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Re: Be Wary Of Romantic Boyfriend And Girlfriend Relationships by Mike008(m): 12:16pm On Oct 23, 2022
If I was better oriented I would have learnt the basic stages in life, which are; achieving basic education/discovering God on the daily basis, seeking and finding my purpose in life, and finally marriage. Truly romantic relationship at the wrong time is life wrecking. It causes misplacement of priorities, and may make you not achieve your goals in life.

This is something I must teach my kids the world needs to be a better place.
Re: Be Wary Of Romantic Boyfriend And Girlfriend Relationships by purejustice36: 12:28pm On Oct 23, 2022
Na only mumu they follow una
Re: Be Wary Of Romantic Boyfriend And Girlfriend Relationships by Fiscus105(m): 12:29pm On Oct 23, 2022
MuslimIgbo:
That's not important sadly.
Bodycount is different for most genders.

Boys work hard (money, looks, affluence etc) in order to be able to fuçk who they can fuçk.

Girls on the other hand only needs to be attractive, in order to be a to fuçk to be able to choose and get fuckéd buy boys who finds them attractive.

GIRLS DON'T FUÇK, THEY CAN ONLY GET FUÇKED.
They are the ones that have hymen (the greatest gift a girl can give to her husband) to LOOSE.
Purity is very important for girls than for guys. GOD DIDN'T CHOOSE A WHORÈ, HE CHOSE A VIRGIN TO BIRTH JESUS...

DON'T BE A WHORÈ
I pity people around u, cos the person they leave with is nothing but hypocrite, if u don't change you will spend ur entire life as a bitter man.

Meanwhile, for ur own information, what u use ur body to do is none of my business, the same way ,what women use their body to do is none of ur business.

If women are given u hypertension, why can u embrase gayism and leave in peace?

Bro, gather ur pieces of ur life of frustrations and become something useful in life and see urself enjoy women in fullness ok
Re: Be Wary Of Romantic Boyfriend And Girlfriend Relationships by Vaiki(m): 12:32pm On Oct 23, 2022
Interesting15:
Romantic relationship with the opposite gender has placed many young folks into grevious issues that has left terrible indelible scars on a lot of them; while some have been unfortunately sent directly or indirectly to their early graves by these sweet-turned-sour affairs.


The core reason young people will keep having unpleasant experiences from boyfriend and girlfriend romantic relationships is because it was never in the original Will and Plan of God - the Wise Creator of everything, in the first place.


The Will of God is that when a man (not a boy) has attained a certain stature where marriage can be embraced, (after such a man has discovered his identity and purpose on earth), He (God) should be approached to provide a woman (not a girl) who will become his wife. After God has provided the woman, prior to marriage, the couple embark on what we call courtship, where they learn to know more about themselves (in an attempt to make necessary adjustments before they tie the knot), and must not defile the marriage bed during the courting period (that is, must not indulge in premarital sex).


There are different things that attempts to compell young people into a romantic relationship at the wrong time and in the wrong manner. There will be members of the opposite gender who wants to pull you into a romantic relationship when it's wrong. Your parents might even be an agent of pressure - trying to force you into a relationship directly or indirectly. Your friends and even the media are also prominent agents. Nevertheless, you must be resolute and be patient enough to do the right thing at the right time.


Now, this is one of the major things pushing many young people into premature romantic relationships and entanglements outside God's Will for them. Loneliness (or the fear of it). Two major things sponsors this: idlness and lack of self esteem (thinking you are totally not complete without a partner).


Even at the basic level, an important solution to eradicating loneliness is getting busy and occupied. Now, I'm aware that some (probably many) young people still feel empty even as they are occupied with several jobs. There are several things to say about that. One is, the emptiness they feel might emanates as a result of neglect of certain important things, such as an intimate relationship with God their Creator (which means, in such a case, the problem is not about loneliness). Also, it is possible to be engaged with several things and still feel inadequate, if you are engaging yourself in things that doesn't bring fulfilment (particularly things that are not God's purpose for you).


Hence, two things I've seen worked for me as well as some other persons I know, are:

1. Being very occupied with seeking and knowing GOD
2. Being very occupied with purpose exploration

A primary function of man is to seek, know and keep exploring God. The truth is, God is very deep and inexhaustible. Even the 24 elders who have been with Him for ages, are yet to know all about Him. And I must tell you, GOD is very exciting, and we can't have enough of Him. Focus on knowing God and you won't be empty. You will get to a stage where you enjoy spending hours alone with God in the secret place, and you enjoy God's presence, always looking forward to the daily experience. The first step is to make Jesus Christ your Lord and Savior.


Finally, get busy with discovering yourself, your talents and gifts and purpose, and occupy yourself with developing and deploying. These things brings fulfilment, and you won't have time for unproductive affairs.

If you are in an immoral relationship with a member of the opposite gender, break it immediately. Receive grace to do so in Jesus Name. Amen.

sundayakanni.com
Go and tell your"God" he should have created man in such a way sexual awareness attainment will be by age not time because this clearly shows a deficiency in Gods creative abilities.....it's time for new model man to be created, Daimler Benz can attest to this.
Re: Be Wary Of Romantic Boyfriend And Girlfriend Relationships by cooooooks(m): 12:45pm On Oct 23, 2022
Amen

AlfaSeltzer:
My life turned for the better the day I rejected religion.
Re: Be Wary Of Romantic Boyfriend And Girlfriend Relationships by slimmax: 12:49pm On Oct 23, 2022
Welldone oga "na God dey provide woman for man".lol .wonderment will not end o. Ogbeni will u go out and hussle for kpekus before I stone you with my dilapidated phone
Re: Be Wary Of Romantic Boyfriend And Girlfriend Relationships by Caseywilliams(m): 12:53pm On Oct 23, 2022
Interesting15:
Romantic relationship with the opposite gender has placed many young folks into grevious issues that has left terrible indelible scars on a lot of them; while some have been unfortunately sent directly or indirectly to their early graves by these sweet-turned-sour affairs.


The core reason young people will keep having unpleasant experiences from boyfriend and girlfriend romantic relationships is because it was never in the original Will and Plan of God - the Wise Creator of everything, in the first place.


The Will of God is that when a man (not a boy) has attained a certain stature where marriage can be embraced, (after such a man has discovered his identity and purpose on earth), He (God) should be approached to provide a woman (not a girl) who will become his wife. After God has provided the woman, prior to marriage, the couple embark on what we call courtship, where they learn to know more about themselves (in an attempt to make necessary adjustments before they tie the knot), and must not defile the marriage bed during the courting period (that is, must not indulge in premarital sex).


There are different things that attempts to compell young people into a romantic relationship at the wrong time and in the wrong manner. There will be members of the opposite gender who wants to pull you into a romantic relationship when it's wrong. Your parents might even be an agent of pressure - trying to force you into a relationship directly or indirectly. Your friends and even the media are also prominent agents. Nevertheless, you must be resolute and be patient enough to do the right thing at the right time.


Now, this is one of the major things pushing many young people into premature romantic relationships and entanglements outside God's Will for them. Loneliness (or the fear of it). Two major things sponsors this: idlness and lack of self esteem (thinking you are totally not complete without a partner).


Even at the basic level, an important solution to eradicating loneliness is getting busy and occupied. Now, I'm aware that some (probably many) young people still feel empty even as they are occupied with several jobs. There are several things to say about that. One is, the emptiness they feel might emanates as a result of neglect of certain important things, such as an intimate relationship with God their Creator (which means, in such a case, the problem is not about loneliness). Also, it is possible to be engaged with several things and still feel inadequate, if you are engaging yourself in things that doesn't bring fulfilment (particularly things that are not God's purpose for you).


Hence, two things I've seen worked for me as well as some other persons I know, are:

1. Being very occupied with seeking and knowing GOD
2. Being very occupied with purpose exploration

A primary function of man is to seek, know and keep exploring God. The truth is, God is very deep and inexhaustible. Even the 24 elders who have been with Him for ages, are yet to know all about Him. And I must tell you, GOD is very exciting, and we can't have enough of Him. Focus on knowing God and you won't be empty. You will get to a stage where you enjoy spending hours alone with God in the secret place, and you enjoy God's presence, always looking forward to the daily experience. The first step is to make Jesus Christ your Lord and Savior.


Finally, get busy with discovering yourself, your talents and gifts and purpose, and occupy yourself with developing and deploying. These things brings fulfilment, and you won't have time for unproductive affairs.

If you are in an immoral relationship with a member of the opposite gender, break it immediately. Receive grace to do so in Jesus Name. Amen.

sundayakanni.com
So all this long talk nah to advice men and women of this obodo to stop to dey give each other knacks?? grin grin grin


Anyway I'm not that saint Amadi... If una no fit provide cure for konji eeeh....
Who konji hold abeg free am make e just use knack hold body ooh. cool cool cool
Re: Be Wary Of Romantic Boyfriend And Girlfriend Relationships by MuslimIgbo: 12:56pm On Oct 23, 2022
Fiscus105:
I pity people around u, cos the person they leave with is nothing but hypocrite, if u don't change you will spend ur entire life as a bitter man.

Meanwhile, for ur own information, what u use ur body to do is none of my business, the same way ,what women use their body to do is none of ur business.

If women are given u hypertension, why can u embrase gayism and leave in peace?

Bro, gather ur pieces of ur life of frustrations and become something useful in life and see urself enjoy women in fullness ok
Lol
Muh mu say he doesn't care grin keep FOOLING YOURSELF.

Will you choose a WHORÈ that has been passed around by numerous guys over a virgin?
Would you like such person with such record to be the mother of your children?
IF YOU GET TO KNOW NOW THAT YOUR MOTHER WAS A WHORÈ BEFORE MARRYING YOUR FATHER, WOULD YOU BE HAPPY?

Re: Be Wary Of Romantic Boyfriend And Girlfriend Relationships by DriveByKiller: 1:07pm On Oct 23, 2022
Interesting15:
A primary function of man is to seek, know and keep exploring God. The truth is, God is very deep and inexhaustible. Even the 24 elders who have been with Him for ages, are yet to know all about Him. And I must tell you, GOD is very exciting, and we can't have enough of Him. Focus on knowing God and you won't be empty. You will get to a stage where you enjoy spending hours alone with God in the secret place, and you enjoy God's presence, always looking forward to the daily experience. The first step is to make Jesus Christ your Lord and Savior.

This is someone's breakthrough. God bless you in Jesus Name. Amen
this very post is contained in your original post up there.

So why repeat it here? Your motive and self-esteem is hereby questioned!
Re: Be Wary Of Romantic Boyfriend And Girlfriend Relationships by happney65: 1:09pm On Oct 23, 2022
Shey ka ma do ra wa mo ni bayi? Wahala de o. grin
Re: Be Wary Of Romantic Boyfriend And Girlfriend Relationships by Crampyblood(m): 1:23pm On Oct 23, 2022
observanc1:
were u there with William Shakespeare when he wrote Romeo and Juliet and he told u his reason for writing it?
go and read the book f00l before you come to my mention...


Stop making your stupidity obvious
Re: Be Wary Of Romantic Boyfriend And Girlfriend Relationships by Kalatium(m): 1:24pm On Oct 23, 2022
@Interesting15

"Now, this is one of the major things pushing many young people into premature romantic relationships and entanglements outside God's Will for them. Loneliness (or the fear of it). Two major things sponsors this: idlness and lack of self esteem (thinking you are totally not complete without a partner)."

From your quote above. You are telling youths to stay away from relationships because to you it is premature.
What about our parents and grandparents that marry at 18 or 20years old.

Why should humans have active reproduction organs at puberty and have to wait till their late 20s or early 30s before they marry.

You said we should get occupied with the things of God or our purpose and then till we are ready for marriage . Won't that make one clueless with the dating world.

Imagine ignoring dating till you are 30years then doing it for the first time. Evérything will be awkward.

I know of many men who are in this situation, they can not woo women.
Re: Be Wary Of Romantic Boyfriend And Girlfriend Relationships by Kalatium(m): 1:25pm On Oct 23, 2022
"After God has provided the woman, prior to marriage, the couple embark on what we call courtship, where they learn to know more about themselves (in an attempt to make necessary adjustments before they tie the knot), and must not defile the marriage bed during the courting period (that is, must not indulge in premarital sex)."

@Interesting15 how does premarital sex defile the marriage bed. Only when couples decide to engage in extramarital sex before we can say the marriage bed is defiled.
Re: Be Wary Of Romantic Boyfriend And Girlfriend Relationships by Lastborn0074: 1:36pm On Oct 23, 2022
Treasuredgift:
Boy friend and girl friend are meant for kids or maybe under 20 them.
I laugh when I see above 20 years people doing that eish, the worst are those ones above 30 years.
One aunty was crying the other day of dating her boyfriend for 14 years, and how she is 45 now and the boyfriend has being giving her attitude that his is no longer interested.
Just negodu. Wasted years!!!
The funny part are those who claim it's for the aim of knowing each other grin
Even your mama wey born you, done know you finish?
If you are not ready for marriage yet, stay off dating or boyfriend and girlfriend whatever entirely, because sex is what most of you go there to have.
When you are ready, ask for Gods leading, and then go straight to the person's parents house to see them. If the girl no agree, make she dey stay Nah.

Romantic or not, stay off boyfriend and girlfriend ship entirely. Let's see if our society can retain some sanity!!!
Exactly my thoughts...well scripted.
Re: Be Wary Of Romantic Boyfriend And Girlfriend Relationships by Troublemania5: 1:48pm On Oct 23, 2022
Treasuredgift:
Boy friend and girl friend are meant for kids or maybe under 20 them.
I laugh when I see above 20 years people doing that eish, the worst are those ones above 30 years.
One aunty was crying the other day of dating her boyfriend for 14 years, and how she is 45 now and the boyfriend has being giving her attitude that his is no longer interested.
Just negodu. Wasted years!!!
The funny part are those who claim it's for the aim of knowing each other grin
Even your mama wey born you, done know you finish?
If you are not ready for marriage yet, stay off dating or boyfriend and girlfriend whatever entirely, because sex is what most of you go there to have.
When you are ready, ask for Gods leading, and then go straight to the person's parents house to see them. If the girl no agree, make she dey stay Nah.

Romantic or not, stay off boyfriend and girlfriend ship entirely. Let's see if our society can retain some sanity!!!
Nice writeup, but It looks complicated to me because so many things are going wrong in this era.
Re: Be Wary Of Romantic Boyfriend And Girlfriend Relationships by Meedon: 1:50pm On Oct 23, 2022
observanc1:
na so. Very hypocritical people. Scaremongers. They make u lose faith in yourself. U will have to question every step u take. U want to go and take your bath, you question it, is it biblical? U want to eat, u question it, is it biblical? Haba, wetin naa.
And they will go to secret place and do evil things. Even some pastors and elders have girlfriends and concubine. What is that? Is that also biblical?
Re: Be Wary Of Romantic Boyfriend And Girlfriend Relationships by IPG25(m): 1:50pm On Oct 23, 2022
Wow!!!
This is very huge.
Well spoken i really appreciate it
Although I'm at a score nd five but
Not in a relationship when priority are well placed , then i go for a relationship that will yeild fruit not the other way round.
Re: Be Wary Of Romantic Boyfriend And Girlfriend Relationships by samwillyco1(m): 1:51pm On Oct 23, 2022
So you want us to stop testing what we want to buy. No oooo, testing is allowed but teste with your brain.
Re: Be Wary Of Romantic Boyfriend And Girlfriend Relationships by sammydark: 2:14pm On Oct 23, 2022
Premarital sex is very sensitive issue, one needs to approach it with their thinking caps on.
Re: Be Wary Of Romantic Boyfriend And Girlfriend Relationships by Mamijoh(f): 2:40pm On Oct 23, 2022
Interesting15:
Romantic relationship with the opposite gender has placed many young folks into grevious issues that has left terrible indelible scars on a lot of them; while some have been unfortunately sent directly or indirectly to their early graves by these sweet-turned-sour affairs.


The core reason young people will keep having unpleasant experiences from boyfriend and girlfriend romantic relationships is because it was never in the original Will and Plan of God - the Wise Creator of everything, in the first place.


The Will of God is that when a man (not a boy) has attained a certain stature where marriage can be embraced, (after such a man has discovered his identity and purpose on earth), He (God) should be approached to provide a woman (not a girl) who will become his wife. After God has provided the woman, prior to marriage, the couple embark on what we call courtship, where they learn to know more about themselves (in an attempt to make necessary adjustments before they tie the knot), and must not defile the marriage bed during the courting period (that is, must not indulge in premarital sex).


There are different things that attempts to compell young people into a romantic relationship at the wrong time and in the wrong manner. There will be members of the opposite gender who wants to pull you into a romantic relationship when it's wrong. Your parents might even be an agent of pressure - trying to force you into a relationship directly or indirectly. Your friends and even the media are also prominent agents. Nevertheless, you must be resolute and be patient enough to do the right thing at the right time.


Now, this is one of the major things pushing many young people into premature romantic relationships and entanglements outside God's Will for them. Loneliness (or the fear of it). Two major things sponsors this: idlness and lack of self esteem (thinking you are totally not complete without a partner).


Even at the basic level, an important solution to eradicating loneliness is getting busy and occupied. Now, I'm aware that some (probably many) young people still feel empty even as they are occupied with several jobs. There are several things to say about that. One is, the emptiness they feel might emanates as a result of neglect of certain important things, such as an intimate relationship with God their Creator (which means, in such a case, the problem is not about loneliness). Also, it is possible to be engaged with several things and still feel inadequate, if you are engaging yourself in things that doesn't bring fulfilment (particularly things that are not God's purpose for you).


Hence, two things I've seen worked for me as well as some other persons I know, are:

1. Being very occupied with seeking and knowing GOD
2. Being very occupied with purpose exploration

A primary function of man is to seek, know and keep exploring God. The truth is, God is very deep and inexhaustible. Even the 24 elders who have been with Him for ages, are yet to know all about Him. And I must tell you, GOD is very exciting, and we can't have enough of Him. Focus on knowing God and you won't be empty. You will get to a stage where you enjoy spending hours alone with God in the secret place, and you enjoy God's presence, always looking forward to the daily experience. The first step is to make Jesus Christ your Lord and Savior.


Finally, get busy with discovering yourself, your talents and gifts and purpose, and occupy yourself with developing and deploying. These things brings fulfilment, and you won't have time for unproductive affairs.

If you are in an immoral relationship with a member of the opposite gender, break it immediately. Receive grace to do so in Jesus Name. Amen.

sundayakanni.com
Amen in Jesus name
Re: Be Wary Of Romantic Boyfriend And Girlfriend Relationships by GraceunIimtedd: 2:41pm On Oct 23, 2022
Fiscus105:
I pity people around u, cos the person they leave with is nothing but hypocrite, if u don't change you will spend ur entire life as a bitter man.

Meanwhile, for ur own information, what u use ur body to do is none of my business, the same way ,what women use their body to do is none of ur business.

If women are given u hypertension, why can u embrase gayism and leave in peace?

Bro, gather ur pieces of ur life of frustrations and become something useful in life and see urself enjoy women in fullness ok
you reason like a foolish asslicking simp
Re: Be Wary Of Romantic Boyfriend And Girlfriend Relationships by Mamijoh(f): 2:42pm On Oct 23, 2022
Interesting15:
A primary function of man is to seek, know and keep exploring God. The truth is, God is very deep and inexhaustible. Even the 24 elders who have been with Him for ages, are yet to know all about Him. And I must tell you, GOD is very exciting, and we can't have enough of Him. Focus on knowing God and you won't be empty. You will get to a stage where you enjoy spending hours alone with God in the secret place, and you enjoy God's presence, always looking forward to the daily experience. The first step is to make Jesus Christ your Lord and Savior.

This is someone's breakthrough. God bless you in Jesus Name. Amen
Amen in Jesus name
Re: Be Wary Of Romantic Boyfriend And Girlfriend Relationships by Mamijoh(f): 2:42pm On Oct 23, 2022
Interesting15:
Happy Sunday everyone. Jesus loves you
Same from here
Re: Be Wary Of Romantic Boyfriend And Girlfriend Relationships by Fiscus105(m): 2:52pm On Oct 23, 2022
GraceunIimtedd:
you reason like a foolish asslicking simp
U write in a state of absolute frustrations and hopelessness. Instead for you to channel ur energy towards making money, you are transferring ur anger on entire ladies, cos none accepted to date u.
Re: Be Wary Of Romantic Boyfriend And Girlfriend Relationships by GraceunIimtedd: 2:54pm On Oct 23, 2022
Fiscus105:
U write in a state of absolute frustrations and hopelessness. Instead for you to channel ur energy towards making money, you are transferring ur anger on entire ladies, cos none accepted to date u.
why are you hiding behind a male moniker cos no guy can be this stupid
Re: Be Wary Of Romantic Boyfriend And Girlfriend Relationships by oladahunsirose4: 3:22pm On Oct 23, 2022
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Re: Be Wary Of Romantic Boyfriend And Girlfriend Relationships by Ygc1: 3:29pm On Oct 23, 2022
Hmmm
Re: Be Wary Of Romantic Boyfriend And Girlfriend Relationships by Bahamas95(m): 3:56pm On Oct 23, 2022
I don't know what OP mean by "romantic". The only person I can say I am in a romantic relationship with presently is my girlfriend because she's the chosen one.

The other girls back then were just bedmates, I didn't regard my relationship with them as romantic........I didn't hide it from them, they all knew I was a playboy.
Re: Be Wary Of Romantic Boyfriend And Girlfriend Relationships by FarmTech(m): 4:30pm On Oct 23, 2022
AntiChristian:
How did Jesus or any of twelve disciples, Paul, Mark and Luke teach una to woo lady and marry them in the Bible?


#AnswerWithBibleVerses
.
Everything is not in the bible. But with the Holy Spirit, we get guidance on how to live our lives. E.g. don't smoke or watch open isn't in the bible exactly. But from verses that condemns self-harm and sexual immorality, the Holy Spirit teach us that those things are evil.
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