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mployer:
I don't believe your story anyway.
A virgin man at 29 is not that feasible and not even something to be proud of.
No woman is ever excited to talk about her body count.

What I find harder to believe is that a 29-year-old, who even claims to have been a virgin until 4 days ago, can be this silly in his reasoning of things, even marriage.

goodamerican:
OP, I can understand your disappointment. You wanted to marry a virgin like yourself and wanted your first time to happen with each other. You should've asked before marriage, especially when you were getting serious, but I understand you didn't because you had assumed she was one since she's a pastors daughter. Anyways, if she has all the other qualities you want in a woman, continue the marriage.

*Idk how a 13-year old is having sex, though. That was too early, but to each their own.


I believe it's feasible for some men and he should be proud of himself. There are men who remain virgins up until their late 20s and even 30s, the same way there are some women who are still virgins. We exist - there's nothing unfeasible or impossible about it.

There is zero pride in a man's virginity.

In sexual biology, the man is the striker and the woman is the defender.

The pride of the striker is in his ability to score goals, and the pride of the defender is in her ability to avert goals.

So there's pride in woman's virginity and much disdain on man's virginity. That explains why most women hate virgin men. They want a loyal but experienced man.

Only 5body count and you are shouting. I can't ask any girl how many guys she has dated cause, thats the most stewpid question ever to ask a girl cause the answer will always hurt you.

Imlost:
I will pray over it so that I can forget whatever she told me that day

Great.

You need slap. Nonsense. She is the love of your life and you want to divorce because of your past. Oboy you need slap

Imlost:
I never pried into such details as I consider it sinful to discuss such things.

Drama in Church 2

Imlost:
Agreed, I never discussed anything about her being a virgin or not. I just assumed she was since she's my pastor's daughter.

Right now, I can't divorce her because I feel like it will seem like I'm disrespecting her dad, who is my pastor.

And also, I feel like I should cheat outside my marriage and have fun just like she did in her youthful years so that we can be even.

I am 29 while my wife in question will be 26 next month.

I'm I being childish? Or will I get over it?

I wish I never asked her about her past in the first place and I wish I could just erase the memory of her past in my head.

Your bolded makes me laugh, to what end? Think of it you kept yourself till you married only to get married and start adultery? Something you didn't do when single and why?
Because you assumed your wife was a virgin and you found out she's not.


Also thinking of divorce beacause of the matter? Nope there was no deception, you assumed.

If that information mattered greatly to you, you would have asked some questions, never ever assume anything.

Anyway all that is on the past and you are married, you love her as you said right continue as it had been before that information, don't let this cause a big friction between you guys, your marriage is still young.


Wish you the best. Happy married life.

5 X 10 equals 50. That's her exact body count.

No woman will reveal her exact body count. None. When you ask them, they usually divide the correct answer by 10.

If the opportunity arises, she will gladly have intimate relations with all of those men.


Get a Divorce. Virginity is a deal-breaker for you. It's not something to be ashamed of.

NoToPile:
Your bolded makes me laugh, to what end? Think of it you kept yourself till you married only to get married and start adultery? Something you didn't do when single and why?
Because you assumed your wife was a virgin and you found out she's not.


Also thinking of divorce beacause of the matter? Nope there was no deception, you assumed.

If that information mattered greatly to you, you would have asked some questions, never ever assume anything.

Anyway all that is on the past and you are married, you love her as you said right continue as it had been before that information, don't let this cause a big friction between you guys, your marriage is still young.


Wish you the best. Happy married life.

Thank you for your wishes

DontBullshitMe:
5 X 10 equals 50. That's her exact body count.

No woman will reveal her exact body count. None. When you ask them, they usually divide the correct answer by 10.

If the opportunity arises, she will gladly have intimate relations with all of those men.


Get a Divorce. Virginity is a deal-breaker for you. It's not something to be ashamed of.

Thank you, but I'll stick to her for now and see if she wouldn't cheat with one of her exes like what I've been reading concerning non virgins here

It dosnt mean. So long she can still born so forgive her

A real man shouldn't marry from the following categories
1: your employer's daughter
2: your pastor's daughter
3: your mentor's daughter
4: your benefactor's daughter

If you do, you must redefine your relationship with your employer, mentor or whoever, otherwise you will be at a disadvantage.

I was very close to one of my bosses and she tried to link me up to marry the daughter. We were getting along and she needed help with something. I charged her half of what is obtainable to deliver such service and she gave me 20 percent of what I asked for.

When the job was completed, she started acting funny and I decided to withdraw the service from her. She got my boss involved and I told them point blank that they were both unreasonable.

I had a dealing with a 25 years old adult and you are involving your parent to intervene? I insisted on my complete fee even at the risk of ruining the relationship. Las Las I had to forgo part of the money as they paid only a part.

Six months later, I was gisting with my boss and she brought up the fact that her daughter is expecting me to shoot my shot. I told her that I can neither date nor marry a mummy's toy as a wife, just as I would not advise my sister to marry a mummy's boy.

So marrying your pastor's daughter is a no for me. Even if the girl cheats, the father will preach forgiveness for you

You want to get a divorce because your body counts are different. Very immature of you. If it was such a big deal to you, I don't see why you couldn't ask when you first got to know her. You lost respect for her for what, did she ever lie to you? All of a sudden all her good qualities and whatever else you saw to even refer to her as the love of your life no matter again because of her past. You didn't even give any tangible reason like you suspecting she is still promiscuous or something. Divorce na. Go find the Virgin you need. You will see what you're looking for very soon.

Imlost:
Thank you, but I'll stick to her for now and see if she wouldn't cheat with one of her exes like what I've been reading concerning non virgins here

You're even going by what you read about non Virgins, on nairaland of all places where ladies are degraded and bashed to hell Honestly you never ready. If you really loved her in the first place, you should be able to judge her character yourself.

Zonefree:
To see a 26-year-old Nigerian girl with body count of just 5 is truly a miracle. You actually don't know what God did for you.

You don't know the value of what you have until you lose it, that's when you'll realise that Nigeria is filled with girls like Siofra and Iyaebe them.

It depends on your circle, and the stories they relay. Body count of 5 is HIGH. 5 men don see am finish I think it is too high. Is she a pros?

Tell her Dad... And fvcking divorce her idiot lolxxx

OP, congratulations first. Happy Married Life.

You should have discussed all these before marriage, but all is still good.

Honestly, 5 body count is not bad in this age for a lady of 26 years. I hope she has told you all though. She might just tell you those to weigh your reactions. Now that you have reacted the way you did, you will not hear the rest.

Another thing I will advise you about is this. Since you kept yourself until marriage, stop further discussion of her sexual life and experience with her. You will definitely not be able to handle it. Also, please find ways to get experience about sex because your wife is more experienced than you. You need to quickly sharpen your skills in that department before madam starts losing interests in having it with you. Someone has suggested a whatsapp group. You can also find some experienced older men to give you some tips to quickly brush up your skills.

Marrying a virgin woman does not translate to faithfulness or better wife at home. What matters is the love, character, support,friendship and willingness to make sacrifices, brought to the table by the woman.

Enjoy your marriage bro. But stop further discussion of her past sexual life and quickly sharpened yourself up in that department.

You mean you guys never discussed sex indept between 4 days into your marriage?


Funny.

go tell her father the type of harlot he raised... and see how he responds

Imlost:
Good evening everyone, I had to create an account and put this out in order to get this out of my chest.

I got married to my pastor's daughter last 2 weeks ago and right now, all I think of is to divorce her as I can't lie to myself that I'll continue with the marriage.

Here's the issue:

All through my life, I've always been a virgin due to the fact that I'm a very religious person.

I finally got to wed the love of my life 2 weeks ago. We had met at a friend's wedding and it was like love at first sight for the both of us.

She is the perfect woman and has all the qualities I had always imagined In a woman.

After our wedding 2 weeks ago, I got to have our first time 4days after the wedding.

Even though it was my first time, it just didn't feel right to me (I've had people discuss about virgins having tight virgina, and the hymen being broken, etc.).

And so, I jokingly asked my wife who her first was (I wish I never did).

She got a little bit excited and told how she started having sex at 13 while she was in SS1 with one of her senior in SS3.

She also told me how she had 3 boyfriends in the university and also about her ex in her former place of work.

In all, she had 5 body counts. she asked me about my sexual experience too and which I told her that I'm a virgin, and she was my first.

She got silent and the environment was a bit quite. Well, we were like that until sleep drifted us both to sleep.

Ever since then, my love for her has dwindled.

I have always have respect for this girl and right now, I feel cheated.

Agreed, I never discussed anything about her being a virgin or not. I just assumed she was since she's my pastor's daughter.

Right now, I can't divorce her because I feel like it will seem like I'm disrespecting her dad, who is my pastor.

And also, I feel like I should cheat outside my marriage and have fun just like she did in her youthful years so that we can be even.

I am 29 while my wife in question will be 26 next month.

I'm I being childish? Or will I get over it?

Anytime I look at her, I always look at her with some disgusted look on my face.

I wish I never asked her about her past in the first place and I wish I could just erase the memory of her past in my head.

Wish you have not told her that she was your first, a great mistake, the time of cheating has passed, now is the time to focus on your marriage, there are no virgins out there any longer

Don’t destroy your marriage and yourself before it even starts, you kept yourself for God and not for your wife

crows2ravens:
I also think you should find adult materials about maximizing your pleasure during sex, good for both of you. Not porn oo, porn can only help very experienced sexual partners.
The two of you should work on building your sex life together.

I can add you up to a Christian couples WhatsApp group where you can get healthy information on sexual matters. You could also DM me if you want personal talk.

Please don't listen to those nairaland redpillers that would say you're simp or women are whores. Just don't listen to them!

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"are you being childish?"
Not really! I just think you're being overly paranoid. Moreover, these are questions you should have asked way before you guys got to the stage of marriage.
Take it easy on yourself! If she's the one you want, then move with the flow! No one is perfect!

Imlost:
Good evening everyone, I had to create an account and put this out in order to get this out of my chest.

I got married to my pastor's daughter last 2 weeks ago and right now, all I think of is to divorce her as I can't lie to myself that I'll continue with the marriage.

Here's the issue:

All through my life, I've always been a virgin due to the fact that I'm a very religious person.

I finally got to wed the love of my life 2 weeks ago. We had met at a friend's wedding and it was like love at first sight for the both of us.

She is the perfect woman and has all the qualities I had always imagined In a woman.

After our wedding 2 weeks ago, I got to have our first time 4days after the wedding.

Even though it was my first time, it just didn't feel right to me (I've had people discuss about virgins having tight virgina, and the hymen being broken, etc.).

And so, I jokingly asked my wife who her first was (I wish I never did).

She got a little bit excited and told how she started having sex at 13 while she was in SS1 with one of her senior in SS3.

She also told me how she had 3 boyfriends in the university and also about her ex in her former place of work.

In all, she had 5 body counts. she asked me about my sexual experience too and which I told her that I'm a virgin, and she was my first.

She got silent and the environment was a bit quite. Well, we were like that until sleep drifted us both to sleep.

Ever since then, my love for her has dwindled.

I have always have respect for this girl and right now, I feel cheated.

Agreed, I never discussed anything about her being a virgin or not. I just assumed she was since she's my pastor's daughter.

Right now, I can't divorce her because I feel like it will seem like I'm disrespecting her dad, who is my pastor.

And also, I feel like I should cheat outside my marriage and have fun just like she did in her youthful years so that we can be even.

I am 29 while my wife in question will be 26 next month.

I'm I being childish? Or will I get over it?

Anytime I look at her, I always look at her with some disgusted look on my face.

I wish I never asked her about her past in the first place and I wish I could just erase the memory of her past in my head.

If this your story is true,then you didn't plan your life well,the question you asked in marriage was meant for courtship.
And for divorce it may not be possible
Lastly ,thank God she told you the truth ,I'm in one similar mess now for 7years that my wife refused telling me the truth .

Just move on with your life ,any careless decision can ruin you ,how I wish I can open up to you because I'm in real mess now

And if you don't mind ,can you dm your phone number ?

Imlost:
Good evening everyone, I had to create an account and put this out in order to get this out of my chest.

I got married to my pastor's daughter last 2 weeks ago and right now, all I think of is to divorce her as I can't lie to myself that I'll continue with the marriage.

Here's the issue:

All through my life, I've always been a virgin due to the fact that I'm a very religious person.

I finally got to wed the love of my life 2 weeks ago. We had met at a friend's wedding and it was like love at first sight for the both of us.

She is the perfect woman and has all the qualities I had always imagined In a woman.

After our wedding 2 weeks ago, I got to have our first time 4days after the wedding.

Even though it was my first time, it just didn't feel right to me (I've had people discuss about virgins having tight virgina, and the hymen being broken, etc.).

And so, I jokingly asked my wife who her first was (I wish I never did).

She got a little bit excited and told how she started having sex at 13 while she was in SS1 with one of her senior in SS3.

She also told me how she had 3 boyfriends in the university and also about her ex in her former place of work.

In all, she had 5 body counts. she asked me about my sexual experience too and which I told her that I'm a virgin, and she was my first.

She got silent and the environment was a bit quite. Well, we were like that until sleep drifted us both to sleep.

Ever since then, my love for her has dwindled.

I have always have respect for this girl and right now, I feel cheated.

Agreed, I never discussed anything about her being a virgin or not. I just assumed she was since she's my pastor's daughter.

Right now, I can't divorce her because I feel like it will seem like I'm disrespecting her dad, who is my pastor.

And also, I feel like I should cheat outside my marriage and have fun just like she did in her youthful years so that we can be even.

I am 29 while my wife in question will be 26 next month.

I'm I being childish? Or will I get over it?

Anytime I look at her, I always look at her with some disgusted look on my face.

I wish I never asked her about her past in the first place and I wish I could just erase the memory of her past in my head.

So in ur super story book, it's after wedding they asked u to ask ur wife all these abi.


When u done with this particular scene let me know pls

MrBrownJay1:
go tell her father the type of harlot he raised... and see how he responds

U will still blame woman for obvious fake story.

This is Righteousness...

Agbada don hook for barbwire oh...

mployer:
I don't believe your story anyway.

A virgin man at 29 is not that feasible and not even something to be proud of.

No woman is ever excited to talk about her body count.

says who ? There are women who get carried away when it comes to sex talk.

mployer:
Virgin at 29, you are looser, you deserve what you get.
I still don't believe your story.

wetin dey worry you na !!

Imlost:
I never pried into such details as I consider it sinful to discuss such things.

haa!!

mployer:
I don't believe your story anyway.

A virgin man at 29 is not that feasible and not even something to be proud of.

No woman is ever excited to talk about her body count.

man say what you know and can defend too , @30 I was still a virgin, so, say what you know

You met your pastor's daughter for the first time at a friends wedding?

Phukitty phuq!