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People who are saying you should help find are a job are getting it wrong. What job will you find for her that will care for her and her 5kids because definitely if she files a case she's going to get her kids back. You and your elder brother need to tell her to her face to go back to her house, show her attitude if possible and stop feeding her. If she's starve for two to three days, she will go to her house.
If she doesn't have feelings and sympathy for her 5kids she's left behind then she's a wicked mother.

You come from a family of 6 not 4.

Your father is the Head of the house. He can mediate and tell her to leave.

Henon:
Starve the ugly imp

Did he say she is ugly

Biiznesman:
Hi I come from a family of 4 the last. I and my single brother stay with my aged father. 4 months ago my married sister left her home and came home promising to stay a few days that she has an argument with her husband.

She had been having issues with her husband. But upon hearing her husbands side of the story it was different from what she told us, he claimed she threatened to walk out of him and her 5 children and she won't suffer. She claimed she works as a middleman sales person.

Fast forward to today, she doesn't do anything, just sit around and eat food we prepared. My income is barely enough to keep up with me, as a teacher so is my elder brother, we both contribute money to take care of our aged father. But taking care of an additional mouth seem to be expensive as she eats like a glutton.

My Senior ones who don't stay with us has stopped sending her money, and she is planning to fight for custody of her 5 children and bring them home for us to feed them. I plan to save up and move to a new apartment, but of late, I find out that I have not been saving since she came.

We have explained all to her and talked to her but she seemed not to understand. What should I do? I need advice from the house.

This a very simple matter throw her out Abi you no wanna get sense say you get your own life

5 children. She be guinea pig?...

People dey born o.For this kind economy?God forbid!!!

Problem no dey finish

Her glutonious nature tells alot about her and why she left her 5kids for her husband. who will tk those kids to school? The husband hv definately become more stressed as he hv to stay back and takes care of the children.

5kids in this current economy tells how much effort the husband is puttting in to sustain her n d kids since she is not working. Yet she is not appreciative and she even eats all food in her husbands house claiming its not enough. She better understands her ego and return to be a good wife*

I'll give birth to stuff it seven.

shege45:
How do people even give birth to 5 kids in recent times. It’s annoying

She doesn't eat LIkE a glutton. She eats AS a glutton.

I just want to correct this before I start thinking of what to say, which will take weeks.

Make Una no dey give her money and food.

Or better still be collecting monthly contribution from her.

dobnina:
Make her uncomfortable. Stop cooking for her. Tell her if she doesn't drop money, she won't be fed.
You are making the house too comfortable for her. Once you start making it hot, she will leave and go back to her husband's house.

word!

Biiznesman:
Hi I come from a family of 4 the last. I and my single brother stay with my aged father. 4 months ago my married sister left her home and came home promising to stay a few days that she has an argument with her husband.

She had been having issues with her husband. But upon hearing her husbands side of the story it was different from what she told us, he claimed she threatened to walk out of him and her 5 children and she won't suffer. She claimed she works as a middleman sales person.

Fast forward to today, she doesn't do anything, just sit around and eat food we prepared. My income is barely enough to keep up with me, as a teacher so is my elder brother, we both contribute money to take care of our aged father. But taking care of an additional mouth seem to be expensive as she eats like a glutton.

My Senior ones who don't stay with us has stopped sending her money, and she is planning to fight for custody of her 5 children and bring them home for us to feed them. I plan to save up and move to a new apartment, but of late, I find out that I have not been saving since she came.

We have explained all to her and talked to her but she seemed not to understand. What should I do? I need advice from the house.

Look for a friend or colleague to share apartments with and move,her brain will return to factory reset soon

Biiznesman:
Hi I come from a family of 4 the last. I and my single brother stay with my aged father. 4 months ago my married sister left her home and came home promising to stay a few days that she has an argument with her husband.

She had been having issues with her husband. But upon hearing her husbands side of the story it was different from what she told us, he claimed she threatened to walk out of him and her 5 children and she won't suffer. She claimed she works as a middleman sales person.

Fast forward to today, she doesn't do anything, just sit around and eat food we prepared. My income is barely enough to keep up with me, as a teacher so is my elder brother, we both contribute money to take care of our aged father. But taking care of an additional mouth seem to be expensive as she eats like a glutton.

My Senior ones who don't stay with us has stopped sending her money, and she is planning to fight for custody of her 5 children and bring them home for us to feed them. I plan to save up and move to a new apartment, but of late, I find out that I have not been saving since she came.

We have explained all to her and talked to her but she seemed not to understand. What should I do? I need advice from the house.

Stop cooking at home, eat out and take your old man out to eat too

Biiznesman:
Hi I come from a family of 4 the last. I and my single brother stay with my aged father. 4 months ago my married sister left her home and came home promising to stay a few days that she has an argument with her husband.

She had been having issues with her husband. But upon hearing her husbands side of the story it was different from what she told us, he claimed she threatened to walk out of him and her 5 children and she won't suffer. She claimed she works as a middleman sales person.

Fast forward to today, she doesn't do anything, just sit around and eat food we prepared. My income is barely enough to keep up with me, as a teacher so is my elder brother, we both contribute money to take care of our aged father. But taking care of an additional mouth seem to be expensive as she eats like a glutton.

My Senior ones who don't stay with us has stopped sending her money, and she is planning to fight for custody of her 5 children and bring them home for us to feed them. I plan to save up and move to a new apartment, but of late, I find out that I have not been saving since she came.

We have explained all to her and talked to her but she seemed not to understand. What should I do? I need advice from the house.

Her type full everywhere, they only know how to have sex, born, eat, laugh, watch TV, make calls, thats all.

shege45:
How do people even give birth to 5 kids in recent times. It’s annoying

Because economy hard, make preeq no hard again?

EmahBoss:
Your sister left her marriage and come home to eat like a glutton leaving her 5 kids? I'm certain she has toddlers among these kids.
If the husband is not beating her, please send her back. If you don't, she will start sleeping around. Her type full street

You rlly make a valid point and by then it will be too late

nedekid:
They may be catholics that I hear don't believe in contraception.
Besides, with the economic situation of the country, the stress, both phisical and financial, most poor folks, the only consolation they have is to go home and "nack". They cannot afford olosho, girlfriends, nightlife etc. The normal luxuries we take for granted. Eg, when you are bored, enter your car and take a drive. Them no fit.
Abi why you think the poorer folks mave more kids?

or Muslims that breeds like rabbits following in Mohammad footsteps

Women are the real scum, period!

nedekid:
In my opinion, she is family. You guys are her last bus stop. What if something happens to her in her husband's house? Surely there may be things she cannot reveal to you that makes her uncomfortable there for personal or embarrassing reasons. No woman will leave 5 kids without genuine reasons.
As per you. Do as you wish to move out if you have made up your mind, contribute to the home upkeep as you can. Encourage her to find something doing also.
The bright side of this is that when you guys move out, you will have your sister available to take care of your father while you face your hustle, also have grandchildren around him to keep him company and lively.

Teacher! so dey should encourage a grown-up woman with 5kids to get something doing?
That's means the husband is the one doing anything for her before now?
The husband too gentle for her.
The woman has no reason leaving her husband,she is just lazy coz by now she is supposed to be working since she has many kids. So who is taking care of the kids? Since she abandoned them now.

BRATISLAVA:
He's a man, so don't expect him to dig deep into his brother-in-law's claims.

My own is that for the woman not to be working before now shows she is a lazy type
And lazy type are always gluttony in nature. Cause if you re working for money, you will learn how to manage your self

Woman with 5kids oo no work imagine in this buhari period, yet she is not supporting the younger ones too

SIRKAY98:
Her glutonious nature tells alot about her and why she left her 5kids for her husband. who will tk those kids to school? The husband hv definately become more stressed as he hv to stay back and takes care of the children.

5kids in this current economy tells how much effort the husband is puttting in to sustain her n d kids since she is not working. Yet she is not appreciative and she even eats all food in her husbands house claiming its not enough. She better understands her ego and return to be a good wife*

Exactly

Troublesome woman with 5kids,this man go last so.

Biiznesman:
Hi I come from a family of 4 the last. I and my single brother stay with my aged father. 4 months ago my married sister left her home and came home promising to stay a few days that she has an argument with her husband.

She had been having issues with her husband. But upon hearing her husbands side of the story it was different from what she told us, he claimed she threatened to walk out of him and her 5 children and she won't suffer. She claimed she works as a middleman sales person.

Fast forward to today, she doesn't do anything, just sit around and eat food we prepared. My income is barely enough to keep up with me, as a teacher so is my elder brother, we both contribute money to take care of our aged father. But taking care of an additional mouth seem to be expensive as she eats like a glutton.

My Senior ones who don't stay with us has stopped sending her money, and she is planning to fight for custody of her 5 children and bring them home for us to feed them. I plan to save up and move to a new apartment, but of late, I find out that I have not been saving since she came.

We have explained all to her and talked to her but she seemed not to understand. What should I do? I need advice from the house.

Na you dey encourage your sister and by the time she is done with you guys, she will move on.

You are receiving a meagre salary; someone is playing parasitic role that is affecting your life; and you can design a strategy around such situation despite your education.

Online courses dey; professional courses dey, indebtedness dey. But you found it difficult to tell her that one or combination of two of them would be receiving larger percentage of your salary so that you can ease your financial pressure?

Kontunu

Wahala no dey finish

richmanrichard:
or Muslims that breeds like rabbits following in Mohammad footsteps

No be me talk that one ohh.. Na you.

MoneyMustBMade:
Teacher! so dey should encourage a grown-up woman with 5kids to get something doing?
That's means the husband is the one doing anything for her before now?
The husband too gentle for her.
The woman has no reason leaving her husband,she is just lazy coz by now she is supposed to be working since she has many kids. So who is taking care of the kids? Since she abandoned them now.

Oga, when you get older, you may understand better.

Lol... Funny story
But 5 kids in this Nigeria? The lord is her strength sha.

So you think talking to a lazy glutton is the solution?
You MUST back up your talk with action! Your older siblings who have stopped sending her money loves her more than you cowards that can show her tough love.
There is nothing wrong with ending a marriage if she isn’t comfortable with the union. However, her family SHOULD NOT bear the consequences of her decisions, by feeding her lazy ass and potentially 5 kids!
Tell her she has a week to look for a job otherwise you will be forced to stop giving her food. Then write a list of chores and financial responsibilities in the house & share it equally. If she still doesn’t comply, lock up the food & pantry in the house!! You and your brother MUST stop indulging her. Both of you are part of her problem!

Biiznesman:
Hi I come from a family of 4 the last. I and my single brother stay with my aged father. 4 months ago my married sister left her home and came home promising to stay a few days that she has an argument with her husband.

She had been having issues with her husband. But upon hearing her husbands side of the story it was different from what she told us, he claimed she threatened to walk out of him and her 5 children and she won't suffer. She claimed she works as a middleman sales person.

Fast forward to today, she doesn't do anything, just sit around and eat food we prepared. My income is barely enough to keep up with me, as a teacher so is my elder brother, we both contribute money to take care of our aged father. But taking care of an additional mouth seem to be expensive as she eats like a glutton.

My Senior ones who don't stay with us has stopped sending her money, and she is planning to fight for custody of her 5 children and bring them home for us to feed them. I plan to save up and move to a new apartment, but of late, I find out that I have not been saving since she came.

We have explained all to her and talked to her but she seemed not to understand. What should I do? I need advice from the house.

HarlequinLekex:
Omor 5 children for this buhari why won't poverty will not increase in naija

Maybe she born these 5 children during OJUKWU (IKEMBA) time..
Who know say we go invite evil spirit come rule Nigeria in 2015
oh oh oh hmmmmmm......
God will punish APC & all its supporters Amen!!!

Very soon she go enter street..

DaniWhizbang:
This is clear case of ego at play here and it seems to me that whatever happened between her and the husband can be easily fixed by communication but she choose vawulence.

There isn't much you can do as you can't simply chase her out of her father's house. If you can, find her a job and minimize what you spend on food. Your next plan should be how to leave that house asap

the aged father nko? Who would take care of him?