akpunda86:
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Just 12 year bro Na kids companion bro thou trying hahaha.

I'm not complaining oga I just shared my predicament.This a forum buddy,

what you have is not a predicament but ought to serve as a revelation to you as to how "useless" and out-of-touch you have become when it comes to caring for what is your own family. All I see you doing here is whining about nothing...

You have a 12-year old babysitter right there with you and yet you whine. Your wife traveled, so what?

It is Christmas, people also do that especially when a loved one is sick. Sickness and death don't take holidays, neither does mental health and commonsense.

Kobojunkie:
1. Who made this rule you keep throwing about that suggests family must be together during the season?

2. You can't cook or you don't know the way to the store or something?

3. So she went to be by the side of her sick mother and you are a leper where it concerns taking care of your own children?

U reason like u still sucking momma's breast,if u are a real bread winner dat hussles to put food on a table u know wat it means to take a break.
I would have gone further with u but I can't argue with a kid like you on a data free mode.

Did u see where was barred 4from seeing her mum,is dudes like u dat fail woefully by judging a book by d cover.

Compliments of season and try make it a hubby to read well helps comprehend..ciao

akpunda86:
Good morning fellas and compliments of the season. Some are happy some are not but we all thank God for life.
Happy Christmas all.

Well fellas sincerely wish I have the power to terminate my marriage I'm fed up 200%.

Is Christmas season of love all families stay together but my wife left home to her villa to see mum, yeah is a gud stuff going home to see parents, but if well planned. We planned after 25th she can go at least stay with the kids, suddenly she said she wanna go, I let her go, just yesterday wanted to eat, our helper said no soup in freezer, Kai I have to go buy soup outside. Today 24th, I'm gonna go to market to buy soup stuff.

It is very painful. I regret getting married cos in this season any sensible person knows families gonna be together. In fact kids need to enjoy it as we did during our time.

Salad we can't do, not that I don't have the money but I can't do it.

Her mum I told I'm not against ur daughter coming to see you, but she has to put her house in order first before embarking on a long journey.

Makes me regret a lot of stuff marrying outside my state, infact one can remarry, my spouse no go pass Enugu/Anambra.

Her mum sick, going see her I'm not against, my kids all crying all day long mummy mummy, I try pacify them.

Every December Na stress. It is true it is women that are mostly good in taking care of parents though we guys also do our best, but my wife has 3 brothes all married, as it is Xmas none of the wives is around so the daughters fall on.

I'm not writing this long epistle just that I feel bad as I don't know wat to do, sexually I gain noting from her, financially she doesn't support, it is only challenges she brings to me. If it continues like this, I'll leave the house for months 4 her and let her brain reset.

And so?

Perhaps her childhood ex from abroad is on holidays in the village.

She needs a break from you.

Take care of the kids till she comes back.

akpunda86:
1. U reason like u still sucking momma's breast,if u are a real bread winner dat hussles to put food on a table u know wat it means to take a break.
I would have gone further with u but I can't argue with a kid like you on a data free mode.

2. Did u see where was barred 4from seeing her mum,is dudes like u dat fail woefully by judging a book by d cover.

3. Compliments of season and try make it a hubby to read well helps comprehend..ciao

1. I am a breadwinner and I also do chores, bath kids and cook for them as well. Trying to argue that carrying ego for head is what makes you a breadwinner reveals you a whiner and not a capable individual. You forget say you carry title of 'father' and 'helper' also for that big head of yours?

2. The delusion many of you live with is that you believe marriage somehow iinstalled you as gods over your wife - foolishness of the lowest order.

Your marriage is instead meant to be a contract/partnership between you and your wife and so ought not be a shackle of any kind to hinder you or her from living life as she sees best for her and her family.

Your wife travelled, and instead you took to announcing her incompetent online because you are out of touch as far as the situation in your own home without real experience as far as taking care of your own children... did I miss something?

3. No let me start abeg... make I wake up this fine morning.

Mood11:
Maybe she's equally tired (of you and the marriage) and needed to take some time off..
Does she know you are here on Nairaland opening a thread about her?

Man up and take care of your kids. Don't worry about a perfect salad whatever you are able to make serve it to them with love

BTW, when you knew that women from Enugu or Anambra make better wives and mothers why didn't you marry from there in the first place?

May be a big nyash or big breast deceived him... Well, the best is to equip the helper to act as a mom sharp sharp. Me i no dey waste time on nonesense

chii8:
Hmmmm....you just said she went to visit her sick mother?You said money is not the issue,then cook nah....You sound like a father who's not always around so you don't know much about taking care of the family.Is it your wife's fault that you can't pacify your own crying children nor cook for them?The in-law is sick and sickness doesn't give a pre information before it comes.

Oga,man up and take care of your children,biko!

Now because you can't cook and pacify your own crying children, you are thinking of divorce.Na waoooo, there's nothing Reverend no go see for pulpit

Then what is the job of a woman in the house??
If I have to be cooking every time for myself and also taking care of my own kids, then I don’t need a wife..I could just arrange some kind of contract with a lady to bare kids for me and she goes..
All the man is asking is that since you know you want to take such journey.. then you ensure things are put in place before leaving..
That is why handover notes exist in Coates organizations..

blazetitov:
I don't understand why some women behave this way. As the OP said, no problem with visiting her mum, but don't abandon your immediate family! A wise woman will make plans for her family before leaving. What is wrong in preparing different soups and keep in the freezer for the kids and hubby? it is well.

But see how the Simps and Bitter Women's Association members came here to blame the man. She could simply cook some soups for her kids, but she won't. Same idiots will come here to teach a man how his wife and children are primary to him and every other person is secondary but now that the person committing the blunder is a woman, they have conveniently shifted the goal post.

INDUSTRIALFAN:
What fvckery is this? Who de raise these kain men wey de embarrass us like this? So as a man, you can’t do any of the things you listed? How did you live as a bachelor? You even have a help in the house except ur help is also a child which in this case would be tagged child abuse.

His story is fake. Because what he's saying doesn't add up.

Ytea:
What do you need to cook, let's give it you recipe.

If at all his story is true, he's too arrogant and provides billions of cereal coins in his homestead to get his hands dirty. He would throw your recipe in the closet until his wife gets back to follow it.

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:

But see how the Simps and Bitter Women's Association members came here to blame the man. She could simply cook some soups for her kids, but she won't. Same idiots will come here to teach a man how his wife and children are primary to him and every other person is secondary but now that the person committing the blunder is a woman, they have conveniently shifted the goal post.

I just tire. I wish everybody well

showafrica:


May be a big nyash or big breast deceived him... Well, the best is to equip the helper to act as a mom sharp sharp. Me i no dey waste time on nonesense

If you don't want "big nyash or big breast", go and marry a man.

The way you people act as if a sexually attractive lady is bad news yet it's what you desire, has gotten old. If you can't get them, stop hating them.

You say she contributes nothing to your life yet you are acting like life is over for you and your kids cos she went to visit her sick mother for a few days.
How do you lament on Nairaland over the absence of someone that contributes nothing? You think it's beans to organize and cook EVERYDAY without break for a family with 4 kids. Then care for all 4 kids everyday without Leave or Transfer.

Some of you go to work in your AC office and sit down doing jobs that aren't that strenuous and are then paid salaries, then want to say you are doing everything and your wife at home is doing nothing.

Oya na, handle the home! It's NOTHING! Nonsense!

Op, your mother inlaw is sick and your wife left the kids with you and you cannot take care of them? You lack good upbringing.

If you cannot run your home in the absence of your wife, then, you are not a man.

I cook food for my entire family if my wife is not arround or too busy.

Your wife is not your slave, but a helper.

akpunda86:
Good morning fellas and compliments of the season. Some are happy some are not but we all thank God for life.
Happy Christmas all.

Well fellas sincerely wish I have the power to terminate my marriage I'm fed up 200%.

Is Christmas season of love all families stay together but my wife left home to her villa to see mum, yeah is a gud stuff going home to see parents, but if well planned. We planned after 25th she can go at least stay with the kids, suddenly she said she wanna go, I let her go, just yesterday wanted to eat, our helper said no soup in freezer, Kai I have to go buy soup outside. Today 24th, I'm gonna go to market to buy soup stuff.

It is very painful. I regret getting married cos in this season any sensible person knows families gonna be together. In fact kids need to enjoy it as we did during our time.

Salad we can't do, not that I don't have the money but I can't do it.

Her mum I told I'm not against ur daughter coming to see you, but she has to put her house in order first before embarking on a long journey.

Makes me regret a lot of stuff marrying outside my state, infact one can remarry, my spouse no go pass Enugu/Anambra.

Her mum sick, going see her I'm not against, my kids all crying all day long mummy mummy, I try pacify them.

Every December Na stress. It is true it is women that are mostly good in taking care of parents though we guys also do our best, but my wife has 3 brothes all married, as it is Xmas none of the wives is around so the daughters fall on.

I'm not writing this long epistle just that I feel bad as I don't know wat to do, sexually I gain noting from her, financially she doesn't support, it is only challenges she brings to me. If it continues like this, I'll leave the house for months 4 her and let her brain reset.

interesting.

https://gist.am/question/my-wife-kept-kids-hungry-and-travelled-to-see-mum

BRATISLAVA:


If you don't want "big nyash or big breast", go and marry a man.

The way you people act as if a sexually attractive lady is bad news yet it's what you desire, has gotten old. If you can't get them, stop hating them.

Lol, bro we no dey quarrel na.... The guy is accusing op of labeling every other girl bad because of the wife he married and promoting only Anambra and Enugu.

So i am saying may be because the kind nyash his wife carry no dey Anambra and Enugu but he is now regretting that him for manage the size of Anambra and Enugu nyash.

Nyash and brest is the beauty of a woman, but character should be considered too if not to japa go dey hungry you like op after pounding it one or twice

The time you used to lament more than the writer of lamentations, you should have used it to look up whatever you want to eat on YouTube and make them by writing them out and going to buy and making them.


The children are also your children. This is what happens when male gender can't cook, once madam is out of the house, everything will be in disarray.


Go and marry another wife from your state asap before she gets back. Akukuo

i still don't understand why people stay in marriage they benefit nothing from. i just don't gerrit

after reading this thread by the OP, I realised he and his wife has more serious challenges.

akpunda86:
Help me I have not been to Church 5 years.Im married don't know wat happened to my wife lost interest in sex coupled with her health challenges of waist pains.Its been in and out of hospitals .I have sex urges can't even know where to go.
I decided to open my problems on a group was only married women professing love coming to me Tut fiction was not till I started dating one .
Issue now I feel so dirty,I find it hard going to church ,even if I go I'll still go back to my mistress
I'm getting depressed instead of been happy,I'm not happy kind of marriage I find myself

I can't discuss with my wife once hits bed is sleeping till daybreak I feel so lonely,suddenly I found myself that iv been drinking much something I quitted years ago
I tried dating the young girls was a problem.
My father have been asking son why don't u go to church ,I can't hide it anymore wanna open up to him and my mum that I have a mistress outside and sexually I get none from my wife.

I know wat I'm doing is not gud but how can I help it Infact soon I wanna take a break from home,wanna leave house 4 sum weeks join dem for Xmas.As it dey me I see second wife I'll remarry.

Should I enjoy sex at my eighties if I live up to that.
Paining me seriously.

Righteousness pls stay off my thread

The wife herself is having medical challenges - both physical and psychological. You need to first and foremost take her to a specialist hospital to properly diagnose the cause of her waist pains. Then you need to talk to a physiologist or councillor to get to the root of her psychological condition.

Sorry to say, you just can abandon her and run away as you have 4 kids who will need their mother to have a chance at a rounded life.

Sorry for your predicament.

BRATISLAVA:


His story is fake. Because what he's saying doesn't add up.

omo…. E be things

larryking540:

man if u are not married it's best you keep shut ,give a woman one inch and be expecting 5inch ,,

shut da fvck up and tell a better story jare.

Mariangeles:


Imo ladies no dey marry men like op. Them dey marry only men wey get sense.

No be all imo o. Mbaise n mbano n Owerri ladies no be for faint minded. That's y Dem de result to doing olosho work

Akorkor:
Cry me a river. If she doesn’t do anything or you gain anything from her, why Are you crying? Men should also learn to take responsibility at home. She’s not your slave, and she has a life before marrying you. Those children carried your name, not hers, so if you like, don’t make your children happy and be here regretting that you married her. You didn’t even tell us your side; maybe you have been coming home late in the night, and even when you are at home, you contributed nothing to care for the kids. Yeye. Entitled Nigerian men everywhere

You're just being irrational.

So men should provide wholly for the family and still do house chores?

Such a joke.

StreetFight:


Has the wife been paying children's school fees, house rent, using her money to buy food for the house, using her money to buy clothes for the children? If she has not, then taking care of the house is 100% her responsibility. I don't know why the guy will even get a housemaid for a woman who does not add anything financially to the family. Is the cankerworm the Bible talked about?

Thank you very much bro, a lot of men are losing it today.

Frezhkid10:

Then what is the job of a woman in the house??
If I have to be cooking every time for myself and also taking care of my own kids, then I don’t need a wife..I could just arrange some kind of contract with a lady to bare kids for me and she goes..
All the man is asking is that since you know you want to take such journey.. then you ensure things are put in place before leaving..
That is why handover notes exist in Coates organizations..

I don't know if most women on this thread are brain dead, really!

Thank you.

vickydevoka:

No be all imo o. Mbaise n mbano n Owerri ladies no be for faint minded. That's y Dem de result to doing olosho work

Thank God you know imo women well, that's why men from Anambra hardly marry from there, in fact our mothers start to warn us from a tender age.

I have no hard feelings against the state as I have a handful of male friends from there, but their women no just work.

Too exposed, the party type, I tire for them abeg.

chii8:
Hmmmm....you just said she went to visit her sick mother?You said money is not the issue,then cook nah....You sound like a father who's not always around so you don't know much about taking care of the family.Is it your wife's fault that you can't pacify your own crying children nor cook for them?The in-law is sick and sickness doesn't give a pre information before it comes.

Oga,man up and take care of your children,biko!

Now because you can't cook and pacify your own crying children, you are thinking of divorce.Na waoooo, there's nothing Reverend no go see for pulpit

Shut up please!!!! Are the kids not hers too? Why can't even cook for her own kids b4 leaving.She didn't care if the children would feel hungry as now ur saying he should man up my foot.Isnt he trying doing his duties? Abeg getat ungreatful gender ass licker

AGurlnoname:


Maybe your home is not comfortable for her too. Who knows if she is the only one taking care of the children, still prepare for work. Oga, stop waling here and take care of your kids. If truly you're always at home and have close bond with your children, none of the kids will ask for their mum.

Let the woman enjoy her break abeg.

Is anyone stop her from enjoying her break pls? Simple cook food put in freezer for her own kids again ur saying oga is wailing.She didn't even consider that she's starving the kids.Shame on you

showafrica:


Lol, bro we no dey quarrel na.... The guy is accusing op of labeling every other girl bad because of the wife he married and promoting only Anambra and Enugu.

So i am saying may be because the kind nyash his wife carry no dey Anambra and Enugu but he is now regretting that him for manage the size of Anambra and Enugu nyash.

Nyash and brest is the beauty of a woman, but character should be considered too if not to japa go dey hungry you like op after pounding it one or twice

Oh, so the breasts and big backside are a thing. But why did you sound so against it when it's still your spec?

True, OP is using his experience as if it is the only one in the world, and as if women who aren't from his place are terrible.

It could be that he saw that she has a good character and married her, but his own character isn't any good. Once a man with bad characters gets married, even if he married the Virgin Mary, he will still cause himself marital problems and look for how to blame her. The character thing goes both ways.

Verysmart101:


Is anyone stop her from enjoying her break pls? Simple cook food put in freezer for her own kids again ur saying oga is wailing.She didn't even consider that she's starving the kids.Shame on you

Can't the man cook? What sort of mediocrity and stupidity would make a man unable to cook? Aren't the kids that he is starving his own kids too? Under the circumstances, the man doesn't have good sense. Even preparing a salad is rocket science to the man. What a spoiled troll.

This is a fake story. Especially after he claims to have a live-in maid.

Montaque:


That is one of the problem in the present matter, even the least problem. The problem here is that the woman places priority on seeing her mum (or whatever it is she went for) than taking care of her kids. Who would leave her kids suddenly without a back up plan? That's the problem.

What back up plan? Isn't the husband there? Isn't he a parent too? All these negligent men looking for sympathy when they refuse to be a part of their family aside bringing in money. Now you can see how money does nothing. Absolutely nothing. She doesn't need a back up plan if he's really the father of those children.

Given the hypothetical situation, this is a thread created by a slow lying man.

BRATISLAVA:


Oh, so the breasts and big backside are a thing. But why did you sound so against it when it's still your spec?

True, OP is using his experience as if it is the only one in the world, and as if women who aren't from his place are terrible.

It could be that he saw that she has a good character and married her, but his own character isn't any good. Once a man with bad characters gets married, even if he married the Virgin Mary, he will still cause himself marital problems and look for how to blame her. The character thing goes both ways.

Yes character is both ways but he is pitching himself why he didn't marry from Anambra and Enugu... I am very convinced it was because of something more attractive than character.. Which is ikebe...lol. Anambra and Enugu no too get am.... Na Benue, and some part of Yoruba land gather am.

My man should just manage, its for better for worse.