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TiffanyJ:
Thanks a million

You're welcome. Look at your contact list and get what you know will sell fast and better (mustn't really be among the things I listed 9
Get a good supplier that wouldn't add his/her family problem to the price so that when you add your own gain it wouldn't be outrageous or too high.

breeezefe:
Thanks to all the mamas in the house who have shared their experiences and been a source of encouragement to be you.

One thing you should not fail to take out of their advice is "fight for yourself and the future of your kids".

If all you have narrated here is the way your marriage has been, then you really need to have a rethink. Forever is a long-time to be strong.

You can't hear all that has been happening to women in different homes and you still sit back and say "you're selfless and quiet".

No one is suggesting you leave your marriage. But you need to shake the table a little.

May God's grace remain sufficient for us all

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Omakraid:
Which team you Dey jare as I bin don Dey eye you tey tey.. Make I no guess

Lol. August team. Your eye don red by now

Lemonadewifey:
@TiffanyJ.
Dropshipping is a means of advertising goods given to you at wholesale price while you add your own gain.
You don't need capital to start it. Just make sure the goods you're advertising is what you're sure of.
For example, you can get someone that sells clothes, shoes, bags or hair, get the items at a reasonable price, add your own gain and just advertise.
Whoever needs what you've advertise pays to you then you remove your gain and pay your supplier who in turn waybills the good to your customer.
You've made your gain and customer is happy.

Thanks

Lemonadewifey:
You're welcome. Look at your contact list and get what you know will sell fast and better (mustn't really be among the things I listed 9
Get a good supplier that wouldn't add his/her family problem to the price so that when you add your own gain it wouldn't be outrageous or too high.

My sister, thank u

FlowerGirl040:
Lol. August team. Your eye don red by now

Hahahaaa, I talk am joor. Do chinchin and waybill for me ooo cos I dey see well well.... See me smiling anyhow..
Please take care of yourself and no self medications oo... Any slight changes to your body should make you find your way to the hospital and please avoid that Nurse,, yes that nurse. Tenkiu

Lemme just chip-in this
I love all the women here but please as virtuous women pls

1. Lets respect our husband, men love respect, they feel like kings when respected, respect in the areas of, cooking what he wants, keeping his clothes in the manner he loves and other little things that makes him happy

2. Communication: sometimes we women assume that he man knows (oh he sees it so he knows), no its not like that. Open your mouth and talk, talk politely, as for me I can shout and talk for one hour for him to get the message, but in all know when to talk and don't say things that will hurt both of you

3. Be quick to forgive: when beef happens be quick to resolve the issue, don't go on for days keeping malice, always look for solution quick and allow joy and peace in the home

4. Appreciate and compliment him: when last did u kiss your husband? When last did you tell him you love him? Please I beg us, appreciate him no matter what, tell him you see all his effort and you appreciate him, when he dresses up, tell him he looks cute make him happy

5. Free your heart: make sure you are happy, take yourself out, or take him out, even if its just an evening walk, or any karaoke place.

May God bless our homes and may we enjoy our marriages, there shall not be any separation or bad news.
We all will grow old in peace, joy, love and happiness with our kids and DH, may GOD help us. Amen

FlowerGirl040:
Thanks and I understand, everyone can't be the same,yes I shake the table but there is a limit. Shaking much table and acting tough is a straight and easy asses to divorce, yes he will divorce with no second thought. But then he can also keep a woman he doesn't want to divorce but be tormenting her emotionally. Not as if I am scared of divorce,never. I am still very young,I got married very early but I need to start earning my own money first before taking action,I mean standing my ground, shakes the table a little. If he ends up telling me to leave now,where is the money to take care of myself and the kids. Afterall no woman leave his house and go with the kids,that's his policy. Then Fighting him in court needs money,where is the money for now? Whenever he made a statement of *look no man will marry you if you leave my house,no sane man will marry a woman with children,not in this era* I will just smile and tell him my life doesn't revolve around you or any man not by force to marry besides don't say yet Bec you are not the one that created me,leave me to my God. Then he takes offence. Me I have talk my own,wetin concern me.

Exactly my point. Getting yourself to be independent is the only "table shaking" you need right now.

But in all, God is close, consistent and caring. You will pull through this

Omakraid:
Hahahaaa, I talk am joor. Do chinchin and waybill for me ooo cos I dey see well well.... See me smiling anyhow..
Please take care of yourself and no self medications oo... Any slight changes to your body should make you find your way to the hospital and please avoid that Nurse,, yes that nurse. Tenkiu

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Vivi01:
My Omaye Don vex o

Ha omaye e reach to vex ooo, na Reverend sis I wan be ooo before God say make I marry, see as person dey do research on top the marriage institution

FlowerGirl040:
Self medication ke! I dey mad? first trimester was a bit tough for me,I complained bitterly and he has no option than to do the cookings o (with complains every now and then that I left my responsibilities for him) But as I enter second trimester and he see say I don get strength,he left everything for me,my children will help me with little works Sha,but the cooking,I must cook and wash clothes, though not always,my daughter will help me out sometimes with the clothes anyhow,even when I have little complain he will just throway face and said he has done enough for me already when I was sick in first trimester. Na to force myself enter kitchen for the children sake. I avoided that nurse like plague and I already told him,he has no option as I already accuse him of making me lost my babies.

It's good you are now more watchful, God will see us through.. Make I run go quote one old post

FlowerGirl040:
Hahaha abeg I no fit laugh,angelrachy. The name fit you

As in ehn am imagining it already o White cloths, long hair and my wings with violin sha. Me and baby dey play ooo he never sleep inside belle if I touch am he go rub me and kick.

FlowerGirl040:
As for Omakraid she go hear from me because she never talk true I talk am say she see me for dream maybe to be Godmother dey hungry her ma sef

Omakraid:

An old Post. For real? you are funny

ladyrachy:
As in ehn am imagining it already o White cloths, long hair and my wings with violin sha. Me and baby dey play ooo he never sleep inside belle if I touch am he go rub me and kick.

Lol you and this your baby ehn!

FlowerGirl040:
An old Post. For real? you are funny

Yes oo... Glad you are happy now.

Omakraid:
Yes oo... Glad you are happy now.

Cappo thanks for checking up on us ooo, Am doing fine waiting for baby to come ooo, because the tiredness no be here.... I pray for easy and smooth delivery for us all and congratulations to those that already gave birth...I no too dey come online but I will submit my BS whenever I give birth insha'Allah

miracletoday:
April mamas,how are we doing?lets hear from u.Dont leave me hanging. We just want to know u are fairing well. His mercy will speak for us at that hour and beyond(amen)
1.Nancyij...............13th........XX
2.Miracletoday......22nd .............XY
3.Jumyte29............26th........XY
4.ChizziCindy.........21st.......XX
5.CuddleJoy.......... 29th.......XX
6.Orimipe...............24th ......XX
7.Comanche...........26th..............XY
8.Jcuttie..?
9.He2nuholuwa...?

Mummytoo:
Lemme just chip-in this
I love all the women here but please as virtuous women pls

1. Lets respect our husband, men love respect, they feel like kings when respected, respect in the areas of, cooking what he wants, keeping his clothes in the manner he loves and other little things that makes him happy

2. Communication: sometimes we women assume that he man knows (oh he sees it so he knows), no its not like that. Open your mouth and talk, talk politely, as for me I can shout and talk for one hour for him to get the message, but in all know when to talk and don't say things that will hurt both of you

3. Be quick to forgive: when beef happens be quick to resolve the issue, don't go on for days keeping malice, always look for solution quick and allow joy and peace in the home

4. Appreciate and compliment him: when last did u kiss your husband? When last did you tell him you love him? Please I beg us, appreciate him no matter what, tell him you see all his effort and you appreciate him, when he dresses up, tell him he looks cute make him happy

5. Free your heart: make sure you are happy, take yourself out, or take him out, even if its just an evening walk, or any karaoke place.

May God bless our homes and may we enjoy our marriages, there shall not be any separation or bad news.
We all will grow old in peace, joy, love and happiness with our kids and DH, may GOD help us. Amen

This your list is for good men that deserve it, the wicked ones don’t deserve it.. it’s this virtuous women talk that makes some women stay in bad marriages and end up frustrated or even dying..

FlowerGirl040:
I lost him same year I lost my beloved mother,and same day my eldest child added a year +. After his death,I will carry all the baby things,both the one he used and not yet used,sniff them and cry silently,when my other kids aren't around. After 4 months I took in again,and I was happy,at least it will help alot to ease my heart. But what happened? I fell sick,hubby refused me to go to hospital,he said he will call his nurse instead,he bought drugs,my sickness still persisted and he wasn't happy I was down,he came home one night with another set of drugs saying this one is strong and will make me better,my instinct was rejecting it,I told him these ones are too strong for me,I will call my doctor,this man started nagging that so I am calling him senseless and don't know what is good for his own wife? Last last he forced me to take it in his presence,big big drugs o. The next morning I carry phone to check Google and what I saw shocked me. I started panicking. I can't go out to see a doctor,where is the money? He made me a full house wife,wetin I go carry use?

I told him what I found out,he started nagging again and forced me to take it,what Happened next? I started bleeding when he was not at home,before I knew it,the little festus there was out,it has already form sef,tiny hands,legs but no hair or sex yet. I was so traumatized,oya let me go to the hospital to do scan,he said ok. He keeps delaying till blood flow stopped.
After a week blood started flowing again,mind you I was still spitting and vomiting all this while. I started getting weak,see heavy clots of blood,my sister you go fear,I fainted more than twice, that was when I was rushed to the hospital and it was confirm there is a little product left and placenta,my dear I went through another horrible evacuation. That was how I lost my twins baby again. I shared this here, because I know other Mamas will learn one or two things.

I don't know if I should share what also lead to my one month old babys death. Hmmm.

You really are a strong woman. That was careless on your dh part. So sorry for your loss ma. I pray God gives you peace in your heart.

FlowerGirl040:
All my children,I don't reach EDD,that's my nature,so when I was 37 weeks, contraction started,not serious,1cm but the nurse was saying I should go and relax besides my tummy is small,seems i didn't know my LMP. Ah! I told her but you know me very well na bec that's the hospital I have been using,she insisted. I vex see doctor himself, he told me to go for exercise and let's see. To cut the story short,I was in on and off labour for over a week,this people refuse me to go for induction,not that I have ever had CS o. With this I fell sick,so serious. By this time it's already past my edd. This same nurse complaining of my tummy treated me,she ask me to come for injection later. (That's the nurse my husband instructed me to see) I went there and she wasn't around,the other nurse was surprised I was ask to take that particular injection,it was after she administer it to me she told me I am not supposed to take it according to her understanding since I am past edd. Well,The nurse kept complaining my stomach is not big for a 9month old. Hubby said this is the closest hospital and his family hospital,they do attend.(thou they have 2 family hospitals) I have to make use of the hospital. See me see labour pains on and off. The horrible thing is that ever since my labour started,my urine change colour not knowing it's my water that is coming out bit by bit till it dried up.(to me it was that injection that caused everything) After a week and some days,I was like if I die now,what about my children and this man will marry another wife sef. Na so I vex pack my bag go hospital around 11pm in the night. I met the absence of doctor (private hospital) i explained everything to nurse. She gave me a tablet to put under my tongue,I returned home,took a shower by this time,real labour don start,I went back to hospital with my husband Sha,he left me there and instructed them to take care of me as there are other kids at home alone. (Mind you after I did scan at week 20, I wanted to do another again when I was 7months,hubby refused,he said no need nah since I have no Complain. I don't know I just have this strong feelings to do scan and check how baby was doing by then. Well I have no money on my own so I can't possibly go if he did not agree or give me money.)

I gave birth before 2hrs. Mid night o,the nurses where surprised I gave birth so easy with no water at all,total dried up,they said I am so lucky. Baby was making one kind sound,but it disappeared after a day. Up till his death, right from when I gave birth to him,he didn't cry. I lay my concern to hubby he said he will cry. My baby refuse breastmilk,even water sef,if I use spoon or feeding bottle everything will be pouring out from his corner mouth,it's like he can't swallow anything I was so scared and frustrated,let us take this child to general hospital,hubby said what for? His sisters and aunty talk,he said no need. Even when I bath him,no cry at all. All he does is to sleep,he only open his eyes for seconds. My instinct was just not at rest,I just know I will lost this child. That's how I manage till some days to his one month old,I will cry secretly at night holding my baby, praying to God to make me hear my baby's voice even for once bec it's as if there is no baby at home at all. A day to his death. I heard a sharp shout,I discovered it was my baby,I was thinking he's coming to terms of been in the world and not in the womb anymore,not knowing my baby will soon depart and just wanted me to hear his voice . Something yellowish liquid started coming out from his mouth. I called my husband on phone to come home let's take him to hospital,by this time I have started crying,he came home and said he will get him drugs. Ah!! Him and self medication!! It was after he left I went to carry baby,I discovered his body is kind of cold,I put my fingers in his mouth to open his teeth,for where,it was strong. By the time I know my baby was gone but I refuse to admit it. I left him on the bed,go to the kitchen,to prepare lunch. But still checking on him. When hubby came back I told him what's happening. I never knew he knows he is dead already but don't know how to tell me. He later did tell me after an hour Sha. And that was when I broke down. So my baby left me,I started thinking how I got pregnant,the labour pains, everything and I couldn't hold back my tears. When my children heard that their baby brother is dead,they started crying with me too. Let me stop here.
I am crying here already. Ignore any errors pls.

This is a negligence from the part of the hospital and hubby's behavior of I know what I am doing,I am the man of the house and I can never be wrong attitude. But then my life was at stake foolish me

It is well with you mama. I've not heard of hospital discharging a baby that didn't cry from birth before so why would they do that?. But your dh is worst. Whether it is carelessness o or negligence abi he doesn't want to spend money I don't know. They don't understand what women go through and just toy with somebody's life. Chai!

Mama you need to try and start saving small small money even if its from you feeding money. Get a piggy bank or anything you can use and start saving up. He knows you can't do anything on you even if you want to so he wants you to be completely dependent on him. That's his strongest power over you.

FlowerGirl040:
Salary ke! If he needs money,he will ask if anybody give me money or just go straight to my things and start searching if there is money anywhere. Thanks.

Wetin I go do,I don't know any contraceptive that's good for me that I can take without his knowledge,and also since he knows I easily get pregnant,if getting pregnant is taking time,na to start asking questions or go straight to my bags and start searching if there's drugs anywhere. I no kukuma get any serious friend. The 2 ladies I am friends with are both known through him, you get?

Searching your things to find money he didn't give you or what? SMH! Permit my asking how many kids do you have already? If much already, discuss family planning with him you are not a baby factory plus the trauma and his negligence from previous experiences can be scaring.

dunpredictable:
It is well with you mama. I've not heard of hospital discharging a baby that didn't cry from birth before so why would they do that?. But your dh is worst. Whether it is carelessness o or negligence abi he doesn't want to spend money I don't know. They don't understand what women go through and just toy with somebody's life. Chai!

Mama you need to try and start saving small small money even if its from you feeding money. Get a piggy bank or anything you can use and start saving up. He knows you can't do anything on you even if you want to so he wants you to be completely dependent on him. That's his strongest power over you.

Lol. Saving money from where? Where is the feeding money? If foodstuffs finish,there is a standby person he will send to the market, it's not bad in a way Sha,shey he wan do wahala make he do,just that I don't have the opportunity to buy whatever I like or better ingredients to cook with. If I write list na the important ones (according to him) he will buy. Any little change I opportuned to have,it's to buy airtime o,or data. My phone and my children are my companion.

dunpredictable:
Searching your things to find money he didn't give you or what? SMH! Permit my asking how many kids do you have already? If much already, discuss family planning with him you are not a baby factory plus the trauma and his negligence from previous experiences can be scaring.

Forget family planning,he is totally against it. Thou I myself I don't know the best one to go for as I don't like the reviews of the ones I read online. But I can't just do it on my own without his knowledge,that's definitely 3rd world war in my home and marriage. His only accepted family planning is withdrawal method.

You should not be taking drugs for 134/87 it is still within the range.

Your worrying alone increases BP. Try and calm down and relax your mind.

omotolanibaby:
I was also given this combination of drugs too for my bp,but I boy all my drugs in the hospital.they always have aldomet.

ladyrachy:
Hahahahaha I and hubby are both from kogi state ,schooled in Ayingba same level and department. Same tribe sef we dey like brother and sister even till now pple doubt we are married. upon say I tell God that I no want igala, wish i schooled in lagos i for marry another tribe,he just give me wetin I no want. Well in my next life I no marry and I will not be an igala lady simple,I won remain for heaven as angel jare

lol... Everybody no wan come bk frm heaven again ooo... Na d new slang b dis

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A man's view.

I attended a wedding last weekend. The Pastor said he won't preach Love and Respect. Every failed and failing marriage began with those. He rather hit hard on Wisdom and Understanding.

It's absolutely wrong for a man to say "If you leave my house no man will marry you".

Healthy communication and killing the malice before it starts helped me. @Mummy mentioned this.

Little things can annoy sm1. I think I can bear seeing you kiss another guy than uncleanliness. Give her millions of dollar and deprive her cuddles, and hell will be let lose and I'll start spending more time in beer parlours.

I came to understand that, cuddles is the "I'm Sorry" and proffering solutions moments.

Let's not stop seeking for Wisdom and Understanding.

The same God that gives us bouncing LOs will keep our families united so the LOs don't bounce out of complete parental care.

voucher:
This your list is for good men that deserve it, the wicked ones don’t deserve it.. it’s this virtuous women talk that makes some women stay in bad marriages and end up frustrated or even dying..

If we are rating good men, what about the women. We accepted them the way they are before we married them, so let's give love a chance
With my old attitude before, even me I no go marry myself, but he married me and changed me
No perfect man, no perfect woman, let's try to make it work

kokaiye:
omakraid... I was afraid to say dis cs how cn a drug b so strong it evacuated an already formed twins... D worst any inappropriate medicatn 4 preggy women can do is deform baby but aborting??!!! Smtin smell fishy.... Dt e was even forcin her to tk d drug... Smtin aint right.

Just reading through so many comments and am just smiling, u know sometimes as a woman it's good to take ur stand, nobody I repeat no body can force me to take any drug even it's paracetamol especially when I know my condition, if d man won hit head for wall let him ooo cos if it's wot will lead to death nko?

MrHighSea:
A man's view.

I attended a wedding last weekend. The Pastor said he won't preach Love and Respect. Every failed and failing marriage began with those. He rather hit hard on Wisdom and Understanding.

It's absolutely wrong for a man to say "If you leave my house no man will marry you".

Healthy communication and killing the malice before it starts helped me. @Mummy mentioned this.

Little things can annoy sm1. I think I can bear seeing you kiss another guy than uncleanliness. Give her millions of dollar and deprive her cuddles, and hell will be let lose and I'll start spending more time in beer parlours.

I came to understand that, cuddles is the "I'm Sorry" and proffering solutions moments.

Let's not stop seeking for Wisdom and Understanding.

The same God that gives us bouncing LOs will keep our families united so the LOs don't bounce out of complete parental care.

Thanks for the input sir