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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Akorkor(f): 6:56am On Mar 09, 2022
mumzt:
Awesome. We'll done mamatukwas, long overdue thread.

Here alone with 3 kids all under 8. husband is in Nigeria and just shuffles. Schooling and working without breaking a single rule. I hope to contribute as much as possible

How are you doing it? Thinking of bringing my mum later in the year. Hubby is also in Nigeria. My job is 8-4. You are strong

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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by canadaishome: 6:58am On Mar 09, 2022
Akorkor:
Thank you all for this thread. Mother of 2 kids under 6 here. We have registered with a GP but council is yet to verify me. How do I go about this? When can I register them for school? Thinking of bringing the little one back in September. Also what is the fate of a child with speech delay? Is there free therapy or is the therapy expensive?

I stay in Scotland and I just moved in a month ago. Still trying to find my feet. Thank you mothers and Happy international Women’s Day

Where in Scotland?
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Akorkor(f): 7:00am On Mar 09, 2022
canadaishome:


Where in Scotland?

Glasgow. Inverclyde Council.
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by tosine25: 7:31am On Mar 09, 2022
mumzt:
Awesome. We'll done mamatukwas, long overdue thread.

Here alone with 3 kids all under 8. husband is in Nigeria and just shuffles. Schooling and working without breaking a single rule. I hope to contribute as much as possible


You for real? I also wish to move my partner and 3kids ( all under 7) to UK using the student route... while I will be shuffling in between due to my work here in Nigeria.

But people close to me keep telling me this can't work out unless am ready to stay with them in UK and that even if I decide to stay with them, it's not easy to take care of 3 minors overthere.

Pls, how you able to achieve that on your own ?
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Peerielass: 7:57am On Mar 09, 2022
mumzt:
Awesome. We'll done mamatukwas, long overdue thread.

Here alone with 3 kids all under 8. husband is in Nigeria and just shuffles. Schooling and working without breaking a single rule. I hope to contribute as much as possible

How do you manage to study and work with 3 underage children? Did you come with a nanny from Naija?
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by TheGuyFromHR: 8:11am On Mar 09, 2022
tosine25:



You for real? I also wish to move my partner and 3kids ( all under 7) to UK using the student route... while I will be shuffling in between due to my work here in Nigeria.

But people close to me keep telling me this can't work out unless am ready to stay with them in UK and that even if I decide to stay with them, it's not easy to take care of 3 minors overthere.

Pls, how you able to achieve that on your own ?

Believe what people are telling you.

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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Peerielass: 8:14am On Mar 09, 2022
Akorkor:
Thank you all for this thread. Mother of 2 kids under 6 here. We have registered with a GP but council is yet to verify me. How do I go about this? When can I register them for school? Thinking of bringing the little one back in September. Also what is the fate of a child with speech delay? Is there free therapy or is the therapy expensive?

Also for Council verification, I registered into an application called Yoti as I saw that it aids quick verification process but my Nigeria address is being rejected. Don’t know what to do.

I stay in Scotland and I just moved in a month ago. Still trying to find my feet. Thank you mothers and Happy international Women’s Day

I don’t understand what you mean by council verification. All you need to register at a GP surgery is proof of address. Also while you are at it register with an NHS dentist as well. Kids under 16 are eligible for free dental care. Good to get kids into proper dental hygiene and regular checkups from a young age.

Have you researched the schools in your catchment area? Find out which school you are zoned for and then approach them for registration. Also check out the feeder secondary schools as the primary school might be ok but the secondary could be a problematic school. Details can be found at https://www.inverclyde.gov.uk/education-and-learning/schools/catchment-arrangements.

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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by ednut1(m): 8:43am On Mar 09, 2022
Nigerian women i hail una. Was in the UK recently to see family members and friends. Many of the kids are grown up now. Some have cut their parents off, some battled mental health issues, some still made it sha . Its not easy as a Nigerian parents in uk raising kids in this western world o. Our culture of interfering and guiding children is seen as toxic when they grow older.

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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Mamatukwas: 9:06am On Mar 09, 2022
Akorkor:
Thank you all for this thread. Mother of 2 kids under 6 here. We have registered with a GP but council is yet to verify me. How do I go about this? When can I register them for school? Thinking of bringing the little one back in September. Also what is the fate of a child with speech delay? Is there free therapy or is the therapy expensive?

Also for Council verification, I registered into an application called Yoti as I saw that it aids quick verification process but my Nigeria address is being rejected. Don’t know what to do.

I stay in Scotland and I just moved in a month ago. Still trying to find my feet. Thank you mothers and Happy international Women’s Day

Welcome to Scotland.

I’ve never heard of council verification of address? Plus why are you trying to verify your Nigerian address? I’m a bit confused.

Just call or email the council about your kids. They will tell you the next steps to take and forms to fill to get you sorted.

I don’t think you will need to pay for speech therapy. If they assess your child and it’s required you should be supported foc. Don’t worry.

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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Mamatukwas: 9:11am On Mar 09, 2022
ednut1:
Nigerian women i hail una. Was in the UK recently to see family members and friends. Many of the kids are grown up now. Some have cut their parents off, some battled mental health issues, some still made it sha . Its not easy as a Nigerian parents in uk raising kids in this western world o. Our culture of interfering and guiding children is seen as toxic when they grow older.

It’s not my brother. The environment is 100% different. I think the trick is to catch them young. Let them have respect and still be super close to you as young kids. When they are older it’s easier.

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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by LagosismyHome(f): 9:13am On Mar 09, 2022
Akorkor:
Thank you all for this thread. Mother of 2 kids under 6 here. We have registered with a GP but council is yet to verify me. How do I go about this? When can I register them for school? Thinking of bringing the little one back in September. Also what is the fate of a child with speech delay? Is there free therapy or is the therapy expensive?

Also for Council verification, I registered into an application called Yoti as I saw that it aids quick verification process but my Nigeria address is being rejected. Don’t know what to do.

I stay in Scotland and I just moved in a month ago. Still trying to find my feet. Thank you mothers and Happy international Women’s Day

You mean confirmation by getting the NHS number?...... is that what you mean by council yet to verify
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by StrikeBack(m): 9:30am On Mar 09, 2022
mumzt:
Awesome. We'll done mamatukwas, long overdue thread.

Here alone with 3 kids all under 8. husband is in Nigeria and just shuffles. Schooling and working without breaking a single rule. I hope to contribute as much as possible
Southyorkshire woman
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Akorkor(f): 10:04am On Mar 09, 2022
Mamatukwas:


Welcome to Scotland.

I’ve never heard of council verification of address? Plus why are you trying to verify your Nigerian address? I’m a bit confused.


Just call or email the council about your kids. They will tell you the next steps to take and forms to fill to get you sorted.

I don’t think you will need to pay for speech therapy. If they assess your child and it’s required you should be supported foc. Don’t worry.

I registered on council site and up till now no news from them. On my profile it still shows unverified.

There is a link to verify who you are and an application called Yoti on the site. I actually don’t understand too but I followed the step and it didn’t work out

I am almost a month in my house now and I am expecting council tax but after the email about registration I have not gotten any information from them.

Thank you mama
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by mumzt: 10:05am On Mar 09, 2022
Peerielass:


How do you manage to study and work with 3 underage children? Did you come with a nanny from Naija?

A lot of people are wondering how I'm doing it. Let me try and summarise.

It shocks everyone. Especially for someone that had all the help needed in Nigeria. But I was determined. My husband still does 98% of our expenses from nigeria.

I didn't work for the first 6 months. I finished all my school work. My course is 2 years, so now I'm on holidays till end of May. My advance practice starts in June. So it all just works out. I currently work as an administrator, Monday to friday, flexi hours but full time. So I chose to do 9:30-5. I don't work weekends at all. I'm a mother hen. I still love to be 5&6 with my kids. I go EVERYWHERE with them. Even in Nigeria, never used to leave them with maid or nanny. I wasn't working in Nigeria though.

It's expensive though, I must admit.

Now that I've started working, my 2 year old has to be in nursery from Monday to friday. So i pay for that. My neighbour picks the three of them from school and nursery and keeps them till 5, when I close. I pay her a token. And the kids love it there.

It takes a lot of patience. Can't be rushed. The idea of making money immediately is not realistic in this case. And you must get support from somewhere sha. I also built relationships with neighbours, that's why I got the help for after school.

I was initially paying for private after school for the older ones because their school doesn't do after school. Stopped when my neighbour offered to help.

Not as easy as it looks in black and white, but very doable. I'm resting now though. Got a visit visa for my mum and she's around. But my kids also learned a lot of independence around the house. We grew quite fast in the last 1 year.

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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Akorkor(f): 10:06am On Mar 09, 2022
LagosismyHome:


You mean confirmation by getting the NHS number?...... is that what you mean by council yet to verify
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by mumzt: 10:07am On Mar 09, 2022
StrikeBack:
Southyorkshire woman

Nope. I'm in West midlands
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Akorkor(f): 10:07am On Mar 09, 2022
LagosismyHome:


You mean confirmation by getting the NHS number?...... is that what you mean by council yet to verify

I was able to register successfully at hospital with the kids. When they come back I will find time to register them with dental

On my council tax dashboard, it still shows unverified. I am worried because I need to start paying council tax then register the kids for the next term. Also, I would try and get their email then send a direct mail to them.

See attached

Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Igbamatigbi: 10:23am On Mar 09, 2022
Igbamatigbi:



I am a social work student, we did a course on child law and we were taught that children from age 12 can be left briefly with the younger siblings, I don't know how long the time is I think for few hours, you can check young carer under the children act 1989 ( that's the act social workers currently use)

We were told that you can enroll the young child under the younger carer program. Do your research, I think your 13 year old is legible and can take care if the younger ones, I didn't ask where but I know it's the local authority that will help you sign up for the younger carer program.
This may put you under the Local Authority radar because your child they will carry out a needs assessment on your child. This program covers parents with some disability but we did a case study on a child who was 12 and she was allowed to be a young carer so the mother can do some work, so it depends on your Local Authority discretion

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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by LagosismyHome(f): 10:34am On Mar 09, 2022
mumzt:


A lot of people are wondering how I'm doing it. Let me try and summarise.

It shocks r.

Welldone ... I greet you specially. It not easy
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Passionate888: 11:04am On Mar 09, 2022
Booked

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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by isaiah4life(m): 11:08am On Mar 09, 2022
Let me pitch my tent here. Make person use nail hold the other angle for me.

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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by heniford2: 11:11am On Mar 09, 2022
mex551:
Good topic.

Let me book my space now. Can't wait to explore this topic. My first question is , can a 13 year old boy stay with the younger ones at home after school while the parents go on to hustle? Is it an offence?

Awaiting answers to this as I do no not want the Social workers remembering me
please do not get a nanny and get Cctv install in ur house please
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by shine12: 11:11am On Mar 09, 2022
Akorkor:
Thank you all for this thread. Mother of 2 kids under 6 here. We have registered with a GP but council is yet to verify me. How do I go about this? When can I register them for school? Thinking of bringing the little one back in September. Also what is the fate of a child with speech delay? Is there free therapy or is the therapy expensive?

Also for Council verification, I registered into an application called Yoti as I saw that it aids quick verification process but my Nigeria address is being rejected. Don’t know what to do.

I stay in Scotland and I just moved in a month ago. Still trying to find my feet. Thank you mothers and Happy international Women’s Day

You don't need to wait for council for the kids to start School. Once the kids are registered with a GP and you have atleast another proof of address i.e. tenant agreement, energy bills, you can use those two documents in a school application for your kids. Anyway that's how it works in England and may be slightly different from Scotland.

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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by LagosismyHome(f): 11:14am On Mar 09, 2022
Akorkor:


I was able to register successfully at hospital with the kids. When they come back I will find time to register them with dental

On my council tax dashboard, it still shows unverified. I am worried because I need to start paying council tax then register the kids for the next term. Also, I would try and get their email then send a direct mail to them.

See attached

Ok.i don't live in Scotland so I can't say more. Even this link or app you mentioned I never used or heard about
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Akorkor(f): 11:14am On Mar 09, 2022
shine12:


You don't need to wait for council for the kids to start School. Once the kids are registered with a GP and you have atleast another proof of address i.e. tenant agreement, energy bills, you can use those two documents in a school application for your kids. Anyway that's how it works in England and may be slightly different from Scotland.

Yeah. I have all those documents.... I will register them once they are fully back here.

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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by LagosismyHome(f): 11:15am On Mar 09, 2022
Mamatukwas
This is appearing on the front page .... grin... o dear

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