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Married on 55k salary. Some men are just too stupid to be honest

Prospertochu:
I am married with three kids 2 years and 3 months triplets , my salary is 55k i used to give my wife 20k mother 10k , 5k for rainy days and 20k for myself transportation and other expenses outside my house. My wife complained that the money was not enough I added 5k making it 25k monthly but she still demanding for more money and she has threatened to leave if I don't give her more , I had no money to give her my own mother was homeless staying in church and I couldn't stop giving her that 10k because she needed it . My wife used to fought me every single day and my uncle asked us to leave the family house hearse we were disturbing their peace and I was ready to let her go and I will be sending 25k for our triplets upkeep every month but for the sake of our kids we have settled down with 30k monthly leaving me with 15k , so far we have moved out of the family house, we are staying in a parlour and room house a brother from Canada gave us the place it is not permanent but it is better and we are very very grateful. Like I said earlier my mother was staying in church now we have a one bedroom house I have discussed with my wife for my mum to come and live with us and I will stop the 10k I was giving her and I will add it to her money making it 40k monthly she have agreed. Now that my mother is here with us she started again with the 40k is not enough to feed all of us note I dobt eat breakfast I eat lunch at work and in the evening at eat at home , she is only giving my mother foods in the evening while she and my kids eat 3 Square meal a day. I asked her why she is treating my mother so badly she said the economy is hard if she doesn't have she won't kill herself. I am sick and tired and if I have sorted things it was for the sake of our kids and now I am starting to regret. I am thinking from this month when I get my salary I will give her 30k and give my mother 10k to be cooking her own foods. It is my decision good?

Bros, all i have to tell you is that your mother and your kids must not die of hunger. These are your only blood relations in that family.
The other one called 'wife' is just a visitor.
Learn this and have peace, and, of course, live long! Thank you.

Lalasticlala Please put this On the Frontpage

Give her to me, she can be sucking my diick for 5k a month

Nigeria is hell fire.

Feel like slapping sense into that person you call wife. She is just a selfish woman that doesn't recognize good thing when she sees it.

Prospertochu:
I am married with three kids 2 years and 3 months triplets, my salary is 55k. I used to give my wife 20k, mother 10k, 5k for rainy days and 20k for myself transportation and other expenses outside my house.

My wife complained that the money was not enough I added 5k making it 25k monthly but she still demanding for more money and she has threatened to leave if I don't give her more.

I had no money to give her, my own mother was homeless staying in church and I couldn't stop giving her that 10k because she needed it. My wife used to fight me every single day and my uncle asked us to leave the family house as we were disturbing their peace and I was ready to let her go and I will be sending 25k for our triplets upkeep every month but for the sake of our kids we have settled down with 30k monthly leaving me with 15k.

So far, we have moved out of the family house, we are staying in a parlour and room house a brother from Canada gave us the place it is not permanent but it is better and we are very very grateful.

Like I said earlier my mother was staying in church, now we have a one bedroom house I have discussed with my wife for my mum to come and live with us and I will stop the 10k I was giving her and I will add it to her money making it 40k monthly, she has agreed.

Now that my mother is here with us, she started again with the 40k is not enough to feed all of us, note I don't eat breakfast, I eat lunch at work and in the evening I eat at home. She is only giving my mother food in the evening while she and my kids eat 3 Square meal a day.

I asked her why she is treating my mother so badly she said the economy is hard if she doesn't have she won't kill herself. I am sick and tired and if I have sorted things it was for the sake of our kids and now I am starting to regret. I am thinking from this month when I get my salary I will give her 30k and give my mother 10k to be cooking her own foods.

Is my decision good?

If you can raise 50k and invest in crypto,your life will change and improve

But my guy,if truth be told,virtually every woman you give such amount will complain in this modern day Nigeria,don't blame her,things are extremely super expensive in the market...At least you know the only or major problem she is complaining is about finance.

Omo guy na your fault ooO,me no go lie you.50k no go fit do bachelor in a month,talk more of family of 6 abi 7 Haba


Guy double your hustle,otherwise your wife go leave you run and another woman wey you go bring again to follow you suffer go leave you run also.

find a way to reach me let me add 5k for you for a couple of months

Omo. You people are getting married, rasing three kids plus extended family on a salary of N55k?



Tuale! I hail o! God is your strength.

Prospertochu:
I am married with three kids 2 years and 3 months triplets, my salary is 55k. I used to give my wife 20k, mother 10k, 5k for rainy days and 20k for myself transportation and other expenses outside my house.

My wife complained that the money was not enough I added 5k making it 25k monthly but she still demanding for more money and she has threatened to leave if I don't give her more.

I had no money to give her, my own mother was homeless staying in church and I couldn't stop giving her that 10k because she needed it. My wife used to fight me every single day and my uncle asked us to leave the family house as we were disturbing their peace and I was ready to let her go and I will be sending 25k for our triplets upkeep every month but for the sake of our kids we have settled down with 30k monthly leaving me with 15k.

So far, we have moved out of the family house, we are staying in a parlour and room house a brother from Canada gave us the place it is not permanent but it is better and we are very very grateful.

Like I said earlier my mother was staying in church, now we have a one bedroom house I have discussed with my wife for my mum to come and live with us and I will stop the 10k I was giving her and I will add it to her money making it 40k monthly, she has agreed.

Now that my mother is here with us, she started again with the 40k is not enough to feed all of us, note I don't eat breakfast, I eat lunch at work and in the evening I eat at home. She is only giving my mother food in the evening while she and my kids eat 3 Square meal a day.

I asked her why she is treating my mother so badly she said the economy is hard if she doesn't have she won't kill herself. I am sick and tired and if I have sorted things it was for the sake of our kids and now I am starting to regret. I am thinking from this month when I get my salary I will give her 30k and give my mother 10k to be cooking her own foods.

Is my decision good?

You are not a wise man!
Is your wife not working ?
You need your mum that ever now. Even if your mum is staying with you, she would still need money.

Prospertochu:
I am married with three kids 2 years and 3 months triplets, my salary is 55k. I used to give my wife 20k, mother 10k, 5k for rainy days and 20k for myself transportation and other expenses outside my house.

My wife complained that the money was not enough I added 5k making it 25k monthly but she still demanding for more money and she has threatened to leave if I don't give her more.

I had no money to give her, my own mother was homeless staying in church and I couldn't stop giving her that 10k because she needed it. My wife used to fight me every single day and my uncle asked us to leave the family house as we were disturbing their peace and I was ready to let her go and I will be sending 25k for our triplets upkeep every month but for the sake of our kids we have settled down with 30k monthly leaving me with 15k.

So far, we have moved out of the family house, we are staying in a parlour and room house a brother from Canada gave us the place it is not permanent but it is better and we are very very grateful.

Like I said earlier my mother was staying in church, now we have a one bedroom house I have discussed with my wife for my mum to come and live with us and I will stop the 10k I was giving her and I will add it to her money making it 40k monthly, she has agreed.

Now that my mother is here with us, she started again with the 40k is not enough to feed all of us, note I don't eat breakfast, I eat lunch at work and in the evening I eat at home. She is only giving my mother food in the evening while she and my kids eat 3 Square meal a day.

I asked her why she is treating my mother so badly she said the economy is hard if she doesn't have she won't kill herself. I am sick and tired and if I have sorted things it was for the sake of our kids and now I am starting to regret. I am thinking from this month when I get my salary I will give her 30k and give my mother 10k to be cooking her own foods.

Is my decision good?

I need Answers to these simple Questions!
Please, what was ur wife doing b4 u married her?
And what does she do now?

When i was young i was crying i had no shoe until i saw someone without leg, When i was young i saw someone nagging he has a bad wife, until i saw someone whose wife is dead, i saw someone crying he has no cloth ,until i saw someone wearing rags, i saw someone crying about no money to pay house rent until i saw someone without a home sleeping under d bridges..let us thank God when there is life it can only get better.

So we have 3 adults......One adult is working hard to make money...

The others adults are waiting for him to drop money while complaining that what he gave is not enough but they themselves are not raising a single dine to help...hmmmmmmmm

Triplets? Wow congrats!! But that money might not be enough oo, baby food is damn expensive,,
Your mom should look after the children while your wife look for something doing to support you

my advice
The money is not enough- Do not divorce and instead look for better work with better pay. Your wife can look for an income but it is not easy for woman to work fulltime and she is taking care of 2 or 3 kids. For those who are calling your wife a parasite, try taking care of 4 kids and working full time , then u go know that life begins for a woman when a woman becomes a mother. Since you have triplets, [b]please I beg you please do not have any kids until you are financially stable and your wife is mentally and physically ready , if you have more kids then you are on your own. [/b]Try birth control next time so you and wife can stop having kids or use condoms or use the pullout methods

Honestly the money isn't enough... She's even trying feeding triplets with that amount! I'll suggest you beg her to endure with you for 8months. Then try and be keeping 5k as savings then open a very small business for her. Or use the 10k for your mom and open a very small business for your mother. Your mother can be selling groundnuts or palm oil or garri if you use that 10k to open the business for her. Then open another small business for your wife. After few months, this load will reduce on you.

Wahala

odinson1:
I'm glad you acknowledge your mistake. There are only 3 ways with which you can get out of this Mess. If you continue like this,you will die poor and miserable. This is not a curse,but I'm just speaking Reality here.

1. Divorce!

2. Look for higher paying jobs if you can.

3. She should get a job herself and contribute financially,while you both take turns in looking after the kids.

4. If 2 and 3 doesn't work,then 1 is your only option. Afterall,you didn't marry her of your own freewill.

In this situation, divorce is never an option.

aanuoluwami14:
With the current situation in Nigeria, even with management, #50k can't be enough for all of you including your mom. Your wife might be so fed up with the triplets consumption, a woman who will take good care of triplets should be very well fed, it's not a easy task at all. Endure with her, let your mother endure too, pray for more income, there will no more fight again.

If this is all you got to offer, you should apologies to the chief dullard for all the I'll words you have doled out against him.
So, you know the enconomy is hash and you can't suggest that the woman should look for the least side hustle?

This is not the period to be a house wife ..

She's got nothing to bring to the table yet she's frustrating the man. That's not fair
The man should let the wife taste the life on the other side by going back her parents.
How can she deliberately frustrating her husband?

Smart men don't marry

First u made a mistake bringing your mum in even as she agreed because u are not around she will be starving your mum.

when I hear that triplets I wan run Sha.

Sure we all know that 40k is not enough but she shouldn't be giving u body heating bros na wahala u dey oo...

But wetin man go do na

juman:
Nigeria is hell fire.

Nigeria brings out the devil in humans.
Like one philosopher onced said;
In every human lies a devil.
It takes the appropriate situation to remove food from its mouth & unleash it.

Whenever I visit Nigeria and I'm invited or asked to chair a wedding, I first enquire what the Bride does. IF she does nothing, I will gladly decline & await the next prospective couples.

Dshocker:
If you can raise 50k and invest in crypto,your life will change and improve

am interested but how?

Prospertochu:
I am married with three kids 2 years and 3 months triplets, my salary is 55k. I used to give my wife 20k, mother 10k, 5k for rainy days and 20k for myself transportation and other expenses outside my house.

My wife complained that the money was not enough I added 5k making it 25k monthly but she still demanding for more money and she has threatened to leave if I don't give her more.

I had no money to give her, my own mother was homeless staying in church and I couldn't stop giving her that 10k because she needed it. My wife used to fight me every single day and my uncle asked us to leave the family house as we were disturbing their peace and I was ready to let her go and I will be sending 25k for our triplets upkeep every month but for the sake of our kids we have settled down with 30k monthly leaving me with 15k.

So far, we have moved out of the family house, we are staying in a parlour and room house a brother from Canada gave us the place it is not permanent but it is better and we are very very grateful.

Like I said earlier my mother was staying in church, now we have a one bedroom house I have discussed with my wife for my mum to come and live with us and I will stop the 10k I was giving her and I will add it to her money making it 40k monthly, she has agreed.

Now that my mother is here with us, she started again with the 40k is not enough to feed all of us, note I don't eat breakfast, I eat lunch at work and in the evening I eat at home. She is only giving my mother food in the evening while she and my kids eat 3 Square meal a day.

I asked her why she is treating my mother so badly she said the economy is hard if she doesn't have she won't kill herself. I am sick and tired and if I have sorted things it was for the sake of our kids and now I am starting to regret. I am thinking from this month when I get my salary I will give her 30k and give my mother 10k to be cooking her own foods.

Is my decision good?

I[b] know things are tough and i know you need to house your mum in a kore decent accomodation,but that Single move complicated the whole thing, don't even think of giving your mother her own allowance to allow her cook her meal or else you are starting World war 3 .
Just work extra hard to be able to rent your mum a room and move her out.
i wish you well[/b]

Prospertochu:
I am married with three kids 2 years and 3 months triplets, my salary is 55k. I used to give my wife 20k, mother 10k, 5k for rainy days and 20k for myself transportation and other expenses outside my house.

My wife complained that the money was not enough I added 5k making it 25k monthly but she still demanding for more money and she has threatened to leave if I don't give her more.

I had no money to give her, my own mother was homeless staying in church and I couldn't stop giving her that 10k because she needed it. My wife used to fight me every single day and my uncle asked us to leave the family house as we were disturbing their peace and I was ready to let her go and I will be sending 25k for our triplets upkeep every month but for the sake of our kids we have settled down with 30k monthly leaving me with 15k.

So far, we have moved out of the family house, we are staying in a parlour and room house a brother from Canada gave us the place it is not permanent but it is better and we are very very grateful.

Like I said earlier my mother was staying in church, now we have a one bedroom house I have discussed with my wife for my mum to come and live with us and I will stop the 10k I was giving her and I will add it to her money making it 40k monthly, she has agreed.

Now that my mother is here with us, she started again with the 40k is not enough to feed all of us, note I don't eat breakfast, I eat lunch at work and in the evening I eat at home. She is only giving my mother food in the evening while she and my kids eat 3 Square meal a day.

I asked her why she is treating my mother so badly she said the economy is hard if she doesn't have she won't kill herself. I am sick and tired and if I have sorted things it was for the sake of our kids and now I am starting to regret. I am thinking from this month when I get my salary I will give her 30k and give my mother 10k to be cooking her own foods.

Is my decision good?

I feel your pain.

https://gist.am/question/i-am-married-with-three-kids-2-years-and-3-months-old-triplets-but-i-am-tired-of-my-wife

Do you have siblings or cousins? Ask for support. Ask your mom to start a mimi trade if possible. For now support your wife and kids. Life e no easy. Life na jeje

Judybash93:
Smart men don't marry

They marry with their BRAINS intact.
My Uncle ( a widower) of 70yrs who has lived all his life in the United States told me he was interested in a wife.
I got him a Jobless Slay Queen, thinking my choice would impress him. Rather he rebuked me and instilled wisdom into me.
Immediately I repented and followed his footpath.
Today, it worked for me.
Guys wake up.

Bola146:
Haba!!!! Do you have anyone close to you who gave birth to triplets? The stress is here! She would be free unless they start going to school or daycare

Why do u women support the atrocities ur fellow women commit. Why r u defending a witch. Our mothers that gave birth to ten kids nko and was still managing the little our fathers gave them nko. If am the op, I will send that useless fool out of my house. Rubbish. Will she treat her own mother the same way she is treating her mother in law.

Guy, the only problem your wife has is the way she is presenting the problem to you. That amount is actually not enough.
What you need to do is to sit your wife down and talk things out with her gently in a way she will understand you. And in your own case, try to look for work that will pay you more. What you are currently earning is not enough to take care of a family of your size

Prospertochu:
I am married with three kids 2 years and 3 months triplets, my salary is 55k. I used to give my wife 20k, mother 10k, 5k for rainy days and 20k for myself transportation and other expenses outside my house.

My wife complained that the money was not enough I added 5k making it 25k monthly but she still demanding for more money and she has threatened to leave if I don't give her more.

I had no money to give her, my own mother was homeless staying in church and I couldn't stop giving her that 10k because she needed it. My wife used to fight me every single day and my uncle asked us to leave the family house as we were disturbing their peace and I was ready to let her go and I will be sending 25k for our triplets upkeep every month but for the sake of our kids we have settled down with 30k monthly leaving me with 15k.

So far, we have moved out of the family house, we are staying in a parlour and room house a brother from Canada gave us the place it is not permanent but it is better and we are very very grateful.

Like I said earlier my mother was staying in church, now we have a one bedroom house I have discussed with my wife for my mum to come and live with us and I will stop the 10k I was giving her and I will add it to her money making it 40k monthly, she has agreed.

Now that my mother is here with us, she started again with the 40k is not enough to feed all of us, note I don't eat breakfast, I eat lunch at work and in the evening I eat at home. She is only giving my mother food in the evening while she and my kids eat 3 Square meal a day.

I asked her why she is treating my mother so badly she said the economy is hard if she doesn't have she won't kill herself. I am sick and tired and if I have sorted things it was for the sake of our kids and now I am starting to regret. I am thinking from this month when I get my salary I will give her 30k and give my mother 10k to be cooking her own foods.

Is my decision good?

40k is grossly inadequate. You can try use it yourself to feed the family and you will understand that it isn't enough at all.

What you must do now is to take advantage of your mum's stay with you to let her look after your kids while your wife also start bringing something to the table as income no matter how small. Let her do business not salary work. Quote me if you need business she can do that requires zero capital.

MALIGNANTGuest:
They marry with their BRAINS intact.
My Uncle ( a widower) of 70yrs who has lived all his life in the United States told me he was interested in a wife.
I got him a very beautiful Jobless Lady.
He rebuked me & instilled wisdom into me.
Immediately I repented and followed his footpath.
Today, it worked for me.
Guys wake up.

Again! Smart men don't marry!
Your uncle knows what's up because he lives in a gynocentric society that'll suck everything out of him if the jobless woman decides to leave after getting married to her.

MALIGNANTGuest:
They marry with their BRAINS intact.
My Uncle ( a widower) of 70yrs who has lived all his life in the United States told me he was interested in a wife.
I got him a Jobless Slay Queen, thinking it would impress him. Rather he rebuked me and instilled wisdom into me.
Immediately I repented and followed his footpath.
Today, it worked for me.
Guys wake up.

Again! Smart men don't marry!
Your uncle knows what's up because he lives in a gynocentric society that'll suck everything out of him if the jobless woman decides to leave after getting married to her.

Be financially buoyant before you marry. You've made that mistake. Go find a way to make enough money, it will solve your problem.