Hello guys and ladies.

Need your thoughts on the topic, what do you think about getting married to a very young lady and training her through school after marriage?

Background Story

I've been looking to settle down since the past 2 years and there has been no luck. The exposed and educated ones are a bit too difficult and proud. I love my women ambitious and educated, but the ones I keep meeting especially in Lagos don't seem interested.

As a young man in his late twenties, the temptations and causal flings aren't encouraging. I want to settle down soonest and focus on other things.

Now, there's this young girl I saw in my village the last time I traveled about 2 years ago, she should be around 20 right now. Very young and pretty but hasn't gained admission to school yet. She's the first born and her family aren't too comfortable. I was discussing about her with my mum, but my mum said she isn't in school yet. I'm thinking of funding her education, after getting married to her that is, since she's still young and very homely.

She's not my preference as I said earlier but the mature one's seem to be waiting for one Prince Charming to sweep them off their feet.

What do you guys think?

There's nothing wrong with it since you want to do this after getting married to her. Go ahead.

Hmmm
What are the benefits of been married as a Man
I need to understand this to answer your question

MadamVanessa:

She's too young right?

There's someone I met who is just 23 and a graduate already. If she got admission at age 18, she would have been in her 3rd year (save for the ASUU strike)

Snitch24:
Hmmm
What are the benefits of been married as a Man
I need to understand this to answer your question

Lol. Lots of benefits. I've seen how my Father raised 6 of us. His family is blessed. I will definitely love to get married because I've seen my Father do it successfully. My opinion.

CsRockefeller:


Lol. Lots of benefits. I've seen how my Father raised 6 of us. His family is blessed. I will definitely love to get married because I've seen my Father do it successfully. My opinion.

You still haven't mentioned any
bros

Must she go school?


Enrol her for one skill or trade?

If she don't know how to read or write then enrol her in one adult school

Generally, Honestly, Sincerely. Men dey try abeg! To be a man especially in this country is not easy. God bless every men out there.

Marriage introduction, man must spend money.
Traditional marriage man must spend money.
Church wedding, man must spend money.
Court marriage sef, man must spend money.
Man go still train wife and pikin go school
Man MUST still provide shelter, food, clothes and many other amenities for his wife and children.

I'm proud to be a man. Being a man is not a day's job. I salute all my fellow men out there

Snitch24:

You still haven't mentioned any
bros

Not my job to convince you bro. Do as you please, it's a free world.

CsRockefeller:


Not my job to convince you bro. Do as you please, it's a free world.

Then you shouldn't have brought it here as well
Na you ask question

Snitch24:

Then you shouldn't have brought it here as well
Na you ask question

Okay CinC.

CsRockefeller:
Hello guys and ladies.

Need your thoughts on the topic, what do you think about getting married to a very young lady and training her through school after marriage?

Background Story

I've been looking to settle down since the past 2 years and there has been no luck. The exposed and educated ones are a bit too difficult and proud. I love my women ambitious and educated, but the ones I keep meeting especially in Lagos don't seem interested.

As a young man in his late twenties, the temptations and causal flings aren't encouraging. I want to settle down soonest and focus on other things.

Now, there's this young girl I saw in my village the last time I traveled about 2 years ago, she should be around 20 right now. Very young and pretty but hasn't gained admission to school yet. She's the first born and her family aren't too comfortable. I was discussing about her with my mum, but my mum said she isn't in school yet. I'm thinking of funding her education, after getting married to her that is, since she's still young and very homely.

She's not my preference as I said earlier but the mature one's seem to be waiting for one Prince Charming to sweep them off their feet.

What do you guys think?

Bad move. I wouldn't advise you do this: you don't want to be in a situation where someone feels they could do better than you after attaining a certain level of exposure and education.

However, if you choose to go down this path, wait until you've done the proper marriage rites and she has like two kids for you and not before. This way, you've gained something out of the relationship peradventure shit hits the fan.

Be selfish, think of yourself first.

It’s better you marry and train her in school than train and marry later to avoid you coming back on nairaland and cry that she dumped you after wasting your money to train her.
My concern is if she starts having babies, will she still continue her studies?

CsRockefeller:


Okay CinC.

It's been a while dude.... how's life at your end?


My opinion on the topic is....try enroll her in handwork and set her up later... school na scam this days and she is an innocent village girl whom might grow wild on getting to campus....there are lots of distraction on campus that can make a nun become a single mom.

To avoid stories that touches the heart in future, train her informally and help develop her communication skills.

Happy married life in advance buddy.

Keep searching. You haven't found a wife yet. When you meet your wife, you will know

That shouldn't stop you from helping the innocent girl.

@Op

You said she's not your preference. By that statement alone, going into marriage with her isn't advisable as any such relationship would be standing on shaky foundation.

You definitely don't love her enough, and men unlike women, don't grow into love.

Marrying her and putting her through the family way before enrolling her in school might not change much. She's bound to get exposed to the cultures and settings of the youthful dynamics of the tertiary education environment. How she's going to react or respond to all this would be your greatest gamble and the odds are stacked against you on this one.

Marry your preference, even if it will cost your some couple more years. It will be worth it. Your chances of getting fed up or bored in your marriage would be much less than marrying someone you think is easy and convenient.

Impregnate her before sponsoring her to school.

After graduation, if she refuses marriage, I don't think you will be at a loss.

CsRockefeller:
Hello guys and ladies.

Need your thoughts on the topic, what do you think about getting married to a very young lady and training her through school after marriage?

Background Story

I've been looking to settle down since the past 2 years and there has been no luck. The exposed and educated ones are a bit too difficult and proud. I love my women ambitious and educated, but the ones I keep meeting especially in Lagos don't seem interested.

As a young man in his late twenties, the temptations and causal flings aren't encouraging. I want to settle down soonest and focus on other things.

Now, there's this young girl I saw in my village the last time I traveled about 2 years ago, she should be around 20 right now. Very young and pretty but hasn't gained admission to school yet. She's the first born and her family aren't too comfortable. I was discussing about her with my mum, but my mum said she isn't in school yet. I'm thinking of funding her education, after getting married to her that is, since she's still young and very homely.

She's not my preference as I said earlier but the mature one's seem to be waiting for one Prince Charming to sweep them off their feet.

What do you guys think?

Don't try it except u have married her, know her behavior very well and she has bear u children. Be wise!

CsRockefeller:
Hello guys and ladies.

Need your thoughts on the topic, what do you think about getting married to a very young lady and training her through school after marriage?

Background Story

I've been looking to settle down since the past 2 years and there has been no luck. The exposed and educated ones are a bit too difficult and proud. I love my women ambitious and educated, but the ones I keep meeting especially in Lagos don't seem interested.

As a young man in his late twenties, the temptations and causal flings aren't encouraging. I want to settle down soonest and focus on other things.

Now, there's this young girl I saw in my village the last time I traveled about 2 years ago, she should be around 20 right now. Very young and pretty but hasn't gained admission to school yet. She's the first born and her family aren't too comfortable. I was discussing about her with my mum, but my mum said she isn't in school yet. I'm thinking of funding her education, after getting married to her that is, since she's still young and very homely.

She's not my preference as I said earlier but the mature one's seem to be waiting for one Prince Charming to sweep them off their feet.

What do you guys think?

I am curious,

If the exposed and educated ladies you meet are proud but you like your women to be ambitious and educated, why do you think that when this lady is educated, probably to the highest level, she would not be proud? Also, why are those educated and ambitious ladies not interested in you as a husband-to-be?

Gerrard59:


I am curious,

If the exposed and educated ladies you meet are proud but you like your women to be ambitious and educated, why do you think that when this lady is educated, probably to the highest level, she would not be proud? Also, why are those educated and ambitious ladies not interested in you as a husband-to-be?

It's not only me. It's a common occurrence everywhere. I'm not the only guy in my workspace, I hear their conversations everyday. That's just my office, same in church, same on Facebook, same on Twitter.

It's like there's an embargo on these ladies finding a partner. I've met Bankers, Doctors, Accountants, Nurses, it's all the same story. Maybe I'm not buoyant enough financially.

CsRockefeller:


It's not only me. It's a common occurrence everywhere. I'm not the only guy in my workspace, I hear their conversations everyday. That's just my office, same in church, same on Facebook, same on Twitter.

OK, I see.

It's like there's an embargo on these ladies finding a partner. I've met Bankers, Doctors, Accountants, Nurses, it's all the same story. Maybe I'm not buoyant enough financially

The A - Z of Hypergamy.

Snitch24:

You still haven't mentioned any
bros

You're going to attract users.

You should finance your wife's education because you're a loving partner, not to treat your spouse like build-a-bear.

CsRockefeller:
Hello guys and ladies.

Need your thoughts on the topic, what do you think about getting married to a very young lady and training her through school after marriage?

Background Story

I've been looking to settle down since the past 2 years and there has been no luck. The exposed and educated ones are a bit too difficult and proud. I love my women ambitious and educated, but the ones I keep meeting especially in Lagos don't seem interested.

As a young man in his late twenties, the temptations and causal flings aren't encouraging. I want to settle down soonest and focus on other things.

Now, there's this young girl I saw in my village the last time I traveled about 2 years ago, she should be around 20 right now. Very young and pretty but hasn't gained admission to school yet. She's the first born and her family aren't too comfortable. I was discussing about her with my mum, but my mum said she isn't in school yet. I'm thinking of funding her education, after getting married to her that is, since she's still young and very homely.

She's not my preference as I said earlier but the mature one's seem to be waiting for one Prince Charming to sweep them off their feet.

What do you guys think?

lets take away your plans and focus on two things

1 pressure from society and families to see her pregnant within a year --- this might affect education plans ( families and society has no clue on your plans somehow they might put pressure on you or both

2 the two of being young regular se.x increases unplanned pregancy which might affect the plans for education or period of education

Love fades

Why topping up your stress?

MrHighSea:
Why topping up your stress?

The ones he doesn't have to spend money on their education because they are already graduates are exposed, are a bit too difficult and proud for his liking.

The question will be, what will stop a lady who got married as a SSCE holder, have some kids before embarking on tertiary education becoming "exposed, bit too difficult and proud" after graduation?

Do not fund her education, in order to avoid stories that touch the heart.

Young man, better channel your energy into something else, until u are more matured to handle all these daughters of eve.
From your write-up, I can see an emotional being in u, u don't use emotion on daughters of eve.
This gat to be your worst mistake in life if u dare sponsor any daughter of eve in school. Go and ask people more matured and advanced than u

CsRockefeller:
Hello guys and ladies.

Need your thoughts on the topic, what do you think about getting married to a very young lady and training her through school after marriage?

Background Story

I've been looking to settle down since the past 2 years and there has been no luck. The exposed and educated ones are a bit too difficult and proud. I love my women ambitious and educated, but the ones I keep meeting especially in Lagos don't seem interested.

As a young man in his late twenties, the temptations and causal flings aren't encouraging. I want to settle down soonest and focus on other things.

Now, there's this young girl I saw in my village the last time I traveled about 2 years ago, she should be around 20 right now. Very young and pretty but hasn't gained admission to school yet. She's the first born and her family aren't too comfortable. I was discussing about her with my mum, but my mum said she isn't in school yet. I'm thinking of funding her education, after getting married to her that is, since she's still young and very homely.

She's not my preference as I said earlier but the mature one's seem to be waiting for one Prince Charming to sweep them off their feet.

What do you guys think?

You are going to get married to that lady for the wrong reasons. You just feel she will agree because her family is poor, I even think you want her (despite the fact she's not your preference) because you think she will be swept off her feet by a guy from Lagos which might sound better to her than other village prospects.


Since you see the educated ones are difficult and proud, you will also see this young lady as proud after her education.

Hmmm