Kriss216:

Oga, go and wash madam's pant before she deny you sex tomorrow.

Taaata

BluntCrazeMan:
And you now do house chores like a house-boy whenever you need the cookie??
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You have been successfully manipulated..
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She gave me and excuse one time, and she got a four-months break.
Within the four months, she got tired of starving inside the second month, but I gave lots of excuses.
She started thinking I was seeing someone else.
She fall in love with my phone, trying so hard to know what was keeping me cool.
She started getting frustrated, and becoming toxic, yet I no send her.
I had to touch her one night (in the fourth month) and she responded sharperly.
And after we were both down and tired, I told her clearly that she was the reason we got starved, and that if she enjoyed the starving, then she should continue coming up with more excuses.
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That was the end of her excuses.

Correct man.
Don't mind all these pathetic men here who will stoop so low to beg for sex.
The very thought of it is even disgusting.

Strongdickfresh:
I stop taking CK and AZ because my legally married wife always denied me of sex. I'm very faithful man and never wanted to cheat on my beloved wife. So, I have to stop taking CK and AZ, since then she gives me sex whenever I want it. In the bathroom, kitchen, lobby and bedroom, sitting etc. Please your legally married wife and you will forever be a happy man. I'm talking from my personal experience.

Pathetic excuse of a man
SIMP

That their form of communication is toxic.

Loreettaa:

You're honest here. Most men who complain on NL paints their wives as the devil herself.

Una don too normalize toxicity.

This is weaponization and it is never good.

Daveambition:

Alaye relax.
Na when yu wife a woman yu go knw say dem get manipulative formats..
Yu either abide to most of their terms&condition or angrily leave the house, las las yu'll stil return home & by then; she sef go don strategise another method to provoke yu the more..
Hardman no be for wey punna dey o, conji go bring yu to ur kness begging..
Forget wetin most men dey form outside, behind close doors dem weak dyeee

Wallahi I thought kobojunkie was a woman.

Pinkzebra:
Nairaland men are aproko and chuchu. The op said married women but men here have hijacked the thread . You men are really sex starved no wonder you are always bashing women .
No woman has commented . You lot have chased the matured married women away with your constant red pill � talk. What you have left is unmature below 18 single girls here who give you back your own banter

Finally, sense. This sex based communication thing is toxic and childish.

Romanoff:


They will just jump into conclusion based on few stories they have heard and run with it.

Wise women know where to settle scores, no be for bedroom.

Women who do that ari creating cracks in their marriage.

Roon9:


Dem just turn me down this night o
I miss yarn for car earlier

Why are you people like this...honestly...this infuriates me.....una dey take shit ó....Go look for one labake, chichi or aminat by the side.
I don't like stress, I hate being stressed... If I'm being denied anything, anything in this world...not even sex, anything whatsoever I'm desirous of, I go for it...to satisfy my curiosity and pleasure. Life is too short for all these nonsense ó...

You guyz should understand that, once this heinous act continues... Making love to your wife will start to become an Obligation rather than freewill...which could lead to so many things, if not handled carefully

Or11:
The question is for married women. What is/are the reasons that you would avoid or refuse sex with your husband?

My wife's own is when I get lazy at home and I don't help in the house chores e.g cleaning, cooking, bathing the kids etc. She won't fight with me or argue but when I touch her like this, she will find a meaningful excuse. She's tired, not in the mood, headache, tomorrow, I need to shower first and I'm too lazy now etc. I found out myself that it was when I helped at home that there were no excuses, it's always a happy ending.

You never heard of husbands denying wives sex too?

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Kellzzyy:

Correct man.
Don't mind all these pathetic men here who will stoop so low to beg for sex.
The very thought of it is even disgusting.

But bro, how did we get to this level....sex which is being offered on promotional basis nowadays, buy one get one free., some as "Sales" ..it will now become something I'll beg for....oh goodness! Gawd...

Who are raising all these weak men in our society, this is dangerous and we need yo salvage the situation. I could remember while growing up, perhaps during adolescence stage about 20 years ago

my P man, an easy going , gentle unassuming personality but "dangerous " - possessed this El rufai characteristics of laughing at you, unknowingly you're a walking corpse, doesn't like noise or stress....
Whenever my mum carry her wahala come, àláye go just drive go Lagosboat club then, before you say jack...you don see clean title, first body, light complexion Lagos clearing beside him....
Oftentimes, I'll be wondering...has he employed another secretary or could she be a business associates....
Not until I got married, then I now realized those things(distractions) are necessary...if you really like yourself and wanna live long....

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JustforMen:
My brother, don't stress yourself over what you don't fully control.
Your toto na your own, my prick na my own so I can never be manipulated for something I clearly understand is not mine.
I have so much doing to better myself, my kids and the family than to loose sleep over sex.
If a woman is not in the mood for sex, then I don't get an erection at all. For me the attraction is when you want it.
I used to do side chicks but it is a waste of my time and resources.
Side chicks no dey hoard pussy that is the reason why I support polygamy for those who can cope with it.
Like this three of my 'ex' side chicks wan book my time for this december. One has invited me to Owerri. The other one is begging to come to my base while a third one is blowing my phone to put her in my plans.
But all three na wosai... I did a self reflection mid-year and dumped all the side chicks. I will remain faithful to my commitment even if Madam dey mumu, I no send her wahala over pussy. The thing no dey faze me again. I am actually doing sperm retention.
My attitude is simple: As you no give me, me too I no give you. So all is fair!

So how do you deal with urges now as someone who had been active with different side chicks.


Again, couldn't it have been better for you to just pick a runs girl then discard her afterwards instead of having regular side chick?

Kellzzyy:

Will you shut up your dirty mouth?
So because you deny your boyfriend or husband, which in any case is an excuse if a man, you think all guys are like that?
Fool. Continue denying
Just pray you no marry person like me

Come small man, I am not your mate to roll in the mud with you. Go and wash plates for your Christmas meal. Anu, I am happily and joyfully married for a decade..F00L. I wonder who will marry a brainless human being like you who only thinks with his third leg. Well social media gave you the impetus to talk to your mother.

Klass99:


I understand and I wasn't going to ask what hubby does.

What I find annoying though, is how he sits close to the children but when they need something he calls you who is far away to come and attend to them. That's too hands off for my liking.

Secondly, the fact that when you're sick, nothing gets done around the house until you recover enough to handle it, is not healthy at all. The stress and strain in your first post just seems too much, so sorry.

Yea, he only helps with cooking and going to the market when he wants to. He promised to get me a help soon; he's already looking out for one.

Merry Christmas to you dear

Or11:
The question is for married women. What is/are the reasons that you would avoid or refuse sex with your husband?

My wife's own is when I get lazy at home and I don't help in the house chores e.g cleaning, cooking, bathing the kids etc. She won't fight with me or argue but when I touch her like this, she will find a meaningful excuse. She's tired, not in the mood, headache, tomorrow, I need to shower first and I'm too lazy now etc. I found out myself that it was when I helped at home that there were no excuses, it's always a happy ending.

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Daveambition:

Alaye relax.
Na when yu wife a woman yu go knw say dem get manipulative formats..
Yu either abide to most of their terms&condition or angrily leave the house, las las yu'll stil return home & by then; she sef go don strategise another method to provoke yu the more..
Hardman no be for wey punna dey o, conji go bring yu to ur kness begging..
Forget wetin most men dey form outside, behind close doors dem weak dyeee

Kobojunkie:
The man is the one in this case forcing his wife's hand in this, as he explained to you.

If you are in a business with someone and you begin to fall back on your responsibilities, don't expect that partnership not to suffer to some extent.

So it's now the responsibility of a man to do house chores baaaa? What happens to him solely providing for them pls? Women of 21st century are just useless in nature

LagosInter:


So how do you deal with urges now as someone who had been active with different side chicks.


Again, couldn't it have been better for you to just pick a runs girl then discard her afterwards instead of having regular side chick?

Urges are in the mind and by God's grace, I am in control.
I still dey talk normal with the side chicks because we have a 'friendship'. They call me and I also call them but I avoid any intimacy.
I have so much stuff that occupies me now that sex is honestly very far from my mind.
I don't like runs girls and never did them.
My problem is that I have to really like something about a woman before I desire her and it is usually her personality.
So ashawo no dey appeal to me at all because I cannot have time to connect with her enough to desire her.
So far I am very happy with my life and my kids are enjoying me alot because I hardly ever go out.
I think I am generally a better man, a better father and 'husband' - that one get k-leg sha but life goes on.

mummymum:
There is how hubby will do and as a weaker vessel nothing you can do in return than to lock your store for him to return to normal sense. Infact that little store get power to reset any man to be sensitive to his wife.�

And if in the process of locking store as you say he goes outside to get it what will you do?

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fluffybaby:

You never heard of husbands denying wives sex too?

Of course, that's another topic on its own. This one is focused on the wives.

I won't wait till d ladies comment,dis thing is personally beyond my control,I have spoken to my wife on several occasions and she kept pushing d blame on my kids... I tried masturbating but not satisfied sexually,can't cheat either...am bitter seeing her,d worst part of it all Is that I turn back looking at every girl that passes by even those that are not close as beautiful as my wife....

BluntCrazeMan:
And you now do house chores like a house-boy whenever you need the cookie??
..
You have been successfully manipulated..
..
..
She gave me an excuse one time, and she got a four-months break.
Within the four months, she herself got tired of starving inside the second month, but I gave her lots of excuses.
She started thinking that I was seeing someone else.
She fall in love with my phone, trying so hard to know what was keeping me cool.
She started getting frustrated, and becoming toxic, yet I no send her.
I had to touch her one night (in the fourth month) and she responded sharperly.
And after we were both down and tired, I told her clearly that she was the reason we got starved, and that if she enjoyed the starving, then she should continue coming up with more excuses.
..
That was the end of her excuses.

It might not always work, you know your wife and that's probably why this worked because you know her weak point. I don't mind doing the house chores with her but sometimes I simply forget

UjuJoan2:


You know it’s not just women that deny their husbands sex, some men also deny their wives as well.

I think people are born with different sex drives, and it varies at different points in their lives. This your wife you think is denying you sex will sometimes always beg you for sex.

Personally I think people should be free to sleep with other people if their partners are not meeting their sexual needs. I believe in open marriages.

That being said, I think men focus too much on sex. And yet they don’t want to make the second exciting and spice things up. Why won’t she get tired of the same old boring sex? For men all you need is the climax, but women need passion and sexual satisfaction too.

Make it interesting and she will beg you for it.

PS: if my husband left me to do all the house chores he will be lucky if I even sleep beside him at all.

Of course, that's another topic on its own. This one is focused on the wives denying their husband's sex.

Yes sometimes she's the one who initiates for sex but seems I got a higher sex drive than her. Open marriages is a no go area for me. I don't like to share my cookie.

The bonded is noted, very noted.

99thEnemy:


Just don't have appetite to eat her food too and see the drama that will unfold.

simple revenge.

We cook together so it's not just her food and if I no eat, who go suffer? No be me go hungry? Lol

Loreettaa:

You're honest here. Most men who complain on NL paints their wives as the devil herself.

Maybe some of their wives are really like the devil.

Frales6:
But most men like nacking like say tomorrow no dey. When they're happy, they will nack, when they're angry, they'll use nacking to 4get the anger, when they're tired or exhausted from work, they'll nack so that they'll sleep well. When they're idle, they'll nack so that they'll keep body and soul 2gether. Every time e get reason to nack. How woman no go tire? Bring meat, bring meat...na for cow body na.

Sex is a mutually enjoyable act just that due to generally poor economy and reduced opportunities for females, 95% of Nigerian females have commercialised sex.
A lot of females now suppress the sexual urge due to this.
My girlfriend in school always wanted sex as much as I did,if not even more.
Girls also want to have an orgasm and sleep off.

JustforMen:


Urges are in the mind and by God's grace, I am in control.
I still dey talk normal with the side chicks because we have a 'friendship'. They call me and I also call them but I avoid any intimacy.
I have so much stuff that occupies me now that sex is honestly very far from my mind.
I don't like runs girls and never did them.
My problem is that I have to really like something about a woman before I desire her and it is usually her personality.
So ashawo no dey appeal to me at all because I cannot have time to connect with her enough to desire her.
So far I am very happy with my life and my kids are enjoying me alot because I hardly ever go out.
I think I am generally a better man, a better father and 'husband' - that one get k-leg sha but life goes on.

I often wonder if I can stay with one woman for years and still desire her sexually.



I doubt if I can marry and stay faithful given all sorts of temptations, big nyashes everywhere etc.

This is worse if the man is fairly successful and may not have money as hindrance.

Onedayoneday:
So many problems in this country and all we think about is sex. The same sex that has led us to the overpopulation we are currently battling with.

Sex doesn't lead to overpopulation.
Illiteracy/lack of family planning does.

Exceed15:
As long as there is unsettled issue , bed time suffers it. If you want enjoy your wife make her happy.

Stop SIMPing about.
SEX IS A RIGHT IN MARRIAGE so far you are considerate about it (like not demand for it everyday) etc.
Whose job then is it to make the man happy?

So no one has mentioned female circumcision?