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Dshocker:
That is the reason why most men don't like taking their wife aboard.

Especially if you enroll her into nursing or to study medicine, by the time she is through studying such course, then the chances of her being your wife is like 20%.

And it is her fellow colleagues that will brainwash her into believing that being single is the best and her husband has no right to question her decision.

Dear men; If you ever plan on relocating your wife aboard, make sure she signs a prenuptial agreement.

How do you do that in Nigeria? A lawyer once told my friend there's no such thing in our constitution

bepositive11:
That man should have just stayed in Nigeria.

99% of Nigerian marriages are about control. Mostly the man controlling the woman. Western marriage is about balance which is foreign to Nigerian men. And their women get preferential treatment legally because they're more likely to earn less after baring children

U are right bt that's because people don't really know themselves b4 they get married, they are carried away by either the emotions, the hype or status they don't take time to look at and address the main issues and requirements for this very important life long decision.

Obviously the foundation if such marriage is weak and can be destroyed by the storms or distractions. Some don't even face much b4 everything crumbles.

People go with thr ancient mindset that once u marry anybody it's for life automatically and they must comply with all term and agreement even without knowing what the terms and agreements are. That worked in the days of ignorance bt not anymore.

Also marriage was never really like that and divorce is nothing new. it didn't start yesterday bt millions of years back. if u want u marriage to last u must get it all right or atleast 70/80% right.

There are many Africans living happily the US and Canada. There are many benefits for thir families there than in Africa.

Marriage or submission doesn't mean lose ur senses.

MrBrownJay1:
bro, a prenup wouldnt help in this issue because the problem is not the wife, it is the YEYE MUMU that she calls her husband, that is the main problem here. what man in his right man would let a woman make him sleep outside of HIS OWN HOME?!?!? in what world? what kind of stupid shiiit is that?

It is a stupid shit as a Nigerian but in the western world,it is not a stupid shit and u can't help it except u live by the rules.

The worst mistake from a man is to take the 9jar wife's abroad... omo ! You are FINISH

prince3009:
Oga, in the US and Europe, if your wife wakes up one morning and doesn't like your face, she will order you out of your own house you bought with your own money and if you do as much as argue about why you should leave the house and she calls the police, they will come and escort you out of the house with nothing but your suitcase of clothing and nothing will happen o!

If you try to fight her or do gragra...they will lock you up in jaíl!

I'd rather die in Nigeria than let a woman have authority over me in abroad

MrBrownJay1:
stop talking about what you dont know.... a man CAN/MUST resist and simply have evidence that he didnt do anything wrong. what you wrote is not only foolish, but blasphemy for US men. abeg travel a little!!! you actually believe that a woman can do what she pleases and anyone will listen to her, lol?!?!? you watch too many US series...while in the real world it doesnt work this way... if a woman lays a hand on you and/or attacks you, you have all the rights to defend yourself against her (whether you are a man or a woman).... THATS THE LAW! just make sure you do that in front of witnesses and/or cameras so that you have proof.

the problem here is that African men think they can control women abroad (like they do inAfrica), while THEY CANT! the law abroad will send
them straight to jail!

You talk too much but know nothing
If you have relatives abroad ask them
Wait you said he should travel a little so I guess you have and yet your sounding this way

So you think for a grown up man like that to leave the building ,doesn't know what his doing but you that live in Nigeria knows better than him.

Abeg keep shut and learn

Ejiakusmith:
Kai this story shock me ooo


guys. where is that my Benin boy slawormi .... any updates about that guy

efcc don carry him.

You certainly ain't making sense, oga have you met a manipulative woman before.

MrBrownJay1:
explain to me (as if i was a 5yr old) how the above is the justification for (or got anything to do with) him sleeping outside his own home?!?!
as much as this man shouldnt hit his wfe, the solution to this problem certainly ISN'T to sleep outside your own home either. thats his house just as much as hers, thus she has NO RIGHT to demand he leave the premises, unless she can back that out with a serious crime he committed towards her/the kids.

here is a simple clue: this mumu husband is talking about controlling his wife, while this shouldnt happen anywhere on earth. nobody should control others, just because they are married.

This guy def love to argue.

MrBrownJay1:
stop talking about what you dont know.... a man CAN/MUST resist and simply have evidence that he didnt do anything wrong. what you wrote is not only foolish, but blasphemy for US men. abeg travel a little!!! you actually believe that a woman can do what she pleases and anyone will listen to her, lol?!?!? you watch too many US series...while in the real world it doesnt work this way... if a woman lays a hand on you and/or attacks you, you have all the rights to defend yourself against her (whether you are a man or a woman).... THATS THE LAW! just make sure you do that in front of witnesses and/or cameras so that you have proof.

the problem here is that African men think they can control women abroad (like they do inAfrica), while THEY CANT! the law abroad will send
them straight to jail!

Arelyn:
The problem the black community faces abroad is that of cultural ideology influenced by our innate ego...Truth be told, we are shaped by our culture and influenced daily by our experience in life but the moment we allow our ego(emotion) to come in place of logic when applying ourselves to situations in life, issues like this are bound to happen

Let me start by saying there is a lot that can happen to an individual overseas that will translate to big reputational damage should such an individual apply his or her cultural ideology to it but because of the rules and regulations of the host country, they are not only normal but legally and socially acceptable.

Over time, black women have learnt the ropes within the legal system that they can manipulate to their favour which may be a result of a genuine desire to seek protection from a very "bad" man or just a selfish manipulative quest to dominate a relationship. These laws are possible because more campaigns seek to portray the female gender as an endangered species therefore more regulations are created to support women in these countries.

It is so surprising that "black women are the largest group with the highest divorce rate in the United States " even more than the white woman which doesn't reflect positivity in black women. It is not uncommon for this group of women to become largely illogical and emotions driven, the moment they attain similar or better economic status compared to their men except for those that remain rooted in their cultural ideology and principles of virtuous women

I wonder why these laws are there while statistics that "Asian women are the least to divorce their men" remains valid. I work in a team of 13 professionals and on nights out, questions bordering around divorce do come up, it's surprising that the Asian women in my team don't see divorce as an option but my black sisters don't just take the chill pill at all. An Asian colleague once said " when you have a broken toy, you fix it, you don't throw it away " that stuck with me for a while

My submission is not to support those groups of men that are full of themselves and won't mind treating their women badly, if a woman seeks protection from men like that it is understandable and justifiable but I have seen more women get their men in trouble with the authorities just for the sake of better social welfare package.

I just want us, individuals, both at home and abroad to know that the more black families are destroyed, the more black children are not provided with the best opportunity to attain the optimum best for themselves as the statistics show that black children from broken homes are more likely not to turn out well in life...These are evident in most American movies, "blackness" is always characterised by broken homes, drugs, violence etc...The more reason the series "Power" gained more viewership than "Empire" even though they had a similar storyline of grass to grace but power depicts the appropriate narrative of a black man which millions of young black men can relate to the main character's experiences while it suits the narrative of how Hollywood wants to portray a black man

Very well said
Though I don't agree with the Power vs Empire analogy

Ibechris2:
It is a stupid shit as a Nigerian but in the western world,it is not a stupid shit and u can't help it except u live by the rules.

what law in the US says that your wife can throw you out for no damn reason and make you sleep outside?
stop writing rubbish online!

Caseless:
quit this narration. The society listens to the woman story first. Don't go and claim any self-defense except you're on camera.
Amber Heard and Johnny Depp's case should tell you what it is.

stop putting the carriage before the horse.... the man broke no law therefore his wife has NO VALID reason to ask him to sleep outside his own home.
stop writing rubbish online!

tonyashburton:
You are a 5 year old if you can't understand that the law doesn't give a Bleep about where he's going to sleep if she is awarded the house and custody of any children in the event that their union is dissolved.

nobody awarded her the house... thus she has no right to ask him to sleep outside!
stop writing rubbish online!

godofuck231:
I would prefer being thrown out of my house than have her leave , at least my kids are still under protection of my house , but when she does throw me out na there my waka start , and na ther when marriage end , she should complete the mortgage of the house and never call me for anything, even if it concerns the welfare of the children because I was dispossessed of my rights as their father and shelter of my own home, so make she carry the house its her inheritance, good luck to her and the newfuckboy when de brain wash her

fair enough, but remember that your kids will learn from your actions...and therefore you must ask yourself: is the the kind of value you wanna teach them. to let yeye people walk all over you because they suddenly lost their goddamn mind?!?

maasoap:
Too much bullshit in your post. They were inside their house and you're talking about witnesses. If she hits you, are you going to record yourself hitting her back? Lol.

Too many USA series, right? Is their movies different from the reality in their society? I don't think so.
If she makes any claim right there to the police, the man will still have prove himself to the law that he didn't do it. Why not leaving quietly to avoid getting into more trouble with their law?

you sir dont know shiit about the world.... get out of Nigeria and live a little, then you will understand that its very easy to film a yeye woman who suddenly lost her goddamn mind! any woman who claims ANYTHING must bring proof to her accusations. if you believe that a woman can claim whatever nonsense and the law just accept it, then you sir are more daft than you sound. it will be YOUR words against HERS...and if you have marks over your body and she has none over hers, then they will believe YOU before her, duh!

nairamaniac:
You are a real ignorant novice.
The man knows what would proceed if any officer of the law comes into that house by virtue of a created noisy-scene.
The lowest ranked officer would order the man to leave the house first.
That's procedure.
First thing.
Then he can fight his case from outside.

you people dont know shiiit about US laws, and are just writing arrant nonsense online!!!!.... no woman can throw her husband out his own house, unless a court orders it, NONE!
stop writing rubbish online!

t2luv1:
Partner if you happen to have any kid under 18 trust me you sleeping outside that house until the court says otherwise. And if you put up and start coming out of the woodwork I guess the country cell is your bed for that night. Never pick a fight with your woman on any winter night especially if it is -20 degrees outside. in Chicago. Lawd have Mercy.

prince3009:
Oga, in the US and Europe, if your wife wakes up one morning and doesn't like your face, she will order you out of your own house you bought with your own money and if you do as much as argue about why you should leave the house and she calls the police, they will come and escort you out of the house with nothing but your suitcase of clothing and nothing will happen o!

If you try to fight her or do gragra...they will lock you up in jaíl!

only a court can ask you to leave your own house....no woman has that power to throw you out your own house, for no damn reason, just because she says so!
stop writing rubbish online!

backnbeta:
I bet you think he should have beaten her! But no, he is not a yeye man- he's just in an environment where he needs to thread softly lest he loses freedom and house!

beating her will surely get him in jail... why would a man do such a foolish thing?! the only way he can beat her is if she attacks him first and he has to defend himself.

007Marvel:
Mr Traveller! White man's law favors women more than men! 75 percent of DV cases women always comes out on top! Mind you have seen up to 5 DV cases! Not Nigeria DV cases but that of the country seen as the center of Democracy and freedom of speech! Which is America!

just because the aw favours women, doesnt mean a woman can throw you out your own house with no valid reason whatsoever. only a court order can ask you to leave your own house, and certainly not a yeye woman who lost her damn mind.

ElPhoche:
Trust me, when police come, they would escort you out of the house. It is actually very common and not unique to him.

no cop has the right to escort you out your own house, just because your wife wants you out... there needs to be proof of domestic violence from your part before they would take you to jail.... without a court order, they have NO VALID REASON to ask you to leave your own house.
now, if your wife has a black eye and marks that you beat the hell out of her, then you aint leaving that house, you are GOING TO JAIL...and thats a different matter.... but no wife can get up one morning and decide that you must get out, and police will say you need to go, NONE!!!

Ckonnet:
In naija or abroad? It's like the abroad stories sounds like fairy tales to you sha. If their are kids in the house and both are legally married, oga you go leave the house.

what does the above got to do with anything?! unless there is proof of domestic violence, and/or a court order to get you out the house, how is she gonna get you out? by showing her blue eyes or what? what will she even tell the cops in order for them to remotely think of removing you from your own house?!?!? you people are just daft!!!!

posty56:
ebi like say you no know how America works ,any zuzu that man is a gonna, straight jail then they deport his ass. , laws there favour women , and Nigeria women get drunk on it

i do feel sorry for people like you who know nothing about the west, yet write arrant nonsense online! straight to jail because some yeye woman wants you out and he doesnt want to leave his own house, bwaaaaaaaah! you guys must be comedians!

Dshocker:
Am sorry sir, i am truly sorry for informing you, na me do mistake.
But i will advise you, when ever you find yourself outside the shores of Nigeria, endeavour to ask questions pertaining the laws of the land..
A judge or magistrate will tell you that ignorance is not an excuse in the court of law

you are the ignorant one here , who obviously dont know anything abouy US laws, writing arrant nonsense online. a woman has NO RIGHT to demand that you leave your own house, for no damn reason...and even if she has a valid reason, she needs a court order to get you out.
you people should use your damn brain abeg!!!! so you actually believe that a woman gets up today, says you must go sleep in the street (for no damn reason), and the law will agree with her and throw you out your own house?!?!?!?

HERE IS A SIMPLE QUESTION FOR ALL YOU YEYE BRAINLESS IGNORAMUS why is there domestic violence shelters all over the US, if a wife could just call the cops and get her husband out his own house?!?!?!

MrBrownJay1:
explain to me (as if i was a 5yr old) how the above is the justification for (or got anything to do with) him sleeping outside his own home?!?!
as much as this man shouldnt hit his wfe, the solution to this problem certainly ISN'T to sleep outside your own home either. thats his house just as much as hers, thus she has NO RIGHT to demand he leave the premises, unless she can back that out with a serious crime he committed towards her/the kids.

here is a simple clue: this mumu husband is talking about controlling his wife, while this shouldnt happen anywhere on earth. nobody should control others, just because they are married.

Bro you are arguing from a Nigerian mindset. Back there in the States,from the moment a woman files for a divorce, the court will order you the man to leave the house for her pending the divorce finalisation and Child/Property sharing and ownership.

I'm elated seeing many men talking about prenup.... it's the way to go y'all.

Ejiakusmith:
Kai this story shock me ooo

guys. where is that my Benin boy slawormi .... any updates about that guy

You be Buhari ni?

seanwilliam:
the more I read threads about this man the more I’m dying inside bro .

I am genuinely sad and bitter watching that video .

If a woman tries that with me , wether I’m the USA or Nigeria , like I said on the other thread , one person will need a lawyer while the other a doctor

The law applies simply because you are married to her and you are in the US

Location of marriage rite is irrelevant

Cadamlk:
Chai! See the way you dey talk am like say you dey leave with them

*live*

richie240:
Remember when u asked me:


.....and i replied:

The level of the recipient's undertanding {for example as shown by ur response - in bold} demands dt one holds his tongue in his cheek else one suffers ridicule .
That na why i been say "Every Mallam to hin kettle o"
One man's food na another man poison!

If you like highlight APC and PDP, this is less of my problem now. Inexperienced ppl arguing anyhow.

We should hear her own part of the story, "the controlling wife".

I dated a lady one time..I processed visa for one Europe country and I was denied the visa.This mumu girl as processing anoda country and her money finish halfway..she told me to sponsor her to the country and when she get there I will come and meet her .A whole me Edo boy woman wey I never marry wana use my head.i just declined and since den the relationship no straight again..I care less.Till relationship sink.Even if you carry your wife abroad..Have a back up plan.I always have a plan B.No be all your investment and income woman suppose know.

MrBrownJay1:
bro, a prenup wouldnt help in this issue because the problem is not the wife, it is the YEYE MUMU that she calls her husband, that is the main problem here. what man in his right man would let a woman make him sleep outside of HIS OWN HOME?!?!? in what world? what kind of stupid shiiit is that?

Bro travel to USA first and ur brain will reset. U dear not touch her or u go to jail. He should have tot of a day like this b4 starting life with her.

nedekid:
It works differently abroad. The woman will ask you to leave the house and you must. Police sef will assist her. The likelihood is she gets the house, and you may even have to keep paying the mortgage and monthly court ordered bills for the upkeep of the kids.
They laws protect women. As I write this, my paddy just lost his house to his wife of over 20 years. House he has almost finished paying for.

Not quite, in some cases maybe, especially if kids are involved. But otherwise the man can go to court and the courts would decide. What if the man cannot afford to pay the mortgage? Lost his job as a result of depressions for being kicked outta his own house? Men has rights too.

I think your paddy may not have owned the house. The only way he or the courts would let the woman live in his house is if there are kids involved.

Yankee101:
Simple phone call
Assuming he owned the house in his family for 100 years
He marries her legally just a few years ago then lays his hands on her
I live in the same America where a tenant can take over your house for months without paying rent talk less of your wife
Simple phone call and he’s out or he’ll be bundled to jail

That’s why you hear of some Naija guys that think like him killing their wives
In family court na man dey take last. Never pray to be a man at the receiving end in family court

Yes, he would be bundled out at that time to avoid more risks of harm to either of them.

Yes, a tenant can do that to a landlord but eventually the tenant must leave, when the case has gone through the courts and baillifs involved, tenant cannot take over landlord's house it is not their house.


In family courts man don't always takes last, man has rights also, both parties gets what they deserve.

ZIMDRILL:
yes you are right the difference here is what people see on the video and what the family court will decide, but usually the women is left in the house especially when kids are involved and if the mother is the primary carer which is mostly 99%

So most people are commenting based on how men in nigeria kick out their wives whereas in this case yes thats what on the video but its in the west social service or family courts will get involved

Whereas in african no social service or family will get involved, it would be dealt as traditional family issue and the woman for sure will be kicked out and even with nothing

Remember the laws that were put to protect women were a result of women being abused over the years and were put to address injustice

i think also in time some laws will be put to protect men from women who abuse law to get even or punish men

Usually laws are made after much damage as been done, if you look carefully 99% its immigrants who abuse the laws to get even becoz were they came from they never had laws or community that supports eqaul justice

Yes! Absolutely, but most africans on here seems to believe that men has no right in America. Their wives can just throw them outta their houses and take over their mortgages or their fully paid for houses. The courts would ussually decide after trials.

MrBrownJay1:
what law in the US says that your wife can throw you out for no damn reason and make you sleep outside?
stop writing rubbish online!



stop putting the carriage before the horse.... the man broke no law therefore his wife has NO VALID reason to ask him to sleep outside his own home.
stop writing rubbish online!



nobody awarded her the house... thus she has no right to ask him to sleep outside!
stop writing rubbish online!



fair enough, but remember that your kids will learn from your actions...and therefore you must ask yourself: is the the kind of value you wanna teach them. to let yeye people walk all over you because they suddenly lost their goddamn mind?!?



you sir dont know shiit about the world.... get out of Nigeria and live a little, then you will understand that its very easy to film a yeye woman who suddenly lost her goddamn mind! any woman who claims ANYTHING must bring proof to her accusations. if you believe that a woman can claim whatever nonsense and the law just accept it, then you sir are more daft than you sound. it will be YOUR words against HERS...and if you have marks over your body and she has none over hers, then they will believe YOU before her, duh!



you people dont know shiiit about US laws, and are just writing arrant nonsense online!!!!.... no woman can throw her husband out his own house, unless a court orders it, NONE!
stop writing rubbish online!




only a court can ask you to leave your own house....no woman has that power to throw you out your own house, for no damn reason, just because she says so!
stop writing rubbish online!



beating her will surely get him in jail... why would a man do such a foolish thing?! the only way he can beat her is if she attacks him first and he has to defend himself.



just because the aw favours women, doesnt mean a woman can throw you out your own house with no valid reason whatsoever. only a court order can ask you to leave your own house, and certainly not a yeye woman who lost her damn mind.



no cop has the right to escort you out your own house, just because your wife wants you out... there needs to be proof of domestic violence from your part before they would take you to jail.... without a court order, they have NO VALID REASON to ask you to leave your own house.
now, if your wife has a black eye and marks that you beat the hell out of her, then you aint leaving that house, you are GOING TO JAIL...and thats a different matter.... but no wife can get up one morning and decide that you must get out, and police will say you need to go, NONE!!!



what does the above got to do with anything?! unless there is proof of domestic violence, and/or a court order to get you out the house, how is she gonna get you out? by showing her blue eyes or what? what will she even tell the cops in order for them to remotely think of removing you from your own house?!?!? you people are just daft!!!!



i do feel sorry for people like you who know nothing about the west, yet write arrant nonsense online! straight to jail because some yeye woman wants you out and he doesnt want to leave his own house, bwaaaaaaaah! you guys must be comedians!



you are the ignorant one here , who obviously dont know anything abouy US laws, writing arrant nonsense online. a woman has NO RIGHT to demand that you leave your own house, for no damn reason...and even if she has a valid reason, she needs a court order to get you out.
you people should use your damn brain abeg!!!! so you actually believe that a woman gets up today, says you must go sleep in the street (for no damn reason), and the law will agree with her and throw you out your own house?!?!?!?

HERE IS A SIMPLE QUESTION FOR ALL YOU YEYE BRAINLESS IGNORAMUS why is there domestic violence shelters all over the US, if a wife could just call the cops and get her husband out his own house?!?!?!

Abeg! Tell them ignoramuses, they seem to believe that men do not have rights in the US only women has rights, what they do not know is that everyone has rights. And ussually the courts decides.

Ejiakusmith:
Kai this story shock me ooo


guys. where is that my Benin boy slawormi .... any updates about that guy

I heard that he is cooling off inside EFCC's cell for online crime.

MrBrownJay1:
explain to me (as if i was a 5yr old) how the above is the justification for (or got anything to do with) him sleeping outside his own home?!?!
as much as this man shouldnt hit his wfe, the solution to this problem certainly ISN'T to sleep outside your own home either. thats his house just as much as hers, thus she has NO RIGHT to demand he leave the premises, unless she can back that out with a serious crime he committed towards her/the kids.

here is a simple clue: this mumu husband is talking about controlling his wife, while this shouldnt happen anywhere on earth. nobody should control others, just because they are married.

You are talking about something you know nothing about! She only needs to call the police to say you threatened her and you will be out in the cold within minutes. That is America not Mushin.

Ejiakusmith:
Kai this story shock me ooo


guys. where is that my Benin boy slawormi .... any updates about that guy

Sapa Don make am sell him phone

Very true. They don't know themselves and they fall in love with an idealised version of their partner. They come back to reality after marriage.

It's true that there are happy African families in the West. I said that he should have stayed in Nigeria because he didn't agree with Western culture and values.

There has been many complaints about Nigerian women changing when they go to the West. Why is that? They finally have the freedom to do what they've always wanted to do because Western systems favour women.

What is the meaning of submission? That word can be toxic. A lot of Nigerian men use manipulation and physical strength to get their women to submit. Of course, when those women go to the West and get more rights, they break loose from the man's control.

Those happy African families in the West didn't have that toxic dynamic in Africa in the first place, that's why they are still happy even when the woman gets more benefits in the West.

Submission should come naturally from the woman because the man is respectable, not because of manipulation, control, and abuse.

jaxxy:
U are right bt that's because people don't really know themselves b4 they get married, they are carried away by either the emotions, the hype or status they don't take time to look at and address the main issues and requirements for this very important life long decision.

Obviously the foundation if such marriage is weak and can be destroyed by the storms or distractions. Some don't even face much b4 everything crumbles.

People go with thr ancient mindset that once u marry anybody it's for life automatically and they must comply with all term and agreement even without knowing what the terms and agreements are. That worked in the days of ignorance bt not anymore.

Also marriage was never really like that and divorce is nothing new. it didn't start yesterday bt millions of years back. if u want u marriage to last u must get it all right or atleast 70/80% right.

There are many Africans living happily the US and Canada. There are many benefits for thir families there than in Africa.

Marriage or submission doesn't mean lose ur senses.

Dshocker:
You are funny, Google the meaning of prenup.

If she had signed a prenup, then she wouldn't get a dime from their divorce.

And in America, you dare not hit your wife, because the laws of the land protects women and children more.

He acted wisely by recording his evidence and also not hitting his wife.

Lets assume you've lived in America for 20yrs and you were able to buy a house $10M, later you got married and had problems with her and you hit her, my brother you might lose 50% of your money, if not all to her and the house automatically goes to her.

Not all Prenups mean that either party would not be getting a dime after a divorce.
It depends on the terms of the settlement either party decides to put therein.

Dshocker:
Lol, it doesn't work that way in America, that is why you have to try as much as possible to be on the safe side when you head to court

It works precisely that way.

Marital property is shared equitably, while separate property is only shared if some marital income is involved in the separate property, say renovation from a joint account.

Otherwise only marital property, or property acquired during the course of marriage, is shared. The woman doesn't get to own all of marital property. The court shares it equitably (not equally).

Separate property, or property acquired before marriage, which is unaffected by marital income, is not up for equitable distribution among the divorced couple.

Note that asking a man to leave his house is not automatic ownership on the other party; it usually implies the need for space. Just like either party can get a restraining order no matter the nature of the residence.