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Re: When Your Children Call The Police For Disciplining Them. by shantti(m): 4:03pm On Mar 28, 2022
Kobojunkie:
Also Russia, Germany and Arab nation in which the men you listed were raised weren't considered developed , not by today's standards. undecided

Well,the same excuse can also be considered for our politicians who have wrecked our country undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided

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Re: When Your Children Call The Police For Disciplining Them. by cocolacec(m): 4:08pm On Mar 28, 2022
DonroxyII:
African Parents will just transfer the demonic Frustrations and Depressions inside of them unto their children who is also Genetically suffering the same consequences. A stubborn mother will have a stubborn daughter.

What she would have done was to ask her to come in, Change cloth and take her for a Drive into the next restaurant far from Home: Then Have Heart2Heart talk. Something(Darkish) must have provoked her mentally to go ballistic on clothes like that usually from school(Boys/Girls) then such must be elicited from Her. But You went Ballistic too (Genetic Right there) grin like Mother like Daughter grin .... Na weyrey dem take dey solve weyrey in their House: Daughter goes Frenzy(Genetic: Stubbornness): Mother went wild(Genetic:Stubbornness): Police beg, beg she no gree, She warned warned her daughter she no gree : That's the Genetic Disorder right there: STUBBORNNESS grin
she only took after Her Mother and The Mum didn't know grin...

But she will never tell You what provoked her unless you come into her world, Show her you feel what she is feeling, You once passed through same and how you come out.... Then She will go Sober and Cry. Apologise and would never give a Damn about trying to proof a point to any Damn soul again in School or at Home:

Her Successes will become Sancrosanct nothing else will matter and you would have become Her best friend for all the campus Gists.

Anytime she remember how you spread her out inside that cold and call police on her and made her the Joke of the Resident: That's Future Stories You will hear from Her after she developed thick skin against You.

I think A Course should be created across universities all over the world on Child Management which must be compulsory for all couples. That's the newest evolution in the world.

Cc:
KanwuliaExtra

No vex me abeg o-o.... I never born self neither Married so I might never understand the practicals. But theoretically this will work because I have helped nurtured 5 of My Families Teenagers through University and the Only way I was able to take them all off the street was making them my friend.

I even had to smoke marijuana with one before I stopped him from smoking Kush. I landed in the hospital after some overdoze myself and we both quit. He is a Bigboy now as an Officer telling all Hears I raised him. My Joy is Boundless. He just keep spoiling me with Monies and the remaining four(4) will not make a huge Decision without asking for My Input. We are all Friends now:

So be a Friend with You Daughter before devil snatch her away. No vex Ma.

The problem with us all is that, If You can't manage yourself, You can't manage others:

A madman can't heal a Madman: One has to be Sane for the other to take a Cue on How Sanity Works grin

The Essence is for her to Understand in her own language not Your own language. You have to speak in her language as if You are part of Her class and clique: Then Gradually rise her brain above the Evils in that Clique ... then You will become her Saviour not the one who Shame Her: You are Wrong in Your Approach as You only wants to Proof to the World but Never to Your Daughter.

The Essence is for you to show her how to behave when faced with Challenges when Far from You: How not to Succumb to the World and trust me Weyrey(Madness) from both of you won't stop that because she will only have to wait till she can be away from You and She will do more than You bargained for. You would have failed as a Parent.

No vex again, I just wanna help a little: I full Ground for Nigeria so I don't understand how The System works overthere but I don't use cane:
I just enter into their Brain(With Reverse Pyschology) and Write what I want therein and Come out again with the door shut. Let them Process the rest and ask Questions: You would have influenced and Possessed them:

She will tell you before she even have Sex then gradually you manage the Obsessions therefrom so as to deliver her safely to Her Husband before somebody started calling you and asking you Shey two Maggie no go be too much for 1kg fish !

Enjoy:
Thumbs up.Good submission.Our style of parenting in Nigeria had only created monsters and demons and we now wonder why the society and the leaders lack empathy for others.The root cause is inflicting pains and violence.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zWXDTJQpwWg
Made this video sometime ago.

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Re: When Your Children Call The Police For Disciplining Them. by Kobojunkie: 4:10pm On Mar 28, 2022
shantti:
Well,the same excuse can also be considered for our politicians who have wrecked our country
Well, it doesn't really work as an excuse. I was just pointing out the facts since in your bid to post what I think was
meant as as rebuttal, you conveniently ignored some important details. undecided

Honestly I fail to see the connection between their upbringing and what those men went on to do.. undecided

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Re: When Your Children Call The Police For Disciplining Them. by Shokoloko(f): 4:12pm On Mar 28, 2022
shantti:


Maybe Hitler's case is different, but Putin being bullied doesn't attest to the fact that he was disciplined by his parents. Like I said before, what about the muderers, assasins, junkies and rapist in the developed countries where children aren't beaten if they do wrong

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Re: When Your Children Call The Police For Disciplining Them. by membranus: 4:12pm On Mar 28, 2022
PossibleG:
if this is your daughter she looks ugly grin

Are you at all okay in your head, abusing another's person daughter?

Let see your own picture here, and see whether you even measure up to the girl's beauty.

Crude people everywhere.

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Re: When Your Children Call The Police For Disciplining Them. by harmony75: 4:15pm On Mar 28, 2022
A child need to be corrected, and they're children that does not need beat just punishment. I don't buy this oyibo style!
Re: When Your Children Call The Police For Disciplining Them. by kingreign(m): 4:17pm On Mar 28, 2022
Shokoloko:


[s]Says a person who lives in Nigeria. From Nigeria who want to know what is truth and what is a lie in another country.
I said that the typical Nigerian is violent to anyone who does not share his/her point of view and you just proved it.

I know it cannot happen in Nigeria but in other countries see your proof below[/s]
K
Re: When Your Children Call The Police For Disciplining Them. by shantti(m): 4:18pm On Mar 28, 2022
Kobojunkie:
Well, it doesn't really work as an excuse. I was just pointing out the facts since in your bid to post what I think was
meant as as rebuttal, you conveniently ignored some important details. undecided

Honestly I fail to see the connection between their upbringing and what those men went on to do.. undecided

You didn't see any connection because you just jumped like a directionless wagon into an argument I was making with someone without even understanding the basis or foundation of our argument. You just like showing yourself. undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided

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Re: When Your Children Call The Police For Disciplining Them. by shantti(m): 4:20pm On Mar 28, 2022
[quote author=Shokoloko post=111444680][/quote]

Am talking about instilling discipline and not brutality. I agree that some parent don't understand the difference
Re: When Your Children Call The Police For Disciplining Them. by Kobojunkie: 4:22pm On Mar 28, 2022
shantti:
You didn't see any connection because you just jumped like a directionless wagon into an argument I was making with someone without even understanding the basis or foundation of our argument. You just like showing yourself.
Your statement was what was directionless and disconnected. I simply set out to make this apparent to you since you seemed under the delusion that it made sense as far as the topic. undecided

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Re: When Your Children Call The Police For Disciplining Them. by Solatium(m): 4:28pm On Mar 28, 2022
Shokoloko:

She is an economist. She knows already


Unfortunately,the violence they are talking about are Riot's,Civil unrest and War.
Those that are capable of shutting down the space,not domestic violence between spouse.
Child discpline is not even violence as you want us to believe.
Aunty quit misinformation grin

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Re: When Your Children Call The Police For Disciplining Them. by DonroxyII: 4:35pm On Mar 28, 2022
cocolacec:

Thumbs up.Good submission.Our style of parenting in Nigeria had only created monsters and demons and we now wonder why the society and the leaders lack empathy for others.The root cause is inflicting pains and violence.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zWXDTJQpwWg
Made this video sometime ago.
I watched the video but I don't really think it is worse than the Jungle grin ... Jungle is Evil and Devil Abode shocked Jungle where Lion, Tigers, Anaconda and Crocodiles, Hyena, Wild dogs Resides with Eagles ... Jungle has no Law grin

Nigerian Menance of Child Rearing is down to Systemic Frustrations: Only a Systemic Re-Evolution can help solve the menace.
I pity those parents too because You can work your ass up from morning till night only for a child to think He/she has monopoly over madness, an average parent will lose it easily abi no be just this "One Brain" !


Someone that's not Happy can't give Happiness: You can't give what you do not Have:

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Re: When Your Children Call The Police For Disciplining Them. by shantti(m): 4:37pm On Mar 28, 2022
Kobojunkie:
Your statement was what was directionless and disconnected. I simply set out to make this apparent to you since you seemed under the delusion that it made sense as far as the topic. undecided

Re-read what u just wrote, now read it again slowly this time. Does it make sense to u.

I was having a diplomatic argument with a lady who was ready to learn, somehow, somewhere u jumped in Midway and started countering an argument whose foundation u don't even understand.
Now rather than admit that you r in the wrong, u r still vomiting trash all in the guise of trying to be logical.
Nne, u must not always win every argument, thats what makes us human, try to learn at times undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided undecided

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Re: When Your Children Call The Police For Disciplining Them. by Nobody: 4:39pm On Mar 28, 2022
chiedozie198100:
[s]All of u praising the western world to high heavens, just shows how shallow and your level of inferiority complex.
-who says people don't steal parcels in abroad.
-who says there are no car jackers in abroad.
-if that ur heaven is that safe, why do people have to buy guns then
-go to any Walmart n u'll see a list of missing persons pasted on the front of the store, mostly minors
-westerners are amazed that we have what is called OMUGWU where u have someone help u out when u have a baby, not in their culture
-mind ur business is causing depression n loneliness abroad, neighbors don't talk to each other
ETC.

naija get issues, but my dear we still have our humanity. overall we are better human beings compared to the whites.

enough of this kolomentality.[/s]

Delete this Nonsense before 7 Market days.....

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Re: When Your Children Call The Police For Disciplining Them. by Nobody: 4:40pm On Mar 28, 2022
Hehe you should upload yours first let’s see asking me to upload my own pics like say u use juju
membranus:


Are you at all okay in your head, abusing another's person daughter?

Let see your own picture here, and see whether you even measure up to the girl's beauty.

Crude people everywhere.
Re: When Your Children Call The Police For Disciplining Them. by Kobojunkie: 4:41pm On Mar 28, 2022
shantti:
Re-read what u just wrote, now read it again slowly this time. Does it make sense to u.

I was having a diplomats argument with a lady who was ready to learn, somehow, somewhere u jumped in Midway and started countering an argument whose foundation u don't even understand.
Now rather than admit that you r in the wrong, u r staying vomiting trash all in the guise of trying to be logical.
Nne, u must not always win every argument, thats what makes us human, try to learn at times
Sure, sure.... l simply jumped in there to make certain only the facts were considered in that learning module you were brewing for her. undecided

Whatever the foundations of your conversation, introduction of baseless and hence meaningless dots don't help at all. undecided

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Re: When Your Children Call The Police For Disciplining Them. by Shokoloko(f): 4:42pm On Mar 28, 2022
Solatium:



Unfortunately,the violence they are talking about are Riot's,Civil unrest and War.
Those that are capable of shutting down the space,not domestic violence between spouse.
Child discpline is not even violence as you want us to believe.
Aunty quit misinformation grin

Uncle go and study. Google is your friend grin

Can you see that violent discipline at home can take off up to 19% of GDP
https://www.reuters.com/article/us-abuse-costs-idUSKBN0H41AL20140909

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Re: When Your Children Call The Police For Disciplining Them. by shantti(m): 4:54pm On Mar 28, 2022
Kobojunkie:
Sure, sure.... l simply jumped in there to make certain only the facts were considered in that learning module you were brewing for her. undecided

Whatever the foundations of your conversation, introduction of baseless and hence meaningless dots don't help at all. undecided

My God!!!! The foundation and introduction is baseless? R u kidding me? Lol! Is that your way of admitting defeat? So U r not intelligent enough to know the both the fact and the foundation are too intertwined to be considered a seperate entity. U can learn how to admit defeat in a more humbling way

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Re: When Your Children Call The Police For Disciplining Them. by Nobody: 4:58pm On Mar 28, 2022
chiedozie198100:


[s]most of this kids are traumatized by the AMERICAN experience.
the level of hate and bullying and racism these innocent kids face on a daily basis right from infancy is scary, mostly in school.
can u imagine where a 3 year old faces racism from everyone around him/her, even from so called adults- the teachers.
and who do they blame for this, the parents that yanked them from their normal existence in Africa n dumped them in the abroad, all in the name of greener pastures.

sadly we don't seem to realize this PANDEMIC going on in the African community.

i have taught in the American school system, it's heart wrenching the way African kids are treated in American schools. i faced my own dose of bullying, racism and passive aggression, even as a teacher, an adult. then u can imagine what these little ones go through[/s].

See no matter how you people try to potray this RACISM of a thing overseas, I will always be at the forefront to counter your claims. AFRICANS/BLACKS are worse off when It comes to deprivation, castigation and segregation Just to mention a few. I will proudly and gladly embrace the RACISM from those White Folks because I've weighed my options. I wouldn't want to go Into details on the kind of experience I'm currently having In my own legitimate abode. You can call It low self esteem, asslicking or whatever. What I know Is "When Life & Hand Touch You For Nigeria" You will have a rethink and wake up to your senses. Na when una don belleful and gain ground una go dey talk about racism. Why don't you Vex and donate your life savings and properties to their government and come back to Nigeria to start afresh. Na then you go know "REAL RACICISEEM"grin

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Re: When Your Children Call The Police For Disciplining Them. by Kobojunkie: 4:59pm On Mar 28, 2022
shantti:
My God!!!! The foundation and introduction is baseless? R u kidding me? Lol! Is that your way of admitting defeat? So U r not intelligent enough to know the both the fact and the foundation are too intertwined to be considered a seperate entity. U can learn how to admit defeat in a more humbling way
You claimed that Osama, Hitler, and Putin were raised in what is the developed world, but that claim is untrue. You also claimed their upbringing had some thing to do with their exploits as adults but there is no real connection to be had there. undecided

Wetin again... undecided

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Re: When Your Children Call The Police For Disciplining Them. by Solatium(m): 5:03pm On Mar 28, 2022
Shokoloko:


Uncle go and study. Google is your friend grin

Can you see that violent discipline at home can take off up to 19% of GDP
https://www.reuters.com/article/us-abuse-costs-idUSKBN0H41AL20140909


Not all information on Google are valid,your common sense precede Google,if you have a very sound education and a discerning mind it won't take you a while to figure out somethings.
You need to know what a GDP is in relation to Economy, and what a domestic violence is in relation to a child discpline, until when you are able to understand those and apply your common sense you won't get an answer. grin

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Re: When Your Children Call The Police For Disciplining Them. by Shokoloko(f): 5:10pm On Mar 28, 2022
Solatium:



Not all information on Google are valid,your common sense precede Google,if you have a very sound education and a discerning mind it won't take you a while to figure out somethings.
You need to know what a GDP is in relation to Economy, and what a domestic violence is in relation to a child discpline, until when you are able to understand those and apply your common sense you won't get an answer. grin
That you were not able to provide any references to refute mine means you do not know as well. There are several papers on this, I just chose one. Everyone else's cannot be wrong while Solatium's common sense is correct.
This is a public forum and you should be able to provide references to refute a claim not hiding behind the cloak of common sense. When Hitler was annihilating the Jews did you not think that he was applying his "common sense" in trying to ensure the purity of the Aryan race? Common sense is relative therefore our common sense cannot precede factual, thorough studies that have been made public on google.

BTW, My second educational degree is in Accounting, I know what GDP in relation to Economy is. What is your own second degree in?

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Re: When Your Children Call The Police For Disciplining Them. by Nobody: 5:13pm On Mar 28, 2022
This thread is an eye-opener oo. Already taking notes; thank you, OP, for opening this post. It is very informative. Already have a preteen, well-behaved; I pray that peer pressure will not influence her negatively. Although I always advise her to keep good friends who are serious about their academic goals.

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Re: When Your Children Call The Police For Disciplining Them. by Nobody: 5:16pm On Mar 28, 2022
Ishilove:

You are a marlian grin

grin grin grin grin grin grin
Re: When Your Children Call The Police For Disciplining Them. by Nobody: 5:21pm On Mar 28, 2022
KanwuliaBaby:


Good to see you madam B!❤️

Thank you!
I go show dem ke. cheesy
Dem go call police TAYA!

I told the police to please take anyone who can't tolerate the home rules. Do you know what the stupidd cops told me? angry

They said their “books” are full and there is no space in “the system”! Oh? shocked

It got to a stage I filed a complaint against the police dept for RACISM! tongue Arrrrrrrgh, they started sending only BLACK COPS to my house o!

If ANY CHILD DISOBEYS, I CALL THE POLICE!

I wore them out. grin

No one wants to call police any more o! cheesy
I became an EXPERT in calling the police.

If you nor wash plate- POLICE!
If your nor brush teeth- POLICE!
If you disobey curfew- POLICE!
If you nor do homework- POLICE!
If you use foul language at home- POLICE!

The police were tired of me o! I taught them and the children a gravvvve lesson.

Now, I can parent in. PEACE! cool

Hahahhahahahaha, I need your kind of energy .

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Re: When Your Children Call The Police For Disciplining Them. by Gerrard59(m): 5:26pm On Mar 28, 2022
Interesting comments. Good ol' KanwuliaExtra in action grin




To proponents of "send your child to Nigeria to study", I think it's actually a wrong idea because they miss out studying with their peers in the country of residence (say Canada) who will eventually become major players in the nation's economy. It's not like Nigeria is Indonesia or Brazil or Vietnam where the economy is growing rapidly and one's children get to participate by studying in Nigeria. Compared to say Chinese Americans whose children can afford to return to China where there are massive economic opportunities, it's not the same for Nigeria. Thus, that child who schooled at say Loyola Jesuit College or Grange Schools misses out on growing within the system s/he will eventually settle thereby relegating the child to the same level as an immigrant from the continent who emigrated for postgraduate studies.

The best option would be to play a full role in childcare as KanwuliaExtra does rather than send the child to a private school in Nigeria. The same place where perpetrators of Sylvester Oromoni and Keren-Happuch Aondoodo Akpagher murders haven't been brought to justice. And that my people is the major difference between saner climes and Nigeria - people are held accountable for their actions.

That said, better to raise a child in Singapore or Japan instead of the UK or US.

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Re: When Your Children Call The Police For Disciplining Them. by Nobody: 5:27pm On Mar 28, 2022
descarado:

I was not supposed to laugh but I have been laughing really hard here cheesy cheesy

Well done mama.
It's not easy especially with girls.

So far, so good in my home. Fingers crossed. The discipline I installed before crossing over helped a lot. For now.

I noticed what works again for me.

You misbehave, I will send you to boarding school in the countryside in Nigeria.

My vicinity is all white and their school all white.
Everytime, child service will pick on my kids and start their useless interrogation.
One day, I went cray cray on the school authority.
Said I will report them and child services for harassing my kids cos they are black grin

Since that day, everybody maintain their lane.

Even when one was admitted in hospital, these idiots were there asking him some stupid questions in front of me. I trust that one. He gave them befitting answer.

Have you retired as a nurse?


Oh wow, I will have to talk to my kids about keeping their mouths shut in case they get questioned by the school authorities or social service.

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Re: When Your Children Call The Police For Disciplining Them. by NairaMaster1(m): 5:35pm On Mar 28, 2022
KanwuliaExtra:
In Africa, no police station will entertain such complaints because corporal punishment is part of disciplining children.

Some parents go too far when they decide not to spare the “ROD”. Children have been maimed out of anger by parents or other adults incapable of self-restraint.


So, you people want to add this one now after you have legalized prostitution in Nigeria? Na waa
Re: When Your Children Call The Police For Disciplining Them. by Kobojunkie: 5:38pm On Mar 28, 2022
NairaMaster1:
So, you people want to add this one now after you have legalized prostitution in Nigeria? Na waa
Prostitution has been legalized in Nigeria? undecided

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Re: When Your Children Call The Police For Disciplining Them. by NairaMaster1(m): 5:44pm On Mar 28, 2022
Shokoloko:
What is the point of beating a 15 year old.
Any correction not given before 12 might be a waste as character is already formed. What were the parents doing all those years.

As much as the situation is sad I see a silver lining. The girl is not all that useless because she actually graduated, meaning she has some sense. She should channel the rejection into something good and make good use of her life.

She is not the one who banned her father from the house. She did the natural thing: if I was been beaten up the most natural thing would be to call a higher authority for help.

I pity your parents. Your dad right now!!

Re: When Your Children Call The Police For Disciplining Them. by Shokoloko(f): 6:00pm On Mar 28, 2022
NairaMaster1:


I pity your parents. Your dad right now!!


Lol, no need to pity them, They are happy and close to their grandkids. No violent discipline. Children's character are molded before age 12

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Re: When Your Children Call The Police For Disciplining Them. by ThamesWater: 6:04pm On Mar 28, 2022
KanwuliaBaby:

I told the police to please take anyone who can't tolerate the home rules. Do you know what the stupidd cops told me? angry

They said their “books” are full and there is no space in “the system”! Oh? shocked

If ANY CHILD DISOBEYS, I CALL THE POLICE!

I wore them out. grin

No one wants to call police any more o! cheesy
I became an EXPERT in calling the police.

If you nor wash plate- POLICE!
If your nor brush teeth- POLICE!
If you disobey curfew- POLICE!
If you nor do homework- POLICE!
If you use foul language at home- POLICE!

The police were tired of me o! I taught them and the children a gravvvve lesson.

Now, I can parent in. PEACE! cool

Funny but true and I'm sure your kids must have been dumbfounded at the above scenarios but they don't understand where you are coming from.

Raising kids in the West where black kids especially black boys are picked on by the institutionally racist system is not for the faint hearted.

I remember years ago in London when the nursery said my son was not talking fluently at age 2 and so they recommended speech therapy which I bluntly refused telling them that he would talk in his own time which he did.

Ffwd 2 years later when he was 4 and his teacher was in my opinion picking on him too much and I told her that if she does not leave him alone, I would report her to my father and she then asked who my father was and I pointed to the sky and said God is my father.

The UK is a place where the educational system picks on black boys disproportionately and my seeing how the system has encouraged single motherhood which may be a big reason black Carribean boys/men represent a disproportionately large population of british prison inmates had already preconditioned me before having kids that if i had a boy child in the UK, it would be fire for fire between me and the system if they tried any nonsense with my son.

Around age 4 the UK educational system dignosed my son as having ADHD and they recommended that I should take him to a special school. At first I obliged and took him to the so called "school" but alas on my first visit with my 4 year old son to the so called special school, i noticed that it was not actually a school building but a one storey house that could pass for a residential house and the only 2 pupils at the "school" was by 4 year old son and another black boy and the sole teacher was white, male and of Bobrisky's inclination (if you get my drift).

I already knew I was not leaving my son alone in this mans presence for even 1 second so I waited for the man to step out of line by shouting at my son for running around and i just stood up and dragged the boy out of the so called "school" telling the so called "teacher" that my son is no longer coming to his school and i took him back to the perplexed main stream school.

Their next step was to call me to round table meetings with various so called specialists with PHD's in different educational fields but when they see that my first question to them was to ask them if they were really doctor's with MBBS degrees or just had PHD's, they shockingly look at themselves with the knowing look that this one will not swallow anything we tell him and when the recommended that they put my son on some tablets to cure the so called ADHD, I bluntly refused.

What I did was to use "tough love" therapy at home and as my google research said not to give him apples or any food containing salicylates, i withdrew apples from his diet but I think it was the 2toughlove" that did the trick as i myself know that he was a handful as a child but i was not going to let them send him to a school house where he was one of the only 2 kids there and the teacher was an effeminate male and neither was i going to let them damage his brain with drugs.

When he was going from primary to secondary school, the primary school sent a file to the secondary school labelling him as special needs but i was not perturbed 'cos i knew that I was not going to take my eye off the ball as pertaining the close marking and tough love I showed him at home to straighten him out.

Also he was not allowed to roam around the neighbour hood after school or at weekends and i encured i created a tailored timetable for him on Saturdays that included study time / breaks and play time and in the bathroom i regularly pin positive affirmative quotes to the mirror so that my kids regularly see it as they are washing their hands.

Tough love at home did the trick with him and he is now a respected contributor to British society.

Coming back to your story, I know a couple in London where the 23 year old son was rude to the mom who reported him to his dad when the dad came home. Dad tries verbally correcting the son, leads to an argument that degenerated into a physical combat between the man and his 23 year old son .

As the physical combat between son and father progressed, the son was having the upper hand over his Dad (who was about 50 at the time) as the son was using some deadly choke holds he learnt in the gym on his dad and at some point he tied up his dad in some martial arts knot such that the dad could not move and had to cry out for help to his wife by frantically calling her name and saying he was tired and running out of breath at which point the mum had to bite her son in order to have him release the stranglehold on his Dad.

The woman told her son to leave the house and he refused and she then called the police whose first move was to try to arrest the woman's husband on arriving thinking it was a case of domestic violence until the woman told the cops it was not her husband but her son that she wanted thrown out of the house.

Another London parenting story was where a 10 year old Nigerian boy called the cops saying his mum beat him and when the cops knocked at the door the woman dragged her son to the door, opened the door and pushed the boy out of the flat in the cops direction telling the cops they could have him and telling her son that she wishes him well with his new parents and then she slammed the door shut and locked it.

It took a long time of the police pleading with her at her doorstep before she allowed the boy back into the house.

What some parents go through in the West in the hands of their children is better left imagined.

I even heard of another middle aged man who had a heart attack and died while raising his voice to discipline / shout at a misbehaving child or is it that nurse Mrs Kalejaiye who was stabbed to death by her 23 year old son in the same London (the son is now serving life in prison) .
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-essex-33204248

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