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| Please Help Me Look At This Situation.did I Mess Things Up by Softboy001(op): 12:05pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
I worked a costumer service call agent. And there is this lady that I really admire. I mean i like her so much and I don't really know how to express my self to her and let her know how I feel about her. I just started working there some months ago The girl is really very beautiful. I don't even know the word to describe her. I really like her. But the issues was how to communicate this to her because all we say is hi or Good morning. So 3 days I summoned courage and I ask her for her number. She was first resisting to give me but later did and then I texted her that evening on WhatsApp and told her how I felt about her. On text and voice note She didn't reply at first but later replied and said "thank you we can only be friends or colleagues." That's not the issues now... The issues now is that since that chat on WhatsApp. She has been avoiding my As in seriously avoiding me... What do you guys think might be the issue Did I do wrong by expressing my feelings to her Or was I too fast or what.... Normally I won't care but I do because I really love this girl |
| Re: Please Help Me Look At This Situation.did I Mess Things Up by DispatcherLagos: 12:07pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
 You were too hasty and very straight to the point. To most women, you are only desperate and desperados only want one thing... their body. You should have been more romantic, take her out, call her first thing in the morning to say "good morning", let her know that you are a gentleman, believe me, she could have been the one that will ask you out. Meanwhile, the soup never too sour, you can still win her love if you play your cards well 8 Likes |
| Re: Please Help Me Look At This Situation.did I Mess Things Up by DannyXpress: 12:11pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
Why won't she avoid you when you're trying to trap her in a cage when all she's after is to have fun Go through my posts, you'll see the answer to your problem |
| Re: Please Help Me Look At This Situation.did I Mess Things Up by sajmark(m): 12:11pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
Softboy001:Your approach was creapy, and you showed her that you lacked confidence And Cojones. Work on your game. |
| Re: Please Help Me Look At This Situation.did I Mess Things Up by Odoogu(m): 12:12pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
There is no perfect time in expressing your feelings to a woman you like, so you did no wrong there. Since she is avoiding you, let her be, una go jam one day. Just try and get it off your mind and focus on your job. And don't stop making friends either, it dissolves your anxiety and give aura to your already dope personality. 4 Likes |
| Re: Please Help Me Look At This Situation.did I Mess Things Up by BMathew: 12:13pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
It's obvious you Lust after her.... Calm down now, be still |
| Re: Please Help Me Look At This Situation.did I Mess Things Up by VlamesIffect(f): 12:28pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
Werey wan cum No worry when you cum your body go calm down |
| Re: Please Help Me Look At This Situation.did I Mess Things Up by Edyice: 12:30pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
Wow so fast, dude it’s lust oo The same office romance takes time No go they rush am |
| Re: Please Help Me Look At This Situation.did I Mess Things Up by pyyxxaro: 12:39pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
Uche face your Work oh Uche face your Work oh Don’t say I didn’t warn you  1 Like |
| Re: Please Help Me Look At This Situation.did I Mess Things Up by shantti(m): 12:41pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
DispatcherLagos:After doing all these these and she no come gree nko 1 Like
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| Re: Please Help Me Look At This Situation.did I Mess Things Up by DispatcherLagos: 12:54pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
shantti:you keep doing them and even more. But paradventure she come invite you to her wedding when you are still in the process, my brother, OYO is your case |
| Re: Please Help Me Look At This Situation.did I Mess Things Up by Cholls(m): 12:57pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
shantti:my brother bye bye then
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| Re: Please Help Me Look At This Situation.did I Mess Things Up by Lalami3232(m): 1:05pm On Jan 06, 2022*. Modified: 3:53pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
No mind people wey dey tell you say you're too quick oooo, ticket wey wan cut go cut. Now make I analyze the scenario for you as a street boy. 1. Maybe she no get feelings for you naturally 2. Maybe she no dey play office game. Some people naturally hate to date who dem dey work with. Imagine say boss dey shout for you, how you expect her to feel. Or imagine say person dey insult her for office, how you go feel? So office romance na wetin most people dey avoid because dem no dey shit for where dem dey chop. 3. She fit dey in a relationship and she no want make you raise any suspicion with her BF. She even sef fit dey date one person for that office on code, you won't know. Hence her outright rejection 4. Maybe you no dey package well to her level. In every NO wey a babe tell you, a YES dey behind am if you know your game plan. I for give you hint on how to win her but I no go do am because I no support office romance. E no good atall!!! My guy see what you need to do, just follow her be platonic friend, no ever mention relationship again to her. Na this kind scenario na dey sweet pass sef, she go play enter your court one day and you go quench her. As far say you don already register say you get feelings for her, you don get small chance of drilling her canal someday, but no ever try to act immature like her by avoiding her or using money/gifts to woo her. Once again, leave the babe and forget office romance, E no dey pay ooo. No feel bad, you're a man and na a man has 100% legal right to woo a woman. Na her legal right of rejecting you na she use too, so both of una no do anything wrong 3 Likes
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| Re: Please Help Me Look At This Situation.did I Mess Things Up by FERNANDEZISBACK: 2:00pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
You f**d up big time..this is what happens when you don't understand women.. You should have spoken to her in person..how on earth are you gonna be asking a girl out on WhatsApp to myself it's just like asking for nudes.. Next time play your game maturely..women ain't sex object..they can sense a wannabe redpiller miles away.. 1 Like |
| Re: Please Help Me Look At This Situation.did I Mess Things Up by jesmond3945: 2:02pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
Softboy001:she doesn't like you as a date. Is good you know how she feels about you. |
| Re: Please Help Me Look At This Situation.did I Mess Things Up by Nobody: 2:10pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
Softboy001:Today is January 6 ... that’s all I’ll say think about it |
| Re: Please Help Me Look At This Situation.did I Mess Things Up by Isokoson1: 2:13pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
DispatcherLagos:Word of a simp |
| Re: Please Help Me Look At This Situation.did I Mess Things Up by Headlesschicken(m): 2:30pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
 Towtow no dey tire una? V@gina generation.... 1 Like |
| Re: Please Help Me Look At This Situation.did I Mess Things Up by AKWATGOLD1(m): 2:44pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
From her action by avoiding you it shows that she loves you too but want you to add more pressure to show that she is not cheap. Softboy001: |
| Re: Please Help Me Look At This Situation.did I Mess Things Up by Softboy001(op): 2:57pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
Lalami3232:. Thanks I really appreciate this advice. I think I'll try and do this as best as I can |
| Re: Please Help Me Look At This Situation.did I Mess Things Up by Charmingrascal(m): 3:14pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
DispatcherLagos:If you like a woman, hit the nail on the head, don't beat around the bush. There was nothing too "hasty" about his approach.. Tell a woman your mind if she go gree she go gree if she no go gree she no go gree. I don't do that "redpill" sh*t but it is not really necessary to take her out and waste money unnecessarily. Just say your mind when you get along or become at least friends you can take her out, but taking her out because you want to ask her out is not necessary. ......If you love somebody walk up to her and tell her you love her because no crime, no crime at all" ~African China ft Faze Softboy001 You didn't mess up, just give her a little time, you still have her WhatsApp number check up on her once in a while, drop a short messages for her once in a while. You can still b friends if you really like her, friendship can lead to the next level, but I like the fact that you have made you intentions known to her, so even if you become friends she will have it in my mind that you want more than friendship. But if you don't love her and you are lying just to get in her pant just know that "you are going to hell" |
| Re: Please Help Me Look At This Situation.did I Mess Things Up by DispatcherLagos: 3:19pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
Charmingrascal:Bros you have to create a friendly environment before asking a woman out. You don't just see any random woman you have feelings for and start talking to her even when she has no feelings whatsoever for you |
| Re: Please Help Me Look At This Situation.did I Mess Things Up by Sonnobax15(m): 3:19pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
Mennnnnnnn, op, you don loosegaurd I swear........As in,you just to over rush the whole thing.......Well,no be every banny dey easy to achieve like that cha......But the bitter truth must be told here bro,you fvcked up like seriously....... Right now,if she's that childish type, everybody for una working place go don hear  . Just imagine that kind nonsense  Las las,you better move on with your god-damned life bro.. |
| Re: Please Help Me Look At This Situation.did I Mess Things Up by nerdfrost(m): 3:26pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
| u moved too fast Nosimp2022 |
| Re: Please Help Me Look At This Situation.did I Mess Things Up by Charmingrascal(m): 3:30pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
DispatcherLagos:I am insisting that you do not need to take a woman out before asking her out. And yes you can meet a random girl and ask her out it's about your approach, body language, gesticulations and inter-personal communication skill. Ask her out if she declines, you can be friends and get to know each other then you can take it up from there. |
| Re: Please Help Me Look At This Situation.did I Mess Things Up by DispatcherLagos: 3:34pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
Charmingrascal:I only listed few ways of becoming friendly with a woman prior to asking her out. He mustn't take her out, it could just be by sending sms, visits, spending work breaks together. Talking about meeting someone you never knew and asking her out, if it works for you, good for you |
| Re: Please Help Me Look At This Situation.did I Mess Things Up by Nobody: 3:42pm On Jan 06, 2022*. Modified: 4:27am On Apr 11, 2022 |
. 1 Like |
| Re: Please Help Me Look At This Situation.did I Mess Things Up by yungz: 3:51pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
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| Re: Please Help Me Look At This Situation.did I Mess Things Up by benqo01(m): 3:58pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
OP YOU RE TOO FAST HABA,WHICH KIND EYE YOU WANT MAKE SHE TAKE LOOK YOU......TAKE THINGS SLOWLY |
| Re: Please Help Me Look At This Situation.did I Mess Things Up by Clinghton: 6:50pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
Faking not to be interested to a beautiful girl is one way to attract her, but you did the opposite. |
| Re: Please Help Me Look At This Situation.did I Mess Things Up by Truvelisback(m): 8:42pm On Jan 06, 2022 |
Softboy001:Don't be a SIMP, if she wants to go, let her go.
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