't cook food for me and store in The freezer for days to eat while she travels.

I yearn for fresh foods.

so I make them myself

that's what been an alpha entails

be a self independent man.

not simpish like you dirty smelling men who can't afford to care for yourselfs but need your wife to be there doing everything for you at all Times.

including shaving your armpits.

cow!

Lol using insults doesn't make you reasonable, it rather exposes the lacuna in your argument.

Come again with reasonable statements, if insults is all that makes you a man, then enjoy your online manhood.

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Re: My Wife Kept Kids Hungry And Travelled To See Mum by Gkemz: 9:14am On Dec 24, 2021

I understand your plight. But missing for few days doesn't mean she's bad.
Talking about not contributing financially, have you tried to get her acquainted to skills that will help her become self reliant. You should make her feel loved and talk to her gently concerning issues like this

Re: My Wife Kept Kids Hungry And Travelled To See Mum by Pat081: 9:15am On Dec 24, 2021

Aboks:
Sorry take heart

dnt tell him to take heart

Re: My Wife Kept Kids Hungry And Travelled To See Mum by StylesX: 9:15am On Dec 24, 2021

1x2x3:
Then good. He's whining, if na me I go stock up that refrigerator with food that will get her jealous on return.

Exactly bro, make sure the kids have a great time they won't even notice she's gone, he should step up abeg.

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Re: My Wife Kept Kids Hungry And Travelled To See Mum by vickydevoka(m): 9:16am On Dec 24, 2021

Mood11:
Maybe she's equally tired (of you and the marriage) and needed to take some time off..
Does she know you are here on Nairaland opening a thread about her?

Man up and take care of your kids. Don't worry about a perfect salad whatever you are able to make serve it to them with love

BTW, when you knew that women from Enugu or Anambra make better wives and mothers why didn't you marry from there in the first place?

I tire o. E no no say imo ladies visit their parents alot

Re: My Wife Kept Kids Hungry And Travelled To See Mum by KiNg0G: 9:16am On Dec 24, 2021

WhatCanIsay:
Lol using insults doesn't make you reasonable, it rather exposes the lacuna in your argument.

Come again with reasonable statements, if insults is all that makes you a man, then enjoy your online manhood.

you first came in a insultive way, read your previous post.

I served you what you asked off

Re: My Wife Kept Kids Hungry And Travelled To See Mum by Mariangeles(f): 9:16am On Dec 24, 2021

1x2x3:
Then good. He's whining, if na me I go stock up that refrigerator with food that will get her jealous on return.

Why are some men always petty minded?
You’d make your wife jealous because she went to go see her sick mother?

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Re: My Wife Kept Kids Hungry And Travelled To See Mum by InvertedHammer: 9:16am On Dec 24, 2021

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Hope Uzodinma and his people!

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Re: My Wife Kept Kids Hungry And Travelled To See Mum by chaloskyx: 9:17am On Dec 24, 2021

OGA SHE DID NOT GO AND SEE HER MUM BUT WENT TO SEE HER BOYFRIEND ONLY GOOD DICK CAN MAKE A WOMAN TAKE SUCH ACTIONS

Re: My Wife Kept Kids Hungry And Travelled To See Mum by Pat081: 9:17am On Dec 24, 2021

Why will you b the one to go to the market when you have house help that can go to the market for you

Re: My Wife Kept Kids Hungry And Travelled To See Mum by vickydevoka(m): 9:17am On Dec 24, 2021

Mariangeles:
You’re not making your wife happy.

She’s simply not happy with you, so she used that as an excuse to take a break from you.

Neither is de wife making him happy. De should just divorce n be happy separately

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Re: My Wife Kept Kids Hungry And Travelled To See Mum by marylandcakes: 9:18am On Dec 24, 2021

Some men want slaves not a wife.

Maybe she needed a break and wanted you to see what she goes through and for you to appreciate her more. I will advice the op to lock up his big ego and support his wife . Learn how to cook and take care of your children.

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Re: My Wife Kept Kids Hungry And Travelled To See Mum by Solatium(m): 9:19am On Dec 24, 2021

akpunda86:
Good morning fellas and compliments of the season. Some are happy some are not but we all thank God for life.
Happy Christmas all.

Well fellas sincerely wish I have the power to terminate my marriage I'm fed up 200%.

Is Christmas season of love all families stay together but my wife left home to her villa to see mum, yeah is a gud stuff going home to see parents, but if well planned. We planned after 25th she can go at least stay with the kids, suddenly she said she wanna go, I let her go, just yesterday wanted to eat, our helper said no soup in freezer, Kai I have to go buy soup outside. Today 24th, I'm gonna go to market to buy soup stuff.

It is very painful. I regret getting married cos in this season any sensible person knows families gonna be together. In fact kids need to enjoy it as we did during our time.

Salad we can't do, not that I don't have the money but I can't do it.

Her mum I told I'm not against ur daughter coming to see you, but she has to put her house in order first before embarking on a long journey.

Makes me regret a lot of stuff marrying outside my state, infact one can remarry, my spouse no go pass Enugu/Anambra.

Her mum sick, going see her I'm not against, my kids all crying all day long mummy mummy, I try pacify them.

Every December Na stress. It is true it is women that are mostly good in taking care of parents though we guys also do our best, but my wife has 3 brothes all married, as it is Xmas none of the wives is around so the daughters fall on.

I'm not writing this long epistle just that I feel bad as I don't know wat to do, sexually I gain noting from her, financially she doesn't support, it is only challenges she brings to me. If it continues like this, I'll leave the house for months 4 her and let her brain reset.

What your retirement will look like is what you have just experience,that is even if u live up to that retirement,the ball is in your court

Re: My Wife Kept Kids Hungry And Travelled To See Mum by 1x2x3: 9:20am On Dec 24, 2021

Mariangeles:
Why are some men always petty minded?
You’d make your wife jealous because she went to go see her sick mother?

What's petty about having food in the refrigerator? Naturally she would be jealous whether it was stocked intentionally or not. Its a subtle sit-up call which is a better solution than fighting.

You see how this thing I said pained you? That's how she will be pained then change her ways. It's a smart quick fix.

Re: My Wife Kept Kids Hungry And Travelled To See Mum by sirjamesjnr(m): 9:22am On Dec 24, 2021

Deadbeat like you make a mess of manhood. Not every dick is supposed to be a Daddy. It's a perfect time to bond with your kids if you have sense. She is going to take care of her sick mother cut her some slack. If you can't take care of your kids, donate them to a motherless baby home. This is one of the problems of this country, children of a dysfunctional family.

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Re: My Wife Kept Kids Hungry And Travelled To See Mum by greypencils: 9:22am On Dec 24, 2021

You think marriage is all about having money without emotional intelligence. It means you have never cooked for your wife or done the little things for her. Times are changing. Even with you dropping money, you must show your wife your romantic side by doing the little things like cooking once in a while for her. That's how you balance your wife's emotional needs and make her dependent on you. For now all she gets from you is money, NOTHING ELSE. This kind of woman will divorce you if you were living outside the country. Be modern, stop being stuck in the 15th century.

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Re: My Wife Kept Kids Hungry And Travelled To See Mum by BabaCommander: 9:23am On Dec 24, 2021

So disjointed that I am already concerned about your wife.

How on earth is she able to cope with your daily rambling?

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Re: My Wife Kept Kids Hungry And Travelled To See Mum by WhatCanIsay(m): 9:23am On Dec 24, 2021

KiNg0G:
you first came in a insultive way, read your previous post.

I served you what you asked off

Alright.

Re: My Wife Kept Kids Hungry And Travelled To See Mum by MartinsD12(m): 9:24am On Dec 24, 2021

1x2x3:
For me it's interesting. I believe he can't cook, a man wey know him way go vex but will still figure it out. If money dey, go buy food stock for fridge....case closed.

But I still think the wife was insensitive in this case , she should have at least make sure that her home is in order before embarking on such journey at least stock the home with food and leave the rest for the husband but I guessed there is no proper communication and good planning habit between them.

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Re: My Wife Kept Kids Hungry And Travelled To See Mum by Mariangeles(f): 9:25am On Dec 24, 2021

vickydevoka:
I tire o. E no no say imo ladies visit their parents alot

Imo ladies no dey marry men like op. Them dey marry only men wey get sense.

Re: My Wife Kept Kids Hungry And Travelled To See Mum by 1x2x3: 9:27am On Dec 24, 2021

greypencils:
You think marriage is all about having money without emotional intelligence. It means you have never cooked for your wife or done the little things for her. Times are changing. Even with you dropping money, you must show your wife your romantic side by doing the little things like cooking once in a while for her. That's how you balance your wife's emotional needs and make her dependent on you. For now all she gets from you is money, NOTHING ELSE. This kind of woman will divorce you if you were living outside the country. Be modern, stop being stuck in the 15th century.

I agree with all you said but I have a question.

How does a woman balance a man's need?

If you can answer that you will figure out she should have made provisions before leaving. grin

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Re: My Wife Kept Kids Hungry And Travelled To See Mum by motionarena: 9:27am On Dec 24, 2021

akpunda86:
Good morning fellas and compliments of the season. Some are happy some are not but we all thank God for life.
Happy Christmas all.

Well fellas sincerely wish I have the power to terminate my marriage I'm fed up 200%.

Is Christmas season of love all families stay together but my wife left home to her villa to see mum, yeah is a gud stuff going home to see parents, but if well planned. We planned after 25th she can go at least stay with the kids, suddenly she said she wanna go, I let her go, just yesterday wanted to eat, our helper said no soup in freezer, Kai I have to go buy soup outside. Today 24th, I'm gonna go to market to buy soup stuff.

It is very painful. I regret getting married cos in this season any sensible person knows families gonna be together. In fact kids need to enjoy it as we did during our time.

Salad we can't do, not that I don't have the money but I can't do it.

Her mum I told I'm not against ur daughter coming to see you, but she has to put her house in order first before embarking on a long journey.

Makes me regret a lot of stuff marrying outside my state, infact one can remarry, my spouse no go pass Enugu/Anambra.

Her mum sick, going see her I'm not against, my kids all crying all day long mummy mummy, I try pacify them.

Every December Na stress. It is true it is women that are mostly good in taking care of parents though we guys also do our best, but my wife has 3 brothes all married, as it is Xmas none of the wives is around so the daughters fall on.

I'm not writing this long epistle just that I feel bad as I don't know wat to do, sexually I gain noting from her, financially she doesn't support, it is only challenges she brings to me. If it continues like this, I'll leave the house for months 4 her and let her brain reset.

Guy forget that thing your wife go collect gbola from another guy.

Na d only thing we go make woman run commot house leave children.

Mother is sick are there not other people to take care of her that she has to leave d kids forget story na gbola she go collect

Re: My Wife Kept Kids Hungry And Travelled To See Mum by foleskay(m): 9:28am On Dec 24, 2021

I seems there's an underlying issue both of u are having. Cos I think you both ought to hv sit and discuss this matter and find a workable solution which will favor both parties.
But I guess she's getting choked already so she use that as an excuse to japa. U even said u don't enjoy her sexually. I think that is d major issue u having with her. U both lack communication in ur marriage which could lead to a huge problem in d nearest future

Re: My Wife Kept Kids Hungry And Travelled To See Mum by 1x2x3: 9:28am On Dec 24, 2021

MartinsD12:
But I still think the wife was insensitive in this case , she should have at least make sure that her home is in order before embarking on such journey at least stock the home with food and leave the rest for the husband but I guessed there is no proper communication and good planning habit between them.

She's insensitive, I've said that before. There's no excuse unless it was emergency. Anything aside that was premeditated on her part.

Re: My Wife Kept Kids Hungry And Travelled To See Mum by demelza: 9:29am On Dec 24, 2021

See the way you wrote about your kids as if they are a nuisance fathered by another man.
You can't even take care of them.
You think fatherhood is all about bringing money.
Body go tell you in old age.

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