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Think4Yourself:
I hate ungrateful people and I hate people that are greedy...

Same here.

That still doesn’t make him any less of the man’s son.
Condemn his character and his behavior but don’t question his legitimacy. He’s still the man’s first son.

And as such he should have exhibited good leadership by ensuring peaceful and equitable allocation of resources since their dad failed to do so before his death. That’s all.

FalseProphet1:
There's this mild drama currently going on in the family. My uncle died late last year (at an old age). The problem here is that they some delay in child birth, (7 years after their wedding to be prescise) so during this long wait, he and the wife decided to adopt a male child.

7 years after his adoption, children started popping in. They had a set of twins (males) and then 2 boys and a girl making it 5 biological children.

This my uncle was a wealthy man, so he had properties in the town of their state of origin and in the village.

Upon his death last year, the eldest son (the one who was adopted) sealed off the property in their village and claimed ownership of the 3 rental buildings in the town. This angered my uncle's brothers who were of the opinion that he's not family and therefore has no right to do such when the man's biological kids are very much around.

So they (the uncles) had a meeting with the biological sons of their late brother to get rid of what they termed an outcast in their midst.

They later invited the adopted young man to the village and used the community youths to beat him up and threatened to kill him if he doesn't stay away from their family properties. That he should look for his own biological parents and inherit whatever they left for him.

Now this didn't go down well, cos he used the police to lock up one of the twins and the whole family members are threatening fire and brimstone if the young man isn't released. They took the matter to the community elders who of course supported them by saying the adopted man has no right of forceful claim to any property unless it's given to him willingly by the family members.

As of now they have destroyed his wife's business in one of the buildings, burnt his car and have vowed to even kill him if he doesn't release their son.

That's why I brought it here. Was the adopted son wrong to have claimed ownership of his late father's properties without the official nod of the family members?

Do adopted children have right of inheritance in the family they find themselves?

What's your opinion on this matter.


Modified: I forgot to add that my uncle hasn't been buried because of this matter. His body is still in the mortuary cos there have to be an agreement from the family before burial takes place, and since the family is in chaos, the burial cannot hold for now.

If the child was adopted legally, he has the same right , with the other children. But you know nigeria factor and ignorance . A will from the deceased would have made a lot easier.

Think4Yourself:
The moment that man gets a brain reset beating that he was adopted, the better for him.

I can't stay in my father's house and an adopted son will be claiming first right to my father's properties.....tah, it is not possible!!! That is a sacrilege that any igbo man won't agree on imagine the audacity

False!

Under law and tradition, the adopted son has same right with the biological son.

Except the father was forced to adopt the son.

False Prophet, are you no longer a seer .... ?

You should have seen this coming and advised your Uncle to prepare his will and divide his property accordingly.

But I Support the Adopted son as the eldest child. .... Forget about traditional nonsense.

Despite his current misbehavior, he should be given what his due to him.

Sleekfingers:
If the child was adopted legally, he has the same right , with the other children. But you know nigeria factor and ignorance . A will from the deceased would have made a lot easier.

You said it all.

He has same right has the biological son.

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FalseProphet1:
There's this mild drama currently going on in the family. My uncle died late last year (at an old age). The problem here is that they some delay in child birth, (7 years after their wedding to be prescise) so during this long wait, he and the wife decided to adopt a male child.

7 years after his adoption, children started popping in. They had a set of twins (males) and then 2 boys and a girl making it 5 biological children.

This my uncle was a wealthy man, so he had properties in the town of their state of origin and in the village.

Upon his death last year, the eldest son (the one who was adopted) sealed off the property in their village and claimed ownership of the 3 rental buildings in the town. This angered my uncle's brothers who were of the opinion that he's not family and therefore has no right to do such when the man's biological kids are very much around.

So they (the uncles) had a meeting with the biological sons of their late brother to get rid of what they termed an outcast in their midst.

They later invited the adopted young man to the village and used the community youths to beat him up and threatened to kill him if he doesn't stay away from their family properties. That he should look for his own biological parents and inherit whatever they left for him.

Now this didn't go down well, cos he used the police to lock up one of the twins and the whole family members are threatening fire and brimstone if the young man isn't released. They took the matter to the community elders who of course supported them by saying the adopted man has no right of forceful claim to any property unless it's given to him willingly by the family members.

As of now they have destroyed his wife's business in one of the buildings, burnt his car and have vowed to even kill him if he doesn't release their son.

That's why I brought it here. Was the adopted son wrong to have claimed ownership of his late father's properties without the official nod of the family members?

Do adopted children have right of inheritance in the family they find themselves?

What's your opinion on this matter.


Modified: I forgot to add that my uncle hasn't been buried because of this matter. His body is still in the mortuary cos there have to be an agreement from the family before burial takes place, and since the family is in chaos, the burial cannot hold for now.

I just don't know what prevented the man from writing a will, upon say he knew that his family is somehow.

That guy is a wicked. Even if he is biological son, he can't sealed all properties of their father as if the man was his only father.

Sense is easy and expensive to get.

Common sense is not really common

GorillaApp:
What about a son born out of wedlock by a man and months later, his wife put to bed. In Igbo land who is the first child. The one whose mother's dowry was not paid or the son who was borne by the man's wife?

The one born out of wedlock is the first son, that is Igbo tradition but an adopted child has no right to be tagged as first son when the man has other sons

Kobojunkie:
My opinion is your dead uncle was wicked for not leaving behind a will to keep his chldren(adopted and non) from tearing at each other like wolves.

my Dad didn't write a will either but he made sure he settled each son with their own business separate from each other so nobody will claim another person's property. Wisdom is not for everyone

Angelfrost:
Nice story, which I sense is fake like the others on this Forum.

That said... Africans should learn how to write Wills and Testaments before death locates them.

If the man had engaged lawyers and done the needful, this would have been easily wrapped up by the law courts. No long thing!

I am always shocked and ashamed when I hear about grow ass men fighting over properties left by deceased people! Such level of backwardness is hard to fathom.

Since time immemorial, men have been fighting over properties left behind by dead people

Don't form wokeness here

There are various movies that depict these things even foreign movies

cococandy:
He has a right to the properties as the man’s child. But he’s wrong for wanting everything all to himself. That’s just some immeasurable greed and I won’t feel sorry for him if he gets nothing in the end.

The community is wrong for thinking his adoption makes him unfit for inheritance. Once anyone adopts a child, they should be given same considerations as any biological children.

..the community has a tradition and he should have been grateful with whatever he is given as he has no full right to claim anything as an adopted son and don't tell me about the constitution cos naija law is less valuable than their currency

FalseProphet1:
There's this mild drama currently going on in the family...

An adopted child has all the rights of a biological child. Your uncle and aunt are his parents and cannot under any circumstances reject him. The same applies to your family too.

The son is family and he will easily win you in a court of law. Share your uncle's inheritance equally among all his children including the adopted child.

chukkystar:
my Dad didn't write a will either but he made sure he settled each son with their own business separate from each other so nobody will claim another person's property. Wisdom is not for everyone

What you describe is another approach at having a will.

Look how all of OP'S Uncle's hardwork went up in flames simply because the man didn't have a will.

Think4Yourself:
The one born out of wedlock is the first son, that is Igbo tradition but an adopted child has no right to be tagged as first son when the man has other sons

Well, the father rejected the child out of wedlock and never had anything to do with him until hie death. It was the other children that out of pity brought him in. But they made him understood he is not the first child.
I don't want to put the story on fp because maybe one of the children may be here

What's your opinion

An adopted child has[b] every right[/b] as a biological son.
That is what your uncle signed up for when he went to get him.
I will bestow upon you the rights of a son and I will inherit the responsibility of a father.
When your uncle went to adopt him. Your uncle named the child and gave him his last name.
The only difference is one is begotten and one is not.
It is the Nigeria Factor that makes an Issue.
Your uncle so believed that this would not be an Issue that he did not create a will. In hindsight , he should. And all who read this should create a will.

Shoodboi:
An adopted child has all the rights of a biological child. Your uncle and aunt are his parents and cannot under any circumstances reject him. The same applies to your family too.

The son is family and he will easily win you in a court of law. Share your uncle's inheritance equally among all his children including the adopted child.

Exactly ! He's 100% every right as the others.

he shouldn't have been greedy. i feel sad for him though, he must be feeling so alone now thinking about his biological parents.

his greed was his downfall.

now no car, no peace of mind. wife is out of business, he can't sleep under his own roof because of the threat to his life. was the greed worth all the problems that have befallen him?

cococandy:
Same here.

That still doesn’t make him any less of the man’s son.
Condemn his character and his behavior but don’t question his legitimacy. He’s still the man’s first son.

And as such he should have exhibited good leadership by ensuring peaceful and equitable allocation of resources since their dad failed to do so before his death. That’s all.

Perfectly said - He is legitimately, the man's son and first child. The mere fact that the OP has brought up adoption means that child has been viewed as inferior and illegitimate.

arantess:
Since time immemorial, men have been fighting over properties left behind by dead people

Don't form wokeness here

There are various movies that depict these things even foreign movies

I'm not forming anything...

Fighting is permitted, but a Will makes things less messy!

My friend's dad was buried early last year. The man was a wealthy polygamist with several grown kids who were more than prepared to fight over his properties, but he was learned enough to have his lawyer prepare a detailed will beforehand.

After the burial, the will was read in the customary court, and after that no one dared bicker or fight... Of course, there were complaints and grumblings, but the Will couldn't be denied. It was detailed and backed up by Law!

A lot of Nigerians and Africans should learn to do things properly.

Shoodboi:
An adopted child has all the rights of a biological child. Your uncle and aunt are his parents and cannot under any circumstances reject him. The same applies to your family too.

The son is family and he will easily win you in a court of law. Share your uncle's inheritance equally among all his children including the adopted child.

Louder please!

I hate how the OP is emphasizing that the dude is adopted.


He fails to realize dude has same right as the biological kids. And he is the eldest son. Religious, tradition or court of law, facts can never be denied.

Well does it really matter if the child is adopted or not?

rickleye:
Perfectly said - He is legitimately, the man's son and first child. The mere fact that the OP has brought up adoption means that child has been viewed as inferior and illegitimate.

The op is as desperate as his brother!

Why start playing the adoption card cos of property.

Childish move!

Adopted son joor!. Who Sabi biological son?

Nonsense question

Nazgul:
The step son is really mad and deserves whatever is thrown at him from the family. If he isn't careful he would just die for nothing cos cases like this have high tendencies of becoming diabolical.

He had no right to lay claim on those properties even if he was the late man's biological son. There have to be a meeting to decide who gets what.

Na so greediness dey kill people .. Greed will disqualify him from partaking in the inheritance of his adopted father. He has a bitter lesson to learn .. let him go and be satisfied with whatever help he received from the late father.. going to court will lead to DNA and there he will lose.

Nazgul:
The step son is really mad and deserves whatever is thrown at him from the family. If he isn't careful he would just die for nothing cos cases like this have high tendencies of becoming diabolical.

He had no right to lay claim on those properties even if he was the late man's biological son. There have to be a meeting to decide who gets what.

Na so greediness dey kill people .. Greed will disqualify him from partaking in the inheritance of his adopted father. He has a bitter lesson to learn .. let him go and be satisfied with whatever help he received from the late father.. going to court will lead to DNA and there he will lose if his adoption was not documented .. even if documented , the question is who will give him the documents..

FalseProphet1:
There's this mild drama currently going on in the family. My uncle died late last year (at an old age). The problem here is that they some delay in child birth, (7 years after their wedding to be prescise) so during this long wait, he and the wife decided to adopt a male child.

7 years after his adoption, children started popping in. They had a set of twins (males) and then 2 boys and a girl making it 5 biological children.

This my uncle was a wealthy man, so he had properties in the town of their state of origin and in the village.

Upon his death last year, the eldest son (the one who was adopted) sealed off the property in their village and claimed ownership of the 3 rental buildings in the town. This angered my uncle's brothers who were of the opinion that he's not family and therefore has no right to do such when the man's biological kids are very much around.

So they (the uncles) had a meeting with the biological sons of their late brother to get rid of what they termed an outcast in their midst.

They later invited the adopted young man to the village and used the community youths to beat him up and threatened to kill him if he doesn't stay away from their family properties. That he should look for his own biological parents and inherit whatever they left for him.

Now this didn't go down well, cos he used the police to lock up one of the twins and the whole family members are threatening fire and brimstone if the young man isn't released. They took the matter to the community elders who of course supported them by saying the adopted man has no right of forceful claim to any property unless it's given to him willingly by the family members.

As of now they have destroyed his wife's business in one of the buildings, burnt his car and have vowed to even kill him if he doesn't release their son.

That's why I brought it here. Was the adopted son wrong to have claimed ownership of his late father's properties without the official nod of the family members?

Do adopted children have right of inheritance in the family they find themselves?

What's your opinion on this matter.


Modified: I forgot to add that my uncle hasn't been buried because of this matter. His body is still in the mortuary cos there have to be an agreement from the family before burial takes place, and since the family is in chaos, the burial cannot hold for now.

Falseprophet1, you are the OP, by your calling you have been prophesying that you see..

In the case of this your family, What do you see?
Also informed them what you saw

UpInTheSky:
The adopted son IS the first son.

Your Uncle's brothers and biological son's opinions that he's not family and is an outcast is quite pathetic. Shame on them.
Nigerians should understand that when you adopt a child, he or she becomes your child. Neither biology nor blood defines family.
That said, the adopted son himself is a greedy fool for "sealing off their and claiming ownership of the 3 rental buildings in the town".
His own actions speak volume about his own character and even if he weren't an adopted child he would've behaved in the same manner.

Hence, all of them are madd.

I think there is more to the story than him "sealing off and claiming ownership of the 3 rental buildings" . I don't think we can understand the pressure the first child has been under knowing that even though he has every right as the others he's been seen as an illegitimate. There is no way, the dude would claim all the property for himself. It doesn't just add up.

Na so greediness dey kill people .. Greed will disqualify him from partaking in the inheritance of his adopted father. He has a bitter lesson to learn .. let him go and be satisfied with whatever help he received from the late father.. going to court will lead to DNA and there he will lose if his adoption was not documented .. even if documented , the question is who will give him the documents..

Truth is, he didn't beg to be adopted however good behaviour from can gain him upper hand and all the rights he deserves as a first son, the onus lies on him.

Greedy adopted child
If he has tried to share equally it might have been ok