I need help. Could she be saying the truth or she's trying to hook.

I'm in a very stable relationship and as a matter fact, I'll be getting married to the love of my world, the one whom my heart continuously long for daily in next month. Nevertheless, there's this lady whom happened to be an old friend for about 2 years now. We've been very close chat buddies and virtually could discuss anything online to each other (I mean anything). On one occasion, she suggested we meet up at my place to watch a movie Twilight together. Well, since I wasn't doing anything in particular for the weekend and my fiance wasn't in town, why not? (Trust me, my intents was pure and genuine). The Saturday came, and we did have a lovely time together until the devil struck. One thing led to another and we both ended up kissing and eventually had sex. I wasn't careless not to have not used a protection but I could remember the condom coming off at a Point and was quickly replaced with another new one. Trust me guyz, we both felt bad immediately after the incident and both apologized to one another and that was it.

Fast forward to the present, I got a call from her for the first time after that incident (I had to cut off all communication with her after what happened) and she broke the news to me that she was feeling a little different which prompted her to go do a test, and to my greatest shock, she said it came out positive, SHE IS PREGNANT!!!

How is this even possible? We made our precisely on the 30th of July and the test results shows she's about 2weeks pregnant (Note: the test results shows it was carried out on the 12th of August. Moreover, I never even released when the condom came off into her and we had to remove it. How is it possible?

Now, the mother called and even asked to see me in person that, the daughter already explained all that ensued between us, and I should come and let's discuss our next move, that no daughter of hers gives birth outside wedlock.

In all these, I am so confused. The honest truth is, I never told the lady in particular I was getting married in the month of September. My wife to be does know her as just a friend and that's all but kept my wedding plans away from the lady despite how opened we were to each other.

Nairalanders, I am so confused. I have cried, begged her, pleaded with her to come clean with me, but she insists I was the only one she meet within that time frame. Even in the presence of her mother, she kept asking her, are you sure? She kept insisting I was the only one she had sex with last month.

My world is presently on pause mode as I don't know what to thing anymore. But I am 99.9% sure I am not responsible for the pregnancy. I even requested she used my hospital for a second test and it still came out positive.

I am currently, planning on telling my wife to be the whole truth and before then, involve our counselling pastor. I can't bring myself to tell my family despite the fact her mother keep insisting she comes to see my mother.

My inner most being tells me I am been set up, because I remember vividly on that night, she kept insisting I remove the condom that it was hurting her but I insisted.

Could the pregnancy be truly mine? Do I come clean to my babe? Do I just runaway? So many questions and I am deeply depressed and sad on how I got myself into the terrible mess. At this moment, I deserve whatever insults is thrown at me. I truly deserve them, BUT I NEVER FOR ONCE DOUBT my love for my wife to be, I truly love her...

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We made out precisely on the 30th of July and the test results shows she's about 2weeks pregnant (Note: the test results shows it was carried out on the 12th of August.

Congratulations, bro.

You have being setup. Don't fall for it

Acidosis:


Congratulations, bro.

Are you saying this results could be true within the time frame we had s!x?

You are not responsible for that pregnancy.

You'd need at least 12 days before a missed period before you can be pregnant or even start "feeling somehow".

There's no pregnancy test that can say how far along she is, only an ultrasound can do that and she can never be two weeks pregnant.

She should be at least 4 weeks and some days pregnant with a thick endometrium with or without a gestational sac.

Take that lady to do an ultrasound in a good facility. Only an ultrasound sound can be accurate on dating a pregnancy. Last menstrual period isn't reliable due to irregularities of menstrual cycle.

If after the scan, the dates correlate, it would be time to come clean to your fiancee and be ready to deal with the consequences.

Pregnancy starts from the first day of last period, that week is week 1. So the week after a missed period is week 5.

Bullet01:
You have being setup. Don't fall for it

I am beginning to think in that direction but the fact remains I owned up to the mother I did sleep with her daughter and I explained in details how the condom came off. I am beginning to regret my honesty though because she keeps insisting that is all it takes to get pregnant that it's not until one releases.

Romanoff:
You are not responsible for that pregnancy.

You'd need at least 12 days before a missed period before you can be pregnant or even start "feeling somehow".

There's no pregnancy test that can say how far along she is, only an ultrasound can do that and she can never be two weeks pregnant.

She should be at least 4 weeks and some days pregnant with a thick endometrium with or without a gestational sac.

Take that lady to do an ultrasound in a good facility. Only an ultrasound sound can be accurate on dating a pregnancy. Last menstrual period isn't reliable due to irregularities of menstrual cycle.

If after the scan, the dates correlate, it would be time to come clean to your fiancee and be ready to deal with the consequences.

Pregnancy starts from the first day of last period, that week is week 1. So the week after a missed period is week 5.

I will try and get a copy of the result from her to upload. Thanks for the insight.

This is pure setup.
Confess to your wife to be before she learns of it from outsider.
If she leaves you then she is not for you. Then you move on.
On the one that said she is pregnant, don't agree to even carryout a d and c talk more of marriage with her. She is a manipulator.

Richy4:
Why do people blame the devil for every wrong decision they took with their eyes wide opened?

That spiritbeen must be really suffering more than he should in the hands of humans... Even this decision, he was blamed for it

I do not blame the devil, I did this, I slept with her not the devil.

Oxb90:
This is pure setup.
Confess to your wife to be before she learns of it from outsider.
If she leaves you then she is not for you. Then you move on.
On the one that said she is pregnant, don't agree to even carryout a d and c talk more of marriage with her. She is a manipulator.

I intend doing just this, but it is very very difficult. I'm yet to tell the lady in question & her mom I'm getting married soon. & yet sleeping with their daughter? Goooooood!!! I messed up big time

It look's like a set up. It smell's set up. It feel's like a set up. IT'S A SET UP!!!

goodamerican:
You've had no boundaries. You've a fiancée and have no business having this close of a friendship relationship with this other lady. From an emotional affair to a physical one. Wehdone.

As for your fiancée, do tell before proceeding with the marriage. Going into the marriage with this sorta secret isn't a good idea but it's your call to make.

It was my first slip in 2years and 3months of being in relationship with my fiancee and a costly one indeed (not making excuses for myself). Keeping a clean start before going into this marriage is very key to me but if I am able to establish the pregnancy isn't mine do I still spill it?

Oxb90:
This is pure setup.
Confess to your wife to be before she learns of it from outsider.
If she leaves you then she is not for you. Then you move on.
On the one that said she is pregnant, don't agree to even carryout a d and c talk more of marriage with her. She is a manipulator.

If she leaves him, it's because he lacks self-control and she doesn't want to be married to a man who can't control himself around a lady he isn't married to.

Someone means this much to you and you had the mind to be dangling upandan untop another.

The way some of you reason with that thing between your legs is alarming.

*spit

This is a professional speaking...kindly heed his advice! You are not responsible for that pregnancy Sir!

Romanoff:
You are not responsible for that pregnancy.

You'd need at least 12 days before a missed period before you can be pregnant or even start "feeling somehow".

There's no pregnancy test that can say how far along she is, only an ultrasound can do that and she can never be two weeks pregnant.

She should be at least 4 weeks and some days pregnant with a thick endometrium with or without a gestational sac.

Take that lady to do an ultrasound in a good facility. Only an ultrasound sound can be accurate on dating a pregnancy. Last menstrual period isn't reliable due to irregularities of menstrual cycle.

If after the scan, the dates correlate, it would be time to come clean to your fiancee and be ready to deal with the consequences.

Pregnancy starts from the first day of last period, that week is week 1. So the week after a missed period is week 5.

Totleowi:
This is a professional speaking...kindly heed his advice! You are not responsible for that pregnancy Sir!

This is exactly what I'm going to do but one major problem I'm having right now is the mother's insisting she meets my family and carry them along. This is something I must confess is not an option for me now.

I want u to explain what u meant by "the condom came off"

If u can understand this part,then u can tell if the pregnancy is yours or not.

The only regret is because u are getting married soon.

May be u can chose to marry two wives also .

But in all,good luck to u and do not forget to keep us inform how things are unfolding...but never u run away.



The only thing that is remaining is DNA test.

Ibechris2:
I want u to explain what u meant by "the condom came off"

If u can understand this part,then u can tell if the pregnancy is ours or not.

The only regret is because u are getting married soon.

May be u can chose to marry two wives also .

But in all,good luck to u and do not forget to keep us inform how things are unfolding...but never u run away.



The only thing that is remaining is DNA test.

The bolded isn't true. My regrets or guilt isn't that I'm getting married or got cut, I regretted from the moment the deed was done. Went as far as cutting off all communications with her which we both agreed upon. Honestly, how it happened that night remained a mystery to me cos it never, I repeat, never crossed my mind such a thing would happen. I even inform my fiancee I was having a friend over for the weekend (though I never mentioned the gender) so I wouldn't be bored during our causal chats.

This your story needs more dissection so as not to offend the gods....

Get a good lawyer and a police to her house and have a legal binding between both of you that if she finally put to bed and a DNA is done, and it came out that the child is not yours, after you have taken care of her until she put to birth, then she will be jailed for 20years for allowing you to spend on someone child and making you go through emotional trauma.

Believe me, if you do this, the ways her brain wi start thinking fast, you will be amazed...

It might not even be a real lawyer, just go with some document to sign, kia, she go fear, if truly the pregnancy is not yours

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Updates
I just placed a call to my mum & our counselling pastor of wanting to come see them this weekend.

God Help me

wunmi590:


This your story needs more dissection so as not to offend the gods....

Get a good lawyer and a police to her house and have a legal binding between both of you that if she finally put to bed and a DNA is done, and it came out that the child is not yours, after you have taken care of her until she put to birth, then she will be jailed for 20years for allowing you to spend on someone child and making you go through emotional trauma.

Believe me, if you do this, the ways her brain wi start thinking fast, you will be amazed...

It might not even be a real lawyer, just go with some document to sign, kia, she go fear, if truly the pregnancy is not yours

Hmmm... do I bring in my family into this? Of a certain, I have to don't you think? Haaa.... My wedding is barely a month, Omo, things don go faaaaaaaaar.

Mtcheww this grown men acting like kids .. you had sex with her and forgot to rush to the pharmacy to get a pill � to flush whatever remnant you call cum in her womb but all you did was wallow in your self guilt after coming to your senses ..now them don hang belle for your head ..no lady born of any family will force me to marry her daughter if I don’t love her ..las las she either aborts or end being a baby mama ..nonsense and ingredients..gone are the days you force a man to marry a lady cause she is pregnant..

My first concern is your not so fortunate fiancee.


Let me explain why.



Living with an adulterous spouse is like sleeping in a house without a front door.


You are a danger to her unless you go for aggressive counseling and training on how to keep your instrument in your pants during your marriage.



Come clean to her and give her the chance to decide if she wants to continue with you. It's the least you can do considering the way you broke her trust, cheating is like throwing someone under a moving bus.



Even if you claim to love her, you are dangerous to her spiritually, medically, emotionally, and financially if she chooses to stay with you.

Congrats