Prospertochu:
I am married with three kids 2 years and 3 months triplets, my salary is 55k. I used to give my wife 20k, mother 10k, 5k for rainy days and 20k for myself transportation and other expenses outside my house.

My wife complained that the money was not enough I added 5k making it 25k monthly but she still demanding for more money and she has threatened to leave if I don't give her more.Calm down! Relax, after some months yell her to go and work so that she will know how to manage money .However the money is quite small in this Buhari regime

I had no money to give her, my own mother was homeless staying in church and I couldn't stop giving her that 10k because she needed it. My wife used to fight me every single day and my uncle asked us to leave the family house as we were disturbing their peace and I was ready to let her go and I will be sending 25k for our triplets upkeep every month but for the sake of our kids we have settled down with 30k monthly leaving me with 15k.

So far, we have moved out of the family house, we are staying in a parlour and room house a brother from Canada gave us the place it is not permanent but it is better and we are very very grateful.

Like I said earlier my mother was staying in church, now we have a one bedroom house I have discussed with my wife for my mum to come and live with us and I will stop the 10k I was giving her and I will add it to her money making it 40k monthly, she has agreed.

Now that my mother is here with us, she started again with the 40k is not enough to feed all of us, note I don't eat breakfast, I eat lunch at work and in the evening I eat at home. She is only giving my mother food in the evening while she and my kids eat 3 Square meal a day.

I asked her why she is treating my mother so badly she said the economy is hard if she doesn't have she won't kill herself. I am sick and tired and if I have sorted things it was for the sake of our kids and now I am starting to regret. I am thinking from this month when I get my salary I will give her 30k and give my mother 10k to be cooking her own foods.

Is my decision good?

Prospertochu:


I married her against my wish her mother forced me to marry her because of the pregnancy. I blamed myself sha maybe if I have had use condoms I wouldn't have been in this miserable marriage.

Lucas4903:


You are simply frustrated. Read what you wrote again and ask yourself "How my life come dey messed up like this"

DrFunmisticGlow:
read the guy's previous posts on his monicker

Bola146:



Haaaaaaaaa [s] I know how frustrated your wife would be while breastfeeding those 3 kids at once sir, it's not easy, she will be feeling hungry at anytime, feeding the triplets alone excluding you, [/s] your wife and mother, 50k can't be enough sir. Things are too costly in the market. You and your mother need to be very patience with her please. I pray that God send helpers to you and your family. You might apply for better jobs with better pay if you see. Please don't be too harsh to your wife and kids. It's because of this Buhari regime, it will soon be over. Keep praying and have faith that things will be alright one day.






That is why I hate married people bringing out their dirties outside especially on nairaland, those irresponsible married men who can't give their wives and children #20k per month would come out here to type rubbish leading you astray. Please ignore all those people saying too harsh words at you. Cry unto God your helper for better job to take good care of yourself and your family, don't let their words turn to depression to your life.

Rubbiish:

@bold no one is asking u to go & steal, but u people should also try to help yourselves & the society! U should have stopped at the first kid for now till u increase your earning capacity considering the fact that your wife is not working! 55k is too small to run a family like yours, there is sure going to be problem. That is what is happening now. I wouldn't blame your wife because the money is small. But after the first child, u people should have made financial plans before adding more kids. If i may ask, is your child school fees, clothings, health care & other things inside the 40k u are giving to your wife or it is just for feeding?

Solofresh2:
What do you mean by a mother that is breastfeeding?
If she is working and receiving a monthly pay, will she stop going to work because she is breastfeeding?
Why can't she work too if the money is not enough for her?
Is she handicapped

aanuoluwami14:
With the current situation in Nigeria, even with management, #50k can't be enough for all of you including your mom. Your wife might be so fed up with the triplets consumption, a woman who will take good care of triplets should be very well fed, it's not a easy task at all. Endure with her, let your mother endure too, pray for more income, there will no more fight again.

DrFunmisticGlow:
Breastfeeding is till 2 years of age. 3 is too much in today's economy.

Acidosis:
How old is your mother? Why can't your mother work? Is she suffering from one ailment?

Look, the only way is for your mother to get a job. The alternative is for her to take care of your triplets so you and your wife can fully concentrate on your job/business.

Don't ever suggest to your wife to get a job at this stage without anyone to help with the kids. Only a ma.d man will tell a young mother of triplets to get a job. Attending to those toddlers daily is harder than driving a truck from Lagos to Kano every day. So kill that idea and don't ever bring it up.

aanuoluwami14:
With the current situation in Nigeria, even with management, #50k can't be enough for all of you including your mom. Your wife might be so fed up with the triplets consumption, a woman who will take good care of triplets should be very well fed, it's not a easy task at all. Endure with her, let your mother endure too, pray for more income, there will no more fight again.

Realestbae:
Stupid fool ,u r putting all d blame on a young mother of triplet when Ur lazy mother can not fend for herself, imagine Ur sister is a household is ur mother crippled or just lazy she is supposed to be supplying U with food stuff n by adding to Ur problem or is it how her own mother is depending on her. Oga Ur mother did n't plan her life well she is more of a leech n a bloodsucker let her go and hustle to take care of Ur sister who is a household. Ur main focus should be d welfare of Ur kids feed them well

ValCon888:
It's always critical to look at your economic situation before making life-altering decisions.

You should blame yourself and rightly so too.

[s] How can you have sex without condom on a 55k salary in this current economic climate? [/s]
And your wife has no job to augment your income?

I have no advice to give you. When you were lashing her without condom, you didn't tell us. Now that the shít has hit the fan, you're looking for somebody to tell you to chase your wife away.

Ogbeni carry your cross.

Prospertochu:


I married her against my wish her mother forced me to marry her because of the pregnancy. I blamed myself sha maybe if I have had use condoms I wouldn't have been in this miserable marriage.

Realestbae:
Stupid fool ,u r putting all d blame on a young mother of triplet when Ur lazy mother can not fend for herself, imagine Ur sister is a household is ur mother crippled or just lazy she is supposed to be supplying U with food stuff n by adding to Ur problem or is it how her own mother is depending on her. Oga Ur mother did n't plan her life well she is more of a leech n a bloodsucker let her go and hustle to take care of Ur sister who is a household. Ur main focus should be d welfare of Ur kids feed them well

Acidosis:


With triplets, my wife will NOT work for anybody for 10 years.

bukky1994:
you be real mumu I just want to slap you and that will be all

Kobojunkie:
Why not? Should dey be consuming swallow at that age?

Abi na you go pay for all the formulae and babyfood they need instead?

Simran94:


Let’s say she decides to work full time, who is going to take care of the triplets? Who will cook for all 6 people? Is it this same woman?

HRSweetness:
Actually, they are able to consume sewallow at that age

Amala to be precise.

aanuoluwami14:



They all died in active service

HRSweetness:


God bless you. You're still the man I used to know

Please advise the OP on ways to increase his income.

Landmack:


someone who is really in dilemma and needs help would drop his wife's education status as well as his for the general public to help with a better job. rather what we have u doing here is lamenting and telling us on how you will hang yourself like we told u to keep parting your wife's legs, not using condom and birthing more kids to come suffer in this world.

pls edit your post by fixing ur location and both couple's edu status for possible jobs. Be smart and hopeful. you're even an igbo guy for that matter and being too slow...cheii

Prospertochu:


We are 2 in number me and my younger sis she is a house help, the family house Is my father's family house my father is late and his siblings kicked her out. That is all I have for now and I won't go and steal

Acidosis:


My dear, long time o

We don't know what OP does for a living so it's hard to advise o. Besides, I feel he's more interested in getting his wife to manage his salary.

Kobojunkie:
I was breastfed till I was about 3 years of age, so I no fit talk.

DrFunmisticGlow:
Esan men are lazy na!!

Always expecting handouts from their wives and are polygamous on top

I'm not surprised with your useless statement.

HRSweetness:
I don't doubt that you were breastfed for that long. What I doubt is that you were exclusively breastfed for that long.

Landmack:

He and his wife are being so wicked and unreasonable to those innocent kids they keep birthing.

u earn 55k and laid with ur gf without a condom at first and birthed an innocent child...u still didnt learn!

you kept on laying with her...and got triplets.

i think youre doing all these because u see free house..imagine you were paying rent...just maybe you would have been sensible enough to do the right thing.

on the other hand you never pay that ur gf bride price and you are still birthing kids with her...na wa for u.

i just hope its not a foolish person behind this moniker and trying to play on the mind and emotions of nairalanders.


padlock that ur penis bro!