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agaba:
Tier 2 main applicant will tie him to restricticted hours of work (mostly 40hrs+20hrs with another similar job). Best he switch to Tier2 as dependent partner which will have no restrictions.

So he will still be under her mercy baa?
It's better he gets a work sponsorship and move

hustla:
Nope, they havent

If she wanted to do lowkey stuff, she wont even have mentioned anything about the guy, its wayyyyyyyyy easier that way and women are smarter than men when it comes to cheating

I dont believe you. They have. She is just trying to key him in incase he discovers something untoward later. She's trying to create excuses for her whenever he finds out. If you read between the lines, this man has never trusted that wife. There are reasons for the distrust. He allowed her go first as he explained, just for better chances of visa. But that's where the mistake lay. What was he relocating for? He has enough to start a business in Nigeria and just visit abroad or send his children there to study. I dont think any man should give himself bp monitoring a loose cannon. I dont understand the reason for the post. OP is in a better position to advice himself. With this kind of mindset, there's bound to be an issue or two. Only him can take the decision. My advice is this. 1. He should travel alone and observe the woman for some time. If all seems okay, he may relocate the children as well. Alternative 2. Ignore her there as a mistake and forge on in Nigeria with the children. If OP is not careful, he will only be compounding the issues further. If it turns out she is straying, it would be difficult to manage her ever again. And the children in her custody there especially if minors is a big issue for him. He will be paying for welfare, yet she would poison their minds against him. I know of a guy who sent his wife to Canada and later joined him there. The guy was doing well as a manager in a company in Nigeria. He was poisoned by the so-called wife when he came to join her because she was already deeply cosy with another man. Another guy in same country sent his wife first and came later. The woman went there and became a different person. The upshot is that today, the guy man is back to Nigeria, has no access to his children. All his sweat and earnings abroad annexed by the wife and children in Canada.

Cullinane:
So you are telling me most Nigerian husbands don't fulfill their role. You are talking trash please. How many ladies like yourself can be supportive of their husbands when the man goes through a tough time briefly? You girls allow all these feminists on Facebook and Twitter to brainwash you into believing nonsense. You husband can never be your equal. Check the Bible when God cursed Adam and Eve. He defined things that way. If you don't like it, don't marry or go become a lesbian. There are useless men out there yes, nothing stops you from divorcing if your husband is useless. Instead, a lot of good men out there undergo stress due to very unsupportive wives. The concept of marriage in Nigeria does not appeal to most guys anymore. It is good sef cos Nigeria is over-populated.

My Dad's business had issues 3 times when I was growing up, and my Mum single handedly carried the house expenses briefly cos she also had her own business. She never complained, the only thing we had to do was cut down a bit on expenses until things picked up again for my Dad. How many of you so-called modern women today in Nigeria can make such a sacrifice without opening my mouths to expose your husband's shame to the world. I rather marry a Cameroon lady, our neighbors here than you jokers. I have travelled several times to Douala and Yaounde for business and the ladies there are very feminine and very few of them fake it. I have also noticed that the Cameroon ladies who come to Nigeria get spoilt after living here for a few years. Even Senegal and Ivory Coast women sef are better than 9ja girls.

Lool I thought I could have a discourse with you, I was wrong. Seems you have a thing against Nigerian girls.

You are talking feminism, I wonder how feminism got into this discourse you are even going personal, see as you are hyperventilating up and down on a post that was open ended for a possible discussion


Anyway my point still is your dad was/is a good man, even if he had few hiccups here and there you didn't dispute that.



Okay Bye.

kbower:
Wow post made FP. I wasnt surprised though cos I poured my heart out. For some people saying Mr Mike is the same as the person looking into her phone, no I never said so, Mr Mike is the man she met in school the very first day she went for registration, the man lives in London, while my madam lives in luton, which is outside London, the guy in question she met between town but he also live in luton.

As for the guy asking which school shes in, shes in uel and not Bedfordshire.

Guys ever since I stopped making I miss u calls, just like I said, she has started bombarding me with calls which I take and we talk normal, but then she now thinks am doing shady things, saying to reach u these days is hard, where were u, have u gotten home and all that. This recent events now made he bring up the guys issue once again friday night. She said she really wants me to get the job so she would really want me to link up with the dude, this time I went beserk and warned her again but this time severely that I do not want to have anything to do with someone that you have allowed disrespect and downgraded me, I said if his connect wont work, then i will get another. Yesterday she called me and said well we dont need that yeye guy's connect again, that she checked online and saw agencies that could help secure that kind of job.Today now so I dey ask am why she nor dey prepare for church, she sey she no want trouble because of the guy, sey infact he fit be sey na because of her the guy go wan go the church that she would rather stay back and that she has even blocked him. Oh well I am leaving soon, whatever the case is, I cannot die, I will only excel, I know myself

Good. A woman must be circumspect. Many ladies are permissive and careless and start adultery without planning for one. I hope she is honest with you. To start is hard, to continue is easy.

Yankiss:
I dont believe you. They have. She is just trying to key him in incase he discovers something untoward later. She's trying to create excuses for her whenever he finds out. If you read between the lines, this man has never trusted that wife. There are reasons for the distrust. He allowed her go first as he explained, just for better chances of visa. But that's where the mistake lay. What was he relocating for? He has enough to start a business in Nigeria and just visit abroad or send his children there to study. I dont think any man should give himself bp monitoring a loose cannon. I dont understand the reason for the post. OP is in a better position to advice himself. With this kind of mindset, there's bound to be an issue or two. Only him can take the decision. My advice is this. 1. He should travel alone and observe the woman for some time. If all seems okay, he may relocate the children as well. Alternative 2. Ignore her there as a mistake and forge on in Nigeria with the children. If OP is not careful, he will only be compounding the issues further. If it turns out she is straying, it would be difficult to manage her ever again. And the children in her custody there especially if minors is a big issue for him. He will be paying for welfare, yet she would poison their minds against him. I know of a guy who sent his wife to Canada and later joined him there. The guy was doing well as a manager in a company in Nigeria. He was poisoned by the so-called wife when he came to join her because she was already deeply cosy with another man. Another guy in same country sent his wife first and came later. The woman went there and became a different person. The upshot is that today, the guy man is back to Nigeria, has no access to his children. All his sweat and earnings abroad annexed by the wife and children in Canada.

This your point MAY be valid, but you know in this life you may never know the main truth until you have 100% evidence, but based on instinct and how the whole thing played out there may be something IDK. Take for example now, yesterday my friend who did referencing for us called me how far about the new guy I wanted to refer cos I already told him about the dude at first b4 all the suspicion came in, I was like the guy has not gotten back yet, though he was gonna charge him some money to do the ref. But then I was on call with madam when he called on the other line and she asked who that was, I was like my friend that helped us, she was not like do you still want to help? I was like if he calls me back I MIGHT tell him that i want to forward his number to the guy so they can relate directly while I comot my hand for the matter as I really d not want to talk to anybody. Fastforward till yesternight, my guy did not call me, I sent him a message though that I wanted to send his number over, but neither did he call or responded to my message. Na him madam later on that day told me that the guy's wife has called her, that since she blocked the dude, he didnt know the number that called but it happened it was the wife and she was like shes so so so person wife,that my husband said I should ask howfar with the reference and bla bla, I was like wow, should it get to that, how can you be the only one that they see that can render help. Madam said babes, there is nothing to hide hence her persistence in getting them help and her telling me over n over again. I was like oh well if my guy calls me I will ask him that I want to send his number to the family who needs his help. Me and madam come get plan sey we wan do phone s3x at around 1am when everyone dun sleep for her side, as I call her sey make we begin, omo the first thing wey she go talk na sey hafa this dude, i sey which dude, she sey the guy na, i sey wetin happen, she said we were suppose to conect him to my friend, that can she get the number now and forward to him? I was like whats all this na, as far as I have withdrawn myself for this reference matter, I still dey try make i help but in a distanced way , u still dey solicit like sey na mandate, sebi na me tell you sey when my guy get back to me i will ask for permission to forward his number, why the persistence, and why be sey when we wan catch fun, u nor even wait for us to start and finish na the guy matter u first bring come. I just vex sey i wan go sleep, she come beg me sey make i nor vex, me just tell am sey for the sake of sanity, make she just bone both the wife and the guy finally like this cos the persistence dun dey make the whole thing more glaring sey something more is to it and I really do not care and dont want to be forced into feeling that way.

You see your advise of travelling alone and all that nor go possible. The plan outlined will be carried out, if anything goes fine, no problem, if it doesnt, I will gladly come back to nija, even if i lose custody to the kids, divorces me and all, I go pay C support, I should be capable to handle that financial aspect while I also attend to my own life.

kbower:
This your point MAY be valid, but you know in this life you may never know the main truth until you have 100% evidence, but based on instinct and how the whole thing played out there may be something IDK. Take for example now, yesterday my friend who did referencing for us called me how far about the new guy I wanted to refer cos I already told him about the dude at first b4 all the suspicion came in, I was like the guy has not gotten back yet, though he was gonna charge him some money to do the ref. But then I was on call with madam when he called on the other line and she asked who that was, I was like my friend that helped us, she was not like do you still want to help? I was like if he calls me back I MIGHT tell him that i want to forward his number to the guy so they can relate directly while I comot my hand for the matter as I really d not want to talk to anybody. Fastforward till yesternight, my guy did not call me, I sent him a message though that I wanted to send his number over, but neither did he call or responded to my message. Na him madam later on that day told me that the guy's wife has called her, that since she blocked the dude, he didnt know the number that called but it happened it was the wife and she was like shes so so so person wife,that my husband said I should ask howfar with the reference and bla bla, I was like wow, should it get to that, how can you be the only one that they see that can render help. Madam said babes, there is nothing to hide hence her persistence in getting them help and her telling me over n over again. I was like oh well if my guy calls me I will ask him that I want to send his number to the family who needs his help. Me and madam come get plan sey we wan do phone s3x at around 1am when everyone dun sleep for her side, as I call her sey make we begin, omo the first thing wey she go talk na sey hafa this dude, i sey which dude, she sey the guy na, i sey wetin happen, she said we were suppose to conect him to my friend, that can she get the number now and forward to him? I was like whats all this na, as far as I have withdrawn myself for this reference matter, I still dey try make i help but in a distanced way , u still dey solicit like sey na mandate, sebi na me tell you sey when my guy get back to me i will ask for permission to forward his number, why the persistence, and why be sey when we wan catch fun, u nor even wait for us to start and finish na the guy matter u first bring come. I just vex sey i wan go sleep, she come beg me sey make i nor vex, me just tell am sey for the sake of sanity, make she just bone both the wife and the guy finally like this cos the persistence dun dey make the whole thing more glaring sey something more is to it and I really do not care and dont want to be forced into feeling that way.

You see your advise of travelling alone and all that nor go possible. The plan outlined will be carried out, if anything goes fine, no problem, if it doesnt, I will gladly come back to nija, even if i lose custody to the kids, divorces me and all, I go pay C support, I should be capable to handle that financial aspect while I also attend to my own life.

Hmmm..again, so you think. Since you guys have already damned everything and crossed the rubicon, all this 16pages of talk no really matter again. Yes, you would have to continue with the plan, but also you will lneed to be very very smart to stay ahead of whatever is to come, cos all I can tell you like many have said already, is that some shi is brewing. I hope for your sake that all works out for you/her, cos this one wey you talk is what we call 'enu dun ro efo', it is either said than done.

Ps: I don't/didn't believe for a second she blocked that guy. All this talk about the wife of the guy calling just further confirmed that.

kbower:
This your point MAY be valid, but you know in this life you may never know the main truth until you have 100% evidence, but based on instinct and how the whole thing played out there may be something IDK. Take for example now, yesterday my friend who did referencing for us called me how far about the new guy I wanted to refer cos I already told him about the dude at first b4 all the suspicion came in, I was like the guy has not gotten back yet, though he was gonna charge him some money to do the ref. But then I was on call with madam when he called on the other line and she asked who that was, I was like my friend that helped us, she was not like do you still want to help? I was like if he calls me back I MIGHT tell him that i want to forward his number to the guy so they can relate directly while I comot my hand for the matter as I really d not want to talk to anybody. Fastforward till yesternight, my guy did not call me, I sent him a message though that I wanted to send his number over, but neither did he call or responded to my message. Na him madam later on that day told me that the guy's wife has called her, that since she blocked the dude, he didnt know the number that called but it happened it was the wife and she was like shes so so so person wife,that my husband said I should ask howfar with the reference and bla bla, I was like wow, should it get to that, how can you be the only one that they see that can render help. Madam said babes, there is nothing to hide hence her persistence in getting them help and her telling me over n over again. I was like oh well if my guy calls me I will ask him that I want to send his number to the family who needs his help. Me and madam come get plan sey we wan do phone s3x at around 1am when everyone dun sleep for her side, as I call her sey make we begin, omo the first thing wey she go talk na sey hafa this dude, i sey which dude, she sey the guy na, i sey wetin happen, she said we were suppose to conect him to my friend, that can she get the number now and forward to him? I was like whats all this na, as far as I have withdrawn myself for this reference matter, I still dey try make i help but in a distanced way , u still dey solicit like sey na mandate, sebi na me tell you sey when my guy get back to me i will ask for permission to forward his number, why the persistence, and why be sey when we wan catch fun, u nor even wait for us to start and finish na the guy matter u first bring come. I just vex sey i wan go sleep, she come beg me sey make i nor vex, me just tell am sey for the sake of sanity, make she just bone both the wife and the guy finally like this cos the persistence dun dey make the whole thing more glaring sey something more is to it and I really do not care and dont want to be forced into feeling that way.

You see your advise of travelling alone and all that nor go possible. The plan outlined will be carried out, if anything goes fine, no problem, if it doesnt, I will gladly come back to nija, even if i lose custody to the kids, divorces me and all, I go pay C support, I should be capable to handle that financial aspect while I also attend to my own life.

Well, no issues. It's all conjectures. There's no surefire evidence for anything. The key word is caution. Tread with caution. And move over as quickly as you can. The key words: 1. Dont carry over the feeling u have now when u do go there. Even if she's misbehaving, it could be stopgap due to loneliness. Pretend u trusted her, dont go into unnecessary arguments. Embrace her with open arms and watch keenly for telltale signs of any untowardness 2. If luckily all pan out well, good luck, if any issues please dont beat her. Dont force quarrels. Quietly decide whether to swallow that or quit. I will like u to update me as things pan out. I have friends in the UK. 0 7 0 3 2 5 6 3 3 7 1. Whatsapp.

Treadway:
Hmmm..again, so you think. Since you guys have already damned everything and crossed the rubicon, all this 16pages of talk no really matter again. Yes, you would have to continue with the plan, but also you will lneed to be very very smart to stay ahead of whatever is to come, cos all I can tell you like many have said already, is that some shi is brewing. I hope for your sake that all works out for you/her, cos this one wey you talk is what we call 'enu dun ro efo', it is either said than done.

Ps: I don't/didn't believe for a second she blocked that guy. All this talk about the wife of the guy calling just further confirmed that.

Oh well I know how to figure that out, but when I thought about it, it was not like she came forward herself to say the wife called her, it was after my friend called me to ask hafa and she asked me who it was , was when she made the statement, so if it was a made up story, could she have instantly delivered the statement just like that? Anyways person are smarter in different ways when it comes to deceit and manipulations.

Looks like you have your wife back, congratulations once again or at least your winning for now. She has compared you and the other guy(s) and still prefers you probably loves you still and wants everything back to normal. Besides,she knows why your angry with her. Secondly, looks like she is blocking the guy from seeing her because she already has emotions invested. If not for such a thing she would simply go to the church and ignore the guy in such a manner that he will be wondering if he did something wrong(serious women don't joke with their husband). I don't think my previous post is applicable to your wife in the light of this new development reason is because of the way you say she behaves lately . My previous post is applicable to another kind of woman not your wife . At this point, I think you should compliment your wife for her little achievements so far and tell her how special she is to you and how jealous you are of her talking with Mr Mike about her "behind"( ask how he noticed it) kindly state " it will make you a happy man if she promised never to speak with Mr Mike again for whatever reason ", also remind her what your redlines are incase she has forgotten. I hope this will bring Mr Mikes chapter to a close besides let her make friends with women and not married or single men. Let it be a woman trying To Help her settle down or do favours for her. A mature man and a woman can't be "just friends" tell her if she doesn't know.

kbower:
Wow post made FP. I wasnt surprised though cos I poured my heart out. For some people saying Mr Mike is the same as the person looking into her phone, no I never said so, Mr Mike is the man she met in school the very first day she went for registration, the man lives in London, while my madam lives in luton, which is outside London, the guy in question she met between town but he also live in luton.

As for the guy asking which school shes in, shes in uel and not Bedfordshire.

Guys ever since I stopped making I miss u calls, just like I said, she has started bombarding me with calls which I take and we talk normal, but then she now thinks am doing shady things, saying to reach u these days is hard, where were u, have u gotten home and all that. This recent events now made he bring up the guys issue once again friday night. She said she really wants me to get the job so she would really want me to link up with the dude, this time I went beserk and warned her again but this time severely that I do not want to have anything to do with someone that you have allowed disrespect and downgraded me, I said if his connect wont work, then i will get another. Yesterday she called me and said well we dont need that yeye guy's connect again, that she checked online and saw agencies that could help secure that kind of job.Today now so I dey ask am why she nor dey prepare for church, she sey she no want trouble because of the guy, sey infact he fit be sey na because of her the guy go wan go the church that she would rather stay back and that she has even blocked him. Oh well I am leaving soon, whatever the case is, I cannot die, I will only excel, I know myself

kbower:
Wow post made FP. I wasnt surprised though cos I poured my heart out. For some people saying Mr Mike is the same as the person looking into her phone, no I never said so, Mr Mike is the man she met in school the very first day she went for registration, the man lives in London, while my madam lives in luton, which is outside London, the guy in question she met between town but he also live in luton.

As for the guy asking which school shes in, shes in uel and not Bedfordshire.

Guys ever since I stopped making I miss u calls, just like I said, she has started bombarding me with calls which I take and we talk normal, but then she now thinks am doing shady things, saying to reach u these days is hard, where were u, have u gotten home and all that. This recent events now made he bring up the guys issue once again friday night. She said she really wants me to get the job so she would really want me to link up with the dude, this time I went beserk and warned her again but this time severely that I do not want to have anything to do with someone that you have allowed disrespect and downgraded me, I said if his connect wont work, then i will get another. Yesterday she called me and said well we dont need that yeye guy's connect again, that she checked online and saw agencies that could help secure that kind of job.Today now so I dey ask am why she nor dey prepare for church, she sey she no want trouble because of the guy, sey infact he fit be sey na because of her the guy go wan go the church that she would rather stay back and that she has even blocked him. Oh well I am leaving soon, whatever the case is, I cannot die, I will only excel, I know myself

Abeg where is your wife originally from in Nigeria and what city did she live in before she travelled out? So guys can be aware and avoid marrying women from those areas. Prevention is better than cure.

Amotolongbo:
All I can read here are
1. A lady who isn’t straight forward
2. A man who feels insecure

is he not feeling insecure because she is not straight forward?

any straight forward woman will make her man feel secured

skj1377:
Looks like you have your wife back, congratulations once again or at least your winning for now. She has compared you and the other guy(s) and still prefers you probably loves you still and wants everything back to normal. Besides,she knows why your angry with her. Secondly, looks like she is blocking the guy from seeing her because she already has emotions invested. If not for such a thing she would simply go to the church and ignore the guy in such a manner that he will be wondering if he did something wrong(serious women don't joke with their husband). I don't think my previous post is applicable to your wife in the light of this new development reason is because of the way you say she behaves lately . My previous post is applicable to another kind of woman not your wife . At this point, I think you should compliment your wife for her little achievements so far and tell her how special she is to you and how jealous you are of her talking with Mr Mike about her "behind"( ask how he noticed it) kindly state " it will make you a happy man if she promised never to speak with Mr Mike again for whatever reason ", also remind her what your redlines are incase she has forgotten. I hope this will bring Mr Mikes chapter to a close besides let her make friends with women and not married or single men. Let it be a woman trying To Help her settle down or do favours for her. A mature man and a woman can't be "just friends" tell her if she doesn't know.

She had blocked the guy probably for some reasons, i.e I threatened that I may not come to the UK if she continues doing things that wont give us peace. secondly might be because I told her that the guy was disrespectful by commenting about her backside, that she knows for herself what ough tto be done after then, which is to seize communication with him. Whichever one though, though she to me personally that she believes its because of her the dude might want to go to the church, so as to avoid any form of further familiarity, shes staying home.

You see those passionate expressions that you said I should express dont work for me and madam, its 11 years I know what am talking about, the moment I start, few hours later she go change nd begin to show me pepper, the only way she stays sane is when i ignore, or I dont show no feelings, the only mere thing is to express sexual urge and how i want to kpansh her bad when i reach,.

Cullinane:
Abeg where is your wife originally from in Nigeria and what city did she live in before she travelled out? So guys can be aware and avoid marrying women from those areas. Prevention is better than cure.

STFU

I understand your fears which is normal and very valid
Speaking from a womans perspective, looks like you both already have issues with trust in Nigeria...either from you in naija and now its pay back for her or could be you have also not trusted her whilst in Nigeria..
Other than this,I think you should allow her freely take decison without policing or thinking the worst from her interactions with people...

For me,prior to leaving Nigeria for Canada ,I already sealed friendships with guys whom I met on NR and are heading to my school and province and some that left earlier.I know I needed all the help I can get..but of course with my spouse on the "know"..I interacted freely and openly with them..infact one of the guys who had arrived a year earlier came to pick me at the airport..cos for me..guys are even more helpful.
When my spouse visit..he hangs out with them and treats them well (naija style)..like a big bro to them...
Allow her take certain decisons but of course, let her know you respect whatever decision she makes but must let you be aware and you both must be supportive of each other..
Three weeks is to early for issues like this.. allow her concentrate so she can get it right!
Abroad living means you must network,meet people,ask for help..you cannot be an island in the abroad..these issues you narrated should be the least of your worries if you both want to fulfill your long term goals of being a global family..
Most of the advice here are given based on your narration,most are not looking at it from other angles..
If you continue to police her,she will continue to lie and hide,it will infuriate you the more and there will be more havoc..
Also,like one moniker wrote "ignore her on some days" don't call,don't ask her anything..act like you cold and distant..she will crave for your attention..continue to do this one and off..
Lastly, don't be afraid of the western world concept..
If the marriage also doesn't work after all said and done..don't be afraid to let go.. life goes on..Life! Life!!Life!!!
Best wishes..

kbower:
Hi Nlanders

We all know no marriage is all that smooth and rosey, we all that are in it have challenges here and there, and for almost 11 years now, out of tolerance, ruggedity, minding my business in terms of taking care of the family have always been something that has held my marriage down, because the majority of the issue I have with my wife have always been issues of trust, transparency, accountability, respect and loyalty.

Some people will say with these things I have listed, that I may be asking for too much, but I can tell whoever would reason that way that it's not too much because am a responsible father/husband that have never for once strayed the family in anyway that will make me lack any of the above stated qualities a man can enjoy from a wife.

Why am I here? Ok.. After enduring so much for 11 years, we are relocating to the UK, she is the main applicant, myself and the 3 children are dependants, she traveled first, leaving myself and the 3 kids behind until she can secure accommodation b4 we leave.

I have heard about countless incidences of how SOME women treat their husbands and the POWER zoned to women in that country which makes it almost impossible for a man with a wife that gives him constant problem to be able to thrive in that country.

I just want to state three peculiar incidences that occured during her 1month stay over there that is already making me feel I have

Op you are a strong man that wants what's best for his family..
But the advice I will give you is that you should have a plan b financially without her knowing, do it very discreetly something you will fall back on,keep it in another country preferably Africa and buy a spy cam not saying she will turn bad but just in case cos most women can't handle power except for few women from Asia

kbower:
Hi Nlanders


I have added the guy to this call so he can clear me out, but she didnt, she just added the guy and the dude himself kept quiet and didnt say a word until I hung up. I got very furious and told her this is the highest level of see finish and dragging in the mud, wetin u want that guy to dey feel like now? She said shes sorry that she only wanted to clear herself, I was now like even if u wanted to clear urself, if that the best way to go about it, the person who is the subject matter is the best person u need to introduce to clear u out? Later on i just bone the matter come apologise sey make we move on, na so she come begin dey yarn plenty, sey she call the guy that my hubby said that the way we met is unreal, sey the guy sef come talk sey wow, so your husband already thinks am sleeping with you, but i cant blame u though, u know u have a big back side, so thoughts like that from him is likely not a surprise, i was hmmmm to hear that, i come tell madam sey if na true this guy talk this thing, shouldnt u already know he has corny itentions, she said well she too dey wonder cos the two times wey them meet she nor wear wetin fit show her bkside so how d guy come take know. The matter end there, next day madam still dey worry me sey shey I go still help d guy, I was like I cant even talk to him, u dun useless me already for him presence, she dey claim sey she nor do anything wrong by adding him to the call, sey the guy know of agency wey fit help me get better job if i arrive, and sey the guy talk sey if me fit connect am to my friend to reference am for house, him go link me up fr the agency. I talk sey i nor dey interested. Omo I weak. Guys I need advise on how to handle issues over there, cos me nor dey take nonsense for nija here, but for there, one needs to chill, but then should it now be sey because we dey live for country wey give woman power, make woman come use that opportunity come dey fumble?

It’s the switch from cultured English to pidgin for me.. lmao.. On a more serious note though, Bro! I will once again echo what other guys have said on this thread, and it should be every guy’s prayer point “Make God no ever put me in a position to be dependent a woman” NIGERIAN woman for that matter.. I prayed that fervently myself and God has been faithful! if not, what I have experienced would have been 10x of what should have been normally. I won’t go into much details; amongst other things, one noteworthy one is my supposed better half didn’t even try to refer me for opportunities when she freely did it for people she hadn’t even met. Fortunately I got a job before I japa and have changed jobs 3 times in the space of six months for better offers each time. I say this to let you know that “many” women, even if they deny it, in such positions are well aware of this and will take FULL advantage.

Your kids definitely need to be out of this country and also with their mum, but notwithstanding settle that and draw out YOUR own plan on how to survive wherever you choose, which should be the place of opportunity to make YOUR own money.. I no go talk pass that one!

Good luck

kbower:
STFU

Mumu simp. You wife go use your eye see shege for UK. You never see anything yet.

Cullinane:
Mumu simp. You wife go use your eye see shege for UK. You never see anything yet.

stfu

Brother, You are about to loose your wife. She has been waiting for this moment, my opinion! You really don't know Naija lady wey see simple opportunity. Better find start going to the UK and secure your marriage first.

agaba:
Tier 2 main applicant will tie him to restricticted hours of work (mostly 40hrs+20hrs with another similar job). Best he switch to Tier2 as dependent partner which will have no restrictions.

Can someone with 6 months visit visa get this care job and get sponsored and convert his visa category to that with staying permit?

Annie001:
Just be calm and start taking care job courses immediately you get there, go for training so you can get sponsorship within 4months.
Then change your visa from dependent to tier 4, without her knowledge.

Can someone with 6 months visit visa get this care job and get sponsored and convert his visa category to that with staying permit? Tier 4

My naija people when you write pls learn to use paragraphs it buttresses your points , my eyes are hurting with all the texts written jesus!!

In the next 5-10years Nigerians who are relocating hurriedly will start to feel the real impact of living abroad.

When i see landing gists, especially of people relocating to Canada I just laugh.

Yesterday someone was saying Halloween is demonic and devilish and Nigerians should not be celebrating it. I just laugh. We want to eat our cake and have it. Abroad comes with Pros and Cons and we have to deal with it. It is a choice we make.

kbower:
I cant stay here, we have sold almost everything, visa is running, accommodation already secured. But I know sey God dey sha.

I had to counsel one guy that works in a major oil company in Nigeria who sent his wife to the U.K.

I just told him to face his job; his wife was gone already and if care is not taken, his job will go too.

xxxdp:
Brother, You are about to loose your wife. She has been waiting for this moment, my opinion! You really don't know Naija lady wey see simple opportunity. Better find start going to the UK and secure your marriage first.

occfx:
OP is lost already.. He should just commot mind where that woman dey. Find another big nyyash for Nigeria dey fire. A lot of big nyyashes here. Let her enjoy herself, she is been longing for this freedom. Oga OP is just a SIMPle man already.

Exactly. Weak man. Instead of him to take action, he is coming to Nairaland to seek validation. Now im wan carry head enter UK with the kids. That im yeye wife go use am see shege, collect the kids, kick him to the streets or prison and move another man into the house he paid for. Kai!!!

Bksense:
Even if your wife is sleeping with someone else, it doesn't matter. What matters is you're in abroad. Being abroad upgrade your worth in front of everyone you leave back home. When you get to UK, be subservient to her. Let her do whatever she wants. If she carry a man comes home give them space. It's just knack and e no dey read meter. Your wife is for you to enjoy after that.

Be like say you no normal.

Cullinane:
Exactly. Weak man. Instead of him to take action, he is coming to Nairaland to seek validation. Now im wan carry head enter UK with the kids. That im yeye wife go use am see shege, collect the kids, kick him to the streets or prison and move another man into the house he paid for. Kai!!!

weak man this weak man that, can you ever even be at my level? So STFU

kbower:
weak man this weak man that, can you ever even be at my level? So STFU

Mr man STFU abeg. You claim say you get level and yet your wife dey show you pepper. I just got my US green card this week. But I am already a Senior Software Engineer working remotely online for 2 companies, one in the US and another in Canada. I earn over 18000 USD per month transferred monthly into my Naija domiciliary account although things will all change when I relocate to the US to join my parents and siblings shortly. Which level you think say u get? If say u get level, as your wife don dey Bleep up, you for bone the UK thing begin dey make plan B but like the f**lish simp that you are, you invested all your money in a woman that is not worth it. Is that the definition of wisdom? Men like you with your weak nature are the ones spoiling all these Nigerian girls, making them behave in a useless manner.

When you enter UK, na you go dey wash plate, clean toilet while your wife dey Netflix and chill up and down. Mumu man. Instead of you to take charge and fix your personal issues like a real man, you run to Nairaland like a weakling, seeking validation and directions from online strangers who don't give a f**k about you. I wish you a whole ton of luck bro. Cos you are gonna need every single inch of it.

Honourables in the house, on the issue of court marriage recognized by UK home office. Do you recommend we do it at the local government close to me? (Ilesa, osogbo, Osun state) or we go to ikoyi registry.

Secondly will I need to send the certificate issued by local government to ikoyi or abuja for attestation.

An agent is charging 35k for the form at ikoyi but I don't know if that is all that will be requested from us.

Please advise us with the updated information that you have

Cullinane:
Mr man STFU abeg. You claim say you get level and yet your wife dey show you pepper. I just got my US green card this week. But I am already a Senior Software Engineer working remotely online for 2 companies, one in the US and another in Canada. I earn over 18000 USD per month transferred monthly into my Naija domiciliary account although things will all change when I relocate to the US to join my parents and siblings shortly. Which level you think say u get? If say u get level, as your wife don dey Bleep up, you for bone the UK thing begin dey make plan B but like the f**lish simp that you are, you invested all your money in a woman that is not worth it. Is that the definition of wisdom? Men like you with your weak nature are the ones spoiling all these Nigerian girls, making them behave in a useless manner.

When you enter UK, na you go dey wash plate, clean toilet while your wife dey Netflix and chill up and down. Mumu man. Instead of you to take charge and fix your personal issues like a real man, you run to Nairaland like a weakling, seeking validation and directions from online strangers who don't give a f**k about you. I wish you a whole ton of luck bro. Cos you are gonna need every single inch of it.

Your dumb aass could have probably said yourd and moved da eff on, why call me simp and degrade whim birthed my kids, na so u dey run ur own wife? If i come here come express myself, he concern ur fagbon? Abi make i find u 4 by 4 land for ur head. You can imagine comparing whats real life and more of a pressing issue to me unlike ur dumbo who came here to ask people that a ladyis giving you ultimatum to cum in her a$$$ or shes done with u, seeking advice for such ish doesnt make u the simpest mugu in the whole wild world?