Warning
Long read. Please bear with me.

My twin is at it again and this time, I'm beginning to consider what some members of this group told me about her not meaning well for me.

Now, we have an elder sister that sorts us out anytime we run to her for sortings ;especially me, she always sorts me more than the others since she views me as a single.

It got to a point she told me not to always disclose to the others any time she sorts me out and she usually gives me huge cash. Before now, I used to tell my twin that Sis gave me something, she too will disclose whenever she gives her but I noticed that sometimes, she'll not want disclose until I probe further. she'll now say it reluctantly and most times, it happens that I get a bigger sorting.

I later noticed she was always telling big Sis how I have so many schools and that my schools pay well. So anytime I now holla big Sis to assist me, she'll be like . " You are now a big girl, shey you now have many big schools" and I'll be like.. how did she know. Not knowing my twin used to feed her with all that info. Still she'll give me what I requested. I didn't know twinny was not happy.

Sometime last year, big Sis gave me a huge cash gift worth hundreds of thousands to use for my book business and I didn't disclose it to her.
So one time, she ( twinny) asked me to stop coming to her house, she went and told my sis that I didn't do the book business again cos that one asked her how my book business was going. That was how twinny got to know she gave me such huge amount. Meanwhile, before then, I called and told her if big Sis asked her if I've started my book business, she should tell her she doesn't know.

Big Sis called and I explained to her that the money was still intact that I'm saving up some more so I can go into it big time. She said ok.
Still she continued sorting me whenever I called her.

Fast-forward to early this year, I bought a huge flat screen tv set to replace the old one I was using. So twinny saw it and went and told big Sis that I bought a TV set.

How I got to know.
I called big Sis recently to sort me cos school is on break and some are still owing me for books. For the first time, she locked up and said her hands are tied. Immediately my spirit told me twinny informed her about the TV set. After like three trials without progress, I rang twinny and asked her if she told big Sis about the TV I got and she said yes. I was like... Why?
Who sent you? And she said its a thing of joy, that was why she told her but I know she didn't do it with good intentions and now she has achieved her aim by blocking that way for me.

I'm still angry because I feel she did it for no good judging from how she has been disclosing my financial records and business activities to my sis so that one can stop helping me

You and your twin are freeloaders riding on the good heart of your sister.

If your sister no dey, una no go survive?

It's cause your sis keeps enabling the both of you that you are even willing to betray each other cause of money.

I'm a twin too, FYI.

Romanoff:
You and your twin are freeloaders riding on the good heart of your sister.

If your sister no dey, una no go survive?

It's cause your sis keeps enabling the both of you that you are even willing to betray each other cause of money.

I'm a twin too, FYI.

Not like we can't survive without her but I don't think it wrong to have someone you can run to in time of need especially if she's willing to help.

She kinda does it to prevent us from running to men just like our parents did for us when they were alive. So she's trying to fill that gap but for one person to now be envying the other to the point of blocking her way is what I don't get.

Blessedmercy8:


Not like we can't survive without her but I don't think it wrong to have someone you can run to in time of need especially if she's willing to help.

She kinda does it to prevent us from running to men just like our parents did for us when they were alive. So she's trying to fill that gap but for one person to now be envying the other to the point of blocking her way is what I don't get.

Why you sef no use the money wey she give you for book business?.

Cause it looks like you've diverted the money.

It's not bad if you avoid your twin sis. If you're sure she has a track record of sabotaging you, you might want to give her some space and stop telling her things about you.

Romanoff:


Why you sef no use the money wey she give you for book business?.

Cause it looks like you've diverted the money.

It's not bad if you avoid your twin sis. If you're sure she has a track record of sabotaging you, you might want to give her some space and stop telling her things about you.

I later used it for the business and schools are now owing me.
I bought my TV with my own hard earned money.

Blessedmercy8:


I later used it for the business and schools are now owing me.
I bought my TV with my own hard earned money.

Some twins are known to have this silent competition between them. It's okay to stop telling her stuff about you.

Romanoff:


Some twins are known to have this silent competition between them. It's okay to stop telling her stuff about you.

Ok.
Thanks for your input.

I need to hear your twin's side of the story. You might be the one having the issues here

lilvicky68:
I need to hear your twin's side of the story. You might be the one having the issues here

Ok, I hear you.

Wait oh twins as from same womb? This world is bleeped up

The problem has never been your twin, and your big sister now by extension, but you.

You do find it hard to be unassuming and straightforward and have always projected yourself on your twin/expected her to be pandering to your whims and caprices and to be unassuming and straightforward towards you. You personify narcissism, so she will always feel drained around you.

At the risk of sounding judgemental towards you, these are the same attitudes that have made it difficult for you to land yourself any reasonable man.

Forget about the fact that you've always tried to use your religious inclination to gloss your shortcomings, embracing a new leaf centered on justness will make you a better person.

I know this isn't the kind of reply you were expecting; unfortunately, truth is bitter sometimes.

Fadafada231:
Wait oh twins as from same womb? This world is bleeped up

I believe there was an exchange when their mother gave birth to them, trust me, one of d nurses replaced one of them with another person.

Whenever I hear grownups actively tasking their family members for money, it leaves me wondering. Maybe this is an opportunity to just do your thing without expecting your big sis to drop again. Sometimes I imagine how much hole these family hands me down puts in the givers pocket, they could do something else with the money too like adding swimming pool to their properties . It is well jare....just lock up and do your thing too....grownups take care of themselves without expecting from their family members, especially those who have received for the umpteenth time. May God bless your pocket.

Don't take it to heart. Just get her (your twin sister) a gift she would like, go to her house and give her a hug. Make her feel loved. But, if you are not a 'hugging family', still go to her house with the gift, insult the living daylight out of her (I mean the way guys show love to each other) humorously though. Then, you organise a visit by the two of you to your big sister ( I didn't tell you two to go and ask her for money o). At least, by so doing, your big sister will know that the two of you are in good terms. Or do you two want to give your big sister migraine over your case? I am telling you all these because you brought the story here. If your twin sister had brought the topic, I would have given the same advice irrespective of her side of the story. Now, in view of my epistle above, if you fail to follow the advice given, I WILL FIND YOU........

Your mate Dey nairaland they hustle to japa with their savings you they here Dey complain on money wey no be your own. U won remain parasite for life?? Common now, you are a grown up with dimple

Blessedmercy8:
Warning
Long read. Please bear with me.

My twin is at it again and this time, I'm beginning to consider what some members of this group told me about her not meaning well for me.

Now, we have an elder sister that sorts us out anytime we run to her for sortings ;especially me, she always sorts me more than the others since she views me as a single.

It got to a point she told me not to always disclose to the others any time she sorts me out and she usually gives me huge cash. Before now, I used to tell my twin that Sis gave me something, she too will disclose whenever she gives her but I noticed that sometimes, she'll not want disclose until I probe further. she'll now say it reluctantly and most times, it happens that I get a bigger sorting.

I later noticed she was always telling big Sis how I have so many schools and that my schools pay well. So anytime I now holla big Sis to assist me, she'll be like . " You are now a big girl, shey you now have many big schools" and I'll be like.. how did she know. Not knowing my twin used to feed her with all that info. Still she'll give me what I requested. I didn't know twinny was not happy.

Sometime last year, big Sis gave me a huge cash gift worth hundreds of thousands to use for my book business and I didn't disclose it to her.
So one time, she ( twinny) asked me to stop coming to her house, she went and told my sis that I didn't do the book business again cos that one asked her how my book business was going. That was how twinny got to know she gave me such huge amount. Meanwhile, before then, I called and told her if big Sis asked her if I've started my book business, she should tell her she doesn't know.

Big Sis called and I explained to her that the money was still intact that I'm saving up some more so I can go into it big time. She said ok.
Still she continued sorting me whenever I called her.

Fast-forward to early this year, I bought a huge flat screen tv set to replace the old one I was using. So twinny saw it and went and told big Sis that I bought a TV set.

How I got to know.
I called big Sis recently to sort me cos school is on break and some are still owing me for books. For the first time, she locked up and said her hands are tied. Immediately my spirit told me twinny informed her about the TV set. After like three trials without progress, I rang twinny and asked her if she told big Sis about the TV I got and she said yes. I was like... Why?
Who sent you? And she said its a thing of joy, that was why she told her but I know she didn't do it with good intentions and now she has achieved her aim by blocking that way for me.

I'm still angry because I feel she did it for no good judging from how she has been disclosing my financial records and business activities to my sis so that one can stop helping me

You are just a big grown ass CHILD.

GET A FACKING LIFE.

Blessedmercy8:
Warning
Long read. Please bear with me.

My twin is at it again and this time, I'm beginning to consider what some members of this group told me about her not meaning well for me.

Now, we have an elder sister that sorts us out anytime we run to her for sortings ;especially me, she always sorts me more than the others since she views me as a single.

It got to a point she told me not to always disclose to the others any time she sorts me out and she usually gives me huge cash. Before now, I used to tell my twin that Sis gave me something, she too will disclose whenever she gives her but I noticed that sometimes, she'll not want disclose until I probe further. she'll now say it reluctantly and most times, it happens that I get a bigger sorting.

I later noticed she was always telling big Sis how I have so many schools and that my schools pay well. So anytime I now holla big Sis to assist me, she'll be like . " You are now a big girl, shey you now have many big schools" and I'll be like.. how did she know. Not knowing my twin used to feed her with all that info. Still she'll give me what I requested. I didn't know twinny was not happy.

Sometime last year, big Sis gave me a huge cash gift worth hundreds of thousands to use for my book business and I didn't disclose it to her.
So one time, she ( twinny) asked me to stop coming to her house, she went and told my sis that I didn't do the book business again cos that one asked her how my book business was going. That was how twinny got to know she gave me such huge amount. Meanwhile, before then, I called and told her if big Sis asked her if I've started my book business, she should tell her she doesn't know.

Big Sis called and I explained to her that the money was still intact that I'm saving up some more so I can go into it big time. She said ok.
Still she continued sorting me whenever I called her.

Fast-forward to early this year, I bought a huge flat screen tv set to replace the old one I was using. So twinny saw it and went and told big Sis that I bought a TV set.

How I got to know.
I called big Sis recently to sort me cos school is on break and some are still owing me for books. For the first time, she locked up and said her hands are tied. Immediately my spirit told me twinny informed her about the TV set. After like three trials without progress, I rang twinny and asked her if she told big Sis about the TV I got and she said yes. I was like... Why?
Who sent you? And she said its a thing of joy, that was why she told her but I know she didn't do it with good intentions and now she has achieved her aim by blocking that way for me.

I'm still angry because I feel she did it for no good judging from how she has been disclosing my financial records and business activities to my sis so that one can stop helping me

Rich people don’t watch Tv baby girl
Why you go buy tv too ?
Jokes
…………………
Stop telling her things again
Stay cool with her but don’t discuss
Your success and other with her again
Among families there are enemies
Among friends there are enemies
Among Neigbhors there are enemies
Among strangers there are enemies
Stay safe and always keep your success away from her .
She doesn’t want you to be bigger than her
And if you’re not very careful , she can go to the extent of terminating you .
Journey of a thousand miles start with a step .
She don take a step already by blocking your way from receiving a soft blessing that always come from your big sis but she’s not God another way will surely open .
Keep yourself off from her
She can only only delay the blessing
She can deny the blessing from coming to you
Pray against frenemies

Freelane33:


Rich people don’t watch Tv baby girl
Why you go buy tv too ?
Jokes
…………………
Stop telling her things again
Stay cool with her but don’t discuss
Your success and other with her again
Among families there are enemies
Among friends there are enemies
Among Neigbhors there are enemies
Among strangers there are enemies
Stay safe and always keep your success away from her .
She doesn’t want you to be bigger than her
And if you’re not very careful , she can go to the extent of terminating you .
Journey of a thousand miles start with a step .
She don take a step already by blocking your way from receiving a soft blessing that always come from your big sis but she’s not God another way will surely open .
Keep yourself off from her
She can only only delay the blessing
She can deny the blessing from coming to you
Pray against frenemies

Ok, thanks. I'll try.

dreofGod:
Don't take it to heart. Just get her (your twin sister) a gift she would like, go to her house and give her a hug. Make her feel loved. But, if you are not a 'hugging family', still go to her house with the gift, insult the living daylight out of her (I mean the way guys show love to each other) humorously though. Then, you organise a visit by the two of you to your big sister ( I didn't tell you two to go and ask her for money o). At least, by so doing, your big sister will know that the two of you are in good terms. Or do you two want to give your big sister migraine over your case? I am telling you all these because you brought the story here. If your twin sister had brought the topic, I would have given the same advice irrespective of her side of the story. Now, in view of my epistle above, if you fail to follow the advice given, I WILL FIND YOU........

Do you know how many times she has stepped on my toes and I've had to forgive her and be the one to first go visit her to show I'm over it?

I don't really know why she does the things she does to me when all I think and wish for her is good.

Anyways, I've forgiven her. she can't block my ways cos she doesn't have the power to.

Thanks.

Phelixblaq:
Your mate Dey nairaland they hustle to japa with their savings you they here Dey complain on money wey no be your own. U won remain parasite for life?? Common now, you are a grown up with dimple

What's my business with what anyone does or is doing with their lives on nairaland?

Freelane33:


Rich people don’t watch Tv baby girl
Why you go buy tv too ?
Jokes
…………………
Stop telling her things again
Stay cool with her but don’t discuss
Your success and other with her again
Among families there are enemies
Among friends there are enemies
Among Neigbhors there are enemies
Among strangers there are enemies
Stay safe and always keep your success away from her .
She doesn’t want you to be bigger than her
And if you’re not very careful , she can go to the extent of terminating you .
Journey of a thousand miles start with a step .
She don take a step already by blocking your way from receiving a soft blessing that always come from your big sis but she’s not God another way will surely open .
Keep yourself off from her
She can only only delay the blessing
She can deny the blessing from coming to you
Pray against frenemies

While I find some of your submissions rather humorous, you went way too extreme on the twin sister, to the extent of suggesting she'd terminate her at some point. Common now!
These are sibblings that grew up in the same house and probably slept on the same bed all the time.
These things happen often in families. It's a normal siblings rivalry.

And to the op;

Your big sis is feeling responsible for your well-being since the demise of your parents and you guys are milking her emotional vulnerability, and seriously, you guys have to stop before you drain her up!

Your big sis CANNOT stay 'locked up' on you. She's probably peeping at you right now to see how you're taking her new stance.

You guys should give her a break abeg... she needs it.
She would always come through for you but try keep it down to only when it's absolutely necessary

Blessedmercy8:


Do you know how many times she has stepped on my toes and I've had to forgive her and be the one to first go visit her to show I'm over it?

I don't really know why she does the things she does to me when all I think and wish for her is good.

Anyways, I've forgiven her. she can't block my ways cos she doesn't have the power to.

Thanks.

Honestly, being the one to apologise to people who hurt us can be VERY painful. But, it is what it is, some of us just have to be on the receiving end. She still remains your blood and it is love that keeps the world till date.

dreofGod:
Honestly, being the one to apologise to people who hurt us can be VERY painful. But, it is what it is, some of us just have to be on the receiving end. She still remains your blood and it is love that keeps the world till date.

Ok.
Thanks a lot

I no dey chook mouth for twins matter. Your blood is your blood and you can't change it. Minimize what you tell her and be wise as a serpent around her. Simple