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Kaymicheal852:
There is always an exception,but it's a fact that a poor man is never appreciated

Atleast u accepted that there is exception

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Etinosa1234:
Hi guys
Pls can someone help me with ways to start a conversation with a gal u see at church or on the street
It will be really helpful

By the time you master this art you will find cold-approaching ladies more addictive than sex itself. I kid you not.
Too many factors come into play, so much that this deserves a thread of its own.

Akan:
One married woman de seriously tempt me. But my question is why is it a no no for a man to Bleep a married woman but ok for a girl to Bleep married man. Abi the same karma no de catch girls? One married woman de seriously tempt me.

Funny right?
Plenty guys in this dilemma.

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mhkent:
I have been following this thread low-key for a while now, and I want to thank you all for the great advice and knowledge that is been revealed here. But, please I need help from anyone here who can help suggest any site where I can be getting little funds to save up on. I intend picking up on learning programming and i need funds to get a laptop to start on. Anyone who can help suggest where one can do jobs or that has something I can help you be doing over the Internet till I can save up and get myself running up will be appreciated.
I sincerely apologise for derailing this great thread as this is not to my intent but I need to start the new year on a strong footing.

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​​Female manipulation. Part 1.

As it happens, and it would be hard for you to argue with me, but in our society our traditional upbringing teaches men to pursue women, to run after them. A story about knights and princesses, where only the part about knights remains relevant. Girls, from childhood, understand that boys can be manipulated and get all the benefits of this world. Hence the problems of adulthood.

She makes herself unavailable.

The first one does not write, you have to achieve. Often these girls are empty inside, but their inaccessibility, like a challenge, increases her importance and the guy does not realize that he reaches for the empty. In this variant of manipulation, the expense on the part of the guy increases, and this, increases the importance of the girl. The guy wants to prove that he is worthy of her and begins to shower her with gifts. The girl, miss inaccessibility, does not give any definite answers and therefore allows herself to communicate with other guys and accept their advances. A circle around her turns out. Everyone who agrees to take part in it, knowingly agrees to a weak position, that is, admits to being weak-willed and low-grade.

How do you protect yourself from this manipulation?

Run away. Such girls are fine with everything. There are plenty of guys in their lives who woo them, pay for them. If you respect your time, run. Girls who play hard to get, even if you get them, won't bring anything new into your life. They won't support you, they won't give you as much love as you can get from someone who was raised right. You can't reeducate her. She will change on her own, but it takes time. You're not ready to waste it.

End of part one.

Guys I go Dy believe all those news I Dy hear abt married women now

Something just happened in my location now:

Man ND wife get issue for hux, the woman comot for man hux for 3 months ND leta come back with 3 months belle now she tell the man say na him get am so the man come talk say no be him get am so the woman go do abortion ND come tell her friend now her friend come go tell her husband
from the man mouth he say anytime Dem get issue for hux he nor Dy sex the woman ND he was only testing the woman cus he knows his wife Sabi open mouth wide Dy shout anyhow but now she didn't talk back at him just comot go do the abortion with her money ND the man just believe 100% cus his wife will never use her own money do something for hux b4.
from the street people mouth all of us believe the woman sex another person cus her life style is too wild ND the kind things she Dy talk for mouth ND she too like money
her game after the abortion she go tell the man say she just testing am ND she didn't get belle
anything Dem talk for dis thread na fact ooo someone here talk about married women don't like using CD again Dem like it skin to skin
she ND her friend don Dy fight for street, my issue now why her friend tell her husband?

Ketapu:
All the best

You spit facts but when you come to think of it and knowing fully well the majority of girls we have lately, the slay queens and the overly hypergamous girls and after knowing about the female nature, you can’t help but be a little cold to these girls and value your time more, you’re bound to be rejected more than accepted just like you said, isn’t that so stressful, I personally feel throwing our attentions and cold approaching these broads don’t worth the stress and sometimes plain ridiculous, these females just sit there and reject guys at will knowing fully well more guys will come for them.

Same girl you trying to get is mostly likely a low value or materialistic or even a pompous one, so many red flags about these modern girls and it’s starting to seem like we’re giving them too much than they actually deserve, I don’t know if the redpill has done that to me but I don’t tolerate bullshits from these girls anymore, I’ve been seeing a lot of them but I only ignore them to avoid disrespect or rejection that isn’t suppose to happen in the first place.

I realized when you focus on your goal, dress well, workout/ hit the gym, take good care of yourself, some of the females tend to show green light or utterly approach without you stressing yourself. I’m not being boastful but I get green light or get approached by a girl or two most times I go out, eventho some of them may actually not be my spec..

At this point, I can not cold approach just any girl, (I only do on rare occasions depending on the girl’s composure), I watch out for them very well before I make such move, we have a lot of uncouth, prideful, rude, and low value girls walking the street nowadays. There is a time you tell yourself enough is enough with some of these girls. However anyone should do anything that works for them. Peace.

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foreman:
I experienced this before, happens to be at a time I just started being aware of women nature. One of the reasons that got me convinced about the TRP.

This beautiful young lady was brought to the bus terminal (on a long journey) by her husband and they were doing all these lovey-dovey thingy at the park. In my mind, I was like this is a young couple still much in love. I was seated at the back right beside the lady 2 seater at the back Sienna. Journey started we didn't even greet and for a long while we didn't even talk. Then in my usual way, I brought out my regular hot drink and drank myself to sleep.

I woke up to a commotion about vehicle fault and it was already nearly dark. After repairs was not successful, it became imperative that people found where to sleep. But then when I woke up, this lady beside me started forming niceness to me. She just started gisting like we were pals before I slept off. Other passengers were discussing to eat at a fast food joint, I told her I wanted local swallow then she was like I want that too. We eat from there I deliberately looked for hotel, we went together. I booked, she didn't. Long story short, we slept in the same room. The husband called throughout the night and they continued their lovey-dovey on the phone while I was messing around. it felt so good. I thought about what changed, then I realized it must have been my erec-tion while I was asleep (I experience that when drunk and about to wake up from sleep).

@Ubunja I always wondered where you got these things, is it like you experienced all of these (because there are too many you spoke about) , you read about them or meditation?

Someone has said women are unpredictable,, and it's true. Women think with their feelings and because feelings change randomly so women are random, that is unpredictable, chaotic. That's the core of femininity: unpredictability. But if you stop and look at the chaos long enough, if you give yourself time, you start to see patterns emerge. As unpredictable as women are, the more you deal with them, the more you understand them either by personal experience or reading or watching films, then the more you pick up a rhythm and a routine to them that lets you anticipate their moves within reasonable accuracy. You get to a point where your intuition and gut feeling starts filling the gaps of knowledge for you. Such that situations you haven't encountered before, you can reliably predict how they'll go down. Myself when I write, sometimes this is what is happening. I haven't experienced it but I can accurately tell you how it plays out. This is with the understanding that here and there you have to adjust what I say for cultural differences.

Ketapu:
All the best

Also your style is cool but I personally won’t call a girl I’m just meeting ‘sister’ and I never compliment them to be ‘pretty sexy or beautiful’, I feel that’s too much validation, that alone get to their heads a lot.. Treat her like a celebrity and she treats you like a fan, she has to earn a compliment if she wants it.

When I’m meeting a girl, I’ll rather talk about a random thing instead of complimenting her, I’ll be like
Me: Hello, I’m new in this area, do you know the guest house around here?
Her: No I don’t or Yes it’s around there
Me: Alright, thank you for your time, I’m heartofcity, would be good to know u. What’s your name blah blah, let’s talk some other time, let me have your number.. if she declines, her wahala.. She’s not getting my compliment for free.

It all depends on the mood, sometimes I make it all about her by asking if she stays or work around.. or her academics and we chit chat, I collect number but I’m never complimenting her..

A girl I got lately still had to ask me if I was truly trying to get the location of the library which I asked her as a startup conversation or it was just a punchline, I only smiled and continued to kiss her.. We were both cuddling when she asked lol, she was so curious because I didn’t compliment her like she’s certainly used to, I’ve never told her she’s cute or beautiful till date eventho she is..

However to each with his own, everyone should do what works for them, that’s just my own style.

Ketapu:
Everyone has their aim.
Red pill has equipped me with how to screen and identify troublesome ladies. I've never hesitated to cut them off my life.

Alright. Everyone should do what works for them.

Herbsworks:
I have always been reading about men tolerating shit simply because kids are already involved but the truth is that women knows this and use it to manipulate. The first thing on an average African woman’s mind immediately after wedding is how to get pregnant and give birth and some men blindly follow. Women strive to give birth cos they know that having one or two children will give them a stronghold in the marriage and a stronger hold if she happens to give birth to a male child.

Haven’t you noticed that once a woman gives birth for her husband her attitude changes most especially when the child is a boy cos she now feels she has a voice and you can’t chase her out of your house cos you won’t want to lose the custody of your kids. I was discussing with my elder sister sometime ago and she told me that ladies nowadays don’t want to get married and that they only get married to suppress societal pressure and to have kids legitimately.

When a woman wants to leave a marriage the first thing she think of leaving with are mostly the kids because she knows that she can use the kids to keep collecting money in form of child support from the man. That’s why most divorce women receiving child support from their ex husbands don’t work cos they feed on the money sent for child support. So as a man, your wife leaves and probably gets married to another man or starts dating other men, instead of you to focus on your life you’re busy working day and night so you can send money to her for children’s school fees and upkeeps. It becomes very bad when you decide to remarry and have kids. So you will be taking care of your new home and also your other children Ahh.

Sometimes I ask myself can’t a couple get married and decide not to have kids? But the truth is most girls will never agree to it cos they know that they will lose if they get married without having kids cos they will be forced to love their husbands till old age. One reason while most women maltreat their husbands and love their kids is because they’re preparing for their old age by showing love to the children so that the children can take care of them in their old age even at the expense of their husbands happiness.

Tell that your babe that you want a marriage without kids, just you and her forever and I bet you she won’t agree to it

I remember in my long talk with JESHAL when I wrote about how most men lose frame in monogamous marriages. I talked about how, for most, leverage changes as the committed union progresses and how leverages are important; I made it known that leverages are important, whether you accept it or not. I also talked about how compromises start and gradually erode and weaken the frame of most men, that's if they had one to begin with. I won't explain much since people that are interested will read the long talk again. Unfortunately, I didn't finish the long talk; there are many things I didn't discuss. To avoid these traps, see if you can maintain the leverage situation in your favour in any given possible and future situation and don't compromise the standards you have set earlier like a defeated dog because you want peace to reign. Don't fall for bait and switch techniques. Many men are guilty of this because the easy way out seems better: they'll bow instead of risking chaos, abiding dispute or, even worse, separation because they don’t what their kids growing up in such environments and they never envisioned a broken home (it was never part of the plan), so they can't easily nurse the thought of dissolving the marriage.

The peace from compromise is temporary and not worth it: more śhit testing will come, more compromises will follow (it is gradual) and you will eventually lose your frame and alpha position. Don't underestimate how women play games and the repertoires in their play book; have foresight and prepare for possible future situation so you are not taken unawares. If not, you will be taken unawares.

I know some people will think they are tough, no-nonsense guys and they have everything under control and they will simply resolve everything by simply expressing disapproval in utmost solemnity. Lol. One thing about marriage is that all men can easily talk tough before marriage (especially when kids are involved).
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(PIC 1): He is too weak to raise hell in his house and I know what is happening here. Most men fall for this textbook trick. If you notice that the wife you are providing for is withholding sex from you and on inquiry she says the housework is too much, hence leaving her tired and stressed out at night and she suggests you help out in the chores to lessen the burden so that she can have energy and time for sex, just know that this is a deliberate manipulation. She knows what she is doing. If you fall for this, just know she has successfully weaponized sex to achieve her aim. Funny enough, the sex you are hoping to have by obliging her request will not come; even if it does, it will be mediocre and subpar. If care is not taken, she will say you need to do more house chores.

There are many ways sex is weaponized, but I will not explain. Also, if you notice your wife is dishing out sex as a reward for good behaviour, just know that you are being manipulated.

(PIC 2): This one has already fallen. He is already compromising for peace to reign. His firsthand experience has showed him not to underestimate how women play games and the many repertoires in their play book. Unfortunately, he is in a position I am warning people against. Don't think you have it figured out before marriage and you will just take no nonsense; do your due diligence, take the red pill and think ahead. Talk is cheap before marriage, many things will hit most men by surprise if care is not taken. If things keep hitting you by surprise, you will likely fall because you are not prepared.

You can’t make this sh* up

temi4fash:
Hello Bro,

Obviously your wife has a weakness with Money so you cant not trust her judgement on that subject.

For peace, you need to forget the 2M and assume you used for the school fees in the school of hard knocks.

Just begin to plan for your family on your own, maybe open an account or something and save up money for children school fees among other incase of eventualities.

Except she is overall a bad woman, then other actions can be considered but if its just the money issue bro, you just need to get strict with her and since her family are enabling bad behaviour you would need to just give her enough to get by while you make plans your family on your own.

Herbsworks:
I always get angry when I hear people telling others to forget about things like it didn’t matter. Nigeria is where it is today because of the forgiveness doctrine which is why people can misbehave and expect you to forgive and forget like it never happened. People should be made to pay for their sins.

I’m not advising the man to divorce his wife cos of that but he should teach her a lesson in his own way so that she won’t try such nonsense next time. Mind you 2M is not small money that he should just let go like that.

temi4fash:
If he does not forget the 2M, it would give him BP bro, He would need to leave knowing the 2M is gone and it would not be recovered. Looking for it would flogging a dead horse.

That is why i said he should assume he had paid school fees in the school of hard knocks and take valuable leassons he would use to engage her going forward. Marriage with 4 Kids is no joke. He would need compromise make he fit get peace of mind.

Unfortunately, there is no way he can get the money back without being willing to compromise the marriage, or the peace at least. The wife won't give back the money even if she has it; I doubt she even has the means to. The least he can do is cleverly use this opportunity to cut off the in-laws from his house: he can insist that his in-laws are barred from ever visiting or stepping into his compound until they and his wife give back the money at the same time. In addition, he can insist that he shall no longer send money to his in-laws forever even if they refund the money in tenfold because of what has happened. Finally, he can cleverly use this event to justify why he will never open any business for his wife and why he will rigorously monitor how his wife spends money, how things are used and how he will limit the monthly cash he gives his wife.

He might not have hopes of getting the money back, and the in-laws and his wife probably won't give it back, but his has cut their presence from his house and he no longer feels obligated to send money to them: it is better since they are conniving with his wife in her every bad behaviour and they are not worthy of any cash from him. They are bad energy. He can threaten to arrest them if them step into his house and easily walk the talk. When people ask him what happened and why he is acting like that, he can use the dubious collusion of his wife and in-laws (eg. the failure of his wife's parents to call her to order instead of conniving with her), his wife's attitude, and the 2M betrayal.

His wife will fight against this and try to rebel, trust women. She will try to use all the tricks in her play book and many possible loopholes, but it left for him to think ahead and anticipate. Personally, instead of going through this stress, divorce is better because if things get really heated she might harm him in reprisal; women hardly take their Ls in peace. Such a silly and inadequate wife is not one to keep around anyway.

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heartofcity12:
You can’t make this sh* up

Red pill 101.

Calibrator:
You will never know how much inner strength you have wasting away till you leave your comfort zone.



From my own personal experience and in my own opinion........ "Comfort Zone is the antithesis of the Redpill"

How can one leave his comfort zone?

Carchoice:
I want to share a very annoying tip to those that like arguing with women. Please note, I strongly advise you don’t even argue with a woman or try to prove a point, it’s a waste of time.

Here it is, if you found yourself trying to win an argument with a woman or in a banter, always start your argument with “Brosss, ...................

Meaning you start addressing her as “Brosss”


Like this “Brossss, what you are saying doesn’t make sense”

Stress the “ssss” very well to her hearing.

Try it and thank me later. It works magic. A woman will get REALLY offended when you address her as bros. Meaning you no longer consider her as a woman since She wants to argue with a man.

Initially it seem you get stupidity but eventually it's ability to speak with do much sense

Mentholated:
No female is capable of loving any man for who he is. They all love opportunistically.

Mothers abort millions of their babies annually. Have we asked ourselves why?

Kids are just assest for companionship and security.

If your parents were 100% sure you won't provide that, they will find a way to make you disappear.

ALL relationships in life are TRANSACTIONAL.

Humans simply do not want to deal with the fact that we live in a cold world.

i know that we live in a cold world.

ubunja:
as long as you sent a snapshot of your profile on that whatsapp I won't forget.

Bossman i want you to add me too

Peaceyw:
My guy posted this on his status, this girl hasn't contacted him a while now messaged him because her birthday is coming up. I just love his reply.

The funniest story i ever come across this year

Emotionss:
This is a true life story... (A Relatives)

But I will try and shorten it.

Mr ken (not real name) has always been on the road 80% of his life.

First, as a Truck conductor (15years to 22 years ) then later as a Truck driver.

Mr Ken got married at age 28 and eventually have 5 children (3 boys 2 girls)

Because of the nature of his job, Mr ken, is almost never around. Spend 90% of his adult life on the road working to provide for his family....

Unfailingly, Mr ken sends 75% of his weekly income to his lovely wife for house keep and other expenses like, school fees, house rents and so on. Because he trust his wife to handle things accordingly.

Unknown to Mr Ken, his sweet loving wife, was busy poisoning and manipulating the mind of his children against him by giving them the impression that their father is a useless and irresponsible man who spend all his money on prostitutes and concubines.

She also made them believe she is the ONE taking care of 99% of the family financial responsibilities... Unfortunately, her victimization crocodile tears is all the prove the children needed to believe her.

The children grow up resenting, disrespecting and in most cases out rightly hatting their father.

On the other hand, the kind of love and praises being showered on their mother was unprecedented, unmatched,unspeakable and unimaginable

Few years later, Mr Ken died a heart broken, lonely, defeated and confused man who took his last breath wondering what he did wrong to his children to make them resent him soooo much even on his dying bed.

(he was 59 years old)

Few months after his death, one of his sons came across an old file and notes of their late father.
Where he kept detailed Records, bank tellers, receipts of all the money and items he sents to his wife for the family upkeep up to 5 months before his death...

When the children confronted their mother about the records, instead of giving them a tangible explanations, she resulted to her usual victimization and crocodile tears. Telling anyone that care to listen that her children have been bewitched by her enemies.

Till this very day the children (most especially the men ) are living in regrets for what the did to their father in his lifetime and even in death

Those of you thinking your mother is different, I honestly pity you. If only you know what she is capable of doing.

There's a 99.9% possibilities/probabilities that your mother is showing you "this unconditional love" because she believes/hoping you will reciprocate the gesture when you grow up and start earning some money.

The TRUE reason mother's hate their daughter in-laws or their sons girlfriends is because they know that those women are about to do to you what they did to your father.

Make I stop here because,

Nairaland Alpha Males are honestly not ready for this discussion.

Alpha male can too drag and we sigma Male doesn't give a fvck about them.

Martinez39s:
The first defence against disrespect is self-respect.

Fact

They only want simps for their attention

Tonnyray:
By the time you master this art you will find cold-approaching ladies more addictive than sex itself. I kid you not.
Too many factors come into play, so much that this deserves a thread of its own.

Oya na. Open a thread. We dey your back.

ubunja:
remember read and apply.

TAKEN BOSS.