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Why I Do Not Want To Have Babies by Threesha(f): 3:09am On May 30, 2022 |
From DM Why I Do Not Want To Have Babies After Two Years Of Marriage ? 2 Likes |
Re: Why I Do Not Want To Have Babies by yomi007k(m): 3:20am On May 30, 2022 |
Sounds like a Joro Olumofin story. But in any case, i think u don't want to have a child because u are not ready. Your MIL threat is nonsene. If she takes your child then get her arrested and charge her to court for kidnapping. 8 Likes |
Re: Why I Do Not Want To Have Babies by gicita8865: 3:20am On May 30, 2022 |
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Re: Why I Do Not Want To Have Babies by fulaniHERDSman(m): 3:20am On May 30, 2022 |
What a horror of a partner. With u, who needs spiritual wife. U need exorcism, cause I'm sure deliverance won't salvage u. 3 Likes |
Re: Why I Do Not Want To Have Babies by IyaTola: 3:34am On May 30, 2022 |
Your life your choice. 1 Like |
Re: Why I Do Not Want To Have Babies by Nobody: 3:36am On May 30, 2022 |
gicita8865: Do people still fall for this scam? 2 Likes |
Re: Why I Do Not Want To Have Babies by IyaTola: 3:37am On May 30, 2022 |
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Re: Why I Do Not Want To Have Babies by Emma2Seconds: 6:41am On May 30, 2022 |
Tell us the type of protection your into so that your fellow women here will learn from it. 2 Likes |
Re: Why I Do Not Want To Have Babies by IyaTola: 9:11am On May 30, 2022 |
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Re: Why I Do Not Want To Have Babies by Emma2Seconds: 10:43am On May 30, 2022 |
Talk to us ok or stopping quoting me. IyaTola: 2 Likes |
Re: Why I Do Not Want To Have Babies by PARADIZEPRIEST: 11:27am On May 30, 2022 |
NA SO E DEY START.DONT BRING CURSE UpON YASEF. DO YOU KNOW A LADY DIED LAST WEEK FOR BEING CHILDLESS AND DEPRESSED? 2 Likes |
Re: Why I Do Not Want To Have Babies by Happiboispot(m): 11:56am On May 30, 2022 |
Lols first of all what Will a 38 years old woman be seeking advice here in nairaland when you mom and everyone who cares about you already told you the truth It this post happens to be true because I know it not then you a very wicked and selfish woman 3 Likes |
Re: Why I Do Not Want To Have Babies by ImaIma1(f): 12:54pm On May 30, 2022 |
She needs to have the serious discussion with her husband about his mum and how he sees no wrong in what she does, at the expense of his wife. His mum has no right whatsoever to insult her. Respect is not by age, it is earned. His mother has not earned it. She should go ahead and have her child. The MIL's threat doesn't count for nothing. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why I Do Not Want To Have Babies by Mindlog: 1:03pm On May 30, 2022 |
On what grounds can a mother-in-law take a child away from the birth mother? : 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why I Do Not Want To Have Babies by Kobojunkie: 1:12pm On May 30, 2022 |
PARADIZEPRIEST:Rubbish! 4 Likes |
Re: Why I Do Not Want To Have Babies by Kobojunkie: 1:25pm On May 30, 2022 |
Threesha:Well, do you live your life for others or for yourself? It is unfortunate you and your husband didn't set enough boundaries to keep your in-laws sufficiently out of your lives and your marriage beforehand, but I think it isn't ever too late to begin doing just that. You and Your husband need to sit down together as a couple to redraw the lines as far as your mothers, and other in-laws are concerned. This if a happy union is indeed what you both want. Also, you need to sit your own mother down and make her understand that she has no right to dictate how your life and choices should go as far as your marriage is concerned. Your husband ought to do same with his own mother so as to afford you both the peace of mind you need to navigate what is your own union, not theirs. As for having kinds. There are no rules that stipulate peace only comes to a marriage when children are involved. There has never been real evidence to such a claim to begin with so I don't see why folks foolishly rush to bring children into the equation even when it is evident the ground is shaky. If age is what worries you, there is always surrogacy, adoption, etc if Janet Jackson could carry her own pregnancy at age 50, I don't see why women remain all worked up about these things in this day and age.. 2 Likes |
Re: Why I Do Not Want To Have Babies by Marley125: 5:14pm On May 30, 2022 |
Threesha:wait till when exactly sis. Oh you want to wait until you won't be able to have kids again at 36 you're still asking if you should have kids serious. Pls you may have money but you need children of your own that will take care of you at old age. As for your mother inlaw. People like this are to be learned if it means you putting up your best attitude when she's around do it for the sake of peace people like her can't be pleased but there's a way you can be at peace with them if only you choose to pls try & make your marriage work leave your position & financial status aside put in your best effort. From what you wrote here you have not putted in your best effort. Sharon big sis |
Re: Why I Do Not Want To Have Babies by Kobojunkie: 9:33pm On May 30, 2022 |
Marley125:Children are proven time and time again as not the best insurance for old age. Those who rather than have kids said up for their old age and retired leave better and are better taken care of than those who sit expecting their children to abandon living their own lives for their sake. |
Re: Why I Do Not Want To Have Babies by IyaTola: 10:52pm On May 30, 2022 |
PARADIZEPRIEST: |
Re: Why I Do Not Want To Have Babies by Threesha(f): 6:09pm On May 31, 2022 |
Mindlog: |
Re: Why I Do Not Want To Have Babies by IyaTola: 12:24am On Aug 14, 2022 |
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Re: Why I Do Not Want To Have Babies by Ovieemmanuel: 10:18am On Aug 14, 2022 |
Too much book. 1 Like |
Re: Why I Do Not Want To Have Babies by Ishilove: 10:42am On Aug 14, 2022 |
Fake story |
Re: Why I Do Not Want To Have Babies by IyaTola: 1:27pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
Ishilove:What's fake about the story? |
Re: Why I Do Not Want To Have Babies by ibechris(m): 1:51pm On Aug 14, 2022 |
There is no advice that would solve the problem in your home except u personally take your time to find out what made the first wife to leave...if not,u guys might be repeating the same mistake again and again. U have all the rights to listen to your instincts...as for me,I hate a qurelling home,a place where there is no harmony. Pray that such a home does not affect your career,because it will soon! |
Re: Why I Do Not Want To Have Babies by frozen70(f): 1:29am On Aug 15, 2022 |
Threesha: This one weak me No son, born of a woman will stand by his wife when the wife Insults his mother Every son has rooted connections with their mother and that's why they get confused when there are quarrels between mother and daughter inlaw I personally, I think you not wanting child so soon or not caring about being desperate to have a child, made you not to know how to handle your mother inlaw You are supposed to get married to a white man, who have the same mindset like yours Your mother inlaw For talking back to her in that manner, even when she is wrong with her own attitude towards you, is set and ready for you to have problems in that marriage You actually Insulted her with the way you bulshit her Such is not acceptable in Nigeria culture You have to make up your mind to go and apologize to her and reconcile with her and accept her as a mother Then go with any kind of gifts be it food stuff, provisions and lots of edible gifts to appreciate her as your mother inlaw Once she accepts your apology, accept her back and ask her to pray for your marriage The above suggestions can be done only If you are very sure you love your husband and you don't want to loose him to any woman Then you start making efforts to get pregnant and that pregnancy will bring absolute peace and happiness in your life and marriage But if you know that because of your success and status you can't do the above reconciliation with your mother inlaw Remain in that marriage at your own risk and sadness Alternatively walk away Nigeria customs and traditions doesn't support your style, but you will get what you want abroad 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why I Do Not Want To Have Babies by Threesha(f): 8:12pm On Aug 16, 2022 |
frozen70:We need to move away from the bolded. 1 Like |
Re: Why I Do Not Want To Have Babies by frozen70(f): 9:57pm On Aug 16, 2022 |
Threesha: Yes we need to but it's not a battle for one person Generation to come will deal with it Even this present generation are already proving that, so gradually it will move with time 2 Likes |
Re: Why I Do Not Want To Have Babies by Threesha(f): 11:04am On Aug 18, 2022 |
Hopefully frozen70: |
Re: Why I Do Not Want To Have Babies by jamznato: 5:31am On Aug 20, 2022 |
ImaIma1: As a woman wen your son or duaghter is fine, doing great, and beyond 40 with no child will you fold your hands and keep quiet. A beg leave respect out of this. Your MIL IS NOT HAPPY because HER SON IS NOT MAKING THE RIGHT PROGRESS. Thats the joy of every mother. That's nonsense she is doing, just occupying space in the mans life. If she give birth to even one or adopt se everybody no go chop breakfast last last. All family has challenges which are solved and more are coming so raising a child in that family is not a good news is common everywhere. It depends on how you scale through challenges. So Stop those nonsense babies acts. Start facing marriage realities. Some of you supporting her one day your son will beat you up becos him marry wife 1 Like |
Re: Why I Do Not Want To Have Babies by jamznato: 5:40am On Aug 20, 2022 |
Ovieemmanuel: Wen dem done read that their stupid book, craziness go just they flow anyhow. Person no go rest again. Common sense go de complicated |
Re: Why I Do Not Want To Have Babies by ImaIma1(f): 8:32am On Aug 20, 2022 |
jamznato: As much as a mother wants to be a mother-hen over her child, she has her limits in her child's home. The son opened his eyes and married a 36yr old career woman. If his mother has a problem with her, she should complain to her son instead of constantly insulting the wife. The husband should be the one discussing baby matters with his wife and not his mother. She is a third party. And the husband has to caution his mother about her constant insults to the wife instead of hiding behind culture. But it seems like he's using his mother to do to his wife what he cannot do himself, and that is why he is not stopping it. That statement the mother made about seizing the baby shows how much influence she has on her son especially as he cannot even stop her from attacking his wife. If her son is not making the right progress, who should she be directing her frustrations to? Her son or his wife? 2 Likes |
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