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4ward4:
Was they any case of domestic violence between she and Her husband.
If there is None, you people should kick her out. She thinks marriage is a child's play. I know Her type ,they are the none submissive and unappreciative type of woman a good man will ever marry.
The bolded sold her out, and shows she is the architect and engineer of her marriage problem.
Handled a similar case, the man for once haven't laid a hand on this woman, but Her poison lips will brag and always say such statements ur sister used. Guess what ,oga got tired divorced and married a woman who will value and respect him. Today that Aunty is suffering and squating with a friend , Oga is out of the country with his wife and Her kids...
I repeat Kick her out your family even keeping her more than the usual visit time can be seen as an accomplice.

With due respect sir you are not human. How do you advice somebody to throw her own sibling out? All your kind ever thinks about is submission and then you end it with he never laid his hands on her. Do you know the psychological truama she goes on as a mother with five kids in a country that is unstable and probably with a husband that does not really help out until she threatened to leave?
Poster, i am not going to make excuses for your sister but before most Nigerian women will leave their CHILDREN behind to run to their father's house then their a serious problem.
Please take it easy on her and advice her on the best way forward, she is your sister. If she leaves your house today and the next day you heard she committed suicide can you forgive yourself?
She might be depressed.

[color=#990000][/color]May be the husband needs more children!

pocohantas:
A woman with 5 kids won’t just run out to start eating like a glutton. 5!! Not 1, not 2. 5 whole kids.

Your sister and her husband are yet to say what happened. Or your sister is stressed and it is affecting her mentally.

Jennylove21:
She's really a Borden
She's married,she has a family,she shouldn't rely on her younger ones

Burden please.

Biiznesman:
Hi I come from a family of 4 the last. I and my single brother stay with my aged father. 4 months ago my married sister left her home and came home promising to stay a few days that she has an argument with her husband.

She had been having issues with her husband. But upon hearing her husbands side of the story it was different from what she told us, he claimed she threatened to walk out of him and her 5 children and she won't suffer. She claimed she works as a middleman sales person.

Fast forward to today, she doesn't do anything, just sit around and eat food we prepared. My income is barely enough to keep up with me, as a teacher so is my elder brother, we both contribute money to take care of our aged father. But taking care of an additional mouth seem to be expensive as she eats like a glutton.

My Senior ones who don't stay with us has stopped sending her money, and she is planning to fight for custody of her 5 children and bring them home for us to feed them. I plan to save up and move to a new apartment, but of late, I find out that I have not been saving since she came.

We have explained all to her and talked to her but she seemed not to understand. What should I do? I need advice from the house.

Taking care of those 5 children alone is a job on it own..
Talk 2 her fucking husband who does not have a better job but keeps fucking her and making babies.. What ur sister needs right now is a small business that she can be managing and taking care of her kids.. Do u know the stress involved in taking care of children?

In all that u do she his ur sister and will always be. At this point of their marriage she should have gone for family planning, because if she goes back that her husband will want 2 get her pregnant again hereby giving birth 2 children that he cannot take care of.

shege45:
How do people even give birth to 5 kids in recent times. It’s annoying

You don't have the right to dictate how many children one gives Birth to.

Having 3 square meals don't define the children's future.

Lot of them are there on the Island lost in various form of vices and wasting thier lives.

Beautiful94:
With due respect sir you are not human. How do you advice somebody to throw her own sibling out? All your kind ever thinks about is submission and then you end it with he never laid his hands on her. Do you know the psychological truama she goes on as a mother with five kids in a country that is unstable and probably with a husband that does not really help out until she threatened to leave?
Poster, i am not going to make excuses for your sister but before most Nigerian women will leave their CHILDREN behind to run to their father's house then their a serious problem.
Please take it easy on her and advice her on the best way forward, she is your sister. If she leaves your house today and the next day you heard she committed suicide can you forgive yourself?
She might be depressed.

The way your gender reason is so funny. Any man that takes you people serious should do so at his own detriment. What you term psychological effects for woman did not apply to man abi. Who is taking care of those children now. You read where she wanted to claim back the five children upon joblessness, putting burden on her siblings, you ignore that. You don't disappoint reasoning your emotional way. Like I told some women yesterday. Future female will suffer from the monster they are creating. And by then it will be too late for them to remedy it. Ire ooo

shege45:
How do people even give birth to 5 kids in recent times. It’s annoying

Men who wants to have sex with their wives, two weeks after delivery. Na them the run am

Biiznesman:
Hi I come from a family of 4 the last. I and my single brother stay with my aged father. 4 months ago my married sister left her home and came home promising to stay a few days that she has an argument with her husband.

She had been having issues with her husband. But upon hearing her husbands side of the story it was different from what she told us, he claimed she threatened to walk out of him and her 5 children and she won't suffer. She claimed she works as a middleman sales person.

Fast forward to today, she doesn't do anything, just sit around and eat food we prepared. My income is barely enough to keep up with me, as a teacher so is my elder brother, we both contribute money to take care of our aged father. But taking care of an additional mouth seem to be expensive as she eats like a glutton.

My Senior ones who don't stay with us has stopped sending her money, and she is planning to fight for custody of her 5 children and bring them home for us to feed them. I plan to save up and move to a new apartment, but of late, I find out that I have not been saving since she came.

We have explained all to her and talked to her but she seemed not to understand. What should I do? I need advice from the house.

Step your game up and make more money you broke son of a bitch

Zonefree:
You guys should bundle her back to her husband's house. I hate nonsense!

Why did you have to choose vawulence

Biiznesman:
This is someone who claimed to be doing a job. The last time we had a conversation on teaching she seemed to be complaining about the stress. I don't just know.

some people are telling u to kick her out or nag her about job and contributing to feeding.
DO NOT TRY SUCH A THING!
Firstly, nobody has right to kick a sibling out of family house. It is a taboo in our customs. Most importantly, Incase she really has emotional or psyco issues from the marriage, you will not have yourself to blame if something negative happens in future.
About the issue of her burdening you, it's extremely heavy issue to be dealt with like a wasp perched on a scrotum. Wisdom and tactfulness.
Keep that kitchen dry. By tradition Na she suppose dey run am. Elder sister helps to carry family burden not DELIBERATELY the other way round. Buy/prepare single meals for ur mouth and ur Dad alone. Ur brother does same. Remain cordial & always greet her.
SIDDON DEY LOOK. NEVER TALK ABT IT!

Who doesn't enjoy been taken care of Lol, take care of her please, she needs to rest.

Not like I have always been one to want plenty kids,but even IF I wanted..5 kids for this economy?

Take her out & make her feel loved, then find out..hope the husband isn't beating her..if he isn't talk to her to see reasons why she should go back to her husband & equally talk to the husband.

Plus tell her to get something doing (due to the economic realities), I am sure the huge financial burden is getting to the man.

nedekid:
Oga, when you get older, you may understand better.

I have 2kids bro, I used to follow my wife to labour so I understand her pains
Why will i come and force my self on her?

The first day your wife gave birth in hospital was when the nurses will start pleading with you to allow your wife to recover first and even friends too

Biiznesman:
Hi I come from a family of 4 the last. I and my single brother stay with my aged father. 4 months ago my married sister left her home and came home promising to stay a few days that she has an argument with her husband.

She had been having issues with her husband. But upon hearing her husbands side of the story it was different from what she told us, he claimed she threatened to walk out of him and her 5 children and she won't suffer. She claimed she works as a middleman sales person.

Fast forward to today, she doesn't do anything, just sit around and eat food we prepared. My income is barely enough to keep up with me, as a teacher so is my elder brother, we both contribute money to take care of our aged father. But taking care of an additional mouth seem to be expensive as she eats like a glutton.

My Senior ones who don't stay with us has stopped sending her money, and she is planning to fight for custody of her 5 children and bring them home for us to feed them. I plan to save up and move to a new apartment, but of late, I find out that I have not been saving since she came.

We have explained all to her and talked to her but she seemed not to understand. What should I do? I need advice from the house.

Do you know that depression can make her to eat a lot? Do you know that what she's going through can make her eat much to repress the pain? you will be the first to cry when things goes bad. What she need now is your love and attention and by helping her through this tyring period she will get it soon or later that she need to get back to her husband for the sake of her children.

Just make sure you guys source for help outside and persuade the husband even beg him to get back to his wife, i mean people that will gradually talk to her senses.

MEANWHILE YOU ARE SOoo RUDE FOR CALLING GLUTTON . Respect ya sis.

Biiznesman:
Hi I come from a family of 4 the last. I and my single brother stay with my aged father. 4 months ago my married sister left her home and came home promising to stay a few days that she has an argument with her husband.

She had been having issues with her husband. But upon hearing her husbands side of the story it was different from what she told us, he claimed she threatened to walk out of him and her 5 children and she won't suffer. She claimed she works as a middleman sales person.

Fast forward to today, she doesn't do anything, just sit around and eat food we prepared. My income is barely enough to keep up with me, as a teacher so is my elder brother, we both contribute money to take care of our aged father. But taking care of an additional mouth seem to be expensive as she eats like a glutton.

My Senior ones who don't stay with us has stopped sending her money, and she is planning to fight for custody of her 5 children and bring them home for us to feed them. I plan to save up and move to a new apartment, but of late, I find out that I have not been saving since she came.

We have explained all to her and talked to her but she seemed not to understand. What should I do? I need advice from the house.

Take her to judge funmi to stalk some senses into her and with a little treat of sending her to jail is she doesn't buckle up.

My advice to u dear brother will be outlined here if only you can take to it, first and foremost, don’t stop buying food in the house, most especially for the sake of your old father, since that elderly man depend on you and your other siblings for his upkeep, but more importantly do try to have a separate food items for your dad and let everyone knows in the house that these are for the papa , so whoever go extra miles to touch the items then want ur anger, secondly, it’s your blood sister but that shouldn’t make u her soft landing pad, since she’s married, her home is her husband house with her children, if she’s not comfortable living with her hubby again , let her work and find a single apartment to live , therefore stop cooking soup with meat at all , stop buying goodies at home for her enjoyment,she’s a heartless woman to have left her children behind to live with u guy, chase her out .

I don't take nonsense...I will only feed my father and show you the way to your husband's house....period

ukaface:
Make Una no dey give her money and food.

Or better still be collecting monthly contribution from her.

WOW..shame on u for wantin to collect moiney from a homeless woman....
so u want homelesss people to contribute moiney & foood for u?shame on u for been a begggger on nairaland . u has no shame!!(no ofeinse)

ibechris:
Some people self.

We Africans are funny!

No court will grant custody to her because she has no known job. Fight over 5 children no be here.

I hail her for even managing in this economy with such number of children.

U guys should make peace...and let her cool off.
She might be going through a lot. Five children no be here.

I have three children with a paid nanny yet it is absolutely crazy. Pls,do not count her sins for her. Reconcile her back to her husband as most people are going through emotional and psychological torture these days.

U may not see this until u are married.

She's not the only one going through a lot!

Some people have come back from going through a lot while some are still there.

Maybe it's her time to go through a lot so let her go through it

vanvickie:
Hmmm, please make sure you let her know that she needs to contribute to the family upkeep as both of you can't finance the whole bills of the home.

are u encouraging her to remain in her father's house?
Whether they can afford the upkeep or not, they should encourage her to go back to her family.

shege45:
How do people even give birth to 5 kids in recent times. It’s annoying

Don't insult us please, i still plan on adding three more

nedekid:
In my opinion, she is family. You guys are her last bus stop. What if something happens to her in her husband's house? Surely there may be things she cannot reveal to you that makes her uncomfortable there for personal or embarrassing reasons. No woman will leave 5 kids without genuine reasons.
As per you. Do as you wish to move out if you have made up your mind, contribute to the home upkeep as you can. Encourage her to find something doing also.
The bright side of this is that when you guys move out, you will have your sister available to take care of your father while you face your hustle, also have grandchildren around him to keep him company and lively.

then she better find the comfort to discuss everything in full detail AND be ready to have her story cross checked.

Anything less is a play on my good graces, and I will not tolerate that.

But regardless, given your situation, there is no financial room for what she is planning to do.
So she needs to come up with different plans.

OP How was she raised? Was she raised to be an idiot who just goes around spreading legs getting inseminated or was she raised to be a contributing member of the house?

5 children, in these times?
Look, if you cannot afford contraceptives, na mutual oral smex sure pass.

Biiznesman:
Hi I come from a family of 4 the last. I and my single brother stay with my aged father. 4 months ago my married sister left her home and came home promising to stay a few days that she has an argument with her husband.

She had been having issues with her husband. But upon hearing her husbands side of the story it was different from what she told us, he claimed she threatened to walk out of him and her 5 children and she won't suffer. She claimed she works as a middleman sales person.

Fast forward to today, she doesn't do anything, just sit around and eat food we prepared. My income is barely enough to keep up with me, as a teacher so is my elder brother, we both contribute money to take care of our aged father. But taking care of an additional mouth seem to be expensive as she eats like a glutton.

My Senior ones who don't stay with us has stopped sending her money, and she is planning to fight for custody of her 5 children and bring them home for us to feed them. I plan to save up and move to a new apartment, but of late, I find out that I have not been saving since she came.

We have explained all to her and talked to her but she seemed not to understand. What should I do? I need advice from the house.

No matter what, she is your family. Wouldn't she have done the same for you?

VeryWickedMan:
OP is this ya sister?

demn that pics is so funny

Biiznesman:
Hi I come from a family of 4 the last. I and my single brother stay with my aged father. 4 months ago my married sister left her home and came home promising to stay a few days that she has an argument with her husband.

She had been having issues with her husband. But upon hearing her husbands side of the story it was different from what she told us, he claimed she threatened to walk out of him and her 5 children and she won't suffer. She claimed she works as a middleman sales person.

Fast forward to today, she doesn't do anything, just sit around and eat food we prepared. My income is barely enough to keep up with me, as a teacher so is my elder brother, we both contribute money to take care of our aged father. But taking care of an additional mouth seem to be expensive as she eats like a glutton.

My Senior ones who don't stay with us has stopped sending her money, and she is planning to fight for custody of her 5 children and bring them home for us to feed them. I plan to save up and move to a new apartment, but of late, I find out that I have not been saving since she came.

We have explained all to her and talked to her but she seemed not to understand. What should I do? I need advice from the house.

Wahala be like bicycle ���. This is a serious problem �����

For now stop cooking at home buy food for yourself and Dad, otherwise she won't realise the damage she's about to cause, she will soon start sleeping around and scattered the future of those 5 kids, seat her down and if she refused to settle with her hubby show her the way out, she will realise when it's too late

Help to get out of this habit if you love her.

Beautiful94:
With due respect sir you are not human. How do you advice somebody to throw her own sibling out? All your kind ever thinks about is submission and then you end it with he never laid his hands on her. Do you know the psychological truama she goes on as a mother with five kids in a country that is unstable and probably with a husband that does not really help out until she threatened to leave?
Poster, i am not going to make excuses for your sister but before most Nigerian women will leave their CHILDREN behind to run to their father's house then their a serious problem.
Please take it easy on her and advice her on the best way forward, she is your sister. If she leaves your house today and the next day you heard she committed suicide can you forgive yourself?
She might be depressed.

Are you married ? ..Do you know at times a man feels,like running aways also. marriage isn't just what you see, commitment doesn't come easy .And a woman coming back to their father's house in the course of marriage is 70% likely to happen due to minor and major conflicts, her exit from Her family home is been determined by how Her family react...If not she will be comfortable. Kid sis wanted trying that when having issues with Her husband . My mum told Her I don't have space in my house for you point blank in a family meeting..This is 7yrs ago, and they are still happily together . Before you agree to marry ,know what you are getting into.

Kick that Lady out OP...
Currently a younger lady friend of mine in another state is harbouring a married woman with 4 kids, she left Her husband house with same useless excuses OP sister is giving ...All what she does is sleep around for some change , I have told my friend to Kick her out to the street or I will go myself and do it, once I visit that state. To many married harlots all around us,who choose to leave their husband house, just because of pride and lack of patience.

After having five children??

Your sister still no get S*nse??

Ask her to go look for job!!