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When you thought you have heard it all

nuland:
It's just cultural/religion.
Marriage is about the Number one way of building bonds between families islamically.
God has called her to the great beyond and life has to continue and the marriage must hold.!

If this had been a family that had, say, lost a son, would the families have handed over their next son to the other family that quickly in order to build this bond Islamically too?

Jennyclay:
Haba!! Just one week

I'm beginning to suspect he has a hand in his fiancé's death, because one week is just too small to mourn your Fiancé. Kilode!!

Men are emotionally weak, Women hardly re-marry instantly. SMH

RIP to her.

Why do you think so?

Ahh things de happen sha for this world. It actually feels good to learn about other people's culture and way of life.

To me I feel this is not right the way and manner they choose to do it. Atleast they should have given even if it is a month gap before going on with the wedding.

Jennyclay:
Haba!! Just one week

I'm beginning to suspect he has a hand in his fiancé's death, because one week is just too small to mourn your Fiancé. Kilode!!

Men are emotionally weak, Women hardly re-marry instantly. SMH

RIP to her.

if it was men in this situation....the brother won't have agreed to marry his brother's fiancee. Some sisters get as e be....

Jennyclay:
Haba!! Just one week

I'm beginning to suspect he has a hand in his fiancé's death, because one week is just too small to mourn your Fiancé. Kilode!!

Men are emotionally weak, Women hardly re-marry instantly. SMH

RIP to her.

And her sister is happy to jump on her sisters fiance just after one week her sister died!
How are we sure they both didn't plan to kill the girl.....

Anyway, even Bible asks us to Fear Not!!

It would end up in premium tears, the foundation is very week

May Allah forgive her shortcoming and grant her Aljannatul firdausi, Ameeen.

SeeHim:
https://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2022/8/man-set-to-marry-his-fiances-younger-sister-in-bauchi-one-week-after-her-death.html

Jennyclay:
Haba!! Just one week

I'm beginning to suspect he has a hand in his fiancé's death, because one week is just too small to mourn your Fiancé. Kilode!!

Men are emotionally weak, Women hardly re-marry instantly. SMH

RIP to her.

if u know u know, if u don't know don't say. ask for forgiveness. The prophet (SAW) did something similar

Jennyclay:
I'm not against him marrying his late fiancé's sister. What I'm trying to say is that one week is just too short to mourn his late fiance before moving on.

is there a stipulated number of days to mourn ones sister in the Holy book you believed in

Kobojunkie:
If this had been a family that had, say, lost a son, would the families have handed over their next son to the other family that quickly in order to build this bond Islamically too?

Absolutely!

May be the man demanded a refund of the bride price he paid, and was given the younger sister in compensation due to inability to pay back. This is near impossible in the Eastern part of the country.

adebayo111:
is there a stipulated number of days to mourn ones sister in the Holy book you believed in

Were talking about culture and tradition here, you're bringing holy book.

Please, I can't argue with people like you, I'm already having a stressed day.

Jennyclay:
Haba!! Just one week

I'm beginning to suspect he has a hand in his fiancé's death, because one week is just too small to mourn your Fiancé. Kilode!!

Men are emotionally weak, Women hardly re-marry instantly. SMH

RIP to her.

It's a tradition here in the northern Nigeria if a wife of fiancee died both the husband and wife's family will suggest he married the sister same with husband or fiance.

chocolatee:
It's a tradition here in the northern Nigeria if a wife of fiancee died both the husband and wife's family will suggest he married the sister same with husband or fiance.

Well, I'm from Auchi, and we don't have such tradition here.

Kobojunkie:
If this had been a family that had, say, lost a son, would the families have handed over their next son to the other family that quickly in order to build this bond Islamically too?

Yes men's married their wife's sister after she died so they can be able to take care of the wife and children

nuland:
Absolutely!

So, if the man had died instead, the dead man's family would in less than a week submit their next son to be wed to the same girl who was the dead man's fiance?,

Jennyclay:
Well, I'm from Auchi, and we don't have such tradition here.

I live in kaduna and there's nothing wrong about it. It's strengthen the bond of both families and if the dead is married has children it's better for their siblings to replace them, so that the children will not be raised by strangers.

Jennyclay:
Haba!! Just one week

I'm beginning to suspect he has a hand in his fiancé's death, because one week is just too small to mourn your Fiancé. Kilode!!

Men are emotionally weak, Women hardly re-marry instantly. SMH

RIP to her.

Quiet. U talk too much

chocolatee:
Yes men's married their wife's sister after she died so they can be able to take care of the wife and children

That ain't what I asked at all.

If this had been a family that had, say, lost a son, would the families have handed over their next son to the other family that quickly in order to build this bond Islamically too?

I Just have a hard time picturing a second son out somewhere in college abroad, enjoying his life and freedom rushing back home on news of his older brother's death in order that he be wed to his recently dead older brother's fiance is all.

Echoban:
Quiet. U talk too much

Come and shut me up.

It's my data, my phone and my mouth. I can talk to anybody, anywhere and anytime I want

chocolatee:
I live in kaduna and there's nothing wrong about it. It's strengthen the bond of both families and if the dead is married has children it's better for their siblings to replace them, so that the children will not be raised by strangers.

This is instead about unmarried individuals who have no real attachments formed yet except for the agreement to marry in the future.

What family bond is there to strengthen when there really a bond formed yet?

Or is it a business agreement between the two families or what?

Jennyclay:
Haba!! Just one week

I'm beginning to suspect he has a hand in his fiancé's death, because one week is just too small to mourn your Fiancé. Kilode!!

Men are emotionally weak, Women hardly re-marry instantly. SMH

RIP to her.

He might not have a hand in the death but just that life must goes on..It appears that the late girl is a stickler. She looks not too okay facially

Jennyclay:
Haba!! Just one week

Ehen now!
Now, give objective thought that can use to prevent him.

I'm beginning to suspect he has a hand in his fiancé's death, because one week is just too small to mourn your Fiancé. Kilode!!

Maybe, Maybe NOT. But your suspicion is based on what ?

Men are emotionally weak, Women hardly re-marry instantly. SMH

No, men are not ridden with emotions and they don't enter menopause nor out of market at 30 yrs.
The emotionally weak are the women, the ability to get over it and marry next week is NOT the definition of "emotionally weak".
More like: MEN are not ridden with emotions. FTFY.

Kobojunkie:
That ain't what I asked at all.

If this had been a family that had, say, lost a son, would the families have handed over their next son to the other family that quickly in order to build this bond Islamically too?

I Just have a hard time picturing a second son out somewhere in college abroad, enjoying his life and freedom rushing back home on news of his older brother's death in order that he be wed to his recently dead older brother's fiance is all.

Yes

bestman09:

Life happens. It is an easier thing in the north than in the west and harder than in the east, but however, it's their choice.

Poor you. This kind of malfeasance can onlyhappens in the North and the East NOT in the West.

That's Muslims for you, they don't mourn, they feel sad/bad for such occurrence, pray for the deceased and move forward

Jennyclay:
Haba!! Just one week

I'm beginning to suspect he has a hand in his fiancé's death, because one week is just too small to mourn your Fiancé. Kilode!!

Men are emotionally weak, Women hardly re-marry instantly. SMH

RIP to her.

Kobojunkie:
So, if the man had died instead, the dead man's family would in less than a week submit their next son to be wed to the same girl who was the dead man's fiance?,

As long as both families agree to that and neither the intended bride or groom is been coerced.