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HRSweetness:
You can't blame him. He needs a mindset revamp.

Check his other topi s, he's been earning this 55k for 2 years and counting. OMG! That's so sad.

I'd really like to help him. I just hope this is a genuine case.

Meanwhile, I know you don't really remember me with this new moniker.

Oh really? That's a sad one. 55k for a family of 5-6 is as good as nothing. Moreover, it's no longer feasible for a family man to depend on a single source of income.

He could pick up a ride-hailing job on weekends (Saturdays especially). There are other jobs he could do at the comfort of his home but that would depend on his education/skill. I'll check the other threads.

Let's talk

Bola146:
Mr ritualists, face front with your were and wahala

I m no male ooh but female like you if really you re

Most women leverage over men all in the name of marriage... Their body is only asset they have (fixed and financial asset); their future ambition is just to end in a man's house.

Just a few of them are of exception... But love no dey allow most men see those ones; threat most men have for their manhood make them feel intimidated...they finally resort to chewing gum girls, whose only vision is to end up in a man's house...na you go suffer am finally!

She is a help meet, not a breed mate... Increase and multiply came after 'she will be a help meet suited for your needs'.
Many ladies no dey help for 9ja na burnout them be!!!.

My brother...endure! Na your cross, if you no fit carry am, give am Jesus Christ, em go help you carry am.

Prospertochu:
We are 2 in number me and my younger sis she is a house help, the family house Is my father's family house my father is late and his siblings kicked her out. That is all I have for now and I won't go and steal

Suffering too much shaa..

Acidosis:
Oh really? That's a sad one. 55k for a family of 5-6 is as good as nothing. Moreover, it's no longer feasible for a family man to depend on a single source of income.

He could pick up a ride-hailing job on weekends (Saturdays especially). There are other jobs he could do at the comfort of his home but that would depend on his education/skill. I'll check the other threads.

Let's talk

Yeah. He has to be willing to increase his income.

Are you also Acid/Acidity?

DrFunmisticGlow:
As of last year,

A mother told me that she spends roughly 30k to feed her baby with formula bec she's positive for HIV. ONE CHILD O!!
We didn't add the cost of other things to maintain a baby

Op's wife has 3 kids, triplets. She obviously cannot afford formula. Breast milk is free. Those kids will most likely be eating only breast milk, and pap. It is not easy for 3 mouths to be sucking and biting your breasts dry. If the wife doesn't eat well, the children can't feed. Two years is enough to breastfeed a child.

There's also a high chance these kids are malnourished. Of care is not taken, one of them might die.
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What can 30k get you in the market today?
How much is kerosene for stove?

Op's should get a side hustle.

The wife should wean her children and accept the teaching job. ½ bread is better than puff puff.

Op's mum should look after the kids or pack out. She can't be an extra mouth to feed without playing a role to support the family.

I love your suggestion as per the way out of their financial constraints. But i ve an issue on baby formula. There are alternatives that i know. So she shld go look for the alternatives. It must be be the usual expensive baby formula.. lets learn to oive within our means pls

HRSweetness:
Yeah. He has to be willing to increase his income.

Are you also Acid/Acidity?

Acid? I don't think I've seen that moniker around here.

Prospertochu:
No problem bro we don't want anymore kids 3 is already enough if she ever fall pregnant I will hang myself, my plan was to start up a business for her but since there is no capital I have asked her to go and work even if it's teaching job she said the salary is poor and she want her own business. I don't know why she is still want me to suffer when she is not handicapped and can also work while my mum watch the kids

PLS DONT GIVE HER MONEY FOR BUSINESS. SHE AHLD GO GET A JOB, SAVE AND THEN START UP THE BUSINESS. DONT EVER TRY GIHING HER MONEY FOR BUSINESS. THANK GOD YOU NO KUKU GET SEF. NO TRY ANYTHING LIKE BORROWING COS THATS WHAT SHE LL TELL YIU TO DO

Prospertochu:
She doesn't want to work because the salary is too poor she want to have her own business

Dont be deceived by her nonsense talk. She shld go work or leave your house in peace

Realestbae:
Stupid fool ,u r putting all d blame on a young mother of triplet when Ur lazy mother can not fend for herself, imagine Ur sister is a household is ur mother crippled or just lazy she is supposed to be supplying U with food stuff n by adding to Ur problem or is it how her own mother is depending on her. Oga Ur mother did n't plan her life well she is more of a leech n a bloodsucker let her go and hustle to take care of Ur sister who is a household. Ur main focus should be d welfare of Ur kids feed them well

This can only come from a female cos they cld be so insensitive and unrealistic.. just listen to yourself.. leech indeed

jesmond3945:
who would take care and breastfeed the triplets? Would you tell your wife to leave your 3 month old babies to go and work?

Pls read again the babies re all 2 yrs plus .. breast feeding over. She ahld go get a job while ops mum look after the kids

aanuoluwami14:
With the current situation in Nigeria, even with management, #50k can't be enough for all of you including your mom. Your wife might be so fed up with the triplets consumption, a woman who will take good care of triplets should be very well fed, it's not a easy task at all. Endure with her, let your mother endure too, pray for more income, there will no more fight again.

Oil dey your head. To manage 40k for the entire family in the city no be small thing o. But las las e go better for them if dem no give up.

For real


O ro yi so si ni obu iyo si


I can't blame you guys dating/marrying a sensele$$ woman to build a home

Na only your prick u dey think, nothing else

U better used 10k to start little provision business for your mum, Yoruba called it Ate

For your wife, u need to let her go in other to know whatsupping

Ko ti mon unkan man

L@zy woman

So only the op should be blamed for what they both enjoyed?
When she was also spreading leg, she didn't know what becomes of it

Don't be Hypocritical.

When it comes to raising kids, you all sees it as ONLY the priority of a man but when the kids are grown and independent you want them to see their mum as the first priority.

Why this unpitiable act towards men. Why?

Prospertochu don't kill yourself, you've tried. Her family Should also come to her rescue, if she becomes wealthy today, they'll lay claim to her wealth.
More importantly please, squeeze out how your mum will be eating 3 square meal a day.

Bola146:
That is why you shouldn't start what you can't continue!!!!!! See the beginning of the wahala the lady should know better by now when you were displaying her legs, it was with fullest enjoyment you should try and continue that way sir please. The triplets need your care now please, it's a matter of time. How I wish I can be sending a token to the kids monthly but God sees my heart.

aanuoluwami14:
With the current situation in Nigeria, even with management, #50k can't be enough for all of you including your mom. Your wife might be so fed up with the triplets consumption, a woman who will take good care of triplets should be very well fed, it's not a easy task at all. Endure with her, let your mother endure too, pray for more income, there will no more fight again.

That is pure wickedness. His mum should endure one meal a day? You are pathetic.
OP, your wife is terrible. Where do some of you meet women like this?

Your wife should get a job or start up a business no matter how little so she can assist you. This type of woman will send you to an early grave of this continues.

Blessedassuranc:
This can only come from a female cos they cld be so insensitive and unrealistic.. just listen to yourself.. leech indeed

Lmao � very insensitive somebody. Smh.

Rubbiish:
@bold no one is asking u to go & steal, but u people should also try to help yourselves & the society! U should have stopped at the first kid for now till u increase your earning capacity considering the fact that your wife is not working! 55k is too small to run a family like yours, there is sure going to be problem. That is what is happening now. I wouldn't blame your wife because the money is small. But after the first child, u people should have made financial plans before adding more kids. If i may ask, is your child school fees, clothings, health care & other things inside the 40k u are giving to your wife or it is just for feeding?

Lol. OP said triplets.
3 kinds came at once bro, not his fault,

medriano:
Lmao � very insensitive somebody. Smh.

I blame some men that accept trash from some insensitive and callous women. If naa me, chaii!!! I pity such person if i were a man. One way ticket out of my house. She ll go report herself to her family members when she is out of my house. I wont even wait to discuss anything with her for the fact she has such mind to be that callous. Naa who wan die young?

Bola146:
Haaaaaaaaa I know how frustrated your wife would be while breastfeeding those 3 kids at once sir, it's not easy, she will be feeling hungry at anytime, feeding the triplets alone excluding you, your wife and mother, 50k can't be enough sir. Things are too costly in the market. You and your mother need to be very patience with her please. I pray that God send helpers to you and your family. You might apply for better jobs with better pay if you see. Please don't be too harsh to your wife and kids. It's because of this Buhari regime, it will soon be over. Keep praying and have faith that things will be alright one day.






That is why I hate married people bringing out their dirties outside especially on nairaland, those irresponsible married men who can't give their wives and children #20k per month would come out here to type rubbish leading you astray. Please ignore all those people saying too harsh words at you. Cry unto God your helper for better job to take good care of yourself and your family, don't let their words turn to depression to your life.

Look, she's not breastfeeding anyone. According to this man, he said they have 3 kids that's 2 years and 3 months old triplets. Who breastfeeds a 2 yrs old baby? Again, the wife is not good as you people are trying to justify her actions. She's unreasonable and inconsiderate. A good woman looks at the income and manages accordingly. Would she feed her own mother once a day while she ate thrice?

Triplets? Just be calming her down oga, everything is damn expensive. Is your mum over 60? I mean she should be working if she's below 60, so she can get a place of her own. Very soon you'll get a better job, rent a bigger house and bring your mum and sister to live with you

Blessedassuranc:
I blame some men that accept trash from some insensitive and callous women. If naa me, chaii!!! I pity such person if i were a man. One way ticket out of my house. She ll go report herself to her family members when she is out of my house. I wont even wait to discuss anything with her for the fact she has such mind to be that callous. Naa who wan die young?

na people like you go quiet pass, until you don get that kain experience, no dey tell people wetin dem go do o.

adedayoa2:
na people like you go quiet pass, until you don get that kain experience, no dey tell people wetin dem go do o.

Lol... you understand when dem tell you say somebody dey naturally high? In the first place ,wetin go make me dey for such situation sef? But i trust and know myself . That one naa sure banka

adedayoa2:
Triplets? Just be calming her down oga, everything is damn expensive. Is your mum over 60? I mean she should be working if she's below 60, so she can get a place of her own. Very soon you'll get a better job, rent a bigger house and bring your mum and sister to live with you

And wetin happen to his wife working while his mum takes care of the kids?

Prospertochu:
I am married with three kids 2 years and 3 months triplets, my salary is 55k. I used to give my wife 20k, mother 10k, 5k for rainy days and 20k for myself transportation and other expenses outside my house.

My wife complained that the money was not enough I added 5k making it 25k monthly but she still demanding for more money and she has threatened to leave if I don't give her more.

I had no money to give her, my own mother was homeless staying in church and I couldn't stop giving her that 10k because she needed it. My wife used to fight me every single day and my uncle asked us to leave the family house as we were disturbing their peace and I was ready to let her go and I will be sending 25k for our triplets upkeep every month but for the sake of our kids we have settled down with 30k monthly leaving me with 15k.

So far, we have moved out of the family house, we are staying in a parlour and room house a brother from Canada gave us the place it is not permanent but it is better and we are very very grateful.

Like I said earlier my mother was staying in church, now we have a one bedroom house I have discussed with my wife for my mum to come and live with us and I will stop the 10k I was giving her and I will add it to her money making it 40k monthly, she has agreed.

Now that my mother is here with us, she started again with the 40k is not enough to feed all of us, note I don't eat breakfast, I eat lunch at work and in the evening I eat at home. She is only giving my mother food in the evening while she and my kids eat 3 Square meal a day.

I asked her why she is treating my mother so badly she said the economy is hard if she doesn't have she won't kill herself. I am sick and tired and if I have sorted things it was for the sake of our kids and now I am starting to regret. I am thinking from this month when I get my salary I will give her 30k and give my mother 10k to be cooking her own foods.

Is my decision good?

This is my advice: Get a good table, let your wife use all the 40k and buy all the foods you guys will eat in a month. Let Garri and sachet tomatoes be more plus some eggs and pure water. Let her display everything on a table outside your home. Foodstuffs business don start already be that.

Let her display them daily while you guys eat from there. With time, people will start buying and she will be getting small small change to buy more foods before the babies get older.

Your wife cannot be idle on top of 55k. Even 200k can't feed you all in a month.

Mama can start work as a cleaner or baby sitter in people's home immediately.

Blessedassuranc:
And wetin happen to his wife working while his mum takes care of the kids?

wow, that's also a very good suggestion, ends must meet.

Prospertochu:
I am married with three kids 2 years and 3 months triplets, my salary is 55k. I used to give my wife 20k, mother 10k, 5k for rainy days and 20k for myself transportation and other expenses outside my house.

My wife complained that the money was not enough I added 5k making it 25k monthly but she still demanding for more money and she has threatened to leave if I don't give her more.

I had no money to give her, my own mother was homeless staying in church and I couldn't stop giving her that 10k because she needed it. My wife used to fight me every single day and my uncle asked us to leave the family house as we were disturbing their peace and I was ready to let her go and I will be sending 25k for our triplets upkeep every month but for the sake of our kids we have settled down with 30k monthly leaving me with 15k.

So far, we have moved out of the family house, we are staying in a parlour and room house a brother from Canada gave us the place it is not permanent but it is better and we are very very grateful.

Like I said earlier my mother was staying in church, now we have a one bedroom house I have discussed with my wife for my mum to come and live with us and I will stop the 10k I was giving her and I will add it to her money making it 40k monthly, she has agreed.

Now that my mother is here with us, she started again with the 40k is not enough to feed all of us, note I don't eat breakfast, I eat lunch at work and in the evening I eat at home. She is only giving my mother food in the evening while she and my kids eat 3 Square meal a day.

I asked her why she is treating my mother so badly she said the economy is hard if she doesn't have she won't kill herself. I am sick and tired and if I have sorted things it was for the sake of our kids and now I am starting to regret. I am thinking from this month when I get my salary I will give her 30k and give my mother 10k to be cooking her own foods.

Is my decision good?

The major issue is 30k for 4 people is very small.

1. Give your mum 10k
2. Give your wife 30k
3. Get a 2nd job or source of income

Those triplets will only grow older, hungrier, bigger need more money ..... pls buckle up and figure out how to make more money

Fiver is a great place to start.

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odinson1:
@First bolded is why it is a Foolish concept to even consider asking a woman for Relationship Advice. They don't Think with their brains. If he continues to "Endure with her", he will Die young because the stress is too much! She's draining away his energy,pushing him pass his breaking point. If this madness doesn't stop,he will Die a miserable old or in thise case,young man.

@2nd bolded, If prayers worked, there would be nothing like World Hunger

Your sisters and mom are women.

Do they not think with their brains? Did you ask me or all of us? Stop making general statements about people when there are billions of us, it’s shows a lack of common sense.

Prospertochu:
I am married with three kids 2 years and 3 months triplets, my salary is 55k. I used to give my wife 20k, mother 10k, 5k for rainy days and 20k for myself transportation and other expenses outside my house.

My wife complained that the money was not enough I added 5k making it 25k monthly but she still demanding for more money and she has threatened to leave if I don't give her more.

I had no money to give her, my own mother was homeless staying in church and I couldn't stop giving her that 10k because she needed it. My wife used to fight me every single day and my uncle asked us to leave the family house as we were disturbing their peace and I was ready to let her go and I will be sending 25k for our triplets upkeep every month but for the sake of our kids we have settled down with 30k monthly leaving me with 15k.

So far, we have moved out of the family house, we are staying in a parlour and room house a brother from Canada gave us the place it is not permanent but it is better and we are very very grateful.

Like I said earlier my mother was staying in church, now we have a one bedroom house I have discussed with my wife for my mum to come and live with us and I will stop the 10k I was giving her and I will add it to her money making it 40k monthly, she has agreed.

Now that my mother is here with us, she started again with the 40k is not enough to feed all of us, note I don't eat breakfast, I eat lunch at work and in the evening I eat at home. She is only giving my mother food in the evening while she and my kids eat 3 Square meal a day.

I asked her why she is treating my mother so badly she said the economy is hard if she doesn't have she won't kill herself. I am sick and tired and if I have sorted things it was for the sake of our kids and now I am starting to regret. I am thinking from this month when I get my salary I will give her 30k and give my mother 10k to be cooking her own foods.

Is my decision good?

You should have never married.

Some people dey try sha, forking out 50k.in this hellfire economy to maintain family, na wa o. I need to learn how to be prudent henceforth.

Prospertochu:
I am married with three kids 2 years and 3 months triplets, my salary is 55k. I used to give my wife 20k, mother 10k, 5k for rainy days and 20k for myself transportation and other expenses outside my house.

My wife complained that the money was not enough I added 5k making it 25k monthly but she still demanding for more money and she has threatened to leave if I don't give her more.

I had no money to give her, my own mother was homeless staying in church and I couldn't stop giving her that 10k because she needed it. My wife used to fight me every single day and my uncle asked us to leave the family house as we were disturbing their peace and I was ready to let her go and I will be sending 25k for our triplets upkeep every month but for the sake of our kids we have settled down with 30k monthly leaving me with 15k.

So far, we have moved out of the family house, we are staying in a parlour and room house a brother from Canada gave us the place it is not permanent but it is better and we are very very grateful.

Like I said earlier my mother was staying in church, now we have a one bedroom house I have discussed with my wife for my mum to come and live with us and I will stop the 10k I was giving her and I will add it to her money making it 40k monthly, she has agreed.

Now that my mother is here with us, she started again with the 40k is not enough to feed all of us, note I don't eat breakfast, I eat lunch at work and in the evening I eat at home. She is only giving my mother food in the evening while she and my kids eat 3 Square meal a day.

I asked her why she is treating my mother so badly she said the economy is hard if she doesn't have she won't kill herself. I am sick and tired and if I have sorted things it was for the sake of our kids and now I am starting to regret. I am thinking from this month when I get my salary I will give her 30k and give my mother 10k to be cooking her own foods.

Is my decision good?

Your wife is your enemy! At this rate she will be your end. Sorry bro. You need to pray to God to help your marriage. In your condition only God can help you. If you are a Christian you need to start praying and asking God for mercy.