When I was a kid I grew up with street children
I remember always been picked at by my fellow kids, I hated being a human then(though I always liked to dominate)...

During my secondary school days I decided to give friendship a chance.
I attended junior secondary I met this 3 awesome friends Micheal and chidera
This awesome girl necherem (I'm still looking for her till date) this people made my junior secondary school days awesome until they turned leeches they so much drained me that even though I was enjoying the ship I had to change school.

My mum decided that I should attend boarding school so as attain some discipline and learn how mange things.
My new school was only for boys, I had a street mate who was also attending the same school with me, he had this trio gang, they always moved together did everything together, in school this type of relationship saves you alot, like being detained for labor during classes, this type of friends will help you submit assignment or help you with the notes (only borders might understand) I wanted one for myself so got some we were three main then like four other attachee
Our relationship was cool, I have always been the sacrificial lamb but this time everyone contributed.
Fast-forward immediately after waec I wanted to retain the ship.
Was kinda close to all of them but particularly closer to bisa we grew fund of each other BUT MOST OF THE TIME PEOPLE DON'T GIVE BACK THE SAME ENERGY WE GIVE IN.
It happened that after school bisa wanted to sell a phone he has been using and I also needed a phone too then
I decided to buy from bisa, went down to his street for the transaction.
As was on my way home street boys ambushed me they took my phone, money and my ATM card, they forced me on gun point to drop my pin they wiped my account thank I had little savings I was devastated after the incident I quickly ran to a hangout stop near and reported the issue meanwhile during the attack one of the guys named junior said he liked me so much and wouldn't want them to hurt me, he was the reason why those didn't hurt me cause I was a bit resistive.
I went home call bisa he told me he will pay back in full there have collected, I thought I was with this bastard till I went back to hangout spot and the attendant told me that he saw bisa with a babe that evening and he was with the same phone they took from me, I turned cold my heart broken I didn't know what to do could it be? Yes bisa was the one who arrange the whole event I got to find out through junior who the hangout guy was close with, I confronted bisa he admitted, that he needed money to pay debts blah blah blah....
Again he promised to pay back I told him to keep his stupid money and stupid self to himself never in his lifetime should he contact me again.(karma is not always a bitch, bisa is doing well in Dubai now)
Since that incident I broke the connection with rest, have never had any thing real again with anyone, i have developed a trust issue
I'm currently in 300l
I have never invited my so called friends, course mates and louge mates to my room
I'm always comfortable to disclose my plans/secrets with a stranger than a friend.

Now where the problem lies...
Due to ASUU I'm back to base
I'm back in the street and currently working
So I have been able to meet a couple of people (that might think they are my friends).

I just got a call from my religious aunt that a message gotten on my behalf was that a group of my friends are planning to destroy my life, I have never heard my aunt sound so serious, she said I should cut all ties with anyone I'm trying to meet both girls and boys...

Now my question is how are my going to enjoy my youth age without friends?

How do I get to trust people again?

Lastly
How do social people cope with so much people around without getting hurt

Blizzy300:
When I was a kid I grew up with street children
I remember always been picked at by my fellow kids, I hated being a human then(though I always liked to dominate)...

During my secondary school days I decided to give friendship a chance.
I attended junior secondary I met this 3 awesome friends Micheal and chidera
This awesome girl necherem (I'm still looking for her till date) this people made my junior secondary school days awesome until they turned leeches they so much drained me that even though I was enjoying the ship I had to change school.

My mum decided that I should attend boarding school so as attain some discipline and learn how mange things.
My new school was only for boys, I had a street mate who was also attending the same school with me, he had this trio gang, they always moved together did everything together, in school this type of relationship saves you alot, like being detained for labor during classes, this type of friends will help you submit assignment or help you with the notes (only borders might understand) I wanted one for myself so got some we were three main then like four other attachee
Our relationship was cool, I have always been the sacrificial lamb but this time everyone contributed.
Fast-forward immediately after waec I wanted to retain the ship.
Was kinda close to all of them but particularly closer to bisa we grew fund of each other BUT MOST OF THE TIME PEOPLE DON'T GIVE BACK THE SAME ENERGY WE GIVE IN.
It happened that after school bisa wanted to sell a phone he has been using and I also needed a phone too then
I decided to buy from bisa, went down to his street for the transaction.
As was on my way home street boys ambushed me they took my phone, money and my ATM card, they forced me on gun point to drop my pin they wiped my account thank I had little savings I was devastated after the incident I quickly ran to a hangout stop near and reported the issue meanwhile during the attack one of the guys named junior said he liked me so much and wouldn't want them to hurt me, he was the reason why those didn't hurt me cause I was a bit resistive.
I went home call bisa he told me he will pay back in full there have collected, I thought I was with this bastard till I went back to hangout spot and the attendant told me that he saw bisa with a babe that evening and he was with the same phone they took from me, I turned cold my heart broken I didn't know what to do could it be? Yes bisa was the one who arrange the whole event I got to find out through junior who the hangout guy was close with, I confronted bisa he admitted, that he needed money to pay debts blah blah blah....
Again he promised to pay back I told him to keep his stupid money and stupid self to himself never in his lifetime should he contact me again.(karma is not always a bitch, bisa is doing well in Dubai now)
Since that incident I broke the connection with rest, have never had any thing real again with anyone, i have developed a trust issue
I'm currently in 300l
I have never invited my so called friends, course mates and louge mates to my room
I'm always comfortable to disclose my plans/secrets with a stranger than a friend.

Now where the problem lies...
Due to ASUU I'm back to base
I'm back in the street and currently working
So I have been able to meet a couple of people (that might think they are my friends).

I just got a call from my religious aunt that a message gotten on my behalf was that a group of my friends are planning to destroy my life, I have never heard my aunt sound so serious, she said I should cut all ties with anyone I'm trying to meet both girls and boys...

Now my question is how are my going to enjoy my youth age without friends?

How do I get to trust people again?

Lastly
How do social people cope with so much people around without getting hurt

not everyone is meant to have friends. get used to being a loner & work on your survival skills. I'm a loner and I have no regrets

ZaRuleOfLaw:
not everyone is meant to have friends. get used to being a loner & work on your survival skills. I'm a loner and I have no regrets

you go soon regret for being alone comrade

ZaRuleOfLaw:
not everyone is meant to have friends. get used to being a loner & work on your survival skills. I'm a loner and I have no regrets

Waw thanks but
How do you survive?
How do you have fun ?
Do you hangout?

Like let's say you want to embark on something (like starting a company)
How do you start your team?

Onitemhi:
you go soon regret for being alone comrade

I'm not proud of it either
How do I break the yoke?
How do i differentiate the corn from the chaff?

Blizzy300:

I'm not proud of it either
How do I break the yoke?
How do i different the corn from the chaff?

oya no wahala comrade coz i no wan nobody give your matter k leg

Onitemhi:
you go soon regret for being alone comrade

Haha this is where you got everything wrong.
Being a loner doesn’t mean you don’t/won’t have friends .
I am a loner too, but it doesn’t stop me from making friends or having fun times with ppl.
Being a loner saves you from friendship troubles.
(Be lyk my frnd my frnd nva put u for gbese, when e go put u for gbese ur eye go clear)

marlow1962:


Haha this is where you got everything wrong.
Being a loner doesn’t mean you don’t/won’t have friends .
I am a loner too, but it doesn’t stop me from making friends or having fun times with ppl.
Being a loner saves you from friendship troubles.
(Be lyk my frnd my frnd nva put u for gbese, when e go put u for gbese ur eye go clear)

nha dis kind of fellow peace maker i dey find !! coz ur qoute dey sink for my inner head gbayhi gee

ZaRuleOfLaw:
not everyone is meant to have friends. get used to being a loner & work on your survival skills. I'm a loner and I have no regrets

Same here, I'll advice the op to maintain his company and try to cultivate habit of self entertainment. I do entertain myself with my phone aside being an avid reader.

This lonely life carries so much advantage, it helps to be focus no distractions.

Sukkyy2010:

Same here, I'll advice the op to maintain his company and try to cultivate habit of self entertainment. I do entertain myself with my phone aside being an avid reader.

This lonely life carries so much advantage, it helps to be focus no distractions.

Bros oil de your head..

Announced3:



Bros oil de your head..

Meaning?

Blizzy300:

Waw thanks but
(a) How do you survive?
(b) How do you have fun ?
(c) Do you hangout?

(d) Like let's say you want to embark on something (like starting a company)
How do you start your team?

ANSWERS
(a) some years ago, I resolved to never beg/borrow. if I perish, so be it.
(b) I can go alone to a fast food joint & spoil myself. download movies online & watch alone, I also go to viewing center for football etc. everything a normal guy does.
(c) I might have mastered the art of enjoying alone.
(d) I love DIY so it's definitely a one-man business. I will hire &fire at will. goal-oriented. no sentiment

NB: I AVOID BULLSHIT IN GENERAL & JUNKIES IN PARTICULAR

Op, my small advice.

No follow wo u beta pass as friend.

No 2, no dey soft.. No allow any friend take advantage of you.

Avoid toxic people

Take time bf u make friends.

The last, only make friends with industrious and hard working people... No make friend with all those clown/funny niggers wey get plenty swt gist.

Focus on d money.

Most people in Nigeria are not Lucky with friends.

ZaRuleOfLaw:

ANSWERS
(a) some years ago, I resolved to never beg/borrow. if I perish, so be it.
(b) I can go alone to a fast food joint & spoil myself. download movies online & watch alone, I also go to viewing center for football etc. everything a normal guy does.
(c) I might have mastered the art of enjoying alone.
(d) I love DIY so it's definitely a one-man business. I will hire &fire at will. goal-oriented. no sentiment

NB: I AVOID BULLSHIT IN GENERAL & JUNKIES IN PARTICULAR

Ok
Thanks you very much