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eniolorunfe:
How many children does your sis want? If it’s one then she can consider exiting the marriage, but if she wants more, she can consider his request and strategize on how to get him to provide more since it’s not that the husband is broke. Involving elders in the family that will confront the husband and ask him what his plans are should help. I guess that’s why she informed you.

Zee0007:
One sided story. No man will love kids and yet not provide for them.

Maybe what he gives might not be much but it not nice to say he doesn't drop anything.

ibechris:
What are u waiting for.


Go there,pack her things for her. That man is the worst creature on earth.

Any man that can't provide for his family is simply an evil man.

Dainy1:
To me, I already recommended divorce. What is your own opinion in this matter?

My younger sister opened up on some ugly situation in her marriage and to me it's not acceptable.

Ever since she got married, she provides everything for herself. Including, in pregnancy through delivery, feeding and paying bills. Her son is 5yrs old now. She's responsible for school fees and everything. The husband has been given excuses up and down without providing and supporting. He has a job but he's being manipulative.

He get her pregnant and begin to sweet talk her and wouldn't provide nor support. He wants children, but he wouldn't pay any bills.

Right now, he's pressurizing her for another child or he'll get more children outside their marriage. She's afriad of more responsibilities of having another baby with her husband because she has no job and her business is struggling.

ibechris:
What are u waiting for.


Go there,pack her things for her. That man is the worst creature on earth.

Any man that can't provide for his family is simply an evil man.

HarlequinLekex:
Wasn't the taking/sharing of responsibilities talked b4 marriage?

Cutehector:
I feel marriages have outlived its importance in this generation.

frozen70:
Since her husband is a liability, let her Concentrate on the one she has at the moment till she finds her bearing

If it happens that he want to go and pregnant another woman outside, let him go

After all she has nothing to loose
The man is just milking her while saving money for another woman

Dont be surprise that marriage is not even stable and may hit the rock

Saintmary:
This is deep. Your post is very insightful, the man must have lost his love for the woman and he's only using her as cook, housekeeper, stable sex object, etc


This is not the behavior of a man in love.

frozen70:
Thanks dear

It takes madness to correct nonsense

Dainy1:
Serious

Rozross:
It pays to be who you are most times, shebi she was forming good girl that she's independent and it has now backfired,she should not divorce him but keep up with the independent good girl energy. I like myself ehn, God knows i can't stress myself in this life, me that goes to bed 7pm sometimes will now enter husband house to be doing masculine responsibilities, lai lai.

Dainy1:
I will. I'm just being careful not to scatter everything because I've heard many horrible things that can make me fire him slap if he try to be rude.

Helpout12345:
It has not gotten to divorce yet. For sure the wife should not get pregnant for another child for now, but not up to divorce.

1. Get elders from your family, probably your dad, to call the husband and discuss the issue

2. If 1 didn't make him sensible, the elder in your family should escalate discussion to his elders, probably his father too.

3. They should make him be a responsible husband and father to his wife and their first child; and watch how it goes for some time.

4. If he gets the message and change, he and his wife can increase the family size.

Kobojunkie:
Hope she isn't also covering up other possible abuse in the relationship?

Rozross:
I like myself ehn, God knows i can't stress myself in this life, me that goes to bed 7pm sometimes will now enter husband house to be doing masculine responsibilities, lai lai.

frozen70:
Thanks dear

It takes madness to correct nonsense