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Na who wear shoe,no where their pain AM.

Las las you come buy the rice. Lodging 17k, police 5-10k , Olosho 4k......

APC2:
I created this new account to hide my identity.

We live in a highbrow area in Ogun state with one Kid of 2 years. My wife is not working, she is attending a university in Ogun state where we lived. My wife always watch African Magic, Zee World or running from one prayer house to another. She does not respect me at all. Living with her for 3 years now is hell on earth.

Yesterday, she told me that she attended a program conducted by a prayer ministry and the the General Overseer, a woman told her to bring a bag of rice as a seed. I told her I don't have money to buy a bag of rice for a ministry I don't know anything about. She got angry and told me that I must give her the money before I go to work. To my greatest surprise, she block the door and told me that I am not going anywhere until I give her the money for the bag of rice that the woman of God need the rice that yesterday. I got angry and tried to push her, she gave me a heavy slap and began to shout and insulting me using English so that every neighbour will hear. I was so ashamed and forced my myself out of the flat, she ran after me, held my clothe and tear it down.

I return back to my flat, carry a cable wire and beat her until she couldn't stand up. I'm an operation manager in my company, I went to work, took excuse and went to police station. I carried two police to arrest the general overseer, when we got there, she started swearing that she did not tell my wife to bring any rice, that it is my wife that volunteer to bring. The police did not arrest her again. I returned to office and notify her parents.

Her parents came in the night and after I explained to them, they insulted their daughter and apologize to me. I told my wife to follow her parents she refused.

So about 12:00 midnight, my wife started again, threatening me that she will deal with me, talking loudly again that I called her parents to come and insult her and she will pay me back in a way that I will regret knowing her.

When I couldn't sleep, I went out of the house at about 2:00AM to look for a near-by hotel to sleep. Immediately I entered the hotel, a young lady standing in front of the hotel followed me to the reception. I was thinking she want to book a room as well. The receptionist told me that the available room is 17, 000. I accepted and paid. I was directed to the room and as I entered, somebody knocked the door. I open the door and it was the young lady that followed me to the reception when I was entering the hotel. Before I knew she entered the room and said, "oga, I will do you well, na just 4,000 you go give me". She started touching me and I told her to stop it. I was so disturb by wife problems and I needed someone to talk with. So I accepted the lady. We spent the night together and had sex twice. This is my first time of having sex with another woman since I married in 2019.

I am always at home with my family when I return from work and I think my wife is taking that for granted. I will be going out from now to meet other women. I am completely tired of the marriage and I am considering marrying another wife that can give me peace and respect.

APC2:
My father told me that I should marry another wife before talking about divorce. That when I give my attention to the second wife, my only wife now will regret and change. And I am also considering my son too. I can take care of two wives comfortalbly.

You can take care of 2 wives comfortably but you can't buy 1 bag of rice for peace to reign.

You think the other wife won't have her own type of toxicity right?

Ashawo man, because of anger you went to hotel and cheated on your wife. Hope the lady didn't infect you with STDs?

Mooh247:




What a silly woman

Abeg Oga for the sake of your child try and work things out with her , I know it must be hard hustling for money and still getting no peace of mind at home or common appreciation

Till she gets her senses back, avoid her as much as possible because domestic violence and assualt is a crime that would completely destroy you and your reputation and nobody would listen to your side of the story


.

Avoid her in the same house until the frustrated b1tch sends him to his grave by killing or at worse frustrating him? Very anyhow and somehow advice!

Candidlady:


Your wife cfvkd up hitting you was something she shouldn't have done.

But since you also pulled a wire on her iguess you guys are even.


You paid iPo that followed you to the so called pastor's place. Amount unknown


your booked over night 17 thou'

You paid a sex worker 4 thou'

Sure you got high on some liquor and prolly got food. Amount unknown

How much is a bag of rice.?

Don't get me wrong iam not in support of what your wife did. Matter of fact Ihate lousy ladies


don't forget you have a kid... just hope it is not a boy child and if it is then ireally do not care whatever happens to him as a result of your toxic marriage/relationship

Tnx for d calculation. You helped us expose one of the many made up stories that litter nairaland

APC2:
My father told me that I should marry another wife before talking about divorce. That when I give my attention to the second wife, my only wife now will regret and change. And I am also considering my son too. I can take care of two wives comfortalbly.

Your father is a wise man

APC2:
My father told me that I should marry another wife before talking about divorce. That when I give my attention to the second wife, my only wife now will regret and change. And I am also considering my son too. I can take care of two wives comfortalbly.

You only want to add salt to injury. If you can't handle one then you surely can't handle more. You need to be more matured before thinking of a second wife.

Both men and women have a lot of work to do when choosing a parent for their children. May God help us

lexy2014:
Tnx for d calculation. You helped us expose one of the many made up stories that litter nairaland

He might have many to calm himself not useless pastor

APC2:
I created this new account to hide my identity.

We live in a highbrow area in Ogun state with one Kid of 2 years. My wife is not working, she is attending a university in Ogun state where we lived. My wife always watch African Magic, Zee World or running from one prayer house to another. She does not respect me at all. Living with her for 3 years now is hell on earth.

Yesterday, she told me that she attended a program conducted by a prayer ministry and the the General Overseer, a woman told her to bring a bag of rice as a seed. I told her I don't have money to buy a bag of rice for a ministry I don't know anything about. She got angry and told me that I must give her the money before I go to work. To my greatest surprise, she block the door and told me that I am not going anywhere until I give her the money for the bag of rice that the woman of God need the rice that yesterday. I got angry and tried to push her, she gave me a heavy slap and began to shout and insulting me using English so that every neighbour will hear. I was so ashamed and forced my myself out of the flat, she ran after me, held my clothe and tear it down.

I return back to my flat, carry a cable wire and beat her until she couldn't stand up. I'm an operation manager in my company, I went to work, took excuse and went to police station. I carried two police to arrest the general overseer, when we got there, she started swearing that she did not tell my wife to bring any rice, that it is my wife that volunteer to bring. The police did not arrest her again. I returned to office and notify her parents.

Her parents came in the night and after I explained to them, they insulted their daughter and apologize to me. I told my wife to follow her parents she refused.

So about 12:00 midnight, my wife started again, threatening me that she will deal with me, talking loudly again that I called her parents to come and insult her and she will pay me back in a way that I will regret knowing her.

When I couldn't sleep, I went out of the house at about 2:00AM to look for a near-by hotel to sleep. Immediately I entered the hotel, a young lady standing in front of the hotel followed me to the reception. I was thinking she want to book a room as well. The receptionist told me that the available room is 17, 000. I accepted and paid. I was directed to the room and as I entered, somebody knocked the door. I open the door and it was the young lady that followed me to the reception when I was entering the hotel. Before I knew she entered the room and said, "oga, I will do you well, na just 4,000 you go give me". She started touching me and I told her to stop it. I was so disturb by wife problems and I needed someone to talk with. So I accepted the lady. We spent the night together and had sex twice. This is my first time of having sex with another woman since I married in 2019.

I am always at home with my family when I return from work and I think my wife is taking that for granted. I will be going out from now to meet other women. I am completely tired of the marriage and I am considering marrying another wife that can give me peace and respect.

The talk of say you still wan marry another woman na hin off me, so na so you go dey marry upandan when your wives begin misbehave? Leave conscience aside and just dey knack craze but remain with your wife, when she notice your withdrawal nobody go tell her before she go go back to factory settings.

Candidlady:


Your wife cfvkd up hitting you was something she shouldn't have done.

But since you also pulled a wire on her iguess you guys are even.


You paid iPo that followed you to the so called pastor's place. Amount unknown


your booked over night 17 thou'

You paid a sex worker 4 thou'

Sure you got high on some liquor and prolly got food. Amount unknown

How much is a bag of rice.?

Don't get me wrong iam not in support of what your wife did. Matter of fact Ihate lousy ladies


don't forget you have a kid... just hope it is not a boy child and if it is then ireally do not care whatever happens to him as a result of your toxic marriage/relationship

Shut up Ugly gal, everytime na so u go de talk trash 4 dis Nairaland without any reasonable statements,
I still wonder hw old ar u 2 be reasoning lik dis

Oga u till in d early stage that one of d red flank when a woman respect d church more than her home
Guy move on Abeg if she refuse to move u move for yur sanity sake

justicechichex:
The things i read on NL daily eh.. Haba.

Omoh this marriage of a thing no be beans and bread ohh.

The result of "woke" generation of women who believe talking back and disrespecting their man is the way to go!

Bros I will never advise you to divorce your wife, if u earn more, try to establish her, the character she displayed was a bad one but u have to sort it out, know the kind of friends she keeps and what the Men of God tells her, keeping her busy and mixing with people will make her understand life better, with the economy of these country, second wife is not ideal, remember every woman has her own Wahala, handle with care

17k for hotel
4k for Toto with disease

Total of 21k

Bros how much remain to buy bag of rice ?

Una go just dey give unaselves unnecessary headaches
Where una dey see these women wey they gather mind slap una sef ?

I don marry my wife for 12years now with 3 beauty’s children
I never shout for her once , if I give her eye signal sef she go shake

If I come just frown face for her she go cry sef
That’s bc she know say normally I be sweet guy but I still get bad guy side inside of me and she no go like experience am

Make una no dey force ashawo into marriages abeg

Marry woman wey dey drop as you dey drop
Make your wife no call u for phone say if you they come house “buy pampers come”

Bsb

APC2:
I created this new account to hide my identity.

We live in a highbrow area in Ogun state with one Kid of 2 years. My wife is not working, she is attending a university in Ogun state where we lived. My wife always watch African Magic, Zee World or running from one prayer house to another. She does not respect me at all. Living with her for 3 years now is hell on earth.

Yesterday, she told me that she attended a program conducted by a prayer ministry and the the General Overseer, a woman told her to bring a bag of rice as a seed. I told her I don't have money to buy a bag of rice for a ministry I don't know anything about. She got angry and told me that I must give her the money before I go to work. To my greatest surprise, she block the door and told me that I am not going anywhere until I give her the money for the bag of rice that the woman of God need the rice that yesterday. I got angry and tried to push her, she gave me a heavy slap and began to shout and insulting me using English so that every neighbour will hear. I was so ashamed and forced my myself out of the flat, she ran after me, held my clothe and tear it down.

I return back to my flat, carry a cable wire and beat her until she couldn't stand up. I'm an operation manager in my company, I went to work, took excuse and went to police station. I carried two police to arrest the general overseer, when we got there, she started swearing that she did not tell my wife to bring any rice, that it is my wife that volunteer to bring. The police did not arrest her again. I returned to office and notify her parents.

Her parents came in the night and after I explained to them, they insulted their daughter and apologize to me. I told my wife to follow her parents she refused.

So about 12:00 midnight, my wife started again, threatening me that she will deal with me, talking loudly again that I called her parents to come and insult her and she will pay me back in a way that I will regret knowing her.

When I couldn't sleep, I went out of the house at about 2:00AM to look for a near-by hotel to sleep. Immediately I entered the hotel, a young lady standing in front of the hotel followed me to the reception. I was thinking she want to book a room as well. The receptionist told me that the available room is 17, 000. I accepted and paid. I was directed to the room and as I entered, somebody knocked the door. I open the door and it was the young lady that followed me to the reception when I was entering the hotel. Before I knew she entered the room and said, "oga, I will do you well, na just 4,000 you go give me". She started touching me and I told her to stop it. I was so disturb by wife problems and I needed someone to talk with. So I accepted the lady. We spent the night together and had sex twice. This is my first time of having sex with another woman since I married in 2019.

I am always at home with my family when I return from work and I think my wife is taking that for granted. I will be going out from now to meet other women. I am completely tired of the marriage and I am considering marrying another wife that can give me peace and respect.

After reading your story, I can't and would never blame you. And whoever does is crazy.

There's a limit to the things one can take.

You need space and time to get yourself together.

On a serious note, people should try to hold off marriage until they are sure.

I know no one can ever be too sure but marriage can be alot.

Sorry about the experience, this unfortunately is the part of marriage nobody talks about when giving the marriage is sweet speech. You just have to find a way to manage your home as no hooker will give you true satisfaction. Sebi you be plant manager

APC2:
I created this new account to hide my identity.

We live in a highbrow area in Ogun state with one Kid of 2 years. My wife is not working, she is attending a university in Ogun state where we lived. My wife always watch African Magic, Zee World or running from one prayer house to another. She does not respect me at all. Living with her for 3 years now is hell on earth.

Yesterday, she told me that she attended a program conducted by a prayer ministry and the the General Overseer, a woman told her to bring a bag of rice as a seed. I told her I don't have money to buy a bag of rice for a ministry I don't know anything about. She got angry and told me that I must give her the money before I go to work. To my greatest surprise, she block the door and told me that I am not going anywhere until I give her the money for the bag of rice that the woman of God need the rice that yesterday. I got angry and tried to push her, she gave me a heavy slap and began to shout and insulting me using English so that every neighbour will hear. I was so ashamed and forced my myself out of the flat, she ran after me, held my clothe and tear it down.

I return back to my flat, carry a cable wire and beat her until she couldn't stand up. I'm an operation manager in my company, I went to work, took excuse and went to police station. I carried two police to arrest the general overseer, when we got there, she started swearing that she did not tell my wife to bring any rice, that it is my wife that volunteer to bring. The police did not arrest her again. I returned to office and notify her parents.

Her parents came in the night and after I explained to them, they insulted their daughter and apologize to me. I told my wife to follow her parents she refused.

So about 12:00 midnight, my wife started again, threatening me that she will deal with me, talking loudly again that I called her parents to come and insult her and she will pay me back in a way that I will regret knowing her.

When I couldn't sleep, I went out of the house at about 2:00AM to look for a near-by hotel to sleep. Immediately I entered the hotel, a young lady standing in front of the hotel followed me to the reception. I was thinking she want to book a room as well. The receptionist told me that the available room is 17, 000. I accepted and paid. I was directed to the room and as I entered, somebody knocked the door. I open the door and it was the young lady that followed me to the reception when I was entering the hotel. Before I knew she entered the room and said, "oga, I will do you well, na just 4,000 you go give me". She started touching me and I told her to stop it. I was so disturb by wife problems and I needed someone to talk with. So I accepted the lady. We spent the night together and had sex twice. This is my first time of having sex with another woman since I married in 2019.

I am always at home with my family when I return from work and I think my wife is taking that for granted. I will be going out from now to meet other women. I am completely tired of the marriage and I am considering marrying another wife that can give me peace and respect.

Her School boyfriend say mak he use dat formal collect Cash from u,
Abeg mak she no Cut off ur Dick at night be Careful
She is ready 2 do de Undue nw

Read my posts and thoughts about marriage. You are in Nigeria, so luckily you can send her packing. She can never respect you again. Dump the scam before the scam saps life out of you.

Also careful with ladies of easy virtues. It a harsh world out there, and STIs are real.

All the best on your journey.

God bless

ibechris:
Oga,u have done well and I don't think any married man would ever judge u because of one stupid wife of yours.

However,I want to say it categorically clear here that many women have used their foolishness and entitlement mentality to wreck their marriages.

If a bad wife gives u a problem,hmm that is when u will know that prostitutes serve a purpose in our society.

U don't need to marry another woman bros,just ease yourself whenever she comes with her demonic powers.

Get a permanent girl friends that might lead to marriage if the issue becomes too hard to solve.

Good luck to u sir.


But if u must marry another wife,pls marry a working class lady and u will see the difference.

If he marry another woman trust me she will get back to her senses.

See I don see woman wey advise her husband to take another wife because of such issue.

You always need to keep women on their toe. If she knows another women will take her place, she’ll have sense

Did you actually say is faulty too ?
Nawa o. Things dey happen sha. I need a cold drink to read comments

FERNANDEZISBACK:
File for a divorce ASAP...you both are faulty here..she hit you then you retaliated..
Next thing you had to do was have sex with a different lady..well your marriage is currently in shambles..you either keep deceiving yaself or divorce and keep wh**ring around..

APC2:
My father told me that I should marry another wife before talking about divorce. That when I give my attention to the second wife, my only wife now will regret and change. And I am also considering my son too. I can take care of two wives comfortalbly.

If you marry another wife, You have successful ruin the life of that innocent boy. Please find a way to work thing out with your wife. Remember how you guys meet and stuff like that. The Boy did no wrong please man

APC2:
I created this new account to hide my identity.

We live in a highbrow area in Ogun state with one Kid of 2 years. My wife is not working, she is attending a university in Ogun state where we lived. My wife always watch African Magic, Zee World or running from one prayer house to another. She does not respect me at all. Living with her for 3 years now is hell on earth.

Yesterday, she told me that she attended a program conducted by a prayer ministry and the the General Overseer, a woman told her to bring a bag of rice as a seed. I told her I don't have money to buy a bag of rice for a ministry I don't know anything about. She got angry and told me that I must give her the money before I go to work. To my greatest surprise, she block the door and told me that I am not going anywhere until I give her the money for the bag of rice that the woman of God need the rice that yesterday. I got angry and tried to push her, she gave me a heavy slap and began to shout and insulting me using English so that every neighbour will hear. I was so ashamed and forced my myself out of the flat, she ran after me, held my clothe and tear it down.

I return back to my flat, carry a cable wire and beat her until she couldn't stand up. I'm an operation manager in my company, I went to work, took excuse and went to police station. I carried two police to arrest the general overseer, when we got there, she started swearing that she did not tell my wife to bring any rice, that it is my wife that volunteer to bring. The police did not arrest her again. I returned to office and notify her parents.

Her parents came in the night and after I explained to them, they insulted their daughter and apologize to me. I told my wife to follow her parents she refused.

So about 12:00 midnight, my wife started again, threatening me that she will deal with me, talking loudly again that I called her parents to come and insult her and she will pay me back in a way that I will regret knowing her.

When I couldn't sleep, I went out of the house at about 2:00AM to look for a near-by hotel to sleep. Immediately I entered the hotel, a young lady standing in front of the hotel followed me to the reception. I was thinking she want to book a room as well. The receptionist told me that the available room is 17, 000. I accepted and paid. I was directed to the room and as I entered, somebody knocked the door. I open the door and it was the young lady that followed me to the reception when I was entering the hotel. Before I knew she entered the room and said, "oga, I will do you well, na just 4,000 you go give me". She started touching me and I told her to stop it. I was so disturb by wife problems and I needed someone to talk with. So I accepted the lady. We spent the night together and had sex twice. This is my first time of having sex with another woman since I married in 2019.

I am always at home with my family when I return from work and I think my wife is taking that for granted. I will be going out from now to meet other women. I am completely tired of the marriage and I am considering marrying another wife that can give me peace and respect.

I support you full time, replace that bitch of a wife, there are better women out there.

The last part of the story touched me.

Like seriously

Mummy GO
Rice planting
Cable flogging
Olosho pounding

FERNANDEZISBACK:
File for a divorce ASAP...you both are faulty here..she hit you then you retaliated..
Next thing you had to do was have sex with a different lady..well your marriage is currently in shambles..you either keep deceiving yaself or divorce and keep wh**ring around..

How is hitting an attacker back an offence? what kind of sense is this one biko?
so someone can annoy and attack you yet she should expect to just go free without any consequences?

You have to teach people that in reality actions have consequences. stop with that nonsense about not hitting a woman.

The last time I checked, a woman is a human being with equal rights and responsibilities as everyone else. Nothing inferior about her and nothing special about her too.

Don't let women believe the shit that they can do any nonsense and people are obligated to put up with thier stupidity.
Life does not work that way. You are enabling a very dangerous behaviour that can cost them their lives.

It appears that this bag of rice wasn't the root cause of this wahala. There have been problems brewing in your household long before. The marriage has become toxic. I think you two need a break. See if a break will work. It could be lack of communication, lack of understanding, lack of tolerance. So many factors could be responsible.

Your wife slapped you and you beat her.... That's all i need to convince me that you're a fool.... You no fit flex your muscle for your fellow man body.. Na woman u dey boast say u beat.... She deserves a better man...i would have supported you if you didn't add to the tale that you beat her.... Odeh

Mr man try and reconcile with your wife sleeping around and marrying a second wife will cost you more not only monetary but other physical, spiritual and psychological problems as well.
Marriage is full of challenges especially women attitude when events don't favour them. All your need is wisdom to manage your home and shun all unnecessary counselling by those who have never being in your kind of shoe

OP, the solution to the problem is your wife. The only thing that may warrant a third party involvement is the hitting between the two of you that was involved.

Aside that, don't accept any plea from anyone, let her be the one to solve the issue herself, she has the solution to the problem on ground.

One honest truth is if anyone begs on her behalf, chances are very high that the issue may repeat itself, but if she by herself realize her wrongs and make amendment, chances are high that the issue won't reoccur.

Kdon2:
You will never see such woman. All women have one issue or the other that is sever. Some it's adultry financial status regardless

That's a lie! He will see a better women!