₦airaland Forum

folake4u:
Forgive me but you're making me laugh. .
I can just picture your face right now.

Don't worry much about it. Pretty sure it'd clear soon.

Farfalla:
Did you recently change your lip balm?
Or your face wash/soap?
Or your facial moisturiser?
Or your sunscreen?

Maybe you're reacting to a new product.

sisitito01:
I hope it does o. Thank you for your concern, as usual.

@MrSeun please let us use our own emojis, please and thanks.

Farfalla:
A 20-year old Nigerian girl is already attracted to men who can give her material stuff. She will probably not pursue Telemundo love at the expense of wealth/comfort. Whatever gift she receives from a man serves as an index of his love for her.
- 2K recharge = man likes me
- An expensive phone = man loves me
- A big car = man loves me very much
- A trip to Accra = man loves me
- A trip to Maldives = man loves me very much
- Residential property in Lekki = man is my soulmate

Naija girls know who to pick and who to avoid very early in life because they have this dire need to glitter and glitter they will. I guess it's what the other gender refer to as entitlement mentality.

But you see the rest of us? Zimbabwéans, Ugandáns, Kényans, Maláwians, Tánzanians (mumu of them all), SÁ, Congolése, Rwandése, Éthiopians, Mozambiçans, Zambîans? We are generally hopeless. A yeye man, let's call him 'Ken', will come with very sweet words and the girls of these countries will fall for him. All he needs to do is hold her waist like one Alejandro or Eduardo in Telemundo, look into her eyes, tell her sweet nothings, kiss her sensitive spots and seal it with mind-blowing sex. That's it. A new pair of "soulmates" are unleashed into the world. No iPhone, no 2K recharge, no trips to exotic locations. Just pure love, devoid of materialism.

As time goes by, reality sets in (at 31) and she finds herself in either of these two situations;
1. Ken is now her husband and she, the breadwinner of her family. They cannot chop love. Ken is now very comfortable being a kept man while she's busy forwarding his unsellable CV to her acquaintances.
2. Ken somehow managed to put himself together in the course of their courtship, acquired some finances, but married some other lady he's "compatible" with. The universe never rewarded her for foregoing materialism, rather, it rewarded the lady who wanted the glitter and went for it.

Either way it suddenly hits the lady that Telemundo romance isn't reality and that financial stability in a man is a crucial aspect in relationships/marriage, despite the demonisation of gold-diggers. However, she's acquired this new-found knowledge at 32, while a Nigerian girl already knew this at 22.

Farfalla:
A 20-year old Nigerian girl is already attracted to men who can give her material stuff. She will probably not pursue Telemundo love at the expense of wealth/comfort. Whatever gift she receives from a man serves as an index of his love for her.
- 2K recharge = man likes me
- An expensive phone = man loves me
- A big car = man loves me very much
- A trip to Accra = man loves me
- A trip to Maldives = man loves me very much
- Residential property in Lekki = man is my soulmate

Naija girls know who to pick and who to avoid very early in life because they have this dire need to glitter and glitter they will. I guess it's what the other gender refer to as entitlement mentality.

But you see the rest of us? Zimbabwéans, Ugandáns, Kényans, Maláwians, Tánzanians (mumu of them all), SÁ, Congolése, Rwandése, Éthiopians, Mozambiçans, Zambîans? We are generally hopeless. A yeye man, let's call him 'Ken', will come with very sweet words and the girls of these countries will fall for him. All he needs to do is hold her waist like one Alejandro or Eduardo in Telemundo, look into her eyes, tell her sweet nothings, kiss her sensitive spots and seal it with mind-blowing sex. That's it. A new pair of "soulmates" are unleashed into the world. No iPhone, no 2K recharge, no trips to exotic locations. Just pure love, devoid of materialism.

As time goes by, reality sets in (at 31) and she finds herself in either of these two situations;
1. Ken is now her husband and she, the breadwinner of her family. They cannot chop love. Ken is now very comfortable being a kept man while she's busy forwarding his unsellable CV to her acquaintances.
2. Ken somehow managed to put himself together in the course of their courtship, acquired some finances, but married some other lady he's "compatible" with. The universe never rewarded her for foregoing materialism, rather, it rewarded the lady who wanted the glitter and went for it.

Either way it suddenly hits the lady that Telemundo romance isn't reality and that financial stability in a man is a crucial aspect in relationships/marriage, despite the demonisation of gold-diggers. However, she's acquired this new-found knowledge at 32, while a Nigerian girl already knew this at 22.

Farfalla:
A 20-year old Nigerian girl is already attracted to men who can give her material stuff. She will probably not pursue Telemundo love at the expense of wealth/comfort. Whatever gift she receives from a man serves as an index of his love for her.
- 2K recharge = man likes me
- An expensive phone = man loves me
- A big car = man loves me very much
- A trip to Accra = man loves me
- A trip to Maldives = man loves me very much
- Residential property in Lekki = man is my soulmate

Naija girls know who to pick and who to avoid very early in life because they have this dire need to glitter and glitter they will. I guess it's what the other gender refer to as entitlement mentality.

But you see the rest of us? Zimbabwéans, Ugandáns, Kényans, Maláwians, Tánzanians (mumu of them all), SÁ, Congolése, Rwandése, Éthiopians, Mozambiçans, Zambîans? We are generally hopeless. A yeye man, let's call him 'Ken', will come with very sweet words and the girls of these countries will fall for him. All he needs to do is hold her waist like one Alejandro or Eduardo in Telemundo, look into her eyes, tell her sweet nothings, kiss her sensitive spots and seal it with mind-blowing sex. That's it. A new pair of "soulmates" are unleashed into the world. No iPhone, no 2K recharge, no trips to exotic locations. Just pure love, devoid of materialism.

As time goes by, reality sets in (at 31) and she finds herself in either of these two situations;
1. Ken is now her husband and she, the breadwinner of her family. They cannot chop love. Ken is now very comfortable being a kept man while she's busy forwarding his unsellable CV to her acquaintances.
2. Ken somehow managed to put himself together in the course of their courtship, acquired some finances, but married some other lady he's "compatible" with. The universe never rewarded her for foregoing materialism, rather, it rewarded the lady who wanted the glitter and went for it.

Either way it suddenly hits the lady that Telemundo romance isn't reality and that financial stability in a man is a crucial aspect in relationships/marriage, despite the demonisation of gold-diggers. However, she's acquired this new-found knowledge at 32, while a Nigerian girl already knew this at 22.

Farfalla:
A 20-year old Nigerian girl is already attracted to men who can give her material stuff. She will probably not pursue Telemundo love at the expense of wealth/comfort. Whatever gift she receives from a man serves as an index of his love for her.
- 2K recharge = man likes me
- An expensive phone = man loves me
- A big car = man loves me very much
- A trip to Accra = man loves me
- A trip to Maldives = man loves me very much
- Residential property in Lekki = man is my soulmate

Naija girls know who to pick and who to avoid very early in life because they have this dire need to glitter and glitter they will. I guess it's what the other gender refer to as entitlement mentality.

But you see the rest of us? Zimbabwéans, Ugandáns, Kényans, Maláwians, Tánzanians (mumu of them all), SÁ, Congolése, Rwandése, Éthiopians, Mozambiçans, Zambîans? We are generally hopeless. A yeye man, let's call him 'Ken', will come with very sweet words and the girls of these countries will fall for him. All he needs to do is hold her waist like one Alejandro or Eduardo in Telemundo, look into her eyes, tell her sweet nothings, kiss her sensitive spots and seal it with mind-blowing sex. That's it. A new pair of "soulmates" are unleashed into the world. No iPhone, no 2K recharge, no trips to exotic locations. Just pure love, devoid of materialism.

As time goes by, reality sets in (at 31) and she finds herself in either of these two situations;
1. Ken is now her husband and she, the breadwinner of her family. They cannot chop love. Ken is now very comfortable being a kept man while she's busy forwarding his unsellable CV to her acquaintances.
2. Ken somehow managed to put himself together in the course of their courtship, acquired some finances, but married some other lady he's "compatible" with. The universe never rewarded her for foregoing materialism, rather, it rewarded the lady who wanted the glitter and went for it.

Either way it suddenly hits the lady that Telemundo romance isn't reality and that financial stability in a man is a crucial aspect in relationships/marriage, despite the demonisation of gold-diggers. However, she's acquired this new-found knowledge at 32, while a Nigerian girl already knew this at 22.

sisitito01:
Hello "pinkpillers", I'm so sorry but I just thought to bring this here.

I woke up to my lips looking dark as fvck on Sunday morning. I've been confused as hell and I'm almost losing my mind because I already struggle with my general look.

If anyone here has ever experienced this sort of thing or knows anyone who has, please help me with information. I have Googled but nothing I have seen makes any sense to me. I'm just confused. This is so strange.

The first picture is how my lips have always looked and the second is how they look now.

Klass99:
You've seen them 1 million times where?

Geminita:
Hi, sisi, it could be a reaction to something. I experienced it some times back and it got cleared by itself.

I didn't use anything in particular and I didn't pay close attention to it.

Maybe you changed your lipgloss

Sorry, baby

Persephone1:
Pardon me, i really do not buy into this analogy of a Nigerian woman because it is totally offensive to non materialistic and independent women who happens to be Nigerians and so in love with their not so providing Men. Not all watch television because there are places where they don't have electricity, not all families can afford Television, not all are educated enough to understand what Telemundo show but these people get married and love one another. And guess what? Not all Nigerian men can afford to give cars, trips, phones or whatever yet they find NIGERIAN WOMEN who love them dearly.

And guess what? Not all Nigerian men can afford to give cars, trips, phones or whatever yet they find NIGERIAN WOMEN who love them dearly.

Nigerian Women aren't entitled! Hell no! It is not entitlement when you follow laid down rules, norms and culture. Men Provide in Nigerian culture, all the woman needs to bring is her submission, her beauty, her feminity and her womb. The entitlement mentality projected on mainstreams are by men who want to eat their cakes and have it. Men who don't have the ability to provide for their women but still want to Lord over them. Men who want to change the status quo halfway and expect a balance result. And like the ever non accountable being these men are, they would rather blame the women for their own deficiency.

If a Nigerian woman interprets gifts and acts of service as love, like your 2k , Phone, car, trip analogy, shes not wrong because it is how an average Nigerian man express love and affection. A Nigerian man will not do telemundo love, nah.. He express love by providing and taking care of his object of attraction.

If a Nigerian woman interprets gifts and acts of service as love, like your 2k , Phone, car, trip analogy, shes not wrong because it is how an average Nigerian man express love and affection.

There are independent ladies in lovely relationships too.

Putting all Nigerian Women in a box for some misconception is totally unfair! The sad part is guys who sell untrue stories to foreigners like you comport themselves better, let go of a lot of things just to fit in with you. This makes it so hard to correct the misconception about Nigerian Women.

Klass99:
I have been told I am not materialistic and most times too independent for my own good, but I will be damned if I ever love a man who is not a provider. I dey ment? All my love plus his combined, will not pay the bills. I didn't find her analogy offensive, even Steve Harvey talks about men being providers and the need for us to let them be providers.

I didn't get the feeling or impression that she put all Nigerian women in a box for some misconception. If anything she had us well pegged down from the moment she said we set certain standards financial or otherwise for our men, higher standards than other African women do (see her earlier posts for this) Meaning we don't go into relationships blindly or behave like other African women.

You and I see things differently with her analogy and that's okay. For me it's like saying in the animal kingdom, Naija women bear a resemblance to the female tiger who goes after what she wants or likes, whereas other African women are more like swans or dolphins who don't, until they realize love alone doesn't cut it.

Farfalla:
No sis. I am on the other side of the continent. My initial plan was to remain a neutral citizen on this forum but Klass "tortured" me on some other thread and compelled me to reveal my nationality.

Hehehe. I am one in spirit and I particularly admire Nigerian women.

Farfalla:
Before we proceed, kindly put your sword back in its sheath. I'm not here to attack Nigerian women. I've never even had the need to.

Surely without me adding a disclaimer you ought to have known that my post does not imply that there are no independent women in Nigeria. That is not what I implied at all at all.

I used Telemundo as an analogy to describe blind love. Mumu love. The kind of love you find in soap operas and novels. Replace it with any other vocabulary of your own.


Of course not all Nigerian men can afford material stuff. If they could, this site would not be as toxic as it is. But you should also ask yourself why they're the ones who keep yammering about "hustling so women will come" more than any other group of men in Africa.



Go through my post again Persephone. Are we surely not saying the same thing regarding this?



And isn't this my point?

This is what I mean when I say that Nigerian girls (in general) understand this at an early age. Why then does it seem like you are overreacting to something we both agree on?



I also don't remember mentioning anywhere that there's anything wrong with her interpretation of love. Nowhere.


No doubt about that.



About this. No, I'm not putting ALL Nigerian women in a box. And secondly, please don't assume that I am informed about the Nigerian society from a narrative being sold to me. My interaction with Nigeria and Nigerians is deeper than you know. Way deeper than you imagine.

The summary of my post is this - Nigerian women (whether independent or otherwise) are generally smarter in relationship matters.

That's a compliment by the way, so you can hold your fire, will you?

I can point a million and more ways your initial post puts the Nigerian woman in a very wrong position. Your analogy of how a Nigerian woman sees love is very degrading to say the least,do you know all Nigerian women deep enough to give such impression of how they see love? Your words are coated in oxymorons. Anyone reading without emotions will see through that. You don't call me a monkey because i can jump when there are other honourable words to use. Substitute Nigerian with whatever nation you are from in your initial post, read through then judge if you would smile while reading.

Your terms were wrong! That is the point! Your post sound condensing. Very condensing. Perhaps if you had put " your compliment" in a more acceptable and less ambiguous way. It would be more agreeable.

Lol @ fire. Honestly i'm trying very hard not to do that, believe me.

Farfalla:
No.

Klass99:
My apologies . Chances are, you may not be bluffing at all. I hear you private university students can do and undo ehn!

One Uber guy I rode with a while back, gave me gist of a Convenant University student he was dating, I laughed so hard when the trip ended I paid him extra for making me laugh, for his candidness and the neatness of his car.

She's not. Which explains why she is not as vawulent, obnoxious and toxic like most of you Nigerians.

sisitito01:
No o. I didn't change my lipgloss or anything I use on my lip and face in general. I really hope it clears by itself because nothing I'm using seems to be working. Thank you very much for responding.

Substitute Nigerian with whatever nation you are from in your initial post, read through then judge if you would smile while reading.

Lol @ fire. Honestly i'm trying very hard not to do that, believe me.

folake4u:
Na man you quote oh.

Magnoliaa:
Soo, have you paid the Initiation Rite fee? Not one of the girls told you? OMg, I can't believe this.

From building to marrying to sisterhood groups, as is our culture of billing, you gats drop something for the boys girls.

Klass99:
Pls unquote him and amend your post.

Geminita:
Yes, it should and make sure you drink water very well.

Water is therapeutic

Farfalla:
Done.