We've been married for two years and have no child. I’m not surprised that we haven’t been able to have a child but what I’m surprised about is my wife’s attitude towards the fact that we don’t have a child.
Yesterday she called me impotent. Some days ago she called me sterile. I warned her, “The next time you call me any other name apart from my name, I will walk out of this mess you call marriage.”

Let me take you back to when we were dating. This girl was very strict when it came to sex. She was the one making the rules. “This month no sex, I don’t want you to be enjoying it every day. We are not married yet.” I won’t fight her about it and she would go ahead and do exactly what she said she would do. Another time she will tell me, “I called you and you didn’t answer. No sex for three weeks.
I didn’t allow those things to bother me. She was a good person. I would have been very wrong to just look at her from that angle and conclude that she wasn’t a wife material. We stayed together for two years before we finally decided to marry.

After marriage, she didn’t stop throwing those rules around. Every new day came with different rules and all of her rules had to do with sex. As I’m writing this, we haven’t had sex for the past three months. What is her reason? She had severe cramps during her menses and according to her, she has never had crumps all her life. She told me, “I spoke to a doctor friend of mine and she said my cramps were due to sex and that if your husband’s joystick is big, it can result in cramps.” I knew she was lying.
I knew she was just looking for another excuse not to have sex. I’m used to that antics so it didn’t bother me.
We are married but we have sex only when she wants and since she doesn’t want sex often, we can go for several weeks without sex. And the annoying part is, she doesn’t want any other style apart from missionary. So, when her goodness comes and she finally opens the way for me to do it, she will tell me, “Just get on with it and leave me alone.

If I kiss her, bue! If I don’t kiss her, bue! “Don’t touch me here. Why are you going side by side, can’t you go straight? Hey…hey…hey, don’t touch my breast, it’s paining me. You’re keeping long, what medicine did you drink?”
She’ll nag throughout the action. Sometimes I don’t even cum. I’ll just get off her and have my peace of mind. It’s been like this for the past two years since we got married. I’m not complaining. Recently, she brought up the topic of childbirth and I told her, “Do you know how many times people have sex before a child can result?

You are here giving me rules and yet want to have a child?” She said, “Alice got married four months ago and she’s pregnant. How many times did they do it? We’ve been doing it for two years and nothing has happened. Go and look for medicine before I give up on you.”
Every marriage has some troubles. She’s my trouble, I understand. What I don’t understand is her attitude towards the problems she herself has caused. I was there one day when she told me, “I spoke to my doctor friend. She said we’ve been having sex unnecessarily that’s why the pregnancy is not coming so we should have sex only when I’m ovulating. From now onwards, you won’t waste your sperms on me. Store them. Grow them. Make them potent so that when you hit one, a child will come. You hear?”

Brothers and sisters, how many times do women ovulate in a month? At least once, right? So why haven’t we had sex for three months? I want an answer so I went to her, “You mean you haven’t ovulated for the past three months?” She said, “I’m tracking it with an app. So far, the app hasn’t said that I’m ovulating.” Eiii! So now it’s an app that’s going to determine when to have sex and when not to?
Dear people of God, that’s my wife for you. No husband will sit and stare while things go wrong in his marriage so I reported the issue to her parents. They called her home and talked to her extensively. Her father called to tell me, “We’ve spoken sense to her. The way I’ve bashed her, I don’t think she’ll come home and do that again.” The day she got home she said, “Shame on you. You ran to my parents and reported me to them? Are you a kid? All because of sex? I thought you are a man. A true man doesn’t need plenty of sex before pregnancy. They hit one, bam! and the child is there.

You want it every day. I can’t.”
Three months. Maybe it sounds very short so let me calculate it into days. I haven’t had sex for over ninety days! I’ve received three salaries without sex, yet she accuses me of not being potent because we haven’t had a child. I’ve reported it to her parents twice and each time, they talk to her. The last time her father told me, “If I have to come and supervise it, I will come there myself. What kind of silly attitude is that?” Even her father is angry on my behalf. At this point, I will be right to take any drastic decision that I want. One day, I will pack her things and send her to her parents. Before she comes back to the marriage, she will sign a bond of good behavior and sign to have sex four times in a week before I will take her back.
A wife doesn’t live her life just to traumatize her husband’s life. Or I should send her packing right away?
Source...https://www.allsinglesandmarried.com

This ur story long like Buhari regime wey no wan end

LoveUdie:
We've been married for two years and have no child. I’m not surprised that we haven’t been able to have a child but what I’m surprised about is my wife’s attitude towards the fact that we don’t have a child.
Yesterday she called me impotent. Some days ago she called me sterile. I warned her, “The next time you call me any other name apart from my name, I will walk out of this mess you call marriage.”

Let me take you back to when we were dating. This girl was very strict when it came to sex. She was the one making the rules. “This month no sex, I don’t want you to be enjoying it every day. We are not married yet.” I won’t fight her about it and she would go ahead and do exactly what she said she would do. Another time she will tell me, “I called you and you didn’t answer. No sex for three weeks.
I didn’t allow those things to bother me. She was a good person. I would have been very wrong to just look at her from that angle and conclude that she wasn’t a wife material. We stayed together for two years before we finally decided to marry.

After marriage, she didn’t stop throwing those rules around. Every new day came with different rules and all of her rules had to do with sex. As I’m writing this, we haven’t had sex for the past three months. What is her reason? She had severe cramps during her menses and according to her, she has never had crumps all her life. She told me, “I spoke to a doctor friend of mine and she said my cramps were due to sex and that if your husband’s joystick is big, it can result in cramps.” I knew she was lying.
I knew she was just looking for another excuse not to have sex. I’m used to that antics so it didn’t bother me.
We are married but we have sex only when she wants and since she doesn’t want sex often, we can go for several weeks without sex. And the annoying part is, she doesn’t want any other style apart from missionary. So, when her goodness comes and she finally opens the way for me to do it, she will tell me, “Just get on with it and leave me alone.

If I kiss her, bue! If I don’t kiss her, bue! “Don’t touch me here. Why are you going side by side, can’t you go straight? Hey…hey…hey, don’t touch my breast, it’s paining me. You’re keeping long, what medicine did you drink?”
She’ll nag throughout the action. Sometimes I don’t even cum. I’ll just get off her and have my peace of mind. It’s been like this for the past two years since we got married. I’m not complaining. Recently, she brought up the topic of childbirth and I told her, “Do you know how many times people have sex before a child can result?

You are here giving me rules and yet want to have a child?” She said, “Alice got married four months ago and she’s pregnant. How many times did they do it? We’ve been doing it for two years and nothing has happened. Go and look for medicine before I give up on you.”
Every marriage has some troubles. She’s my trouble, I understand. What I don’t understand is her attitude towards the problems she herself has caused. I was there one day when she told me, “I spoke to my doctor friend. She said we’ve been having sex unnecessarily that’s why the pregnancy is not coming so we should have sex only when I’m ovulating. From now onwards, you won’t waste your sperms on me. Store them. Grow them. Make them potent so that when you hit one, a child will come. You hear?”

Brothers and sisters, how many times do women ovulate in a month? At least once, right? So why haven’t we had sex for three months? I want an answer so I went to her, “You mean you haven’t ovulated for the past three months?” She said, “I’m tracking it with an app. So far, the app hasn’t said that I’m ovulating.” Eiii! So now it’s an app that’s going to determine when to have sex and when not to?
Dear people of God, that’s my wife for you. No husband will sit and stare while things go wrong in his marriage so I reported the issue to her parents. They called her home and talked to her extensively. Her father called to tell me, “We’ve spoken sense to her. The way I’ve bashed her, I don’t think she’ll come home and do that again.” The day she got home she said, “Shame on you. You ran to my parents and reported me to them? Are you a kid? All because of sex? I thought you are a man. A true man doesn’t need plenty of sex before pregnancy. They hit one, bam! and the child is there.

You want it every day. I can’t.”
Three months. Maybe it sounds very short so let me calculate it into days. I haven’t had sex for over ninety days! I’ve received three salaries without sex, yet she accuses me of not being potent because we haven’t had a child. I’ve reported it to her parents twice and each time, they talk to her. The last time her father told me, “If I have to come and supervise it, I will come there myself. What kind of silly attitude is that?” Even her father is angry on my behalf. At this point, I will be right to take any drastic decision that I want. One day, I will pack her things and send her to her parents. Before she comes back to the marriage, she will sign a bond of good behavior and sign to have sex four times in a week before I will take her back.
A wife doesn’t live her life just to traumatize her husband’s life. Or I should send her packing right away?

I don't support broken home but she's taking it too far. Yes she's doesn't like sex or doesn't like, sex with you.. Or maybe have another partner(just saying) but Regardless this is too much..


I think you need to sit her down and ask if she wants a divorce and that you can't go on living like this..

It's better to come to a decision together..

Bible says we shouldn't break a home that's why both of you must come to an understanding that will favour you both

What she's doing is wickedness

Start looking for permanent replacement now to avoid rush in future it get why.

This one weak me o! But frankly i see your fault in all of this! Both men and women don't change their ways aftet marriage, u saw these signs and you never dealt with them!
I will suggest you sit her down and have a heart to heart talk with her and let her know that if u ever look outside, it is her fault! I believe she will come around!
Note also that if her sex drive is say 20 and yours is 80, she needs to step up while you step down so you both can meet somewhere in d middle and enjoy urselves!

Am sorry bro
Your experience is awful
You ignored a red flag,
My opinion is this, you were not her best option, her heart belong somewhere else. Am not saying she is cheating on you, but may be she married you because you were the only option at that time. I have seen ladies who are married but their heart are with other men. As long as that is the issue, she may never love you reason why the marriage is very toxic

A lady that really loves you will always want to have sex with you unless she has a medical condition or she was circumcised.
Maybe you should sit her down and ask her why she doesn't really love you. What you are doing wrong

If you ever carry una family issues come here again. We go curse una

Damn!!! You're suffering in this marriage.
But why did you ignore the red flags nau??

Na why i no like anything marriage cos it only favours women. I'm very sure more than 70% of Nigerian married men are suffering inside like you...

Or Perhaps you married the wrong person .

Guy make yourself a priority...Forget that so called marriage cos na strong headed feminist you marry





As our Ancestors would say "He that decides to ignore a little mistake, should be prepared to face a bigger one".

One girl once told me that a girl that loves you will get wet for you anytime she set her eyes on you.

I think you are a good writer . I enjoyed your use of hyperbole.

You dated her. The attitude didn’t start after marriage but before it. So what’s the essence of courtship and dating or you think marriage will change her?

I don’t support divorce. I don’t support forced sex in marriage. She isn’t a sex slave. I don’t support cheating. If it’s bad , get second wife. She will either go , or sit up.

It’s possible 2 secs sex result to pregnancy.
No be man wey fvck toto tear dey give woman belle.

Una no dey fuuccck before una marry?

You say she's a good woman.............I think she is unreasonable.
Her attitude may be borne out of having a low sex drive but she's not making an effort to work on herself.

It's your fault though.You saw it before marriage and still put your head.

There's no good woman in her, u re just blind by love.

She's manipulating u to do her bidding using sex as her most weaponize tools, the only think 98% of them can offer .

U sound weak in ur write up, man up and do the needful by letting her know that u re thinking of marrying a second wife so that u won't be disturbing her for sex again, try this method and see as her chicken brain reset like Nokia touch that fell down and rebooted by self .

Mind u, don't sound weak or soft why telling that to her face, in fact look deep straight down in to her eyes with a mean face ., Don't mind the names calling, that's one of her weapons to weaken ur defenses but be bold.

Thank me later

LoveUdie:
We've been married for two years and have no child. I’m not surprised that we haven’t been able to have a child but what I’m surprised about is my wife’s attitude towards the fact that we don’t have a child.
Yesterday she called me impotent. Some days ago she called me sterile. I warned her, “The next time you call me any other name apart from my name, I will walk out of this mess you call marriage.”

Let me take you back to when we were dating. This girl was very strict when it came to sex. She was the one making the rules. “This month no sex, I don’t want you to be enjoying it every day. We are not married yet.” I won’t fight her about it and she would go ahead and do exactly what she said she would do. Another time she will tell me, “I called you and you didn’t answer. No sex for three weeks.
I didn’t allow those things to bother me. She was a good person. I would have been very wrong to just look at her from that angle and conclude that she wasn’t a wife material. We stayed together for two years before we finally decided to marry.

After marriage, she didn’t stop throwing those rules around. Every new day came with different rules and all of her rules had to do with sex. As I’m writing this, we haven’t had sex for the past three months. What is her reason? She had severe cramps during her menses and according to her, she has never had crumps all her life. She told me, “I spoke to a doctor friend of mine and she said my cramps were due to sex and that if your husband’s joystick is big, it can result in cramps.” I knew she was lying.
I knew she was just looking for another excuse not to have sex. I’m used to that antics so it didn’t bother me.
We are married but we have sex only when she wants and since she doesn’t want sex often, we can go for several weeks without sex. And the annoying part is, she doesn’t want any other style apart from missionary. So, when her goodness comes and she finally opens the way for me to do it, she will tell me, “Just get on with it and leave me alone.

If I kiss her, bue! If I don’t kiss her, bue! “Don’t touch me here. Why are you going side by side, can’t you go straight? Hey…hey…hey, don’t touch my breast, it’s paining me. You’re keeping long, what medicine did you drink?”
She’ll nag throughout the action. Sometimes I don’t even cum. I’ll just get off her and have my peace of mind. It’s been like this for the past two years since we got married. I’m not complaining. Recently, she brought up the topic of childbirth and I told her, “Do you know how many times people have sex before a child can result?

You are here giving me rules and yet want to have a child?” She said, “Alice got married four months ago and she’s pregnant. How many times did they do it? We’ve been doing it for two years and nothing has happened. Go and look for medicine before I give up on you.”
Every marriage has some troubles. She’s my trouble, I understand. What I don’t understand is her attitude towards the problems she herself has caused. I was there one day when she told me, “I spoke to my doctor friend. She said we’ve been having sex unnecessarily that’s why the pregnancy is not coming so we should have sex only when I’m ovulating. From now onwards, you won’t waste your sperms on me. Store them. Grow them. Make them potent so that when you hit one, a child will come. You hear?”

Brothers and sisters, how many times do women ovulate in a month? At least once, right? So why haven’t we had sex for three months? I want an answer so I went to her, “You mean you haven’t ovulated for the past three months?” She said, “I’m tracking it with an app. So far, the app hasn’t said that I’m ovulating.” Eiii! So now it’s an app that’s going to determine when to have sex and when not to?
Dear people of God, that’s my wife for you. No husband will sit and stare while things go wrong in his marriage so I reported the issue to her parents. They called her home and talked to her extensively. Her father called to tell me, “We’ve spoken sense to her. The way I’ve bashed her, I don’t think she’ll come home and do that again.” The day she got home she said, “Shame on you. You ran to my parents and reported me to them? Are you a kid? All because of sex? I thought you are a man. A true man doesn’t need plenty of sex before pregnancy. They hit one, bam! and the child is there.

You want it every day. I can’t.”
Three months. Maybe it sounds very short so let me calculate it into days. I haven’t had sex for over ninety days! I’ve received three salaries without sex, yet she accuses me of not being potent because we haven’t had a child. I’ve reported it to her parents twice and each time, they talk to her. The last time her father told me, “If I have to come and supervise it, I will come there myself. What kind of silly attitude is that?” Even her father is angry on my behalf. At this point, I will be right to take any drastic decision that I want. One day, I will pack her things and send her to her parents. Before she comes back to the marriage, she will sign a bond of good behavior and sign to have sex four times in a week before I will take her back.
A wife doesn’t live her life just to traumatize her husband’s life. Or I should send her packing right away?

Both of you need to see a sex therapist. Organnise one and then trick her that you want to take her out for a nice time together. BTW How are you sure your wife is not circumcised or have low libido?

What the fvck did i just read?

This is definitely fiction. Smh

LoveUdie:
We've been married for two years and have no child. I’m not surprised that we haven’t been able to have a child but what I’m surprised about is my wife’s attitude towards the fact that we don’t have a child.

Sounds fabricated.

Red flags were obviously ignored. NO ONE ever changes after getting married

Anyways this is not an issue. Get a side chick who enjoys and would give you sex 247 without commitment and would respect boundaries

There are a lot of Hot and decent people out there who just wanna fvvvk and bleep as well as enjoy your company for the moment, before you get back to your fellow man wife at home

You would end up being happy. Secondly, when you need a child you speak to her family and let them know what is going on, if no changes, biko get someone responsible pregnant. Las Las everybody body go calm down

....but most important, please get a side chick to cure your konji, that's why so many men are happy in their marriages today

If there's anything you should use to punish your partner, sex should never be one of them. She even sounds bossy and rude

Oya find the lady biko

Thank me now

I can't help but laugh all through.... My brother, the Lord is your strength oooo

Damn another Will Smith disciple, aren't you man enough to make the rules, you mean no sex for good 90 days...

Ishilove:
What the fvck did i just read?

This is definitely fiction. Smh

I don't know if this one is fiction but I can tell you there are quite a no of men whose marriages are like this.

Hmmm, like seriously eeeh I don't know what to tell you cos am not married but for real your PEACE OF MIND is very important bro.

You made the mistake a long time ago and now you're reaping the consequences.

The little sex you're managing now will totally vanish when she gives birth.

Don't make your life miserable by getting that lady pregnant. When children become involved in a marriage, it becomes another kettle of fish.

Separate from your wife for now, if possible, rent a separate apartment or single room. Live your life like a happy bachelor and take your chances with any decent lady that shows genuine attraction for you.

If you feel it's a sin or bad, then just live your life in peace separate from her. Don't send her any money.

Improve yourself, especially physically and socially.
Go out, meet new people, interact with other beautiful ladies.

Your wife will probably know where you live, and may ignore you if she's financially ok by herself.

Don't worry give it time, except she's cheating, she would start getting jealous when she sees you with ladies better than her.

after sometime, She will come to beg you or try to force her way back into your life and fight the ladies she sees you with.
No gree!
Continue with your new life like she doesn't matter even if she involves your parents.

After she has realized that begging or forcing herself back into your life isn't working, she'd use the last weapon in her cleave which is seduction.

She will try to seduce you and use sex to win you back.
This is now where you have all the cards in your hands.
Instead of chasing her for sex or trying to negotiate her desire for sex, she is the one now chasing you for it.

Nothing stimulates a woman's desire for sex like competition anxiety.

Ever wondered why hanging out with the friend or sister of a lady who once rejected you or showed no interest suddenly tries to get your attention back? Suddenly starts to show interest and Even offer her self to you sex in order to win back your attention?

Competition anxiety.

When your wife sees that other women better than her desire you, and they're now getting your attention that she has lost, it will generate the desire to get you back, and this time, keep you to herself using sex, so she doesn't lose you to other women.

If you like you can accept her back into your life when you detect her desire for sex with you or you simply discard her, get your divorce proceedings started, and done, live the best version of yourself, and get another good woman who has genuine desire for you, to marry.

If she doesn't come back to you, then she has made the decision easier for you.

Talking to your wife about your sexual frustrations, or visiting a counselor or therapist or involving her parents or religious head to talk to her about it will simply not generate genuine sexual desire from her.
It will only disgust her more.

Genuine desire can't be negotiated, it is only stimulated.
Stimulated through competition anxiety and\or generic physical attributes, a healthy masculinity and game.

For young men that would want to avoid this kind of bad experience in their marriages, read this thread below.

https://www.nairaland.com/7164615/costly-mistake-many-men-make#113528970

LoveUdie:
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You want it every day. I can’t.”
Three months. Maybe it sounds very short so let me calculate it into days. I haven’t had sex for over ninety days! I’ve received three salaries without sex, yet she accuses me of not being potent because we haven’t had a child. I’ve reported it to her parents twice and each time, they talk to her. The last time her father told me, “If I have to come and supervise it, I will come there myself. What kind of silly attitude is that?” Even her father is angry on my behalf. At this point, I will be right to take any drastic decision that I want. One day, I will pack her things and send her to her parents. Before she comes back to the marriage, she will sign a bond of good behavior and sign to have sex four times in a week before I will take her back.
A wife doesn’t live her life just to traumatize her husband’s life. Or I should send her packing right away?

You married a woman that thinks shes doing you a favor by staying married to you...
She dont sexually excite her...
She doesnt respect you...
She married you for financial security and the MRS title...

If you have kids with that woman...you have entered hell...leave that marriage now....before depression and unhappiness kill you dia

Sorry I laughed a bit at some statements made in this post.

Hope it's not just that she's actually very ignorant of somethings. there's no logical explanation for this at all. None at all.

He maarried her class not the laady... If not the case, den shh is lesbian

KristaPretty:
Red flags were obviously ignored. NO ONE ever changes after getting married

Anyways this is not an issue. Get a side chick who enjoys and would give you sex 247 without commitment and would respect boundaries

There are a lot of Hot and decent people out there who just wanna fvvvk and bleep as well as enjoy your company for the moment, before you get back to your fellow man wife at home

You would end up being happy. Secondly, when you need a child you speak to her family and let them know what is going on, if no changes, biko get someone responsible pregnant. Las Las everybody body go calm down

....but most important, please get a side chick to cure your konji, that's why so many men are happy in their marriages today

If there's anything you should use to punish your partner, sex should never be one of them. She even sounds bossy and rude

Oya find the lady biko

Thank me now

why not take up the side chick job with OP,already




I blame ASUU strike for the influx of teenagers in social media these days

Wtf did I just for read . Are you for real, bro?

Hmmmmmm
I endured this kind of rubbish from my wife for 10 years , i actually was thinking that she will change , they nodey change anything ooo. My wife even refused to see a medical doctor.

My problem now is that she refused to leave me and the marriage alone, i have even begged her to go and she refused. To worsen the matter every lady i approach for marriage dosent want to be a second wife. I stopped sleeping with her since 1 year ago . Her job is far more interesting to her

I really can feel your pain

tiswell:
why not take up the side chick job with OP,already




I blame ASUU strike for the influx of teenagers in social media these days

You are very stupid for calling someone comfortable enough to feed you and your generation a teenager

This is an open platform and everyone drops what they want to. If my opinion doesn't align with yours, it's your problem. It makes us all different

...but for you to call me a teenager and blaming my comment on ASUU strike, it indeed shows you are a big fool. Social media has indeed caused a lot of insult from keypad warriors who can't even be bold enough to repeat such in one's presence. I don't blame you tho, we all share same space on nairaland

Now take your stupidity away, and get some home training on how to relate with elders

If I want, I would take the job. Mor.on!!!

Very stupid and foolish child!

udede:
Hmmmmmm
I endured this kind of rubbish from my wife for 10 years , i actually was thinking that she will change , they nodey change anything ooo. My wife even refused to see a medical doctor.

My problem now is that she refused to leave me and the marriage alone, i have even begged her to ho and she refused. To worsen the matter every lady i approach for marriage dosent want to be a second wife. I stopped sleeping with her since 1 year ago . Her job is far more interesting to her

I really can feel your pain

You can serve her a divorce letter, even if she refuses to sign or appear in court, the judgement can still be made I learnt

Get a child outside. Do what makes you happy, that's all that matters

These women be doing too much

KristaPretty:


You are very stupid for calling someone comfortable enough to feed you and your generation a teenager

This is an open platform and everyone drops what they want to. If my opinion doesn't align with yours, it's your problem. It makes us all different

...but for you to call me a teenager and blaming my comment on ASUU strike, it indeed shows you are a big fool. Social media has indeed caused a lot of insult from keypad warriors who can't even be bold enough to repeat such in one's presence. I don't blame you tho, we all share same space on nairaland

Now take your stupidity away, and get some home training on how to relate with elders

Very stupid and foolish child!

your BP is high over a phoolish and destructive advice you dished out to someone looking for a reasonable solution to his marriage.




May that phoolish advice happen to your brother or son,insha allah