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Emaprince:
Your aunt wants to be appreciated? Everybody in your familly seems to be full of themselves.

Is that guy really poor and your familly ver rich..that your people feels that he is very lucky marrying you?

And the women in this thread refused to tell you the truth.

I congratulate that guy for being a man that doesn't take nonsense.

Yeah!Alot of ladies on this trend are not helping her at all and she thinks she's on the right part...Truth remains that after 3yrs ull regret ur silly actions, so if u like dont look for ways to reconcile with ur man very soon u and ur siblings go dey drag ur papa house thats if dem no go chase u comot from d house... make ur follow genders dey brain wash u

GboyegaD:
You are the one I should ask if you are ready for marriage. I wonder how you allowed people get into your head. You said he argued with your aunt, and you were pained. Should he keep quiet if he's not okay with whatever the cause of the argument was because he wants a marriage?

I don't even understand how your aunt was pissed that he didn't call to thank her for taking you to the market to buy the engagement clothes. Was he the one who suggested you approach your aunt to help you? If he is not, then he doesn't owe her that obligation. If he chooses to say thank you, so be it and if he doesn't, no big deal.

Lastly, your parent's (mom in particular) reservation indirectly beclouded your thought and you suggesting you put the wedding on hold gave him the opportunity to think through the entire thing. Perhaps, you guys were going on a fast lane and that statement made him think and also, have conversation with his folks who might have felt with this much troubles from external influences before the wedding, he should just save his head.

Like the Yorubas will say, "Oju to ma ba ni kale, kin ti a ti owuro se pin" implying, whatever would last long doesn't stress you from inception. You both are lucky in your ways and you both should see it as each party is right with his/her decision.

I just needed to add this, in your next relationship (whether he comes back or a new relationship), remember you both are the prize and treat each other that way. If he doesn't treat you like a prize or you can't treat him as one, please, be quick to move. Don't be carried away by the people of the world who have no place in your home. Imagine some telling you to do thanksgiving when you were the one who put the wedding on hold should tell you they are like dance instructors who teaches you to dance but will never borrow you their legs to do the dance.

To those quoting me, did you notice the guy's mum didn't bother pacifying her family? Doesn't that speaks volume?

More Grace to you.

DukeNija:
Utter gibberish! I kept seeing my aunt, my mom, my dad, my neighbor Jesus Christ! Are they all in this relationship with you?
He made the right decision to walk away because it’s obvious he’ll have to deal with more than an indecisive and emotionally dependent wife. Aunt wants him to thank her for taking you, her own niece to the market to buy wedding items? Really? You should thank your aunt not him!
I congratulate the young man for saving himself from an entitled and overly intrusive family.

God bless you.

Shugargal:
Who marriage epp? Men be feeling they're doing you favor by marriage, mtww! I blame some of you women that are desperate about marriage, if you see some of these marriages ehh, like living in bondage, but I wonder what men enjoy making their women a slave in their marriage. Mtww wetin concern me sef

I can 100% beat my chest that ure in ur husband's or a man's house and giving other ladies wrong advises...Na people like u wey Bible refer as Pharisees. Those type wey dey talk another and do another. Pls if uve got nothing to say try read comments

Emaprince:
Where are the responsible women?

Men are the prize for your info. If a man don't come to marry you. Depression will set in.

It is not in your hands to be a wife..a man have to make you his wife.

Depression will set in because you village people will not let the lady be.

faithfull18:
Depression will set in because you village people will not let the lady be.

No its not village people. Marriage is you womens biggest trophy in life. Thats why you don't waste no time to flash it on all social media platforms so all can see that a man deemed you fit to be his wife...anyway.. stop making mouth..and acknowledge you will only get married when a man wants you to.

ahnie:
Hey God!!!comfort why have you been?
It's bn ages my God.
Wow it's nice seeing you dropping by.

Good morning.

I am fine o sis. How are the kids?

Emaprince:
No its not village people. Marriage is you womens biggest trophy in life. Thats why you don't waste no time to flash it on all social media platforms so all can see that a man deemed you fit to be his wife...anyway.. stop making mouth..and acknowledge you will only get married when a man wants you to.

Hahahaha, you wish, you can't put everyone in the box you created in your mind. The world is made up of different people.

twosquare:
Better run...don't you guys did counseling at first, no matter how little?

Someone who can disrespect your father, you go see shege.

A lot of men arguing here lacks home training. I can't even do that to my father-in-law or her aunt. Wọn ò bimi da. Because I'm well brought up. If I don't like something, there is a diplomatic way to resolve it... And if you still insist, you're on your own...no one will place knife on my neck...

People should understand that during wedding preparations, tempers flare coz na the feathers of money dem dey pluck from each other's body...

As for the man, that's total wrong. And please, you too, pẹlẹ lakọ o labo.

Find a good man...not all these àwọn ọkùnrin irọlẹ ayé.

Hello oooo.
I really don't understand your comment honestly speaking...
What do you mean by disrespecting her father?
What do you understand by home training?

You said you can't disrespect your father in-law and how sure are you he does?

You have a good father in-law and I expect you to be thankful always for that.

You made mention of how you are brought up, so are you brought up to be manipulated?

Do you mean that when you're not comfortable with your in-laws trying to drain/manipulate you with entitle mentality so bad that you see the hand writing on the wall, you will still keep dancing to their tools?

Do you know that once you declined such act no matter how polite you say it, once you don't do their bidding you will be tag as been rude?

The simple truth is that the op is not a wife material and as such is easy for her parents manipulate her.

You need to hear from the guy mouth as I'm talking from experience.

Toyosi can't take any decisions on her own without consulting her mom.

Whenever there's an issues between us, she won't see any reason to resolve it until her mom grant her permission to do so as she do tell me that if not for her mom who ask her to do this or that she won't have.

She has been telling me all this but then I assume she's only playing but to my dismay along the lines, her mother told me that her daughter can't do anything without her and also remind me that even when we have misunderstanding she always told her and that she then tells her what to do.

Of course I need no one to tell me to retrieve despite the Introduction we have done.

What is your relationship with God like, have you actually thought about it as evil manipulation?
My dear a wedding is not just about buying stuffs, it's a spiritual battle field.

Gabless:
I am 28 years old, a graduate of one of the university in South West. I work as a contract staff in a bank.

I met this guy about a year ago through my best female friend, and the journey started. I took him to my parents and he also took me to his parents too, and the wedding preparation started.

We were suppose to do family introduction but my parents says there is no need considering some logistic reasons. Although my mum has her reservation concerning him. But since my father has no objection I think am good to go.

He has sent money for some preparation since he is not residing in Lagos. The problem started after I went to idumota with my aunt to buy our engagement clothes. It was my aunt that drove me to the market. When we returned, my fiance called me, we talked for some times, but he couldn't appreciate my aunt for her kind gesture. Although my aunt didn't say anything that day but she wasn't happy. My dad also complained that he has been rude to him. The same goes with my mum.

The last straw that broke the Carmels back was when he was arguing with my aunt over the phone. He did not know I was in my aunt's house that particular day. I wasn't happy at all, thinking that if he would not regard my parents how would he treat me after marriage.

So I confronted him the second day over the phone, telling him that I'm not happy about the way my parents where complaining about him, and that attitude of him is creating fear in me. Instead for him to be a little remoseful and even call those people and apologize, he was arguing with me, still in my aunt's house.

So I told him, maybe we should put the preparation on hold thinking he would at least try and apologize to them. He just said, is that what you want and ended the call.

Everyone was surprised. He didn't call back it was his mum that called my mum, she didn't even persuade them to stop me from taking such step, and the guy too didn't call me for like too weeks until when I called him and he said he wasn't interested in the marriage again.

Actually, I wasn't happy and I have been downcasted since then, but on the other hand, May l ask this question does this guy really loves me?. Is he really mature enough for marriage. Is it all my fault? Please don't insult or abuse me. I just want to know if it's all my fault.

Thank your God that the real picture was revealed to you on time. You would have been in real bondage.

Hello young lady. Your story no complete. When this guy paid close to 300k to get you a job, you did not ask us maybe he loves you. You did not add that you are the first born and your parents wants one of your sisters to move in with you after the wedding so he can start taking care of them. You did not speak about how much he has spent for venue and the exorbitant amount your family asked him to bring for food during reception.
A proper yoruba family will make sure an introduction takes place before the wedding no matter what. Can you tell us why your family want to rush everything and make sure all is done on the same day? If your aunt who only followed you to the market to buy stuffs expects thank you, what should the person who sent you the money to buy the stuffs do then? Or you don't know many people contributed to get you that money.
Someone has spent close to 3.5m for a wedding, your aunt destroyed everything just because of "thank you". How much did she contribute? Please note that this guy has not received salary as he just got a job too and just got captured to IPPIS.
Don't come here to play emotional blackmail. You threatened him with the wedding, he found out you and your family has been using him as ATM and he left.
If you and your parents have put in efforts and funds in the wedding, will you threaten to put it on hold? It was because he bankrolled everything.
Lots of receipts dey here in case you want to press further.

Thank GOD she borrowed herself sense before it would be too late. I wish you many more bliss in your marriage!

BusinessPlan22:
Same with me bro.
I was praying my wife should break up before the wedding, it's like the spirit gave her sense, she started moving with me, not family... Today we are the happiest

Gabless:
I am 28 years old, a graduate of one of the university in South West. I work as a contract staff in a bank.

I met this guy about a year ago through my best female friend, and the journey started. I took him to my parents and he also took me to his parents too, and the wedding preparation started.

We were suppose to do family introduction but my parents says there is no need considering some logistic reasons. Although my mum has her reservation concerning him. But since my father has no objection I think am good to go.

He has sent money for some preparation since he is not residing in Lagos. The problem started after I went to idumota with my aunt to buy our engagement clothes. It was my aunt that drove me to the market. When we returned, my fiance called me, we talked for some times, but he couldn't appreciate my aunt for her kind gesture. Although my aunt didn't say anything that day but she wasn't happy. My dad also complained that he has been rude to him. The same goes with my mum.

The last straw that broke the Carmels back was when he was arguing with my aunt over the phone. He did not know I was in my aunt's house that particular day. I wasn't happy at all, thinking that if he would not regard my parents how would he treat me after marriage.

So I confronted him the second day over the phone, telling him that I'm not happy about the way my parents where complaining about him, and that attitude of him is creating fear in me. Instead for him to be a little remoseful and even call those people and apologize, he was arguing with me, still in my aunt's house.

So I told him, maybe we should put the preparation on hold thinking he would at least try and apologize to them. He just said, is that what you want and ended the call.

Everyone was surprised. He didn't call back it was his mum that called my mum, she didn't even persuade them to stop me from taking such step, and the guy too didn't call me for like too weeks until when I called him and he said he wasn't interested in the marriage again.

Actually, I wasn't happy and I have been downcasted since then, but on the other hand, May l ask this question does this guy really loves me?. Is he really mature enough for marriage. Is it all my fault? Please don't insult or abuse me. I just want to know if it's all my fault.

Never marry a man that feels he is doing you a favour. That's the mentality your man has

Desireeee:
Hello young lady. Your story no complete. When this guy paid close to 300k to get you a job, you did not ask us maybe he loves you. You did not add that you are the first born and your parents wants one of your sisters to move in with you after the wedding so he can start taking care of them. You did not speak about how much he has spent for venue and the exorbitant amount your family asked him to bring for food during reception.
A proper yoruba family will make sure an introduction takes place before the wedding no matter what. Can you tell us why your family want to rush everything and make sure all is done on the same day? If your aunt who only followed you to the market to buy stuffs expects thank you, what should the person who sent you the money to buy the stuffs do then? Or you don't know many people contributed to get you that money.
Someone has spent close to 3.5m for a wedding, your aunt destroyed everything just because of "thank you". How much did she contribute? Please note that this guy has not received salary as he just got a job too and just got captured to IPPIS.
Don't come here to play emotional blackmail. You threatened him with the wedding, he found out you and your family has been using him as ATM and he left.
If you and your parents have put in efforts and funds in the wedding, will you threaten to put it on hold? It was because he bankrolled everything.
Lots of receipts dey here in case you want to press further.

I already knew that this girl is hiding something.. I'll be waiting for more info..

vickydevoka:
My dad said never beg a woman to stay . His brother begged a lady to stay and he has been suffering. My cousin fiancée also put his wedding on hold ( bcus mama say, aunty say )immediately my cousin called off the wedding because him no one suffer like my uncle.

You have one of the wise men the world ever had as your Dad..kudos!.

My uncle begged his wife to stay, when other ladies around him bagged him to keep them.

Because he is way older, the wife's siblings wanted to influence her to call off the wedding then.
He came crying to my Dad, My dad went to the lady's house, met her elder bro, his words were " If this marriage doesnt happen, when I come back next, 4heads plus mine will kiss the grave.

Her elder bro knowing my popsy as talk and do, quickly summoned everyone and my uncle started marriage preparations.

Till date she still gives him headache..No man should force his woman to stay..She will be a recipe for disaster later.

Your own partner in this life, will come around you when the time is ripe..she/ he won't stress you sef..You will be shocked at how you will understand each other perfectly.

Again, you must seek the face of God and his grace..We are in a world filled with strange women here and there.

Desireeee:
Hello young lady. Your story no complete. When this guy paid close to 300k to get you a job, you did not ask us maybe he loves you. You did not add that you are the first born and your parents wants one of your sisters to move in with you after the wedding so he can start taking care of them. You did not speak about how much he has spent for venue and the exorbitant amount your family asked him to bring for food during reception.
A proper yoruba family will make sure an introduction takes place before the wedding no matter what. Can you tell us why your family want to rush everything and make sure all is done on the same day? If your aunt who only followed you to the market to buy stuffs expects thank you, what should the person who sent you the money to buy the stuffs do then? Or you don't know many people contributed to get you that money.
Someone has spent close to 3.5m for a wedding, your aunt destroyed everything just because of "thank you". How much did she contribute? Please note that this guy has not received salary as he just got a job too and just got captured to IPPIS.
Don't come here to play emotional blackmail. You threatened him with the wedding, he found out you and your family has been using him as ATM and he left.
If you and your parents have put in efforts and funds in the wedding, will you threaten to put it on hold? It was because he bankrolled everything.
Lots of receipts dey here in case you want to press further.

Nice one.
It is sad that you allowed yourself to be played by a girl.
Its not too late now that your eye has opened.
Look for a young decent lady around you over there in Osun and marry her.

Someone who will respect you and whoose family will cherish you.
No need to turn yourself to slave with all these retired runs girls.

fohlarp:
so u wont respect ur in laws,was she rude to his own family? But in all she shd go 4 prayers lk sm1 rightly said dy av gone far to d extent of buyn engmt cloth.so to be able to really stand

First of all, a mind set determines a life setting.

My in-laws are Iike my second parents on earth..But, I wouldn't like a case where my woman won't have a mind to follow her instinct..

I mean she is the one I am coming for, not entire family and extended ones.

Besides, the story no complete..A prospective son in-law that is coming to harvest a ripe fruit in the family, comes with this thrills and excitement..Until something fishy happens..

Something happened. He can't turn sad over night.

Candidlady:



You rang him back after two weeks for two weeks... good two weeks he didn't call. His mum didn't call.. His siblings didn't call


You had to ring him.. so if he had agreed on pushing through with the wedding you would have said yes


Iswear dawadawa expensive pass you (pissed)


You should be jubilating... get heaven dust, four cans of budweiser, a pack of dunhil and if you can afford captain Morgan... make yourself happy.. heaven just saved/liberated you from a curse

All of Una just MUMU dey give advice.
1. You didn't hear the guy's side of the story
2. You don't know the reason the guy argued with the aunt
3. The guys Mum called and did not also apologize for whatever.
4. The lady never said the guy has been a rude person. The attitude problem just started and all of you didn't even bother ask the lady if she ever did anything wrong.

This generation and stupidity, no wonder your marriages hardly last for 2 years.

Nwatachoba1:
Ibu onye igbo

U con dey talk like say u no sabi as this matter be

Hehehehehehe

The matter nwere ka o di.

Hmmn, seems the proposed groom has spoken, this issue can still be mended. Wahala, for who go dey date people whose family are Nairalanders(that was on a lighter mood anyway).

mariahAngel:
Hehehehehehe

The matter nwere ka o di.

Oma ogodo kpuru spec

Gabless:
I am 28 years old, a graduate of one of the university in South West. I work as a contract staff in a bank.

I met this guy about a year ago through my best female friend, and the journey started. I took him to my parents and he also took me to his parents too, and the wedding preparation started.

We were suppose to do family introduction but my parents says there is no need considering some logistic reasons. Although my mum has her reservation concerning him. But since my father has no objection I think am good to go.

He has sent money for some preparation since he is not residing in Lagos. The problem started after I went to idumota with my aunt to buy our engagement clothes. It was my aunt that drove me to the market. When we returned, my fiance called me, we talked for some times, but he couldn't appreciate my aunt for her kind gesture. Although my aunt didn't say anything that day but she wasn't happy. My dad also complained that he has been rude to him. The same goes with my mum.

The last straw that broke the Carmels back was when he was arguing with my aunt over the phone. He did not know I was in my aunt's house that particular day. I wasn't happy at all, thinking that if he would not regard my parents how would he treat me after marriage.

So I confronted him the second day over the phone, telling him that I'm not happy about the way my parents where complaining about him, and that attitude of him is creating fear in me. Instead for him to be a little remoseful and even call those people and apologize, he was arguing with me, still in my aunt's house.

So I told him, maybe we should put the preparation on hold thinking he would at least try and apologize to them. He just said, is that what you want and ended the call.

Everyone was surprised. He didn't call back it was his mum that called my mum, she didn't even persuade them to stop me from taking such step, and the guy too didn't call me for like too weeks until when I called him and he said he wasn't interested in the marriage again.

Actually, I wasn't happy and I have been downcasted since then, but on the other hand, May l ask this question does this guy really loves me?. Is he really mature enough for marriage. Is it all my fault? Please don't insult or abuse me. I just want to know if it's all my fault.

The almighty God just saved your life.


Make sure you go for Thanksgiving on Sunday.

I tell you with blow wey dey shift Jew..

DaddyFreeze2020:
You should be thanking God that his character was exposed to you.

Na backhand slaps you for dey receive for your marriage.

Gabless:
I am 28 years old, a graduate of one of the university in South West. I work as a contract staff in a bank.

I met this guy about a year ago through my best female friend, and the journey started. I took him to my parents and he also took me to his parents too, and the wedding preparation started.

We were suppose to do family introduction but my parents says there is no need considering some logistic reasons. Although my mum has her reservation concerning him. But since my father has no objection I think am good to go.

He has sent money for some preparation since he is not residing in Lagos. The problem started after I went to idumota with my aunt to buy our engagement clothes. It was my aunt that drove me to the market. When we returned, my fiance called me, we talked for some times, but he couldn't appreciate my aunt for her kind gesture. Although my aunt didn't say anything that day but she wasn't happy. My dad also complained that he has been rude to him. The same goes with my mum.

The last straw that broke the Carmels back was when he was arguing with my aunt over the phone. He did not know I was in my aunt's house that particular day. I wasn't happy at all, thinking that if he would not regard my parents how would he treat me after marriage.

So I confronted him the second day over the phone, telling him that I'm not happy about the way my parents where complaining about him, and that attitude of him is creating fear in me. Instead for him to be a little remoseful and even call those people and apologize, he was arguing with me, still in my aunt's house.

So I told him, maybe we should put the preparation on hold thinking he would at least try and apologize to them. He just said, is that what you want and ended the call.

Everyone was surprised. He didn't call back it was his mum that called my mum, she didn't even persuade them to stop me from taking such step, and the guy too didn't call me for like too weeks until when I called him and he said he wasn't interested in the marriage again.

Actually, I wasn't happy and I have been downcasted since then, but on the other hand, May l ask this question does this guy really loves me?. Is he really mature enough for marriage. Is it all my fault? Please don't insult or abuse me. I just want to know if it's all my fault.

Move on ma

Tradepunter2:
Abeg girl forget the relationship.... Move on with your life oolkk....

she should send back that guys money first before any thing quit

GboyegaD:
To those quoting me, did you notice the guy's mum didn't bother pacifying her family? Doesn't that speaks volume?

U dey talk big time trash. She says he does not respect her. You wan argue with person going through an issue you know nothing about? Internet warlords.

the truth is that ur not saying much about him and its a bit difficult to access him!but you shouldnt appear desperate!a failed relationship is better than a failed marriage!if a guy ur not yet married to could treat your parents in a such way,u must be expecting hell when legally married to him!his mum is even worse!MOVE ON AND DONT EVER CALL HIM AGAIN!SIMPLY FORGET ABOUT HIM!ITS IN YOUR OWN BEST INTEREST!!

Munzy14:
You have one of the wise men the world ever had as your Dad..kudos!.

My uncle begged his wife to stay, when other ladies around him bagged him to keep them.

Because he is way older, the wife's siblings wanted to influence her to call off the wedding then.
He came crying to my Dad, My dad went to the lady's house, met her elder bro, his words were " If this marriage doesnt happen, when I come back next, 4heads plus mine will kiss the grave.

Her elder bro knowing my popsy as talk and do, quickly summoned everyone and my uncle started marriage preparations.

Till date she still gives him headache..No man should force his woman to stay..She will be a recipe for disaster later.

Your own partner in this life, will come around you when the time is ripe..she/ he won't stress you sef..You will be shocked at how you will understand each other perfectly.

Again, you must seek the face of God and his grace..We are in a world filled with strange women here and there.

Never beg a woman to stay. Make sure u see woman's commitment or interest before you Marry her

vickydevoka:
Never beg a woman to stay. Make sure u see woman's commitment or interest before you Marry her

100%

Interest is the watch word.

Someone that really loves you will be remorseful of his actions, just relax, life goes on.

bummyla:
Thank GOD she borrowed herself sense before it would be too late. I wish you many more bliss in your marriage!

Amen. Thanks bro