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Ginaz:
thanks to everyone keeping this thread alive, i do see ya'll comments o. nice try guys. I'm very busy these days so i don't have the luxury to stare at my tv this bbn season but once in a while i give side views.

i want to talk about sheggz pls let's stop the instigation. truth is, none of us know him much except what we see on the tv. from what I've observed from him, he's on this ship thing with bella cos he feels it may help his game. he's a bit into himself and has a high level of self importance that he can't see passed his nose.

bella is the same copy as sheggz. her personality is a cold one, she fed off the attention sheggz gave her, infact it made her to feel up above all the girls in the house cos sheggz is the most wanted by the girls at week 1. she became arrogant at week 1, walking like a peacock , would talk to sheggz like nengi did ozor. every one even laughed at sheggz and called him ozor 2.

now the game progressed to bella being comfortable around him based on the fact she's his favourite, now she's not leaving the boy alone. did sheggz hold her from making friends? did he pin her to the ground? she's an adult biko! she feels she good above every one cos sheggz is with her. didnt you hear when she asked if he think she's a fool like doyin yesterday?

she thinks she's Beyonce and sheggz is her jay-z . sheggz is not a narcissist ooo, biko. these two are attention freeks who feed off their so called importance. bella should face her life, nobody isolated her. she has been very choosy about who she mingles with in the house right from day 1. sheggz didn't isolate her.

fairygeh:
Awww,I like groovy.
He's talking a lot but I kind of like it
I now see why those girls like him

shawnmendes:
Bella is condescending AF. She’s okay if her MAN disrespects anyone but her because in her mind she’s the special one but gets in her feelings when he redirects his bad attitude to her.
They deserve each other.

DamianX:
100% she's crazy.

Threebear:
The thing Sheggz is doing to Bella is giving me the creeps.

Like an abuser , isolating his victim and then pouncing on them.

I've been with a lot of shitty men in the past ...

First they'll gas you up.

Make you a loner by acting like you're the most special person in the world .

Treat you like a princess.

Then start acting like they did you a favor by picking you in the first instance.

Then you practically have no one because then , your whole existence is tied to them .

And then they switch totally when you've fallen yakata.


I just hope I'm wrong about this .

As much as I'm loyal to my faves , I can't support an abuser.

Whatever is going on between them is giving me the jitters ...

Bella came in like a lioness but she's been reduced to a doll eyed puppy .

It's incredibly sad to witness.

They're honestly better apart !

Amya:
790 words to be precise.

Ginaz:
they are both the same and nobody should call sheggz names like they are psychologist from mars. a narcissist is too extreme to call someone you don't know their life history

Amya:
I'd earlier said i was going to expatiate more on the narcissistic traits i see in Sheggs and maybe educate someone too in the process. Who knows, i might even save a life today.

Narcissists have a particular image they want to project. They would do anything to be seen in the light they want to be seen in. They want to be seen as the perfect person, the perfect spouse, the perfect parent etc. The fabric of their very own existence is created by others view of them. They're empty inside and need a lot of external validation, adulation and attention. If anything gets in the way of the perfect picture they want to project, then the blame goes to anybody but them. They would throw anyone under the bus, start the most ridiculous smear campaign, do any and everything to ensure their white remain unstained. It's not them, it's you. lol.

Narcissists have three Phase they're universally known with. The Love-bombing Phase, The Devaluation Phase and Finally, the Discard Phase. The Phases are sometimes one off, or go around in vicious cycles.

In the Love-bombing Phase, It just feels too good to be true. The target is loaded with over the top amount of affection. flattery, praise, very early in the relationship in other to win over the target. But most important of all, even the above listed is that they say exactly what their target wants to hear.

Sheggs came into the house and set his sights on Bella. I would think that she made the perfect target for him because her stoic personality made her a challenge and narcissists love a good challenge. I remember him saying she didn't look at him twice when he came in and that's why he set his sights on her.
The supply narcissist get from cracking the hardest rock is quite exhilarating. Sheggs went further to love-bomb Bella. He keyed into her deepest desires and brought them forth with his words. In the first few days of their meeting, he's already talking marriage, kids and the beautiful perfect life they'd have together. He talked about how perfect they are together and how everyone envies their love. Slowly Bella's stoic self begins to break and she fell yakata. We see it in the way she gazes into his eyes, the lingering touches and the blooming intimacy.

Now that he knows he has her in the palm of his hands, her moves for phase 1 round 2 ALIENATION. Narcissist will never be successful in being narcissists if they're unable to completely alienate their prey. He's not so comfortable with her creating deep bonds with others, He doesn't want her to dance with the guys etc. As a Narcissists succeeds with the alienating their prey, they proceed further.

They invalidate your feeling. I've seen this play out with Sheggs and Bella. When she tells him about something he did that she did not like, he blames her for feeling that way or causing it. Narcissist are self consumed individuals. Their needs come first. They like to have power and control over you and make you subservient to their needs. It's always all about them. Your emotions and priorities are something they don't care about. They will make you feel less then any chance they get. They will say you're naïve and that there's something wrong with you. They would keep trying to push and shape you into what they think their perfect mate should be like. You dare not be yourself. They keep on pushing your boundaries and if you keep adjusting just because you hate wahala and love peace, thinking they'll leave you alone. For wia! They'll never stop pushing and pushing and pushing. They slowly chip away at your self esteem and sense of self, till you lose yourself.

Unfortunately, there a lot of people who have found themselves in that vicious narcissistic cycle and can't get away. They begin to truly believe they're the ones with the actual problem because they've been gaslit to the moon. They keep thinking maybe if they do more or become better their spouse will change, but no, they simple don't change. The Narcissist will call it a day when they no longer have a need for you and brutally kick you to the curb.



Two months and two weeks is a short time to witness the full scale of a narcissistic abuse in the BBN house ,but as we've been seeing with Sheggs some of this character flaws as i wrote above still peeks through. For Bella's sake, i hope she somehow does not get sucked into a life of pain with this guy, if not, last night's tears is only the beginning of her woes.


Run Bella, Run!

Ginaz:
thanks to everyone keeping this thread alive, i do see ya'll comments o. nice try guys. I'm very busy these days so i don't have the luxury to stare at my tv this bbn season but once in a while i give side views.

i want to talk about sheggz pls let's stop the instigation. truth is, none of us know him much except what we see on the tv. from what I've observed from him, he's on this ship thing with bella cos he feels it may help his game. he's a bit into himself and has a high level of self importance that he can't see passed his nose.

bella is the same copy as sheggz. her personality is a cold one, she fed off the attention sheggz gave her, infact it made her to feel up above all the girls in the house cos sheggz is the most wanted by the girls at week 1. she became arrogant at week 1, walking like a peacock , would talk to sheggz like nengi did ozor. every one even laughed at sheggz and called him ozor 2.

now the game progressed to bella being comfortable around him based on the fact she's his favourite, now she's not leaving the boy alone. did sheggz hold her from making friends? did he pin her to the ground? she's an adult biko! she feels she good above every one cos sheggz is with her. didnt you hear when she asked if he think she's a fool like doyin yesterday?

she thinks she's Beyonce and sheggz is her jay-z . sheggz is not a narcissist ooo, biko. these two are attention freeks who feed off their so called importance. bella should face her life, nobody isolated her. she has been very choosy about who she mingles with in the house right from day 1. sheggz didn't isolate her.

Threebear:
So I got results from two different sources.

First source :
Phyna

Bryann
Groovy ( less than 1 percent)

Ilebaye
Khalid.


Second source ( the one I got today )
Bryann
Phyna (difference of less than 5 percent)
Groovy
Khalid
Ilebaye

These two sources have been very accurate in the past and I trust both but one of them is wrong.

Since the top 2 will most likely not be shown , we will know the right source with the bottom 3.

I really hope Ilebaye stays.

geezprince:
“These two are attention freaks, who feed off their so called importance” Shey no be Narcissist you describe So?

Munzy14:
Worst thing you can do is trying to secure a guy or lady in a social experiment like this...Na mental case go sure.

Beauty messed herself...To think that she was rocking other guys, but get upset when groovy rock the ladies is funny...And the guy was gradually liking him..

Mercy and Ike remain the best BBnaija ship inside the house..Those two are free to do anything and still comeback to eachother after every every.

Though Ike has his coded Insecure stuff...Ones you dance anyhow with Mercy Na sure nomination from Ike

If you Insult mercy, nomination straight..

Amya:
I actually believe this is his real self and not a game. Narcissists always need steady supply, BB house or no.

The worst thing for Bella is people won't even hear her when she cries out because viewers and housemates have been sold to a fairytale. She's about to be mentally and emotionally drained. I don't envy her one bit.

Threebear:
So I got results from two different sources.

First source :
Phyna

Bryann
Groovy ( less than 1 percent)

Ilebaye
Khalid.


Second source ( the one I got today )
Bryann
Phyna (difference of less than 5 percent)
Groovy
Khalid
Ilebaye

These two sources have been very accurate in the past and I trust both but one of them is wrong.

Since the top 2 will most likely not be shown , we will know the right source with the bottom 3.

I really hope Ilebaye stays.

shawnmendes:
Bella is condescending AF. She’s okay if her MAN disrespects anyone but her because in her mind she’s the special one but gets in her feelings when he redirects his bad attitude to her.
They deserve each other.

Jack500:
It seems Nairaland association of old witches is on sheggz matter today, where are shella/Shegzz fans, you guys need to go and pray o, Nairaland witches don remember your boy

Beorn:
Betrayed fire!! Phyna wey don say she like Groovy since the first week? Phyna wey don kiss Groovy in the first week? Abi, Amaka moving to Groovy doesn't count as betrayal against Beauty who Amaka knows? Abeg!! All of them are players.

Threebear:
So I got results from two different sources.

First source :
Phyna

Bryann
Groovy ( less than 1 percent)

Ilebaye
Khalid.


Second source ( the one I got today )
Bryann
Phyna (difference of less than 5 percent)
Groovy
Khalid
Ilebaye

These two sources have been very accurate in the past and I trust both but one of them is wrong.

Since the top 2 will most likely not be shown , we will know the right source with the bottom 3.

I really hope Ilebaye stays.

Innocentchild:
Oh so that's what the moniker is about.
Do you know all this time I thought it was her boyfriend or husband or something she was even hailing mtcheww

Ginaz:
any small thing they will label someone a narcissist. na only narcissist dey dictionary ?

a pompous and conceited person thinks only his/her needs and doesn't care about anyone too.
don't be quick to diagnose a person with narcissist personality when you're not a psychologist. narcissist personality is a very deep and complicated mental sickness.

nazablossom:
Modella sounds like "ebe okuko na atu nni"

That sounds they make when picking food with on a plastic or stainless plate. I dunno

Gentlefury:
She somehow thought she could make Giddyfia jealous or upset! Giddyfia, that Calabar Joker who has obviously sworn to leave this Earth with a big laugh on his face? It's like he has an exclusive VIP comedy show going on in his head 24/7!

Allnacruise:
Wahala

I've been seeing "narcissist" on almost every page


Be like na the word for the season


2020's season most used word was gaslight....

nazablossom:
What Groovy cannot do......