Mamatukwas:

Hello Everyone.

This is a space to talk about parenting, navigating cultural differences, knowing your rights and other general issues related to being a parent in the UK as a Nigerian Immigrant.

For general immigration information and tips on living in the UK, visit the thread below:

https://www.nairaland.com/6719932/living-uk-life-immigrant-part-2

For questions on studying in the UK, please refer to the student thread: https://www.nairaland.com/6712649/uk-student-visa-tier-4#105017249.

Here’s to raising strong families.

LagosismyHome:

Mamatukwas
This is appearing on the front page .... ... o dear

Mamatukwas:


Is that why we are seeing all these strange posts? Oh dear.

@justwise please help us sanitize if you can. Thank you.

Mamatukwas:

Hello Everyone.

This is a space to talk about parenting, navigating cultural differences, knowing your rights and other general issues related to being a parent in the UK as a Nigerian Immigrant.

For general immigration information and tips on living in the UK, visit the thread below:

https://www.nairaland.com/6719932/living-uk-life-immigrant-part-2

For questions on studying in the UK, please refer to the student thread: https://www.nairaland.com/6712649/uk-student-visa-tier-4#105017249.

Here’s to raising strong families.

streetsoldier1:


will a 7year old boy in primary 4 class in Nigeria be placed according to how he has been schooling here or he will be returned to lower class based on age?

HRHQueenPhil:
Kudos to these women going through all the rigours and starting afresh in a new country
GOD bless u and strengthen u to train ur babies in the way of GOD

Vicas2000:

I agree
Kudos to both men and women starting afresh in a new country. God help us all.

cdieli:
I have been in the UK for 6 months now, my children have started school and its all fun they have been learning new things.
A few advise for those coming with the family:

1) Once you come register with a GP.
2) Report yourself to the council they will advise you on schools nearby.
3) Look for a local white church, here in Scotland I attached the family to salvation army. They come every week to see that all is well, Christianity here is different from Nigeria.
4) Learn not to shout for your children, neighbors reported me and my wife that we are always shouting for the kids and police came to question the family. Always put fear on them that if they tell strangers that dad and mum beat them they will take them away

Its been an experience

cdieli:
I have been in the UK for 6 months now, my children have started school and its all fun they have been learning new things.
A few advise for those coming with the family:

1) Once you come register with a GP.
2) Report yourself to the council they will advise you on schools nearby.
3) Look for a local white church, here in Scotland I attached the family to salvation army. They come every week to see that all is well, Christianity here is different from Nigeria.
4) Learn not to shout for your children, neighbors reported me and my wife that we are always shouting for the kids and police came to question the family. Always put fear on them that if they tell strangers that dad and mum beat them they will take them away

Its been an experience

HRHQueenPhil:
Kudos to these women going through all the rigours and starting afresh in a new country
GOD bless u and strengthen u to train ur babies in the way of GOD

Akorkor:
Thank you all for this thread. Mother of 2 kids under 6 here. We have registered with a GP but council is yet to verify me. How do I go about this? When can I register them for school? Thinking of bringing the little one back in September. Also what is the fate of a child with speech delay? Is there free therapy or is the therapy expensive?

Also for Council verification, I registered into an application called Yoti as I saw that it aids quick verification process but my Nigeria address is being rejected. Don’t know what to do.

I stay in Scotland and I just moved in a month ago. Still trying to find my feet. Thank you mothers and Happy international Women’s Day

Endlessgrace:


Instead of putting fear in them to not talk about being beaten, why not try cultivate the habit of not beating them. I know it’s not easy but trust me you can raise a child without the rod.

Mamatukwas:


I agree. It’s not easy but it can be done. I’m practicing not shouting unless absolutely necessary. The most I do now is pull their ears and they hate it. No more beating oh.

If you shout at my son now, he will say you’re scaring him Na wa!

Mamatukwas:


What kind of oversabi Neighbour is that? Were you guys in a flat?

mumzt:


Yes, we all need to unlearn and relearn this shouting issue.

My 2 year old is quick to say "mummy you shout on me" even when it's ot "shouting" he would rather you spoke to him in a calm way. And surprisingly, it works.

The noise in naija sef won't allow us talk normal. �

cdieli:
We live in a three bed flat ohhhh. After the police finished questioning the kids, If Daddy and Mummy beat them. The police apologized that the mail they received is very malicious, that the children they are seeing are well behaved and taken care off

Mamatukwas:


Personally, if you can afford it. Avoid flats if you have small kids. Neighbours can be nosy + kids can be very noisy. So if you get bad neighbors it will be a constant tug of war. Thank God you guys escaped without issue.

There’s a current case now trending in Sheffield where social workers have taken away a couples 2 kids and there’s the threat that her unborn child will be taken too! Have you guys heard about it? The story is too long but so sad.

mumzt:


Yes, we all need to unlearn and relearn this shouting issue.

The noise in naija sef won't allow us talk normal. �

TheGuyFromHR:


I can speak to what the situation was with a relation's child in England.
The child had speech delay and he (for some reason it mainly seems to be male children?) was assessed by a HV and referred for speech therapy.

There was (and that seems to also be somewhat common) a very long waiting list for the council service and at some point my cousin made queries and was told that she could explore the private option if she wished. Prices were very high, but she paid for an assessment and got a twice-weekly hourly slot for which I think she was paying in the region of 150 or so (I'm not very sure). They were able to cover the costs (her husband is a doctor) and this was a while ago when exchange rates were still manageable.

I don't know if the council later reimbursed her.

Mamatukwas:


Personally, if you can afford it. Avoid flats if you have small kids. Neighbours can be nosy + kids can be very noisy. So if you get bad neighbors it will be a constant tug of war. Thank God you guys escaped without issue.

There’s a current case now trending in Sheffield where social workers have taken away a couples 2 kids and there’s the threat that her unborn child will be taken too! Have you guys heard about it? The story is too long but so sad.

TheGuyFromHR:


I can speak to what the situation was with a relation's child in England.
The child had speech delay and he (for some reason it mainly seems to be male children?) was assessed by a HV and referred for speech therapy.

There was (and that seems to also be somewhat common) a very long waiting list for the council service and at some point my cousin made queries and was told that she could explore the private option if she wished. Prices were very high, but she paid for an assessment and got a twice-weekly hourly slot for which I think she was paying in the region of 150 or so (I'm not very sure). They were able to cover the costs (her husband is a doctor) and this was a while ago when exchange rates were still manageable.

I don't know if the council later reimbursed her.