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Re: What Benefits Do Married Persons Enjoy Better Than Single People? by lexy2014: 2:54pm On Mar 25, 2022
8stargeneral:
Na women dey enjoy marriage pass...left for men they can stay without a wife..because it's a burden to them

Wait till you are 60 then you will tell us the story
Re: What Benefits Do Married Persons Enjoy Better Than Single People? by BigBashiru: 2:54pm On Mar 25, 2022
BABYharder:
Girlfriend no dey attend August meeting

Lol this is funny but who August meeting epp?

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Re: What Benefits Do Married Persons Enjoy Better Than Single People? by JERRY1925(m): 2:54pm On Mar 25, 2022
MadeINchenzen2:
If marriage is as sweet as u've said, why are u cheating on your wife? grin

Trust me, never done that.
Re: What Benefits Do Married Persons Enjoy Better Than Single People? by lexy2014: 2:55pm On Mar 25, 2022
lastchild:
Lol, oga it's a lie

who told you that single people are alone, there are relationships that are more fulfilling than marriages. The truth is, marriage is more of a prison

How's it a prison?
Re: What Benefits Do Married Persons Enjoy Better Than Single People? by ImoleNaija: 2:55pm On Mar 25, 2022
pansophist:
Suffer no de tire you?

Me I'm looking for a feminist, especially the ones that carry 50-50 shared expense for head. I no like to get heart attack if I go broke, because madam sef broke and go follow me fight if I no get money.

50/50 feminist or no marriage

Funny you grin Taking full responsibility is not my own problem o. Don't just form feminist with no value. Housewife & feminist are two different entities.

@bolded, are you saying you don't mind a broke feminist, too?
Re: What Benefits Do Married Persons Enjoy Better Than Single People? by Ikem11(m): 2:56pm On Mar 25, 2022
djon78:



But there are married people that are very very miserable in it
Did you read what I wrote at all?
Re: What Benefits Do Married Persons Enjoy Better Than Single People? by MadeINchenzen2: 2:56pm On Mar 25, 2022
alphaconde:


not really bro

am married with two kids

my home is the best place to be for me

am broken becuase of how lots of people are not getting it right
Are u sure? please make sure you don't cheat on your wife...grin
Re: What Benefits Do Married Persons Enjoy Better Than Single People? by BigBashiru: 2:56pm On Mar 25, 2022
kowalsky:
As a guy you should never get married.

Marriage is societal construct put in place to guarantee the future of females and children. It doesn't pay you in any way.

You'll get tired of fc*$k#ig one woman.
You'll slave away your life and die earlier than said woman.
You'll loose you freedom and natural sense of male adventure.

The only allure marriage had for men was finding that one pure damsel who would do (and give) anything to keep you happy. So you slave away slowly to your death knowing the mother of your kids is truly 'yours' and yours forever in sickness, health and wealth. That was enough gratification at the time.

Nowadays that pure damsel is a myth. Marriage in the Nigerian society is an economic arrangement to yoke men with responsibilities without the 'joys' of marriage your forefathers had.

Your wife is not pure. She's fvcked a thousand and one dude before you. She probably thinks of her razz bf in Uni with the long schlong while fvcking you.

She's not loyal. She married you solely because you were her best option at the time for a better future. If this status quo changes her loyalty changes.

She's not 'yours' and I know that sounds possessive but in truth it was this 'possession' of women that fueled the male ego and spurred them on to accept the slavery that came with marriage.


21st century woman is not yours in any definition of the word. She probably has a better paying job than you. So you can't control her.
She probably has a literal horde of men chasing after her, so she has options.
You mess up and she fvcks her ex or her boss or your friend. And there's nothing you can do about it.

So you don't have any of that ego driving, testosterone pumping 'control' over your woman. She's your equal and rightly so. I genuinely believe a time will come when women will have more direct power than men. They already have more subliminal power.


Anyways. You're not getting any of the goods men used to enjoy in marriage before now. All you have is a yoke of responsibility.

You're tied down to one pvvssyy. When naturally you should be fvcccking as many as you could.
You have to devote a huge part of your income to raising kids who'll only remember their mother instead of polishing yourself up for more pussy and more worldly success.

You relinquish the two things that make you a man 'absolite desire to conquer the world' and 'absolute desire to fvvck as many young pussies as you can.' As a man those two traits are ingrained in your mental state, yet marriage comes in and pacifies you turning you into a meek homely man who society tells must provide a good home for his family.

But society doesn't care about you. It only cares about your family. You're a readily disposable asset. You job on this planet is to work work work and raise a good home, then die. Why do you care about society?

When you marry you're dancing to the pied Piper tunes of a fundamentally corrupt world.
You're choosing society over yourself. Society doesn't care about you and it should burn.


Put yourself first. No, love doesn't come because cupid shot an arrow into heart of the girl of your dreams.
It comes when you prove your worth as a man. When you are successful. When you dominate your world however miniscule it might be.

Chase riches. Bang young bvctchess. Have a thousand baby mamas.

Think of Davido and think of your probably dead father.
The former might be high riding junkie but he definitely smiles more everyday than your dead beat dad whose laughs come only in marriage anniversaries when he's told by a woman past her menopause that he was the best thing that happened to her.

You can be the best thing that's happened to many young girls in their 20s. Work hard and keep lying to the love of your life.

Whoever disliked your comment knows you have spoken the absolute truth....

Youth was a major incentive to get married.

Boyfriends enjoy the goods without responsibility and then pass on used old hags to men to bear all the responsibility when the boobs are already sagging.

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Re: What Benefits Do Married Persons Enjoy Better Than Single People? by bigiyaro(m): 2:56pm On Mar 25, 2022
This kind of questions are normally asked by irresponsible and broke guys, people that are mentally unstable, mentally and socially healthy people don't waste time asking stuupid questions, they simply get married when their time comes. Anyway, police treat married women far more respectably than single women, in the society, married people comes first before singles, in my work place, married people are given 10 of all gifts while singles are given 1.5, eg, last December, married people were given half bag of rice, 2 chicken, 5 liter v/oil and 25k while singles shared 15 to a bag, 5k, and no chicken and oil,

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Re: What Benefits Do Married Persons Enjoy Better Than Single People? by wallrichy: 2:56pm On Mar 25, 2022
How about if the wife dislike sex and doesn't know how to cook very well? Really, there's no much difference or enjoyment between married guy and single guy. Infact, single have a lot to achieve than married. Marriage is just a symbol that says you are responsible even though that responsibility symbol is a secret that can't be let out.

Ijoba85:
Regular sex , regular food , regular marital wahala plus plenty other responsibilities from in-laws

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Re: What Benefits Do Married Persons Enjoy Better Than Single People? by laxetude: 2:57pm On Mar 25, 2022
Uchedizzy:
Marriage gives a man sense of responsiblity

Keep the sense of responsibility to yourselves alone thank you. Na sense of entitlement we dey find now.

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Re: What Benefits Do Married Persons Enjoy Better Than Single People? by djon78(m): 2:58pm On Mar 25, 2022
Karnice600:
Most young folks here can never know the benefits that marriage has over premarital relationships until they hit late fifties. Companionship can’t be faked. It grows. Baby mamas and papas will never get this straight. God wasn’t a fool when he created that institution for a pair. Growing old together is priceless. God bless Olu Jacobs and Joke Sylva.


We talk like it always ends cool.
Many married people are in misery
Let's not come online and not talk reality

Very many married people are miserable, worse than singles

People should concentrate on being fulfilled on there own.
The mistake many people make is thinking that there happiness is tied to someone else

That's how when they now get married and don't see that happiness, there world turns upside down

Everyone should find there own happiness. Find things that fulfill you. Waiting on another is a recipe for disaster

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Re: What Benefits Do Married Persons Enjoy Better Than Single People? by egunna(m): 2:58pm On Mar 25, 2022
Yimmicks:
The benefits are numerous. Sometimes, you don’t know you’re missing on something until you experience it and you keep asking yourself why you waited too much before getting it.
Marriage with the right person and with Christ at the centre is everything beautiful.
Having someone you call home (not house) in it’s true sense is great. Having someone you enjoy your life with and to whom you can be vulnerable is tremendous. I could go on and on, marriage is beautiful. It is true companionship, it is commitment, it is work, it is learning and unlearning, it is selflessness, it is giving and receiving, it is many things!!.. It does have its challenges like any other thing, but with great communication and conflict management skills, you can make the best of it. Until, you experience it WITH THE RIGHT PERSON with family values too, you may never truly know how it is different from a baby’s-mama/girlfriend relationship.
And to ladies too: stop sharing some “marital benefits” outside marriage… lol..
wetin small pikin know?allow Dem dey deceive demselves.e get reason y pigeon wey b animal dey marry.if person never marry,e never start life.after all flexing,u go hear d idiot say I need to settle down
Re: What Benefits Do Married Persons Enjoy Better Than Single People? by ibechris(m): 2:58pm On Mar 25, 2022
Zonefree:
There's nothing a wife can do that a girlfriend or babymama cannot do.



Not until something hit u then u will know why marriage is not for people who think along this line.

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Re: What Benefits Do Married Persons Enjoy Better Than Single People? by Goldbw122(m): 2:58pm On Mar 25, 2022
zedegit:


Is it all of them that enjoy their offspring. Some are a thorn in their flesh.
Hmm nothing is balance in this life..
Re: What Benefits Do Married Persons Enjoy Better Than Single People? by pansophist(m): 2:58pm On Mar 25, 2022
ImoleNaija:


Funny you grin Taking full responsibility is not my own problem o. Don't just form feminist with no value.

@bolded, are you saying you don't mind a broke feminist, too?

You can't be a feminist and be broke in the first place. Feminism is an elite club. So a broke feminist whatever that means is an instant disqualification grin

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Re: What Benefits Do Married Persons Enjoy Better Than Single People? by Nobody: 2:59pm On Mar 25, 2022
MadeINchenzen2:
hell NO !

Then, it's only rational for you to experience if there benefits or not because of individual differences. cheesy
Re: What Benefits Do Married Persons Enjoy Better Than Single People? by Gwan2(m): 3:01pm On Mar 25, 2022
Acidosis:


I like the fact that you used "for as long as possible". Fear no let you say till old age grin

Now, imagine getting to your 70s, still single, and wishing you had grand kids. I'll leave you with that imagination. Your own don be sef if we add poverty to the mix cos no woman will touch you with a 50 metre pole

Even old people's home will reject you when you can't afford the bills.

I respect your line of thought, but if you live in the western world, you will know such narrative holds no water....at most 50mls of water.
Go to care homes in the western world, ask some men about their family....for some they are just single people that enjoy their live in their hey days, knowing they will be feeble and frail at old age, and are proud of the memories they had without any regrets of their choice of being single.

For some, they are abandoned by their supposed family to the mercy of carers at the homes,,some even harbour regrets ever marrying, because it contributed majorly toward bringing them to the carehome, especially when they are not old enough.

One that struck me, this man's daughter kept malice with him till his death. He was so worried and in pains, but helpless because he is in his twilight. Pained man. My brother know pray make you marry woman wey go poison your own children mind against you ooo...na for people mouth you go dey hear say your pikin dey america or london because you are completely shut off their tracks..


My point is, even at old age...you could still feel isolated, abandoned and die a painful and regretful death even-though you married or had kids in your hey days.

One most important thing is, if you decide not to marry or have kids....channel the productive part of your life towards building pillars you can bank on when the sun goes down on you.

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Re: What Benefits Do Married Persons Enjoy Better Than Single People? by Pastorsmile: 3:01pm On Mar 25, 2022
I think the questions should have been what benefits do married WOMEN enjoy and what benefits do the UNMARRIED PEOPLE enjoyed.
I arrived at the conclusion because what I have seen is that the only thing married men enjoy is EXTREME STRESS.

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Re: What Benefits Do Married Persons Enjoy Better Than Single People? by simplesearch: 3:02pm On Mar 25, 2022
Zonefree:
There's nothing a wife can do that a girlfriend or babymama cannot do.

With a sinful girlfriend with whom you commit fornication at will, and a babymama syndrome; which is a perfect picture of a rebellious marital choice, you're sure of an eternity away from God without remedy. But with a wife of yours you can be sure you're not far from God's kingdom, if both of you are faithful to your marital vow.
Re: What Benefits Do Married Persons Enjoy Better Than Single People? by ImoleNaija: 3:02pm On Mar 25, 2022
pansophist:


You can't be a feminist and be broke in the first place. Feminism is an elite club. So a broke feminist whatever that means is an instant disqualification

Kuku say she's a feminist-wanna-be like Saphiere. Lobatan cheesy

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Re: What Benefits Do Married Persons Enjoy Better Than Single People? by MadeINchenzen2: 3:03pm On Mar 25, 2022
Rubbiish:

By single do u mean not having kids?
There are certain things u will not understand, till u get to a certain age. If u are below 40, u are likely to have a change of mind when u cross 40.
One thing is sure... I will live longer than all the married men, I will claim their beds and wives when they are gone. grin

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Re: What Benefits Do Married Persons Enjoy Better Than Single People? by alphaconde(m): 3:04pm On Mar 25, 2022
MadeINchenzen2:
Are u sure? please make sure you don't cheat on your wife...grin

ok sir
Re: What Benefits Do Married Persons Enjoy Better Than Single People? by pansophist(m): 3:04pm On Mar 25, 2022
ImoleNaija:


Kuku say she's a feminist-wanna-be like Saphere. Lobatan cheesy

Na my own I just yarn you so. Feminist or no marriage. Simple. You wey like suffer, continue
Re: What Benefits Do Married Persons Enjoy Better Than Single People? by Newyorkitis(m): 3:06pm On Mar 25, 2022
The dev.il has always been attacking anything good since the existence of the world and that's why having dysfunctional families is destroying the social fabrics of the society today. Children unaccounted and uncared for because they have no proper family rootd.

Those of you looking for baby mamas: are your mothers baby mamas?

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Re: What Benefits Do Married Persons Enjoy Better Than Single People? by Nobody: 3:06pm On Mar 25, 2022
Blunttruth:

You feel so because people are now doing stuff that is meant only for marriage in relationships.
So, what are u gonna do? Arrest them? undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided

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Re: What Benefits Do Married Persons Enjoy Better Than Single People? by PreetyAngel4U: 3:07pm On Mar 25, 2022
If I did all I do with my husband with anybody else as a boyfriend, I would have regretted it big time.

As a single lady, never do what you ain't supposed to do for a man if you ain't married to him. Life as a woman bearing kids, cooking, home keeping, earning your income and all the other tag alongs as a legitimate wife is difficult enough to be doing all that without any commitment (not engagement) from a man. Even after you do all that for him, why do we hear of guys leaving their girlfriends to marry someone else?

Stop giving these men reasons not to respect women. Respect yourself. He says you should do all that if you love him right? He should do all the commitment procedures before he gets any, so when he thinks of leaving you, at least you weren't the one who sold yourself cheap. Love yourself that much, they don't really care.

What is wrong is wrong. People with this type of mentality that a relationship is equal to marriage will never take their vows seriously, respect their partners or be loyal to a partner.

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Re: What Benefits Do Married Persons Enjoy Better Than Single People? by Nobody: 3:08pm On Mar 25, 2022
ImoleNaija:
Marriage is sweet, but bitter with a feminist. Well, no one can practice feminism under my roof unless the bills are shared 50-50, then I would know we are just together to make kids. Aside that, don't try anything funny.

Or even more bitter with a misogynist.
Re: What Benefits Do Married Persons Enjoy Better Than Single People? by Arielle: 3:08pm On Mar 25, 2022
kowalsky:
As a guy you should never get married.

Marriage is societal construct put in place to guarantee the future of females and children. It doesn't pay you in any way.

You'll get tired of fc*$k#ig one woman.
You'll slave away your life and die earlier than said woman.
You'll loose you freedom and natural sense of male adventure.

The only allure marriage had for men was finding that one pure damsel who would do (and give) anything to keep you happy. So you slave away slowly to your death knowing the mother of your kids is truly 'yours' and yours forever in sickness, health and wealth. That was enough gratification at the time.

Nowadays that pure damsel is a myth. Marriage in the Nigerian society is an economic arrangement to yoke men with responsibilities without the 'joys' of marriage your forefathers had.

Your wife is not pure. She's fvcked a thousand and one dude before you. She probably thinks of her razz bf in Uni with the long schlong while fvcking you.

She's not loyal. She married you solely because you were her best option at the time for a better future. If this status quo changes her loyalty changes.

She's not 'yours' and I know that sounds possessive but in truth it was this 'possession' of women that fueled the male ego and spurred them on to accept the slavery that came with marriage.


21st century woman is not yours in any definition of the word. She probably has a better paying job than you. So you can't control her.
She probably has a literal horde of men chasing after her, so she has options.
You mess up and she fvcks her ex or her boss or your friend. And there's nothing you can do about it.

So you don't have any of that ego driving, testosterone pumping 'control' over your woman. She's your equal and rightly so. I genuinely believe a time will come when women will have more direct power than men. They already have more subliminal power.


Anyways. You're not getting any of the goods men used to enjoy in marriage before now. All you have is a yoke of responsibility.

You're tied down to one pvvssyy. When naturally you should be fvcccking as many as you could.
You have to devote a huge part of your income to raising kids who'll only remember their mother instead of polishing yourself up for more pussy and more worldly success.

You relinquish the two things that make you a man 'absolite desire to conquer the world' and 'absolute desire to fvvck as many young pussies as you can.'
As a man those two traits are ingrained in your mental state, yet marriage comes in and pacifies you turning you into a meek homely man who society tells must provide a good home for his family.

But society doesn't care about you. It only cares about your family. You're a readily disposable asset. You job on this planet is to work work work and raise a good home, then die. Why do you care about society?

When you marry you're dancing to the pied Piper tunes of a fundamentally corrupt world.
You're choosing society over yourself. Society doesn't care about you and it should burn.


Put yourself first. No, love doesn't come because cupid shot an arrow into heart of the girl of your dreams.
It comes when you prove your worth as a man. When you are successful. When you dominate your world however miniscule it might be.

Chase riches. Bang young bvctchess. Have a thousand baby mamas.

Think of Davido and think of your probably dead father.
The former might be a high riding junkie but he definitely smiles more everyday than your dead beat dad whose laughs come only in marriage anniversaries when he's told by a woman past her menopause that he was the best thing that happened to her.

You can be the best thing that's happened to many young girls in their 20s.

Work hard, retain your indominatable spirit and never settle for the 21st century marriage facade.


Edit. Oh, and if you're a girl reading this. Same thing applies. Don't lose your hot banging body bearing kids for a man who's only chasing you cos he needs companionship in his lonely world.

Society needs you to bear kids so society can continue. Hustle (or fvck your way to the top) and maybe when you're 35 you can consider giving up your body for those precious bundles of joy.

Damn, they did a number on you. You need therapy.

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Re: What Benefits Do Married Persons Enjoy Better Than Single People? by Nobody: 3:08pm On Mar 25, 2022
lexy2014:


Wait till you are 60 then you will tell us the story
But, you can rent and pay a house help

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Re: What Benefits Do Married Persons Enjoy Better Than Single People? by MadeINchenzen2: 3:09pm On Mar 25, 2022
JERRY1925:


Trust me, never done that.
congratulations... keep it that way. God's watching u if u lied to megrin
Re: What Benefits Do Married Persons Enjoy Better Than Single People? by lexy2014: 3:09pm On Mar 25, 2022
AheadMarket:

But, you can rent and pay a house help

To do what?

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