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Re: My kids are being trained in an hotel!! I Need Advice.. by Anuoluwa12345(f): 1:38pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
Just wake up around 5am.. cook for them, prepare them for sch.. I think the 6yrs old shud know how to birth already. It will reduce your stress... Take them to sch.. when it's closing hour, tell them to report back to your shop.. when it's 6pm.. you and your children close... And get ready for the next day. Na like that my dad do our own.. and all of us don grow now.. you don't need any woman to take care of your kids for you, else she will maltreat them. Irupetepete: 1 Like |
Re: My kids are being trained in an hotel!! I Need Advice.. by dochenaj: 1:39pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
safarigirl:Now here (bolded text) is an advice, and a good one at that. You're right, he may need practical insight and that will position him for the best course of action to take moving forward. Well done. |
Re: My kids are being trained in an hotel!! I Need Advice.. by MossLuv: 1:40pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
Irupetepete: My brother I can relate. It's not going to be easy for you at all, but trust me you can do it. I face the same challenge when my kids are just 2and 4 years; it's not funny o, the stress of something else. Let me give you my advice and leave my own story. If your mom is still alive and capable of taking care of them, then I advice you to take them to her, and If she's not, look for any of your relatives/Nice to come and help you. Sorry for what you are passing through. |
Re: My kids are being trained in an hotel!! I Need Advice.. by GboyegaD(m): 1:40pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
Irupetepete: Enrol them in a good school and after school progeams. If you camt find a reasonable after school program, then enrol them in a lesson. That way, their day ends at about same time as yours. When you get home, engage them in conversations as you all prepare dinner. That way, you get to know them more and create a great bond. Most importantly, do not spare the rod (this doesn't mean beating) by trying to over compensate. You could use talks, warnings, strikes, then beating to help them remember all you have been saying regarding any issue that need correction. Remember, no one else can instill your values in them and no one else can love them more than you and your ex. Above all, trust God to lead you. |
Re: My kids are being trained in an hotel!! I Need Advice.. by Osashalom: 1:40pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
Why waste your energy replying that guy Irupetepete: |
Re: My kids are being trained in an hotel!! I Need Advice.. by Freshgrace4life(f): 1:42pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
Problem no dey finish |
Re: My kids are being trained in an hotel!! I Need Advice.. by Irupetepete: 1:43pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
NezzyMike:she no get time to care for them... The kids made the decision not to go to her again.. |
Re: My kids are being trained in an hotel!! I Need Advice.. by Yankiss(m): 1:43pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:What exactly are you saying? The red flags are there. Your kid of that tender age sleeping in a hotel should be of concern to you as a dad, if u are worthy of that name dad. For God's sake, she's single and gets hits from sundry men!!! 5 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: My kids are being trained in an hotel!! I Need Advice.. by Anuoluwa12345(f): 1:44pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
Abi o... Awon agba Oro dun... Gboro mi de le Ru. ObaOfYorubaLand: |
Re: My kids are being trained in an hotel!! I Need Advice.. by frugal(m): 1:44pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
Rozross: You just want gist. You don't need the details of separation to offer advice to the OP. |
Re: My kids are being trained in an hotel!! I Need Advice.. by GloriousGbola: 1:47pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
Unless you have money for a GOOD daycare centre you will hear it. I work from home and it has been something else. The six year old comes in like clockwork during meetings. Daddy iam hungry. Daddy turn on TV, daddy I need x |
Re: My kids are being trained in an hotel!! I Need Advice.. by brandsoncharlie: 1:51pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
Irupetepete:Op please forget this Nairaland people most of them are kids, you’ve table your problem very well and you need solutions not all this unnecessary questions. My take is ; since you’ve taken the decision . If you have a family female relative who can take care of your kids bring her in and direct want you need be since you will come back home from work to meet them. At the end of the month give her little stipends, when you’re free take them to children park so they feel cherished like other kids. |
Re: My kids are being trained in an hotel!! I Need Advice.. by delzbaba(m): 1:51pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
Sad,,I hate when kids suffer for what they didn't cause. |
Re: My kids are being trained in an hotel!! I Need Advice.. by TheGift: 1:52pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
Rozross: Now that you realize they are separated , does your advice still apply? Even if it did , have you thought about how they will cope when She leaves that job? |
Re: My kids are being trained in an hotel!! I Need Advice.. by Irupetepete: 1:55pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
brandsoncharlie:sometimes when I eat good food and remember how my kids are living, I loose appetite |
Re: My kids are being trained in an hotel!! I Need Advice.. by victorVIC1(m): 2:01pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
safarigirl: Funny how I assumed the kids were male kids. Like someone rightly wrote up there, since he's running his own business he has more control over his time. He should be able to give his kids more attention without jeopardising his source of income |
Re: My kids are being trained in an hotel!! I Need Advice.. by Allwell96: 2:16pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
Go to court and file for custody |
Re: My kids are being trained in an hotel!! I Need Advice.. by Elidrisy20: 2:18pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
You are not financially stable,why you come marry? |
Re: My kids are being trained in an hotel!! I Need Advice.. by Whoknowsme: 2:18pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
When i read some comments of my fellow gender here, i begin to wonder whether they are mother's or can ever know how to mother children. Op pls take your children, report to the welfare and train them. You can do better than her 1 Like |
Re: My kids are being trained in an hotel!! I Need Advice.. by seanwilliam(m): 2:18pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
All these could have been avoided if you married right.. I really feel so sad reading your write up God will see you through |
Re: My kids are being trained in an hotel!! I Need Advice.. by petermine1: 2:41pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
Irupetepete:my bros your dnt love your kids I mean it,I m a single dad too I m the one that take care of my kids , and I work for someone and I have two kids too a boy and girl, the boy is 7 when there mom left and the girl is 5 , is all about determination, because the future of those kids matter , please take responsibility of your kids so that you will not cry � in future because of you guys mistake |
Re: My kids are being trained in an hotel!! I Need Advice.. by SmartyPants(m): 2:56pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: Kobo don't always be the aggressive minority. Be reasonable. What business does a 6-year-old have learning how to pick a lock? Great handyman skills indeed. Sleeping hotels?? Which are usually a den of immorality in Nigeria?? Would you be happy for your kids to be in that situation? |
Re: My kids are being trained in an hotel!! I Need Advice.. by Kobojunkie: 2:57pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
Yankiss:She works in a hotel does not mean the hotel is a brothel. And even if she is an ashawo in the hotel, she is a mother and her duty is to make sure she provides and caters to her kids any way she can. That is her job as a parent. Would you rather she sit back and turn beggar because a hotel is red-flag as far as raising kids? As for the dad, na today she begin dey raise them for the hotel? He wants to take the kids, that's good but that doesn't mean she has been a terrible parent to them until now. Also, the man is equally single and probably hit on by "sundry" women so does that make him a terrible father? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My kids are being trained in an hotel!! I Need Advice.. by LINSAR: 2:57pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: This scenario is one out of how many? We let the western culture becloud our own way of life. Simple social studies of junior secondary school will make you know gender and parental roles. All those bathing kids, changing baby diapers, domestic chores e.t.c are majorly the role of the mother.The husband can only assist the wife. The husband too has his own roles where the mother can only assist. How many times did your own grandfather sweep,wash dishes,go to market to buy foodstuffs,bath kids e.t.c while your grandmother was available and healthy(when they both were not aged)?? 1 Like |
Re: My kids are being trained in an hotel!! I Need Advice.. by Kobojunkie: 2:58pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
Advision:For a 6-year old to pick up such skills at that age may mean He is a MacGyver in process. |
Re: My kids are being trained in an hotel!! I Need Advice.. by kologba: 2:59pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:what sort of stupid questions have u been asking... I know u are a woman...dey got just chicken brain....if u are a single mother ur advice is not needed so keep quiet... 1 Like |
Re: My kids are being trained in an hotel!! I Need Advice.. by Kobojunkie: 3:06pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
SmartyPants:I don't know how to pick my own locks and so it costs me over $150 to call a locksmith everytime I loose my keys. Here is a 6-year old child who has learned such a valuable skill at a small age and you can't seem to see the good side of it which is that this kid has a bright future ahead of him if properly nurtured? As for hotels being a den, na wa for una. Na people papa and mama with dem kids they run those hotels. Not all hotels are dens even in that very Nigeria. Also, according to OP, the woman dey bath, and feed her children for that hotel. Would you rather she send them out to beg in the streets instead because according to you, kids should not not raiser in a hotel? Parents have to do what parents have to do to feed and cloth their ward... it is their responsibility. So it does not matter whether she has to do ashawo feed and raise her kids, so long as she made the decision to be a parent, her duty is to make sure they are cared for no matter how. Her way is the way which happens to work for her. Op only now realizes he can do better for some reason. Doesn't mean she has been doing a mighty terrible job before now. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My kids are being trained in an hotel!! I Need Advice.. by Munzy14(m): 3:23pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
Mindlog:Alright then. He should get a house help.. And allow for Co-parenting. |
Re: My kids are being trained in an hotel!! I Need Advice.. by johhnnie(m): 3:26pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
Irupetepete: Record everything those kids tell you about their experience; living in the hotel. Neither coerce nor let the lie. Let them flow naturally. Have a plan handy on how you intend on taking care of them should they be with you. Then, approach the welfare. |
Re: My kids are being trained in an hotel!! I Need Advice.. by Irupetepete: 3:30pm On Sep 02, 2022 |
dochenaj:done it for 2 weeks though hard but we no die and am financially OK now than then |
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