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Re: Dear Wives, Why Do You Deny Your Husband Sex? by Kobojunkie: 3:39pm On Dec 25, 2021 |
litaninja:In OP'S case, he admits to knowing what to do just that he didn't do it. That there tells you, his wife has already had that conversation with him at least once. |
Re: Dear Wives, Why Do You Deny Your Husband Sex? by Kobojunkie: 3:43pm On Dec 25, 2021 |
CaptainAyub:That statement in bold is not true at all of sex. I really hope you will go back and try to process what the poster whose comment I responded to is trying to tell you, this so you don't end up like your fathers before you. |
Re: Dear Wives, Why Do You Deny Your Husband Sex? by 99thEnemy(m): 4:13pm On Dec 25, 2021 |
Or11: Abandon her with the cooking and eat out consistently just for one week. Only one week and come back to give testimony |
Re: Dear Wives, Why Do You Deny Your Husband Sex? by Roon9(m): 4:36pm On Dec 25, 2021 |
komodapson: Bros e no easy once you are in o Gf & wife get difference o Besides outside girls get better chlamydia and gonno oooo |
Re: Dear Wives, Why Do You Deny Your Husband Sex? by Pacesetter123(m): 4:41pm On Dec 25, 2021 |
Mac12:God will open a way for you people. You are understanding woman. |
Re: Dear Wives, Why Do You Deny Your Husband Sex? by Mac12(f): 4:50pm On Dec 25, 2021 |
Pacesetter123: Amen and amen! Thanks dear 1 Like |
Re: Dear Wives, Why Do You Deny Your Husband Sex? by litaninja(m): 5:21pm On Dec 25, 2021 |
Not necessarily. That does not tell you anything of the sort. Kobojunkie: |
Re: Dear Wives, Why Do You Deny Your Husband Sex? by Kobojunkie: 5:27pm On Dec 25, 2021 |
litaninja:Huh? |
Re: Dear Wives, Why Do You Deny Your Husband Sex? by komodapson(m): 5:46pm On Dec 25, 2021 |
Roon9: You're not getting the point, I'm married for over 9 years now...and I work on island. I still hook up with my ex gf whom are married also, we both hangout once in awhile to ease out the marital burden, lasgidi stress and kontree wahala ... Baba...life is too short...na my point be that... 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Dear Wives, Why Do You Deny Your Husband Sex? by Roon9(m): 8:16pm On Dec 25, 2021 |
komodapson: Indeed bro. Now I get |
Re: Dear Wives, Why Do You Deny Your Husband Sex? by Or11: 1:16am On Dec 26, 2021 |
Mac12: Wow sounds like you are exaggerating but if it's true you need to find ways to make life easier for you. Get some help, buy a washing machine or just stop doing anything and let every where be untidy. Your reasons are valid IMO. 1 Like |
Re: Dear Wives, Why Do You Deny Your Husband Sex? by o9o9: 8:14am On Dec 26, 2021 |
Lots of families complaining about having it hard in terms of housework. Ask them how much they spent on their wedding? Millions of naira on frivolous wedding and doing eye service. Money that should have gone into setting up your house to remove all stress. You spent it on a rice and chicken for hundreds of people who don't give a damn about you. Ordinary washing machine, you guys don't have. It is always ironic that it is the girls always pushing for such expensive wedding without thinking of setting up the house. When you put him debt and he has to struggle to pay such in the first few years of marriage. Don't complain when you are at the receiving end of things. I have gone ahead to even get an automatic/robotic vacuum cleaner to ease the stress. As for lots of guys in here stating thrash about house work. Pay for a weekly house cleaning service(Labout is fucking cheap in Nigeria. I have someone come clean and mop the house completely weekly for 2500 per week), buy the house tools to remove the stress. Help with the kids when you can. Lots of you have never changed a diaper let alone wash the feaces soiled bum bum of your kids. Do things that makes her understand that you are both in these together. Now see you make requests and see if she would turn you down. The kids are crying and you continue playing games or watching that movie or typing away on your phone while angrily ordering them into their mum's room to stop disturbing you. What signal are you trying to tell the mum? That all the stress belongs to the mum. Men you need to change, especially when it comes child caring. That's one of the biggest house work women face. Lots of you do absolutely nothing in the formative years of your kids. It is not only to provide money for upkeep. Knew someone who throughout the first few months of the birth of his baby , he never woke up while the baby was crying at night to even help. Why won't the woman resent you? 6 Likes |
Re: Dear Wives, Why Do You Deny Your Husband Sex? by Mac12(f): 8:20am On Dec 26, 2021 |
Or11: Seems like I'm lying right My dear, if one doesn't tell you what they go through, you wouldn't know. Besides, why would I want to lie about the truth? Wake me up in the next 100years, I'd still tell you same thing. We are saving towards getting a washing machine and getting a help |
Re: Dear Wives, Why Do You Deny Your Husband Sex? by Or11: 9:18am On Dec 26, 2021 |
Mac12: True, hope things get easier for you. 1 Like |
Re: Dear Wives, Why Do You Deny Your Husband Sex? by Mac12(f): 9:58am On Dec 26, 2021 |
Or11: Yea thanks... |
Re: Dear Wives, Why Do You Deny Your Husband Sex? by CsRockefeller(m): 1:10pm On Dec 26, 2021 |
komodapson: Are you saying you are having sex (cheating) with your Ex, who is also married? |
Re: Dear Wives, Why Do You Deny Your Husband Sex? by komodapson(m): 3:04pm On Dec 26, 2021 |
CsRockefeller: In any of the statements written above did you see the word "sex"? |
Re: Dear Wives, Why Do You Deny Your Husband Sex? by DrTee1(m): 6:39am On Dec 27, 2021 |
Jazzman01: Unfortunately. 11 pages of text, only one person mentioned the most basic anatomical reason that is still persistent till date. In fact, most/many girl children who have had some form of genital mutilation can indeed keep the vows of chastity before and AFTER marriage quite better... The consequences are however some of what is being discussed. It isn't the only reason, but it is certainly one of the reasons. |
Re: Dear Wives, Why Do You Deny Your Husband Sex? by Fairbanks(m): 12:21pm On Dec 27, 2021 |
Kriss216: Are u married? if not, let's wait and see. |
Re: Dear Wives, Why Do You Deny Your Husband Sex? by Wettoid123: 4:01pm On Dec 27, 2021 |
1Sharon: Exactly but my wife own case is exceptional everything irritate her when we had our first baby we made love only once b4 delivery that was the 7month, the second baby too the same thing and this is our third baby so i just try to bear with it cos am use to the system al human have different body composition some women pregnancy does not disturb them while some it does. 1 Like |
Re: Dear Wives, Why Do You Deny Your Husband Sex? by Mac12(f): 12:34pm On Jan 01, 2022 |
eminemkayc: A thread was posted some days ago of which I made a comment(link posted below) and a kind hearted nairalander (eminemkayc) showed interest in my case. He blessed me this new year and made my family smile... https://www.nairaland.com/6901494/dear-wives-why-deny-husband/4#108786815 @eminemkayc People like you can make the world a better place. No matter which words I use, I would never be able to fully express my appreciation to you. All my lips can say to you right now are the words, “thank you” because I know it was out of God's love that you gave me a helping hand. Sometimes, the magic comes from unexpected sources. Words can’t describe how overwhelmed I and my family feels by your kind gesture. From the deepest place of our hearts, we say, “Thank you..." 3 Likes |
Re: Dear Wives, Why Do You Deny Your Husband Sex? by eminemkayc: 1:19pm On Jan 01, 2022 |
You are most welcome. It was an instruction from God and I had to fulfill it. Manage it please due to the economic circumstances. God bless 4 Likes |
Re: Dear Wives, Why Do You Deny Your Husband Sex? by Nobody: 1:26pm On Jan 01, 2022 |
JustforMen: She is your twin flame 1 Like |
Re: Dear Wives, Why Do You Deny Your Husband Sex? by DaRuud(m): 2:05pm On Jan 01, 2022 |
Greatric213: Thank Your star say you no give am , cos na belle You dey carry be that |
Re: Dear Wives, Why Do You Deny Your Husband Sex? by Greatric213(f): 3:53pm On Jan 03, 2022 |
DaRuud:I dey tell you na that one be he plan |
Re: Dear Wives, Why Do You Deny Your Husband Sex? by Lastic: 11:29pm On Feb 16, 2022 |
Klass99: Quite frankly it’s not any of these reasons. Let me be more open here. She told me that she was raped as a child and that affected her psyche. She hates to talk about sex and has been in a kind of self prison. I tried all I could but to no avail. Personally I do not believe in extra marital sex no matter how difficult and starved I am. The funny thing is I confronted her once and told her how terrible I was feeling about living 3 months without sex as a married man. She candidly saw nothing wrong in it and advised me to seek satisfaction outside. She was ready to let me have a sex partner outside on the condition I tell her whenever I am ready to start going out. I have kids and I do not want to bring problems to my kids because I love them very much. I feel as if I just have to carry this cross if not for anything but for my kids. Months have passed without sex and I don’t feel anything. I’ve grown out of the masturbation thing to having no feelings about my wife. We now live like two strangers in one house and she doesn’t see anything wrong in that. Well, some choices affect people to death. On the whole, I have found studying and research as my escape route from immoral thoughts. I get busy and enmeshed into my studies but occasionally I have gals hitting on me and all that but then I’ve decided not to let down on my guard. How long will this go on? I don’t know! How long will I endure? I don’t really know. All I can say is I live for now. If things change, thank God if they don’t? Life goes on 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Dear Wives, Why Do You Deny Your Husband Sex? by Kobojunkie: 12:09am On Feb 17, 2022 |
Lastic:What your wife needs is mental therapy to help her escape that prison she lives in, not confrontations and even ultimatums. You should probably consider sitting down as a couple together and making a decision for her mental health in this. Make an appointment with a rape counselor and go from there as a couple. With therapy and time, the situation in your marriage might improve for both of you. |
Re: Dear Wives, Why Do You Deny Your Husband Sex? by prettysassygirl(f): 4:38am On Feb 17, 2022 |
The only reason I would refuse my husband from sleeping with me is if I find out that he is cheating. Apart from that anyday, anytime I am up to the task. It's even better to have sex with your husband every night so that he can have a sound sleep. 1 Like |
Re: Dear Wives, Why Do You Deny Your Husband Sex? by Klass99(f): 9:57am On Feb 17, 2022 |
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Re: Dear Wives, Why Do You Deny Your Husband Sex? by Lastic: 10:34pm On Feb 18, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: Thank you for this, it shows that what I did was right. That reminds me, two years ago after enduring so much, I discussed with her if she could see a therapist but she debunk the idea stating that Nigeria do not have good sex and post rape therapist. I made contacts with good therapist and offered to pay any amount within my ability but she turned it own. After a while I begged her to see them even once and not jump into costly assumptions but she refused. I offered to go with her and support her recovery but she said NO! So my brother, this is my world. Sometimes I feel like running crazy but I give myself full restrain because life is more than all the miseries I’m passing through. |
Re: Dear Wives, Why Do You Deny Your Husband Sex? by Lastic: 10:39pm On Feb 18, 2022 |
Klass99:Thank you for this. And yes she did tell me casually, but I thought it wasn’t too bad. So I thought since I’m not a sex addict I would eventually be cool with it. We discuss it and she said it wouldn’t affect us but it has really done damage to my head…..I’ve recovered from it. Honestly I’m not happy but I tried to pursue joy just to be strong for the kids I brought into this world. And for the discipline? I think God is at work here….. 1 Like |
Re: Dear Wives, Why Do You Deny Your Husband Sex? by Kobojunkie: 10:52pm On Feb 18, 2022 |
Lastic:You did indeed do the right thing. I would like go encourage you to keep suggesting it to her so she continues to know that option remains available for your marriage to rise from the ashes of her past. There is a tremendous amount of shame still wrapped around the idea of seeing a mental Health therapist among Nigerians, and so I expect the stigma much harder for those who have rape in their history to overcome. So, please keep letting your wife know that she is not to blame for the rape and deserves to live free of the scar and enjoy a full life like every other person out there. If she is online, she can probably find a support group where she can communicate with other victims and learn from them how to let go little by little.. 1 Like |
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