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Nagging short husband.

ImaIma1:
Whoever is handling the bills should not determine who is in charge. By your reasoning, that would mean that if things were to change and the woman is handling most of the bills, she will be in charge also. She can wake up by 8am and expect her husband to have made her breakfast.

For the husband to come on Nairaland for something his wife explained to him which happens just once a week, means he is not supportive or he's just a nag

It has being happening or u want to tell me that u haven't seen it happen often?
A man will feed his family till his dying days but a day a woman feeds d family, d whole world would hear about it

When a man starts seen some ill attitudes of a woman, they call it nagging but when a woman start complaining about d husband's ill attitude they say its normal for a woman to complain but is not normal for a man to complain

ImaIma1:
You won't last a month in marriage if you want to start counting the things you should overlook.

I'm sure the ops wife forgives him of his trespasses too. Because it's not like he's perfect and doesn't offend.

I don't even hv time to complain bcs I don't complain I only kick d damn bitch outta my way

ImaIma1:
He can't answer that question because he's not just single but a single ignoramus who always has something childish and silly to say about marriage issues.

U don't just insult an elder on public forum unless there's no elders in your lineage
D gods are wise

Mariangeles:
[i]Op, make I no lie, you go sabi nag die.[/i]

Also, listen to and be reasonable with your wife.
When she says she needs to get to the market early to get the best materials, then believe it.

For Lagos, na the earliest birds dey get the fattest worms.
you snooze, you lose.
So, understand and support her in every way you can. She's hardworking.

Can you imagine? Na by 8:42am you dey wake!

Thank you for saying the bolded.

Even oyingbo market na early momo ooo, by 7 am you see women from my area coming back.

Iyana Iba market there are some early morning vegetable deals you won't see once sun rise.

So I am sure for yaba/ tejuoshi there will be some material deals early momo, especially bale materials.


The topic reminds me of pinky and the brain. Thinking what I am thinking.

emmanuelbrown26:
U don't just insult an elder on public forum unless there's no elders in your lineage
D gods are wise

Let's just end this discussion. Your way of reasoning is reducing my IQ. Would rather engage someone more objective in his reasoning.

Have a great day.

And for you OP, be finding fault every Monday and keep thinking what you are thinking, till your pettiness will cost your marriage.

Bahamas95:
I don't know what OP is talking about because I don't have time to read that epistle.


What am thinking now is the noodles am about to prepare.

I'm glad u didn't stress ur eyes, he wasn't thinking of anything but, something else.

That aside, have u prepared the noodles or u are still thinking? Because me I'm thinking u should share with me

Oizee:
I'm glad u didn't stress ur eyes, he wasn't thinking of anything but, something else.

That aside, have u prepared the noodles or u are still thinking? Because me I'm thinking u should share with me

Lol, you came late. Me and my guy don finish am.

ImaIma1:
Let's just end this discussion. Your way of reasoning is reducing my IQ. Would rather engage someone more objective in his reasoning.

Have a great day.

What an insult? I don't just blame u, and I won't mention who I will blame bcs u ought to know that, rubbish.

As for op, never u believe anything that comes from Nairaland transgendered dem, they are all same but comes in different ways.
Op just ask her for small change now and u will see her telling u stories of how bad market has being going on, but she leaves early without doing anything in d house. Very soon, I mean if care is not taken na like dis u go turn to man alone, is better u correct every nonsense she's displaying now before its too late.
Bcs one of d things about women is this, if u start doing something for them and u fails to do a particular day, my brother na there wahala go start. Watch out bro

emmanuelbrown26:
As for op, never u believe anything that comes from Nairaland transgendered dem, they are all same but comes in different ways.

Men shouldn't even bother bringing their relationship/marriage affairs to this damned bias section, is what I will suggest.

Women here engage in all sorts of mental gymnastics to absolve women of any blame in any issue. I swear the women here will tell a man he's at fault if he told them his wife burned down the entire house when he left for work. ( they will ask why you left for work in the first place, lmao )

Pointless bringing your issues here. Better off taking them to the Auto, Business, Tech, anywhere, section.

Arsenate:
Men shouldn't even bother bringing their relationship/marriage affairs to this damned bias section, is what I will suggest.

Women here engage in all sorts of mental gymnastics to absolve women of any blame in any issue. I swear the women here will tell a man he's at fault if he told them his wife burned down the entire house when he left for work.

Pointless bringing your issues here. Better off taking them to the Auto, Business, Tech, anywhere, section.

Happy that I hv seen somebody that understands that specie here.
U are absolutely right, Nairaland women are something else. I was surprised that after op might hv narrated what took place, non was able to scold d wife's ill attitude rather they were all blaming op.
For a man to bring his marital issue on nairaland shows that d man has tolerated and seen a lot in that home. But I think going to auto section should be d best. Never u take advice from a woman in terms of marital affairs, they will always want u to kill yourself for d wife

emmanuelbrown26:
Happy that I hv seen somebody that understands that specie here.
U are absolutely right, Nairaland women are something else. I was surprised that after op might hv narrated what took place, non was able to scold d wife's ill attitude rather they were all blaming op.

I've been here for a while now and my younger self almost doubted his sanity because I couldn't keep up with the spins by the ladies here. I believe that must be the feeling for a newbie. Now I just come here for the laughs and I tend to try and dissuade men from bringing their issues to this section. My little contribution to the manosphere.

twinning200:
guys something have been happening for a while now, signs are there that something unknown could be looming or happening but what happened today is what
made me create this post. My wife is a fashion designer, she goes to tejuosho market to buy materials and sometimes she claims she buys ready made to sell. Sometimes, mostly on Mondays like this, she wont inform me that shes leaving early, and when she does, breakfast is missed, or any other important stuff is sidelined. Overtime we have had discussion on why it is always like this, and her excuse have always been " if i dont meet up early, there are certain materials that i wont be able to get, will be sold out before i reach there" that statement to me sort of like made a little sense, but shouldnt be to the detriment to the responsibility of her as a wife considering the fact that I manage 75% of the home financial responsibility.

So today, I woke up 8.42am, she was gone since, i showered, clothed myself to resume office, by the time i opened the car door, the safe compartment was opened down with all of our international passports, both her passport, my passpport, our kids USA passport all there, my hand fall, immediately. The reason why the passport were there is because we had gone somewhere yesterday to do sometings, and the passports where required, though we forgot to return them back inside when we got back home. The moment I saw the opened down compartment, I did a video and sent it to her via whatsapp, and i stated the obvious that it was because of the rush, she concurred and said she didnt see the passports, common, over 6 passports clearly and obviously showing, next she said the stuff probably didnt close well. Now peeps, is it that bad that rushing to get to the market to get materials could make a woman overlook such important documents being opened to the public eye, because anybody passing on the street can definitely see the passports from the passenger side of the safe compartment, why the rush that u took something out of there and couldnt push it back to lock, or was so much in a rush that in the process of pushing it back, the rushing didnt make her push it back properly to lock. I'm beginning to think something else, who else is thinking what am thinking? Plus if I say we need to regulate her rushment to the market, she go talk sey short men like me are sort of controlling.

why not follow her secretly to clear your doubts if she catched u following her ehnn

emmanuelbrown26:
U don't just insult an elder on public forum unless there's no elders in your lineage
D gods are wise

You are 26 years old, how are you an elder

JovialJune:
You are 26 years old, how are you an elder

If I could gv account of buhari govt in 1983, that means I'm not a kid.
The tortoise said that many hands at work is enjoyable, but many mouths to feed can be embarrassing.
D gods are wise

Arsenate:
I've been here for a while now and my younger self almost doubted his sanity because I couldn't keep up with the spins by the ladies here. I believe that must be the feeling for a newbie. Now I just come here for the laughs and I tend to try and dissuade men from bringing their issues to this section. My little contribution to the manosphere.

U do well my brother.

emmanuelbrown26:
If I could gv account of buhari govt in 1983, that means I'm not a kid.
The tortoise said that many hands at work is enjoyable, but many mouths to feed can be embarrassing.
D gods are wise

Me and Lord luggard be mates sef lmao

Keep deceiving yourself.

JovialJune:
Me and Lord luggard be mates sef lmao

Keep deceiving yourself.

That is to say that u are one of evening newspapers around
If a woman decides to make the soup watery, the husband will learn to dent the Garri before dipping it into the soup.
D gods are wise

emmanuelbrown26:
As for op, never u believe anything that comes from Nairaland transgendered dem, they are all same but comes in different ways.
Op just ask her for small change now and u will see her telling u stories of how bad market has being going on, but she leaves early without doing anything in d house. Very soon, I mean if care is not taken na like dis u go turn to man alone, is better u correct every nonsense she's displaying now before its too late.
Bcs one of d things about women is this, if u start doing something for them and u fails to do a particular day, my brother na there wahala go start. Watch out bro

In as much as I agreed that most ladies support their own even if what she does is bad. Atleast I have witnessed alot of that here. When it comes to this case the OP narrated, I don't see what he is gloating about.
He already said the wife's goes to market early every Monday morning. So that is a routine in which he is aware of. If she does that once every week and she contribute 25% finances to the home since the man already told us what he contributes. With this I believe he is just a nag and wants to create trouble where there is none. It's your marriage, if you think that method is not productive to your home, sit your wife down and iron it critically.

sweetman2022:
In as much as I agreed that most ladies support their own even if what she does is bad. Atleast I have witnessed alot of that here. When it comes to this case the OP narrated, I don't see what he is gloating about.
He already said the wife's goes to market early every Monday morning. So that is a routine in which he is aware of. If she does that once every week and she contribute 25% finances to the home since the man already told us what he contributes. With this I believe he is just a nag and wants to create trouble where there is none. It's your marriage, if you think that method is not productive to your home, sit your wife down and iron it critically.

I perfectily understand what u wrote, my issue is that d husband complained of 2 or 3 things and nobody even said anything on d 3 issues which is wrong and bad and all these Nairaland frustrated aunties would just be opening mouth like German fish

Guys i have actually been seeing comments and the bashing here and there. True one should always talk things through with ones partner rather than bringing it here. Trust me am already 10years into this, and yall can imagine that plenty different abnormal things that ought to have been corrected over the years is something we are still battling with? I never would have come out here to say anything if it aint something I have been tolerating for years. Is it just this one? Hell naw, I have actually given up, so sometimes when I come here, some response gives me hope or better still good advises on what I can do to make things better.

Madam has cleanness issue, disorganization, the children are already adapting and adopting that same lifestyle, I am saddened, I have tried my best to annul this traits but to no avail. Being transparent nko! Never! she would claim the reason I lied about my location, or lied about something else is to avoid being shouted at, a man wont shout if its not something that is being continually complained about. Alot is going on, my brother and sis, marriage isnt for the faint hearted, the life span of majority will dwindle in this current generation we are in. I am exhausted.

ImaIma1:
Whoever is handling the bills should not determine who is in charge. By your reasoning, that would mean that if things were to change and the woman is handling most of the bills, she will be in charge also. She can wake up by 8am and expect her husband to have made her breakfast.

For the husband to come on Nairaland for something his wife explained to him which happens just once a week, means he is not supportive or he's just a nag

So osinachi's husband was right in every sense to control his wife's finances after all, even when she earned higher. I learn new things on nairaland everyday, people seem to change the narrative when it doesn't suits them.

Madam, who provides for the family calls the shots E.O.D.

Lol
Am i surprised? Nahhh
Look how the ladies here skillfully made it look like the op was crazy... Well like they say "accountability is their kryptonite and as such one shouldn't be mad"
And it says alot about how they all are. This is the reason i give extra #50 to God on Sunday because such women will be far from me

Op my only issue with you is why bring it here ??
You think the ladies here will find fault in her?
They'll support their own..
Just take a look at that aunty that thought she was logical in her thinking made a fool of herself....
Op, i no fit tell you what to do, 10years in marriage isn't beans. I. Can only send a link to you

MadarasBlade:
So osinachi's husband was right in every sense to control his wife's finances after all, even when she earned higher. I learn new things on nairaland everyday, people seem to change the narrative when it doesn't suits them.

Madam, who provides for the family calls the shots E.O.D.

Don't mind all these frustrated aunties, shouting up and down here. For a man to come on nairaland to narrate his marital issues shows that d man has tolerated enough and d man has seen enough in his home.

dhiqson:
Lol
Am i surprised? Nahhh
Look how the ladies here skillfully made it look like the op was crazy... Well like they say "accountability is their kryptonite and as such one shouldn't be mad"
And it says alot about how they all are. This is the reason i give extra #50 to God on Sunday because such women will be far from me

Op my only issue with you is why bring it here ??
You think the ladies here will find fault in her?
They'll support their own..
Just take a look at that aunty that thought she was logical in her thinking made a fool of herself....
Op, i no fit tell you what to do, 10years in marriage isn't beans. I. Can only send a link to you

I keep saying it that they are all d same but comes in different ways. U see how d just made op looked like a mad man or a man that naggs alot whereas it was d wife that caused d whole issues based on op's narration and no daughter of eve here condemned d wife excessive attitudes.
Well, I keep blaming men for giving their wives d hand to be doing what they are doing, bcs somebody like me won't even take 2% of that shit from any daughter of eve

twinning200:
Guys i have actually been seeing comments and the bashing here and there. True one should always talk things through with ones partner rather than bringing it here. Trust me am already 10years into this, and yall can imagine that plenty different abnormal things that ought to have been corrected over the years is something we are still battling with? I never would have come out here to say anything if it aint something I have been tolerating for years. Is it just this one? Hell naw, I have actually given up, so sometimes when I come here, some response gives me hope or better still good advises on what I can do to make things better.

Madam has cleanness issue, disorganization, the children are already adapting and adopting that same lifestyle, I am saddened, I have tried my best to annul this traits but to no avail. Being transparent nko! Never! she would claim the reason I lied about my location, or lied about something else is to avoid being shouted at, a man wont shout if its not something that is being continually complained about. Alot is going on, my brother and sis, marriage isnt for the faint hearted, the life span of majority will dwindle in this current generation we are in. I am exhausted.

Problem with some married guys or men is that, they don't differentiate btw stupidity, love and caring, they just combine d 3 together.
U see my brother, first impression matters a lot in any relationship. It mustn't be love at all times, sometimes let d man cause d problem, Infact its very necessary for a man to be d troublemaker in any relationship. Some always bow when they see bigger madness in their partners.

twinning200:
Guys i have actually been seeing comments and the bashing here and there. True one should always talk things through with ones partner rather than bringing it here. Trust me am already 10years into this, and yall can imagine that plenty different abnormal things that ought to have been corrected over the years is something we are still battling with? I never would have come out here to say anything if it aint something I have been tolerating for years. Is it just this one? Hell naw, I have actually given up, so sometimes when I come here, some response gives me hope or better still good advises on what I can do to make things better.

Madam has cleanness issue, disorganization, the children are already adapting and adopting that same lifestyle, I am saddened, I have tried my best to annul this traits but to no avail. Being transparent nko! Never! she would claim the reason I lied about my location, or lied about something else is to avoid being shouted at, a man wont shout if its not something that is being continually complained about. Alot is going on, my brother and sis, marriage isnt for the faint hearted, the life span of majority will dwindle in this current generation we are in. I am exhausted.

Awwn.

I'm truly sorry to read this.


I think you need to change your communication strategy so that your words can enter your woman's head.


You have both exhausted your usual methods which is arguments and shouting.



P. S. You have to nip that lying habit in the bud, it's really bad.

MadarasBlade:
So osinachi's husband was right in every sense to control his wife's finances after all, even when she earned higher. I learn new things on nairaland everyday, people seem to change the narrative when it doesn't suits them.

Madam, who provides for the family calls the shots E.O.D.

Your understanding of my comment is quite interesting. It's funny how you got all this Osinachi matter from my comment.

And oga, money doesn't call the shots in marriage. But if you see money as a tool for oppression and dominance, then that is your own situation. There is no E.O.D here Mister. You are not the standard

twinning200:
Guys i have actually been seeing comments and the bashing here and there. True one should always talk things through with ones partner rather than bringing it here. Trust me am already 10years into this, and yall can imagine that plenty different abnormal things that ought to have been corrected over the years is something we are still battling with? I never would have come out here to say anything if it aint something I have been tolerating for years. Is it just this one? Hell naw, I have actually given up, so sometimes when I come here, some response gives me hope or better still good advises on what I can do to make things better.

Madam has cleanness issue, disorganization, the children are already adapting and adopting that same lifestyle, I am saddened, I have tried my best to annul this traits but to no avail. Being transparent nko! Never! she would claim the reason I lied about my location, or lied about something else is to avoid being shouted at, a man wont shout if its not something that is being continually complained about. Alot is going on, my brother and sis, marriage isnt for the faint hearted, the life span of majority will dwindle in this current generation we are in. I am exhausted.

Marriage is one place that is really not for the faint hearted as you have stated, and we have to develop a tough skin and drop our expectations.

There are some traits that you may have overlooked while dating that has come to rear it's ugly head in marriage. Marriage decision is one of the most important decisions we will ever make as per choosing a partner because when the love clears from our eyes, our faults are magnified.

Right now, it is either you want to stay and manage her excesses or walk away. But bringing your wife's faults here for strangers to bash her is not something you should do if your marriage means anything to you.

You will agree with me that you also have faults that she complains about, except you want to say you are the perfect one while she's the only one with issues. But we know that can't be true. Imagine reading a post from your wife here, how would you feel?

Some guys here will capitalize on your wife's faults and try to sow a seed of discord between you two. However, it is your marriage. If you decide to listen to prejudiced people concerning your marriage, that is on you.

Since your wife doesn't seem to take corrections about the things you have hammered on, you could try counselling, talking to an elder in her family, etc. Exhaust all options till you are left with no other choice.