My kids are being trained in an hotel.. Their mum works in an hotel and he takes the kids there to sleep, then he dress them up from their to school...

The kids went for holiday with my mom and you can't believe a 6 yrs old already knows how to loose a door key with a knife...
She doesn't have time for the kids and I, though am not really financially stable, I can still cater for them...

I need advice how I can take care of 2kids age 6 and 4, a boy and a girl...

I go out to work around 8 and come back around 6:30pm but I can always close around 6 cos it is my business...

For single fathers taking care of their kids, I need tips pls... Sometimes, they not staying with me and knowing the condition those kids are breaks my heart... I stay in a 2bedroom apartment with every amenities intact....

Pls help a brother.... I love my kids.... I and their mom have irreconcilable diffs...

Welfare can help you get ur kids.
Since u r capable of training Them.
Plz no vex,
Who be this He in your post?

Tell your wife to quit her hotel job. You are even a single dad sef, what caused your separation from their mom?

Irupetepete:
The kids went for holiday with my mom and you can't believe a 6 yrs old already knows how to loose a door key with a knife... She doesn't have time for the kids and I, though am not really financially stable, I can still cater for them...
I need advice how I can take care of 2kids age 6 and 4,a boy and a girl... I go out to work around 8 and come back around 6:30pm but I can always close around 6 cos it is my business... For single fathers taking care of their kids, I need tips pls... Sometimes, they not staying with me and knowing the condition those kids are breaks my heart... I stay in a 2bedroom apartment with every amenities intact....

Pls help a brother.... I love my kids.... I and their mom have irreconcilable diffs...

So because a 6-year old has what seems great handyman skills, you think the mother is not doing a good job raising her kids? There has to be more than this as reason why you feel you can do a better job.

Are you simply trying to tear the kids away from their mother because you assume you can do a better job or why exactly are you suddenly trying to take charge?

Rozross:
Tell your wife to quit her hotel job. You are even a single dad sef, what caused your separation from their mom?

It's a long story Sha!!
U no go understand.

fman:

It's a long story Sha!!
U no go understand.

I’ll understand, let us read about it so we can give you the best advise. Are you with another woman already? But you are not the poster

Rozross:
I’ll understand, let us read about it so we can give you the best advise. Are you with another woman already? But you are not the poster

Egg xactly!!

Kobojunkie:
So because a 6-year old has what seems great handyman skills, you think the mother is not doing a good job raising her kids?

Are you simply trying to tear the kids away from their mother because you assume you can do a better job or why exactly are you suddenly trying to take charge?

she works in an hotel... How sane is it to train my kids in an hotel? I rented a 2bedroom with everything needed in a home in it..their mom stays with her mother and my kids sleeps on a mat cos they live in a room apartment with no security.... The day I went visiting, I couldn't cry at what I see... The kids stray on the street... There are things I can't even mention... She can't stay with a husband because she believes she deserves someone like dangote or otedola....it is clear we can't be together and am not against that but you can't train my kids from an hotel

Rozross:
I’ll understand, let us read about it so we can give you the best advise. Are you with another woman already? But you are not the poster

am not with any woman, focusing on my life and making progress

Irupetepete:
am not with any woman, focusing on my life and making progress

Then what caused your separation?

fman:
Welfare can help you get ur kids.
Since u r capable of training Them.
Plz no vex,
Who be this He in your post?

I am not impersonating anyone.... It is what is happening to me right now... Their mom is supposed to come pick them next week to her place and the kids outrightly refuse... They told me to come get them that they don't want to follow her.... They said alot of things that broke my heart.. This are kids who already have such memories...
I too remember vividly what happened when I was 5yrs old

Rozross:
Tell your wife to quit her hotel job. You are even a single dad sef, what caused your separation from their mom?

long story.... She left. She just left one day with a message that she deserve better....
She crave things she can't afford herself....
This is someone who can't even buy an ordinary itel for herself

Irupetepete:
I am not impersonating anyone.... It is what is happening to me right now... Their mom is supposed to come pick them next week to her place and the kids outrightly refuse... They told me to come get them that they don't want to follow her.... They said alot of things that broke my heart.. This are kids who already have such memories...
I too remember vividly what happened when I was 5yrs old

Report the issue to welfare.
And take possession of your kids.

fman:

Report the issue to welfare.
And take possession of your kids.

I called her this night and she said no problem I can have them... I just need tips on how to cope with them... I know it's not gonna be easy but it is a duty and challenge am ready to face

Irupetepete:
1. she works in an hotel... How sane is it to train my kids in an hotel? I rented a 2bedroom with everything needed in a home in it..their mom stays with her mother and my kids sleeps on a mat cos they live in a room apartment with no security.... The day I went visiting, I couldn't cry at what I see... The kids stray on the street... There are things I can't even mention... She can't stay with a husband because she believes she deserves someone like dangote or otedola....it is clear we can't be together and am not against that but you can't train my kids from an hotel

Questions for you...

1. have you ever paid her some sort of child support before now to help with care for your children or have instead expected her to shoulder the cost all by herself till now??

2. She may not be making enough to afford a better situation for her kids but that doesn't mean she is not a capable mother though. You mention she lives with her mother so does grandma not like being with the kids or something that she has to take them to work with her?

3. More importantly, where you previously married to this woman and are you legally able to pursue what you intend, of course with her sign-off or are you simply attempting here to suggest that since you have a two bedroom apartment with amenities, that you will make a better parent?,

Irupetepete:
long story.... She left. She just left one day with a message that she deserve better....
She crave things she can't afford herself....
This is someone who can't even buy an ordinary itel for herself

Ok please do your best to make sure you protect your kids, don’t let them grow up in such environment. I wanted to suggest reconciliation but since she’s the one that left then there’s no need asking a woman to stay where she doesn’t want.

Irupetepete:
I called her this night and she said no problem I can have them... I just need tips on how to cope with them... I know it's not gonna be easy but it is a duty and challenge am ready to face

Your saying you need tips to cope with your own kids is what scares me. The same way a woman would go about caring for her kids is the same way a man would have to. There are no different rules/instructions for each gender.

For a 4 and 6-year-old, taking them away from what they are used to without first being sure you are ready leaves me wondering it if isn't better you and your ex instead make other arrangements such as hiring a nanny.

Irupetepete:
I called her this night and she said no problem I can have them... I just need tips on how to cope with them... I know it's not gonna be easy but it is a duty and challenge am ready to face

You still need walfare to be aware that u are in charge of your kids.
Follow due process.
They are your kids.
You will cope with Them

Kobojunkie:
Questions for you...

1. have you ever paid her some sort of child support before now to help with care for your children or have instead expected her to shoulder the cost all by herself till now??

2. She may not be making enough to afford a better situation for her kids but that doesn't mean she is not a capable mother though. You mention she lives with her mother so does grandma not like being with the kids or something that she has to take them to work with her?

3. More importantly, where you previously married to this woman and are you legally able to pursue what you intend, of course with her sign-off or are you simply attempting here to suggest that since you have a two bedroom apartment with amenities, that you will make a better parent?,

1) I send her weekly upkeep... Aside money for clothes for the kids and provisions...

2)she told me point blank in one of our conversations that she doesn't really have time cos she almost every time does night shift, the reason she takes the kids to her work place...
Her mother doesn't have time....
Her siblings just finished secondary school, one learns hair dressing and comes home around 7pm...

3)we've been together for 10yrs plus now before the separation.... She believe she deserve better, I can't force her to like what she hates and have moved on too.
How can kids which have their beds here now sleep on mat?

Holly Gram I just from ASHAWOO house de JAZZ back now..


Training a child in a hotel is very wrong and with wat I SEE, ur wife de game...


U can always get someone to take care of ur kids wen u are of to work.. Agree on the amount u will pay the PESIN.. maybe a female house help. salary 15 to 20k


CUNTREE raw now. people go rush the work..


LITE UP my WEED in peace


WTF MAN!

Rozross:
Then what caused your separation?

Leave the mans private life. Contribute to the area he needs advice and dont interfere in his personal affair.

Irupetepete:

1) I send her weekly upkeep... Aside money for clothes for the kids and provisions...

2)she told me point blank in one of our conversations that she doesn't really have time cos she almost every time does night shift, the reason she takes the kids to her work place...
Her mother doesn't have time....
Her siblings just finished secondary school, one learns hair dressing and comes home around 7pm...

3)we've been together for 10yrs plus now before the separation.... She believe she deserve better, I can't force her to like what she hates and have moved on too.
How can kids which have their beds here now sleep on mat?

Well, given the circumstances, it may be better for you to have the kids. My greatest concern is always the general welfare of the kids involved.... sleeping on mat to kids is nothing so long as they know - emotionally and physically - that they are loved.

Op, they are your kids u will cope in no time I know its not a man work to take Care of kids, u can get a nanny, or someone that will come every weekend to take care of the house, adjust your schedule u will be fine

Take the kids from her, thank God she agreed. Raising kids in hotel can do so much damaging to your kids. You both don't have time, hire a nanny or a live -in -maid to look after your kids. Your ex just needs freedom to LovePeddler around...soon she will realize....but I hope you were not beating her or maltreating her because I wonder why she will leave all you say you have and go live in one room with her mum

Gyum

debbydams:
Op, they are your kids u will cope in no time I know its not a man work to take Care of kids, u can get a nanny, or someone that will come every weekend to take care of the house, adjust your schedule u will be fine

It's a man's place to squirt the kids out but not take care of them??

If you are staying in the same town, she can drop them with you, or you can go pick them up, while she resumes her duty.
I don’t think it’s mentally hygienic to raise children in a hotel environment.

Kobojunkie:
It's a man's place to squirt the kids out but not take care of them??

you're getting me wrong, I'm saying this because of his schedule, plus taking Care of kids is for mothers not fathers, tho fathers can support.
House chores is der oo and he has a job too, omorr taking care of kids is a full time course u can't understand if u don't have one, I'm talking from experience

debbydams:
you're getting me wrong, I'm saying this because of his schedule, plus taking Care of kids is for mothers not fathers, tho fathers can support.
House chores is der oo and he has a job too, omorr taking care of kids is a full time course u can't understand if u don't have one, I'm talking from experience

Is his schedule any busier than that of the woman's schedule in this case?

Our neighbor, growing up in Ikorodu, was a single dad who raised all 5 children - the first child was not even his - by himself. He had a job so he could both support and raise them. He bathed and got them all ready for school in the morning and came straight home after work, raising all those fine kids all by himself, and this was back in the 1980s/1990s in that same Nigeria. Are you saying this man somehow didn't get this memo of yours that fathers are not meant to take care of their kids?

This is 2022, there are some things that should never be mentioned ever again abeg!

Kobojunkie:
Is his schedule any busier than that of the woman's schedule in this case?

Our neighbor, growing up in Ikorodu, was a single dad who raised all 5 children - the first child was not even his - by himself. He had a job so he could both support and raise them. He bathed and got them all ready for school in the morning and came straight home after work, raising all those fine kids all by himself, and this was back in the 1980s/1990s in that same Nigeria. Are you saying this man somehow didn't get this memo of yours that fathers are not meant to take care of their kids?

This is 2022, there are some things that should never be mentioned ever again abeg!

OK sir