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NoToPile:


You are supposed to know better and it's not school technically, it's meant to be a baby care center.

Blame the system/economy and possibly the creche, not necessarily the mother.

There's nothing to blame about the system/economy. Motherhood is not for everyone.

elantraceey:


It's quite sad. Reason why as a single lady I'm working tirelessly into getting multiple streams of income including those that won't require me leaving my house. I'm not even the 9-5 type in the first place. I'm just currently looking for one to have some corporate experience in my books.

Career ladies that intend to have children should know how to plan ahead at least 6 months after delivery for child's expenses before they think of getting pregnant. Little babies needs utmost motherly attention and care at those infant stages of their lives and shouldn't be traded for anything else.

Yes, i totally agree with you. Also, a understanding and supportive spouse will also ease the journey.
I like your financial goals, passive streams of income is the best.

Deltatoto:
where will u keep the baby?or she should stop work?what is wrong with u guys.every baby goes to crèche these days.

The job of a woman is to care for her baby, otherwise she shouldn't have any at all. But you "woke" folks will not want to hear that because you have been brainwashed into thinking that abandoning children to make a career is the modern thing to do. When someone speaks the harsh uncomfortable truth, everyone shouts "crucify him!"
Well, maybe now that the baby has been killed by the carelessness of strangers, she should have more time for her job.

NoToPile:



Yeah right the first bolded are plenty on NL.

Point is its only Govt work that gives 6 months fully paid mat leave, at least to the best of my knowledge. I know a bank that gives 5 monthsfully paid.

Most organizations give 3 months max, this is where majority fall under hence the problem. Some even give lesser and some with no pay if you exceed 6 weeks, people are suffering in this country sha.

Yea country hard sha, financial education should be a priority in our institution. The normal 6334 education has failed. If there is less people seeking for jobs, the few employed will be rewarded handsomely either in cash or in kind.

thesicilian:

The job of a woman is to care for her baby, otherwise she shouldn't have any at all. But you "woke" folks will not want to hear that because you have been brainwashed into thinking that abandoning children to make a career is the modern thing to do. When someone speaks the harsh uncomfortable truth, everyone shouts "crucify him!"
Well, maybe now that the baby has been killed by the carelessness of strangers, she should have more time for her job.

My brother, the way society constructs a pathern of life from the west who chose it for a reason baffles me. We must have sense by force

osazsky:
madam if u like go drop ur child of 1month in sch wat is my biz.but just like these case if u run to nairaland i dont have any rip to waste in d future i am just telling u now

IbileIfe:
If you cannot sit down to care for your children, don't even get pregnant.
Creches in NIgeria are run by unqualified people who just want money from irresponsible mothers.

Angy55:
What is a 3 month old baby doing in a creche?

thesicilian:

The job of a woman is to care for her baby, otherwise she shouldn't have any at all. But you "woke" folks will not want to hear that because you have been brainwashed into thinking that abandoning children to make a career is the modern thing to do. When someone speaks the harsh uncomfortable truth, everyone shouts "crucify him!"
Well, maybe now that the baby has been killed by the carelessness of strangers, she should have more time for her job.

Codebite:
Why are people in so much hurry to get back to work after giving birth, so three months old now have access to creche? Wow I never knew

Because y’all won’t pay their bills.

You will call them lazy dependent house wives if they stayed home. That’s why. Many of you love to speak from both sides of your mouth.

Ola4lead:



You mean the mother should stay home unemployed, so people like you can call her lazy?
Or do you want her to take the baby to work, so someone like you can tell her she is not serious with her work and she don't understand the ethics of her job?

Madam you can’t deny the obvious fact that the lady was negligent.

cococandy:




Because y’all won’t pay their bills.

You will call them lazy dependent house wives if they stayed home. That’s why. Many of you love to speak from both sides of your mouth.

Name calling doesn't stop you from doing what's right. Afterall you women call us all sorts of names and we still love and care for you

mooretes:
Na wa o! Most comments here ehn!

Mother is irresponsible... mother indirectly killed her baby ...what is a 3 month old doing in a creche? 3mth old still needs to be breastfed! Companies give awful maternity.. why have baby if you're not ready to care for them? keep baby with family member in the car!!!

Well we don't know what happened and everyone
is just SPECULATING ATM! Whilst it is sad to lose a child of any age ... however the child died is not the point here but SHE LOST THE BABY!

sm1 mentioned he was given paternity for 4 months .. the coy must be generous cos even UK gives only 2 weeks!

others say what is a 3mth doing in creche... well I know some creche will accept from 6weeks

sm said babies still need to be breastfed at that age ... do you know that not all women can breastfeed? And they should not be shamed for it

one person mentioned keep baby in car with sibling... have u thought of the fact the baby can die from overheating? You do not leave a baby in the car under scorching heat with another 'child' that's not ideal

If the creche indeed have no clue what could have happened .. like sm1 mentioned SID could be the culprit but also to be safe we need to put proper regulations and checks on for places such as this ... have they got the correct safety measures ... are the people properly trained ... not just looking after a child but do they know how to administer first aid, baby and child CPR? are the rooms used dedicated to certain age groups? For instance under 1s or is it under 2s have a room and also the number they take shouldn't be more than staff they have ... surely the under 2s need more attention hence the ratio of staff to children should be 1 staff member to 3 kids, 1 staff member to 4kids 2years, 3-5year olds has 1staff to 8kids
But then are there any guidelines for such? Are the providers registered? Do we know how many children are registered under them? That's the kind of conversation that needs to go on and we need to do better

No matter what we say here the child cannot be brought back to life ... the woman will be grieving and will not forgive herself for taking the baby to creche ... heck her husband might hate her for this! Afterall said and done, we should be mindful of our utterances.. think in light of a situation and stop apportioning blame

May God console the woman and her family

Salute buddy

dominique:


Sharrap! Your likes will shame stay at home mums, cal them liabilities that bring nothing to the table and deserves whatever mistreatment she faces in marriage. You confused bunch she stay at home moms for eating and sleeping all day, shame career women for having jobs yet you call women confused. It's you people that are confused. If you want a wife that brings something to the table, then bear in mind that she must need help with the babies.

Mumu! A woman negligently killed her child and you are here justifying nonsense.
Ogun kee you there.

Such utter bullshiet

It’s easier for you to assume she’s a single mother because that way you can blame her entirely instead of considering that she might have a “provider” husband or partner who can’t even cover their bills hence she needs to work.

Some of you are so annoying.

“ThE moDern wOman” yen yen yen

Oscillator:
the modern woman is confused and in turmoil.

Caught in-between the need to be a mother and a wife and a provider she has become none but a ghost to her former glory.

I'm assuming she's a single mother...so ladies stay the fúck away from indiscriminate raw sex, it weighs more on you in many ways than in a man.

You will never get a more frustrated woman ,wicked and confused woman than a single mother

Marcofranz:

Mumu! A woman negligently killed her child and you are here justifying nonsense.
Ogun kee you there.

keep quiet and listen once in a while.
Read the post you quoted again and see if maybe you should be learning from her

americaninja1:
Normally 3 months old should be strictly on breastfeeding, mama’s body heat, and 24/7 monitoring. The woman is heartless. I don’t think u guys know how 3months baby looks like, too fragile to be left out of the mum’s sight for too long.

She’s heartless cos she needs to pay her bills?

I’m convinced many of you commenting here don’t even know what it takes to survive in today’s world.

thesicilian:

Name calling doesn't stop you from doing what's right. Afterall you women call us all sorts of names and we still love and care for you

Who’s calling you names? And what names did they call you?

dominique:


Sharrap! Your likes will shame stay at home mums, cal them liabilities that bring nothing to the table and deserves whatever mistreatment she faces in marriage. You confused bunch she stay at home moms for eating and sleeping all day, shame career women for having jobs yet you call women confused. It's you people that are confused. If you want a wife that brings something to the table, then bear in mind that she must need help with the babies.

dominique have vex. not something you see everyday

don't allow these small pikin internet trolls with youthful ego get to you.

It’s damn near exhausting at this point.

dominique:


Sharrap! Your likes will shame stay at home mums, cal them liabilities that bring nothing to the table and deserves whatever mistreatment she faces in marriage. You confused bunch she stay at home moms for eating and sleeping all day, shame career women for having jobs yet you call women confused. It's you people that are confused. If you want a wife that brings something to the table, then bear in mind that she must need help with the babies.

cococandy:






Because y’all won’t pay their bills.

You will call them lazy dependent house wives if they stayed home. That’s why. Many of you love to speak from both sides of your mouth.

I think you have an issue. Just deal with it. Next time do not quote me.

Acidosis:


There's nothing to blame about the system/economy. Motherhood is not for everyone.

Loool expantiate further,you blame the mother for working? You blame the father for not providing enough to let the woman not work for at least 6 months? since you don't blame the system for not providing at least 6 months paid mat leave.
Who do you blame? I really want to know.

Hope you do know no mother would want to drop her 3month old baby anywhere if they could help it.

osazsky:
u are not social then..u definately dont have friends who can put themselves on d line for u..thats y i love my wife..immediately she gives birth u see all her children in church crying to come and spend 8 months with us..she doesnt toach anything self..if u are good people will always want to be with u....u are too wicked..thats y u have no one around u...note she is d only girl in d family of 4

And this folks, is why child abuse is a thing in Nigeria. When people you barely know fall over themselves to take care of your kids, be afraid

Make sure you’re stacking your money in anticipation for that time.

Have money saved up for at least 6 months to one year of expenses so that you won’t start disturbing us on nairaland about your “lazy wife” who refuses to work since she had a baby.

lagosrd:
Hopeless mothers everywhere. So what is her gain now after labouring fo 9months and she couldn't wait for just 6months to make sure the baby is matured enough to stay without the mother.

Everything is not evil spirit as we can always avoid catastrophe like this.
3month old baby, that woman will leave my house. The work she went for now , she won't be able to do , even the money she makes there will be spent be her alone in most cases.

This is a good example to other young ladies to allow their children to grow before returning to work. If the work will not allow you take care of your kids, abeg find alternative one.

The very careless and hopeless creche too also ignorantly left the poor child to die and they couldn't explain. No even in this yahoo days I can never leave any of my children to complete strangers Never.

Meanwhile, if your pick your child at the creche and there is a pattern of always sleeping abeg go straight into the class of the teacher , open her bag and see what she has been giving them.

Ola4lead:



You mean the mother should stay home unemployed, so people like you can call her lazy?
Or do you want her to take the baby to work, so someone like you can tell her she is not serious with her work and she don't understand the ethics of her job?

No one calls a 3 month old nursing mother lazy, enough with that lame excuse abeg.

Angy55:


I think you have an issue. Just deal with it. Next time do not quote me.

Tell me more. What’s the issue I have?

Romanoff:
The idiots on front page are the same ones who will ask a lady what she's bringing to the table after marriage.

Ask them to bring 250k for a course in Business Analysis, them no get o.

But they can bash a woman for going back to work after three months of having a child.

Doesn't the child have a father?

Why e no resign to come take care of the baby?

Few days back a guy said if he has his way, married women shouldn’t work. There was no insult they didn’t shower on him. Suddenly they all do not want their wives working.

I always say, twist it the right way and they would agree with you on the same point they always countered.

jeff1993:
Sad

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pocohantas:


Few days back a guy said if he has his way, married women shouldn’t work. There was no insult they didn’t shower on him. Suddenly they all do not want their wives working.

I always say, twist it the right way and they would agree with you on the same point they always countered.

The same idiots will call stay at home mums liability.

Meanwhile, a lot of them are products of a stay at home mom.

elantraceey:


No one calls a 3 month old nursing mother lazy, enough with that lame excuse abeg.

Even if the baby were to be one year old, they will still call her lazy.

The case of the 18 month or so old kid that was beaten by the teacher to death, people had similar comments about what the tender child was doing in school.

Feel free to call it lame excuses but it shows you haven’t been paying attention to what these people say and how they will make sure all blame lays at the foot of the mom whether she had a choice or not

nwekeugochukwu:
A Nigerian mum lost her three-month-old baby after leaving the child at a crèche, IGBERETV reports.

Twitter user @Lolo_cy who shared the sad story online said no one knows what happened to the baby only that the mother came back to pick her baby's dead body.

She wrote;



https://twitter.com/Lolo_cy/status/1500387723064057857?t=rpOIKoXPwMkvP7UhpEqb5Q&s=19

So sad. It may not be a fault of the creche if you ask me but proper investigation needs to be done to ascertain what really happened and bring anyone to book if anyone is culpable

cococandy:


Even if the baby were to be one year old, they will still call her lazy.

The case of the 18 month or so old kid that was beaten by the teacher to death, people had similar comments about what the tender child was doing in school.

Feel free to call it lame excuses but it shows you haven’t been paying attention to what these people say and how they will make sure all blame lays at the foot of the mom whether she had a choice or not

It's simple. People should stop paying attention to what people say because no matter what you do, people both men and women will still talk. If you drop your 3 months old baby you laboured 9 months for at a crèche because of what people say, then that's even the lamest excuse available.

elantraceey:


It's simple. People should stop paying attention to what people say because no matter what you do, people both men and women will still talk. If you drop your 3 months old baby you laboured 9 months for at a crèche because of what people say, then that's even the lamest excuse available.

I’m sure she dropped the baby there because she needed the money not because of what nairalanders will say. I doubt she knows NL exists.

Realistically, people need money to live.

The people’s opinion aspect of it is my analysis and calling out those who speak out of both sides of their mouths.

Romanoff:


The same idiots will call stay at home mums liability.

Meanwhile, a lot of them are products of a stay at home mom.

One minute their mothers prioritized them by staying at home. The next minute their mothers joggled family, home and business without help unlike lazy modern women. The more you try to understand them, the more confusing it gets. Don’t even try…

So someone can just wake up and tweet that their friend lost a baby she left at a creche and the whole Nigeria will believe?
SMH fear social media!