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@cococandy and kobojunkie
You both deserved some chill drink of your favorite. At least some people still use their heads to think in this forum. Save for the guys greed, he has equal right as biological children. To all other people using their head, please continue. @think4yourself, guy, nor be sawdust dey your brain na. It's like saying if naturalize in another country you shouldn't be allowed to enjoy the amenities because you were not born there.
And the energy used in insulting kobojunkie was as if na you get the property. Maybe you don't even have tyre of keke napep. Iranu

Plewin:
Please dear everyone, please forgive me for posting this but I have no choice because the mods ban my old username. Please sirs and ma's, my name is Faith, am a 26 years old single mom of 1. My son is just 2 years old. I used to be a hairdresser before my present predicament. In August of 2021 I fell very sick and was rush to the hospital by my neighbour. Doctor said that I will have to be admitted because by the time that they have prescribed several drugs for me, my hands and both of my legs has developed rashes and started to swell up. The swelling got worst and more severe as time went by, eventually leading to multiple skin ulcers. Preliminary results shows that I was diagnosed with blood infection. Am currently living with severe skin ulcers in my left arm, the palm of my hand, and both of my legs and feet. I've been suffering with this condition since then.
Am crying out because I need serious medical attention, I cannot afford to go to the hospital and am dying here due to lack of money. I regularly require resuscitation with anti biotics and regular blood transfusion at St David's Specialist hospital. I also urgently require Prolonged Sore Management with Vacuum Assisted Closure Device and skin graft to help regain my normal life again but unfortunately I can't treat myself because I don't have enough on me. Doctor said the procedure will require 1.3million Naira to give me my life back and so far I've been able to raise only 300 thousand with the help of my friends and some kind hearted well wishers who have taken pity for me in the past few months. Pleas sirs and ma's, am an orphan both my parents are late. I have been trying every possible best to raise the remainder to no avail. I don't have any property to sell again and I cannot work in this my condition pls I beg of you, I can't even look after my 2 years old son, that's why am pleading with any well meaning person pls, no matter how small pls, it will still go a long way to help me and save my life and that of my little boy pls. May God bless you all in Jesus name Amen

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Thank you and God bless you
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anthony m okeke also known as Faith S H is a notorious scammer on nairaland. He has been busted on several occasions.

Below is how anthony M okeke, the scammer operates

-He will create an account early in the morning with a pitiable moniker like SolicitHelp, praygrace, blessings etc

-He will then target interesting topics that may likely hit front page and drop a good comment that will get him so many likes and shares.

-In the night around 8pm to 10pm, he will change his gender to female to gather pity and edit the post he made in the morning with a pitiable story of how he is suffering from septicemia. He will alter the spelling of septicemia by adding either r, c or h so that one cannot search and find him using the search bar

-The idea behind editing these posts in the night is that even if you find and report by this time, the post will not be deleted since the mods must have closed for the day

-His targets are those that come to nairaland in the night.

-The next day, the previous posts are deleted and he creates another account

- The cycle continues

If you adopt a child, same benefits and privilege the biological children enjoy should also be equal to what the adopted child is getting.
The man didn't act well by wanting all properties to himself, but the elders approach is totally wrong.

FalseProphet1:
There's this mild drama currently going on in the family. My uncle died late last year (at an old age). The problem here is that they some delay in child birth, (7 years after their wedding to be prescise) so during this long wait, he and the wife decided to adopt a male child.

7 years after his adoption, children started popping in. They had a set of twins (males) and then 2 boys and a girl making it 5 biological children.

This my uncle was a wealthy man, so he had properties in the town of their state of origin and in the village.

Upon his death last year, the eldest son (the one who was adopted) sealed off the property in their village and claimed ownership of the 3 rental buildings in the town. This angered my uncle's brothers who were of the opinion that he's not family and therefore has no right to do such when the man's biological kids are very much around.

So they (the uncles) had a meeting with the biological sons of their late brother to get rid of what they termed an outcast in their midst.

They later invited the adopted young man to the village and used the community youths to beat him up and threatened to kill him if he doesn't stay away from their family properties. That he should look for his own biological parents and inherit whatever they left for him.

Now this didn't go down well, cos he used the police to lock up one of the twins and the whole family members are threatening fire and brimstone if the young man isn't released. They took the matter to the community elders who of course supported them by saying the adopted man has no right of forceful claim to any property unless it's given to him willingly by the family members.

As of now they have destroyed his wife's business in one of the buildings, burnt his car and have vowed to even kill him if he doesn't release their son.

That's why I brought it here. Was the adopted son wrong to have claimed ownership of his late father's properties without the official nod of the family members?

Do adopted children have right of inheritance in the family they find themselves?

What's your opinion on this matter.


Modified: I forgot to add that my uncle hasn't been buried because of this matter. His body is still in the mortuary cos there have to be an agreement from the family before burial takes place, and since the family is in chaos, the burial cannot hold for now.

the issue here is not about him being adopted

but a cultural thinking and tradition whereby sons feel entitled to inherit ftom father

regardless being adopted, he is meant to share with others or let his wife do the estate but as we know culture and tradition doesnt give a chance widows to do that

his behaviour is based on culture (environment) around him where sons inherit becoz he is male (hense a common culture in nigeria of wanting a male child)

the community elders have no right to rule over it becoz they accepted him adopting the child so they can not rule over him saying he is not his child.

there is difference between adopting and fostering

the boy he intitled like any other of his kids
the difference he is greedy based what culture allows to happen due to be being son

FalseProphet1:
There's this mild drama currently going on in the family. My uncle died late last year (at an old age). The problem here is that they some delay in child birth, (7 years after their wedding to be prescise) so during this long wait, he and the wife decided to adopt a male child.

7 years after his adoption, children started popping in. They had a set of twins (males) and then 2 boys and a girl making it 5 biological children.

This my uncle was a wealthy man, so he had properties in the town of their state of origin and in the village.

Upon his death last year, the eldest son (the one who was adopted) sealed off the property in their village and claimed ownership of the 3 rental buildings in the town. This angered my uncle's brothers who were of the opinion that he's not family and therefore has no right to do such when the man's biological kids are very much around.

So they (the uncles) had a meeting with the biological sons of their late brother to get rid of what they termed an outcast in their midst.

They later invited the adopted young man to the village and used the community youths to beat him up and threatened to kill him if he doesn't stay away from their family properties. That he should look for his own biological parents and inherit whatever they left for him.

Now this didn't go down well, cos he used the police to lock up one of the twins and the whole family members are threatening fire and brimstone if the young man isn't released. They took the matter to the community elders who of course supported them by saying the adopted man has no right of forceful claim to any property unless it's given to him willingly by the family members.

As of now they have destroyed his wife's business in one of the buildings, burnt his car and have vowed to even kill him if he doesn't release their son.

That's why I brought it here. Was the adopted son wrong to have claimed ownership of his late father's properties without the official nod of the family members?

Do adopted children have right of inheritance in the family they find themselves?

What's your opinion on this matter.


Modified: I forgot to add that my uncle hasn't been buried because of this matter. His body is still in the mortuary cos there have to be an agreement from the family before burial takes place, and since the family is in chaos, the burial cannot hold for now.

de older one and all of them

I think the question we should be asking is was this adopted son aware that he was adopted before the death of those who adopted him?

I blame the man who adopted him for not writing his will

This guy feels entitled to everything as the first son cos no one told him he is not a biological Child.

UpInTheSky:
The adopted son IS the first son.

Your Uncle's brothers and biological son's opinions that he's not family and is an outcast is quite pathetic. Shame on them.
Nigerians should understand that when you adopt a child, he or she becomes your child. Neither biology nor blood defines family.
That said, the adopted son himself is a greedy fool for "sealing off their and claiming ownership of the 3 rental buildings in the town".
His own actions speak volume about his own character and even if he weren't an adopted child he would've behaved in the same manner.

Hence, all of them are madd.

I want to believe the adopted child behaved under the content of traditional rite in igbo land. Where first son takes sole rite of family inheritancy.

Las Las court will settle the matter. If he didn't lose his life in the process.

FalseProphet1:
There's this mild drama currently going on in the family. My uncle died late last year (at an old age). The problem here is that they some delay in child birth, (7 years after their wedding to be prescise) so during this long wait, he and the wife decided to adopt a male child.

7 years after his adoption, children started popping in. They had a set of twins (males) and then 2 boys and a girl making it 5 biological children.

This my uncle was a wealthy man, so he had properties in the town of their state of origin and in the village.

Upon his death last year, the eldest son (the one who was adopted) sealed off the property in their village and claimed ownership of the 3 rental buildings in the town. This angered my uncle's brothers who were of the opinion that he's not family and therefore has no right to do such when the man's biological kids are very much around.

So they (the uncles) had a meeting with the biological sons of their late brother to get rid of what they termed an outcast in their midst.

They later invited the adopted young man to the village and used the community youths to beat him up and threatened to kill him if he doesn't stay away from their family properties. That he should look for his own biological parents and inherit whatever they left for him.

Now this didn't go down well, cos he used the police to lock up one of the twins and the whole family members are threatening fire and brimstone if the young man isn't released. They took the matter to the community elders who of course supported them by saying the adopted man has no right of forceful claim to any property unless it's given to him willingly by the family members.

As of now they have destroyed his wife's business in one of the buildings, burnt his car and have vowed to even kill him if he doesn't release their son.

That's why I brought it here. Was the adopted son wrong to have claimed ownership of his late father's properties without the official nod of the family members?

Do adopted children have right of inheritance in the family they find themselves?

What's your opinion on this matter.


Modified: I forgot to add that my uncle hasn't been buried because of this matter. His body is still in the mortuary cos there have to be an agreement from the family before burial takes place, and since the family is in chaos, the burial cannot hold for now.

My people my people, let this sink deep into your Hindbrain and circulate well, THE SO CALLED ADOPTED SON IS A BONAFIDE AND AUTHENTIC SON TO THAT YOUR DECEASED UNCLE, GBAM. I will do so if its me too. Holy Book supports it, the conventional law seals it. The wicked wider family which had waited for the man to died without a son are now claiming nonsense.
If the ADOPTED hadn't come its quite likely the biological ones may not have come. He has NO other father than that man, so you all better accept him as one your own, or HE SHOULD FIGHT DIRTY to preserve his heritage. Na only the umunna and the so called biological whatever sabi do diabolical
The young man should stand up, seek support and fight... I don't like what I hate.

The adopted child has as much right as the biological child to an inheritance. The village community cannot handle the matter hence it should be settle in the court of law.

Nazgul:
The step son is really mad and deserves whatever is thrown at him from the family. If he isn't careful he would just die for nothing cos cases like this have high tendencies of becoming diabolical.

He had no right to lay claim on those properties even if he was the late man's biological son. There have to be a meeting to decide who gets what.

Exactly. I know of a man who was adopted as first son, now the adopted father has his biological sons all grown up now. The adopted son stayed in his lane, he joins them to celebrate anything but when it comes to family matters he hears from whatever they have decided, I just love the way the man does his things, he doesn't show himself.

FalseProphet1:
There's this mild drama currently going on in the family. My uncle died late last year (at an old age). The problem here is that they some delay in child birth, (7 years after their wedding to be prescise) so during this long wait, he and the wife decided to adopt a male child.

7 years after his adoption, children started popping in. They had a set of twins (males) and then 2 boys and a girl making it 5 biological children.

This my uncle was a wealthy man, so he had properties in the town of their state of origin and in the village.

Upon his death last year, the eldest son (the one who was adopted) sealed off the property in their village and claimed ownership of the 3 rental buildings in the town. This angered my uncle's brothers who were of the opinion that he's not family and therefore has no right to do such when the man's biological kids are very much around.

So they (the uncles) had a meeting with the biological sons of their late brother to get rid of what they termed an outcast in their midst.

They later invited the adopted young man to the village and used the community youths to beat him up and threatened to kill him if he doesn't stay away from their family properties. That he should look for his own biological parents and inherit whatever they left for him.

Now this didn't go down well, cos he used the police to lock up one of the twins and the whole family members are threatening fire and brimstone if the young man isn't released. They took the matter to the community elders who of course supported them by saying the adopted man has no right of forceful claim to any property unless it's given to him willingly by the family members.

As of now they have destroyed his wife's business in one of the buildings, burnt his car and have vowed to even kill him if he doesn't release their son.

That's why I brought it here. Was the adopted son wrong to have claimed ownership of his late father's properties without the official nod of the family members?

Do adopted children have right of inheritance in the family they find themselves?

What's your opinion on this matter.


Modified: I forgot to add that my uncle hasn't been buried because of this matter. His body is still in the mortuary cos there have to be an agreement from the family before burial takes place, and since the family is in chaos, the burial cannot hold for now.

Did your uncle drew up a will?
What you have here is the case of Ishmael and Isaac.
One is legitimate and one is illegitimate

The adopted child is still a member of the family.

insightful01:
I want to believe the adopted child behaved under the content of traditional rite in igbo land. Where first son takes sole rite of family inheritancy.

Las Las court will settle the matter. If he didn't lose his life in the process.

Oh wow!

FalseProphet1:
Will doesn't work in African families with high traditional beliefs. They do things according to their traditions.

it works. It depends on d family. My dad's will worked for us

Kobojunkie:
1. But isn't he right that by law he has the same inheritance rights as biological children?

2. It is unfortunate that this all could have been avoided if you uncle had simply opted for the common sense approach which was to have a Will stipulating who got what.

Have you got your own will ready? Know it that will is not igbo culture, assuming the people are igbo.
If the man has same right as the other children, why did he sealed up the properties? He was claiming higher rights then?

I'm not a lawyer but I know that under the Nigerian law, if a man dies intestate (in the absence of a will), his estate goes to the first son who must prove beyond every reasonable doubt that he is holding it for the general good of the family.
On the issue of adoption & the right to inheritance, the adopted son is a legitimate member of the family. Therefore, he is entitled to partake in the sharing of the deceased's estate (property). Interestingly, he was adopted as a son to fill the vacuum created by the absence of an offspring.
However, the young man's action of sealing of the property was rather hasty & provocative. In conclusion, he should have waited for his father to be buried first before delving into the issue of sharing of property.

Think4Yourself:
He is not the man's biological child.


He is an orphan. Stop speaking from the side of your mouth....



Imagine some adopted ingrates dragging property with your children, what will b your reaction? Don't be a hypocrite, answer this question with your feminist mind

You are irrational, unreasonably antagonistic and emotional bully. Why can't you learn to tolerate divergent opinions without recourse to abuse? You suck, please, this is a public parlance, culture your attacks and words

He has a right to the inheritance, but lacks the right to lock up anything. Be should have worked in harmony with the other siblings. He should be arrested and not bitten.

Rupertek:
1. Have you got your own will ready?

2. Know it that will is not igbo culture, assuming the people are igbo. If the man has same right as the other children, why did he sealed up the properties? He was claiming higher rights then?

1. Yes!

2. Well, I just learned that in the same ibo culture, the first son gets it all, so maybe as the first son, he sealed off the property since by tradition it should all go to him, the first son.

[quote author=FalseProphet1 post=113535830]There's this mild drama currently going on in the family. My uncle died late last year (at an old age). The problem here is that they some delay in child birth, (7 years after their wedding to be prescise) so during this long wait, he and the wife decided to adopt a male child.

7 years after his adoption, children started popping in. They had a set of twins (males) and then 2 boys and a girl making it 5 biological children.

This my uncle was a wealthy man, so he had properties in the town of their state of origin and in the village.

Upon his death last year, the eldest son (the one who was adopted) sealed off the property in their village and claimed ownership of the 3 rental buildings in the town. This angered my uncle's brothers who.
Why did the man adopt the guy ? what of if the five are not born ? forget about biological sons, the one adopt is the first son all of them own the properties . Why the man's wife can't stop his biological sons ?

Nazgul:
The step son is really mad and deserves whatever is thrown at him from the family. If he isn't careful he would just die for nothing cos cases like this have high tendencies of becoming diabolical.

He had no right to lay claim on those properties even if he was the late man's biological son. There have to be a meeting to decide who gets what.

he is not a step son, he is a legally adopted son and full first born by law...if he files this case to de court, they all will be in trouble.

He has the right to inherit some properties, but it suppose to be done amicably in the presence of Umunna

You know the animal kingdom teaches us a lot of lessons, there was a egg from hen A that refuse to hatch early, so it was taking to another Hen B, unfortunately there was a serious fight between Hen A and Hen B as a result of Hen A missing egg. The Custosdian decided to rescue to little chick in her formative years before they finish her with their fight. After the chick was formed and returned with Hen A
with lots of Gifts, Hen A took the gifts and still chase the chick away, dispite been her biological child,but
Hen B accepted the chick. Strangely despite the chick living with a human custodian , it behaves like a typical
baby always seeking attention. The fact that the Child was adopted does not negate the fact that it is your Uncle's child
and since he was fertile they are also possibilities he played an away match and needed to bring the boy in
for the gods to show him mercy or appease them if he didn't.
You accept him o or you don't accept him ..The gods who have been taking care of him would always take care of him... It is not by inheritance that one is bless and favored but by the infinite mercy of the Lord If he becomes President tommorrow it would be your lose.

Kobojunkie:
My opinion is your dead uncle was wicked for not leaving behind a will to keep his chldren(adopted and non) from tearing at each other like wolves.

u are on point, but all of them have equal right as true sons.

Ndipe:
The adopted child is still a member of the family.

Not a member but the first son of the man .

Lol. Seun Must Chop.

cococandy:
He has a right to the properties as the man’s child. But he’s wrong for wanting everything all to himself. That’s just some immeasurable greed and I won’t feel sorry for him if he gets nothing in the end.

The community is wrong for thinking his adoption makes him unfit for inheritance. Once anyone adopts a child, they should be given same considerations as any biological children.

The adopted fool is an idiot.If he calms down,he would benefit a lot but he is so stupid and if he dies who cares?

Imagine the audacity!

I wonder what gave the adopted son the boldness to want to corner all the assets himself

This is very shameful. As far as the law us concerned the adopted child has same right as the biological ...the law is there to protect them . In this case , the problem is with the extended family . The more the get out of this family affairs the more that family get united. The adopted young man didn't force himself on that family . I'd an abomination to ridicule him on grounds of being adopted.

If there are still elders in that community, let them do the needful . He has no right to take all properties...everyone of the kids should ve a share . But he will ve the greatest share cos he is the first son..whether adopted or biological. Nature placed him in that position

Think4Yourself:
You will be jealous of another person taking more than your child, that is how human's mind works. You can't tell me that you will be comfortable with a bst claiming first right to your husband's properties.


He should have relaxed and take whatsoever the give to him and not claiming first child, he is an adopted child and not a blood relative!! Let that sink in

Had d child becoms governor of d state,dey gladly say he is their son. This nonsense wont hapen in a saner clime who brought d concept of adoption. It is not by force to adopt a child which som paper work was done. It is wat it is....

For being adopted he has every right of as a member of that family. The problem could be those uncles maybe the adopted son couldn't allow them to take some properties. Since the man dint put his house in order before departing the young guy should make peace with his siblings and burry there dad then after share properties to each of everyone of them. He should find a possible means to make peace with them and put those uncles in shame

SURElee:
Even after adopting, there is a thin line that screams to the kids that they are adopted. A line of bloodline segregation.

Do you think in human psychology and reality that blood wouldn't always be thicker than water?