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You don't have to do anything, allow her to enjoy her relationship in peace

Tell her since she has a man already there’s no need for you guys to be together anymore, not even as friends. Trust me you don’t love this girl but only want to sleep with her. It’s all lust and not worth the stress. Sex is overrated my guy

omron:
Hello Good moring Romancelanders .
I really need a very urgent advise ,its affecting me emotionally and am confused.
MY name is Joseph am Abeokuta based live and work in Abeokuta,About 5 weeks ago I met this lady a graduate very beautiful, tall, and charming on my way to visit my Mum during weekend so I stopped her while driving and we chat and exchanged numbers,Since then we av been in constant communication, The funniest part of this aspect is that ever since I met her she go deeper In love with me even more than I do ,she calls me morin day and night to ask of me ,ask me what I eat how my day was going and all that even when am moody and she observe she will make me happy and crack jokes and all that, One day I was broke cos someone owe me money and could not pay she noticed am not happy and asked me why I told her am.broke and this lady sent me #5'000 naira to my bank account that day for me to manage till the next day, I just kept wondering why she love me this much and one day I asked her why she love me this much and she said its natural ,I invited her to my house one Sunday and she came to cook for me and tidy the house and we jist,so I tried to make attempt to have sex with her but she refused me and told me that it's the first time of coming to my house that it's not proper ,meanwhile she told me she met a guy while she was schooling at Obafemi Awolowo University ile ife Osun state they both graduated then and relocated to Abeokuta together and they were living couples life after school.so when ever this lady comes visit me she will be hurry to go back to the guys house which am not so much happy about ,...So this last Sunday she came to my house and confessed to me that it was the guy who disflowered her and that she never had sex with any other guy in her life except that guy,,,so this last Sunday again I tried to make attempt to have sex with her but she was dragging with me telling me no way no access I asked her why and she started crying ,and was so emotional ,she told me her conscience is disturbing her that the guy did not offend her and that she loves the guy so much and she loves me too ,that the love she has for both of us is equal and she does not want to be having sex with two guys at the same relationship and now told me that the only thing that can make her have sex with me is if she breaks up with the guy that I will have to be very patient and wait for that day to come and I now asked her what if the day does not come and she said all in God's hand ? I tried to persuade her for sex that Sunday evening she was dragging it with me and suddenly she left my room in annoyance carried her bag and left crying.....I have never seen the kind of this lady before in my life and after she left I felt bad and I hated myself ,,,,when she got home I called her to check on her and she told me she has reached home and she was apologising to me for refusing me sex ...Please am just so confused I don't know what to do ..she calls me more than 12 times a day asking about my welfare and my day ,am the first person she calls early morin with WhatsApp video calls and she is very caring ..what should I do...am thinking of deleting and forgetting her ..How can she say she loves me and having sex with another guy and refusing me ...please I need a very good advice..I really love her and I feel like marrying her but I don't just want to waste my time...Thanks for your concern my dearest nairalnders God bless u

You write so poorly and incoherent. No paragraphs, No punctuation marks, no space in between, grammatical errors everywhere.

Are you sure you went to school? Please go back to school and forget about LOVE for now Biko!! Gosh!!

No be everything be sex baba ...You can just be friends with her. She cares, that counts bro...And she's honest because for her to open up means she's genuine as well.. Her type is rare. Truth is a vital key of an honest person and its hard to see that in a NIGERIAN lady. I don't know why most guyz like sex. Not everything is sex. Some people can be in your life to help you in one way or the order.
Just so you know, if she was for you, she would have been single.

You can just make it straight with her. All my life, i have never had any lady that is straight forward and genuine. Most of them just want money or good life, fakeness everywhere. Your own even send you 5k, it counts gee...Its like you never see anything sha. I've seen a lady that lied to me that her grandma mistakenly swallowed spoon, just to bill me of 20k for surgery, babe wey e no reach 1week wey we jam oh.... Me wey i be ijaw boy norms. We no dey ever lose guard .

A real Nigga will always know what he want. He never settles for less. You can just be friends with her. That's all... You don't have to date and don't steal another man's babe....e no fresh at all. Relax your own babe will come when the time comes .





As our Ancestors would say "Real Friendship is one of the greatest weapon one can ever have.

H0didon:
No be everything be sex baba ...You can just be friends with her. She cares, that counts bro...And she's honest because for her to open up means she's genuine as well.. Her type is rare. Truth is a vital key of an honest person and its hard to see that in a NIGERIAN lady. I don't know why most guyz like sex. Not everything is sex. Some people can be in your life to help you in one way or the order.
Just so you know, if she was for you, she would have been single.

You can just make it straight with her. All my life, i have never had any lady that is straight forward and genuine. Most of them just want money or good life, fakeness everywhere. Your own even send you 5k, it counts gee...Its like you never see anything sha. I've seen a lady that lied to me that her grandma mistakenly swallowed spoon, just to bill me of 20k for surgery, babe wey e no reach 1week wey we jam oh.... Me wey i be ijaw boy norms. We no dey ever lose guard .

A real Nigga will always know what he want. He never settles for less. You can just be friends with her. That's all... You don't have to date and don't steal another man's babe....e no fresh at all. Relax your own babe will come when the time comes .





As our Ancestors would say "Real Friendship is one of the greatest weapon one can ever have.

Guy your head dey there, u be correct ijaw man..look up see one mumu dey find punctuation, paragraph, comma as if thats the advice the op is seeking for

H0didon:
No be everything be sex baba ...You can just be friends with her. She cares, that counts bro...And she's honest because for her to open up means she's genuine as well.. Her type is rare. Truth is a vital key of an honest person and its hard to see that in a NIGERIAN lady. I don't know why most guyz like sex. Not everything is sex. Some people can be in your life to help you in one way or the order.
Just so you know, if she was for you, she would have been single.

You can just make it straight with her. All my life, i have never had any lady that is straight forward and genuine. Most of them just want money or good life, fakeness everywhere. Your own even send you 5k, it counts gee...Its like you never see anything sha. I've seen a lady that lied to me that her grandma mistakenly swallowed spoon, just to bill me of 20k for surgery, babe wey e no reach 1week wey we jam oh.... Me wey i be ijaw boy norms. We no dey ever lose guard .

A real Nigga will always know what he want. He never settles for less. You can just be friends with her. That's all... You don't have to date and don't steal another man's babe....e no fresh at all. Relax your own babe will come when the time comes .





As our Ancestors would say "Real Friendship is one of the greatest weapon one can ever have.

When you guys type like this, it makes me laugh. See Nigerian men and honesty.

She's Keeping You For Animal "Husbandary"

Olodo like you... see your brain like sex film... why you no chop the girl raw self... cool down for her jorr... soon she go leave the guy for you.. yeye guy...

Namdeenero:
Tell her since she has a man already there’s no need for you guys to be together anymore, not even as friends. Trust me you don’t love this girl but only want to sleep with her. It’s all lust and not worth the stress. Sex is overrated my guy

Abi oOoOO, immediately after sex, the veil of lust overshadows his eyes will be removed. By then, he will begin to see many flaws of the lady,......she is double dating....she is promiscuous.....she fuckks like dog, she is not wife material blablabla.


Meanwhile, if OP's epistle is real, this will butress school of thoughts that say, "woman don't really know what they want" and "woman marries who is ready and not who she loves".

Anyway It's the lady I pity most ooooo.

omron:
Hello Good moring Romancelanders .
I really need a very urgent advise ,its affecting me emotionally and am confused.
MY name is Joseph am Abeokuta based live and work in Abeokuta,About 5 weeks ago I met this lady a graduate very beautiful, tall, and charming on my way to visit my Mum during weekend so I stopped her while driving and we chat and exchanged numbers,Since then we av been in constant communication, The funniest part of this aspect is that ever since I met her she go deeper In love with me even more than I do ,she calls me morin day and night to ask of me ,ask me what I eat how my day was going and all that even when am moody and she observe she will make me happy and crack jokes and all that, One day I was broke cos someone owe me money and could not pay she noticed am not happy and asked me why I told her am.broke and this lady sent me #5'000 naira to my bank account that day for me to manage till the next day, I just kept wondering why she love me this much and one day I asked her why she love me this much and she said its natural ,I invited her to my house one Sunday and she came to cook for me and tidy the house and we jist,so I tried to make attempt to have sex with her but she refused me and told me that it's the first time of coming to my house that it's not proper ,meanwhile she told me she met a guy while she was schooling at Obafemi Awolowo University ile ife Osun state they both graduated then and relocated to Abeokuta together and they were living couples life after school.so when ever this lady comes visit me she will be hurry to go back to the guys house which am not so much happy about ,...So this last Sunday she came to my house and confessed to me that it was the guy who disflowered her and that she never had sex with any other guy in her life except that guy,,,so this last Sunday again I tried to make attempt to have sex with her but she was dragging with me telling me no way no access I asked her why and she started crying ,and was so emotional ,she told me her conscience is disturbing her that the guy did not offend her and that she loves the guy so much and she loves me too ,that the love she has for both of us is equal and she does not want to be having sex with two guys at the same relationship and now told me that the only thing that can make her have sex with me is if she breaks up with the guy that I will have to be very patient and wait for that day to come and I now asked her what if the day does not come and she said all in God's hand ? I tried to persuade her for sex that Sunday evening she was dragging it with me and suddenly she left my room in annoyance carried her bag and left crying.....I have never seen the kind of this lady before in my life and after she left I felt bad and I hated myself ,,,,when she got home I called her to check on her and she told me she has reached home and she was apologising to me for refusing me sex ...Please am just so confused I don't know what to do ..she calls me more than 12 times a day asking about my welfare and my day ,am the first person she calls early morin with WhatsApp video calls and she is very caring ..what should I do...am thinking of deleting and forgetting her ..How can she say she loves me and having sex with another guy and refusing me ...please I need a very good advice..I really love her and I feel like marrying her but I don't just want to waste my time...Thanks for your concern my dearest nairalnders God bless u

My advice
1. Pay her back the N5k
2. You are her back up plan her side chick ( man) .
3. What do you both have in common ? At least the bf and her are in school together. If you don’t have your stuff together don’t drag her down.
4. Cut her loose
5. Forget her . 9ja there are others you will find trust me.

omron:
Hello Good moring Romancelanders .
I really need a very urgent advise ,its affecting me emotionally and am confused.
MY name is Joseph am Abeokuta based live and work in Abeokuta,About 5 weeks ago I met this lady a graduate very beautiful, tall, and charming on my way to visit my Mum during weekend so I stopped her while driving and we chat and exchanged numbers,Since then we av been in constant communication, The funniest part of this aspect is that ever since I met her she go deeper In love with me even more than I do ,she calls me morin day and night to ask of me ,ask me what I eat how my day was going and all that even when am moody and she observe she will make me happy and crack jokes and all that, One day I was broke cos someone owe me money and could not pay she noticed am not happy and asked me why I told her am.broke and this lady sent me #5'000 naira to my bank account that day for me to manage till the next day, I just kept wondering why she love me this much and one day I asked her why she love me this much and she said its natural ,I invited her to my house one Sunday and she came to cook for me and tidy the house and we jist,so I tried to make attempt to have sex with her but she refused me and told me that it's the first time of coming to my house that it's not proper ,meanwhile she told me she met a guy while she was schooling at Obafemi Awolowo University ile ife Osun state they both graduated then and relocated to Abeokuta together and they were living couples life after school.so when ever this lady comes visit me she will be hurry to go back to the guys house which am not so much happy about ,...So this last Sunday she came to my house and confessed to me that it was the guy who disflowered her and that she never had sex with any other guy in her life except that guy,,,so this last Sunday again I tried to make attempt to have sex with her but she was dragging with me telling me no way no access I asked her why and she started crying ,and was so emotional ,she told me her conscience is disturbing her that the guy did not offend her and that she loves the guy so much and she loves me too ,that the love she has for both of us is equal and she does not want to be having sex with two guys at the same relationship and now told me that the only thing that can make her have sex with me is if she breaks up with the guy that I will have to be very patient and wait for that day to come and I now asked her what if the day does not come and she said all in God's hand ? I tried to persuade her for sex that Sunday evening she was dragging it with me and suddenly she left my room in annoyance carried her bag and left crying.....I have never seen the kind of this lady before in my life and after she left I felt bad and I hated myself ,,,,when she got home I called her to check on her and she told me she has reached home and she was apologising to me for refusing me sex ...Please am just so confused I don't know what to do ..she calls me more than 12 times a day asking about my welfare and my day ,am the first person she calls early morin with WhatsApp video calls and she is very caring ..what should I do...am thinking of deleting and forgetting her ..How can she say she loves me and having sex with another guy and refusing me ...please I need a very good advice..I really love her and I feel like marrying her but I don't just want to waste my time...Thanks for your concern my dearest nairalnders God bless u

It takes time to snatch a girl from her first love. From your write up, she is a genuine person. If you want sex badly get another person. But if you want love be patient with this well cultured woman. Mind you, it is possible that other guy is not ready to marry and she sees you as a potential husband so she wants you to value her. Nothing wrong in snatching her from that guy cos nobody is actually free. You either share or snatch. For the fact she does video calls with you means she doesn't live with that guy. She just gave you those excuses to test your patience. She is even still calling you always. Oga calm down and allow her come to you. This sex you will do and be tired.

She wants to eat her cake and still have it

Naso many women be, she probably “love” because you have a car or assumed you are of higher economic status to her boyfriend, ni loose guard

If she no give you three points collect now, no rush am no talk about am, but don’t invest emotionally or financially into her Just be floating there, the sex thing go still happen, but make sure you don’t ask for it like your desperate

I perceive you are dealing with a Convert Narcissist. The stage you are right now is called Love Bombing(endless love confession, calls, romantic texts, constant visitation and later good sex ). After she secures your commitment through relationship or marriage, your shall graduate to Devaluing stage (nagging, reporting you to third parties, mental and emotional abuse). The last and final stage is Discarding(she shall abscond, ghosts and leave you for the next victim); this is when she gets bored with you and finds a better guy. Be wise o!

Do not destroy that relationship.

There are many otherladies that are very much free. Look for one.


U don't force people to separate of u

H0didon:
No be everything be sex baba ...You can just be friends with her. She cares, that counts bro...And she's honest because for her to open up means she's genuine as well.. Her type is rare. Truth is a vital key of an honest person and its hard to see that in a NIGERIAN lady. I don't know why most guyz like sex. Not everything is sex. Some people can be in your life to help you in one way or the order.
Just so you know, if she was for you, she would have been single.

You can just make it straight with her. All my life, i have never had any lady that is straight forward and genuine. Most of them just want money or good life, fakeness everywhere. Your own even send you 5k, it counts gee...Its like you never see anything sha. I've seen a lady that lied to me that her grandma mistakenly swallowed spoon, just to bill me of 20k for surgery, babe wey e no reach 1week wey we jam oh.... Me wey i be ijaw boy norms. We no dey ever lose guard .

A real Nigga will always know what he want. He never settles for less. You can just be friends with her. That's all... You don't have to date and don't steal another man's babe....e no fresh at all. Relax your own babe will come when the time comes .





As our Ancestors would say "Real Friendship is one of the greatest weapon one can ever have.

God bless you brother

Jennyclay:
You write so poorly and incoherent. No paragraphs, No punctuation marks, no space in between, grammatical errors everywhere.

Are you sure you went to school? Please go back to school and forget about LOVE for now Biko!! Gosh!!

Incoherently

Jennyclay:
You write so poorly and incoherent. No paragraphs, No punctuation marks, no space in between, grammatical errors everywhere.

Are you sure you went to school? Please go back to school and forget about LOVE for now Biko!! Gosh!!

Chai!!!

Don't take advantage of the fact that she loves you, try being platonic friends with her for now.

When she don see car what do you expect? Which naija girl no go start professing love to any man in car wey toast her? Forget the 5k she sent she dey pour water for floor so as to match cold ground.

And if you believe she has not had sex with anyone else before apart from the guy then you're a fool. She's only trying to act like a good girl to you because you're a potential husband material.

Seems you don't know what having a car means to Nigeria girls especially the ones from poor homes

Mm

I would have cursed you but I just woke up so let me maintain. Why you want to force sex upon a girl with a boyfriend?

Na Nigerians go either kill relationships or relationships go kill us!!
Make you sef rest! Your blood too hot!!

Diary of a finished man with zero self awareness. Leave that girl alone and face front.

Because she gave you 5k is enough reason to fall in love with her? She's caring and shows concern is also enough reason to be in love with a woman? What happened to the most important qualities of all men seek for in women that happens to be respect?

If she respected you enough, she would give you the puss.y without stress. She wouldn't have brought up her other boyfriends tales by moonlight to your doorstep if she respected you.
Even when it's obvious that she's playing games with your intelligence you're just too emotionally invested in her and in your quest for s.ex. Better wake up from this stupidity and start being reasonable.

You don't do to do anything, allow her to enjoy her relationship in peace

Wotoporiously speaking

Hahaha

blinking001:
Diary of a finished man with zero self awareness. Leave that girl alone and face front.

Because she gave you 5k is enough reason to fall in love with her? She's caring and shows concern is also enough reason to be in love with a woman? What happened to the most important qualities of all men seek for in women that happens to be respect?

If she respected you enough, she would give you the puss.y without stress. She wouldn't have brought up her other boyfriends tales by moonlight to your doorstep if she respected you.
Even when it's obvious that she's playing games with your intelligence you're just too emotionally invested in her and in your quest for s.ex. Better wake up from this stupidity and start being reasonable.

Wow bro u gave the best advise advise so far that was my opinion too...she just finished calling me now ...we.spoke for over 30 minutes and at the end of the calls she said I love u ...wen she does not respect my quest for sex

Thanks to everyone that have gave advised I love u guys so much....have really learned a lot

Learning

All I could read here is about SEX, it's very certain you ain't in love with the said lady.
Pls let her enjoy her relationship, what you have for her is LUST

See manipulation.. smart girl
Very soon oga go propose marriage