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Ndidi2:
Naso my loving husband started, chatting different girls,some calling him and asking where he was,each time l confronted him he sd l don't even know them.
I believed him bc l thought he loved me enough not to cheat on me.
I don't want to tell story here


I advice you to hold him n prayer and tame him,it works



If u relax and believe him that he has nothing with those girls by the time u will find out how far he has gone u will be devastated.

I repeat guard him jealously through prayer.

How do you tame?
What did you find out?
Did it end?

Mammie330:
How do you tame?
What did you find out?
Did it end?

l saw some of his rubbish and honestly l still feel bad after 2 years of catching him .
When l say rubbish,l mean nonsense and shit.

Is heartbreaking,m trying to put d past behind but it hurts.
12 years of constant cheating and pretence.


He has changed but l can't take him the way l use to.l wish him good but he is not that special person anymore..
Never

I will never wish any woman go Tru what l went Tru.

The only people l care about in my life now are my parents,my siblings and my 2 boys.

On taming,tell God what you want of him

Ndidi2:
l saw some of his rubbish and honestly l still feel bad after 2 years of catching him .
When l say rubbish,l mean nonsense and shit.

Is heartbreaking,m trying to put d past behind but it hurts.
12 years of constant cheating and pretence.


He has changed but l can't take him the way l use to.l wish him good but he is not that special person anymore..
Never

I will never wish any woman go Tru what l went Tru.

The only people l care about in my life now are my parents,my siblings and my 2 boys.

On taming,tell God what you want of him

Thanks for responding.
Its just Sad how they claim to love but hurt their partner with their actions.

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Mammie330:
I got married few months ago after dating my husband for some years.

Our relationship was really beautiful and I was the envy of most ladies.

At some point we had a long distance relationship but Communication was smooth.

The first time he came to visit , I discovered he had been chatting with one girl, having flirty conversations and all. He said he was just catching cruise and apologized for that. I forgave him.

Another time I discovered he doesn't know how to set boundaries with ladies.
I complained about all that and he promised to change.
This is someone that comes to visit me at any given opportunity.
Then recently I found out he had been chatting with one girl on Tiktok.
The girl already started calling him baby and I saw where he told the girl he likes her already.
As usual he said it’s not serious, that he hasn’t seen the girl and he didn’t mean that.
The girl chatted him up and he flowed because he was bored.
Truth Is I’m hurt and ashamed.
Where’s the self respect?
Someone you don’t know from anywhere.
He eventually blocked the girl but I don’t even trust him anymore.
When we were together, he wasn’t anything like that and I’m wondering what went wrong.

He keeps talking about how much he loves me and how he wouldn’t have been married to anyone else if he didn’t get married to me but at this point I’m not even moved again.

I’ve asked him countless times why he is flirting with ladies online.
He said nothing.

He said he hasn’t touched any lady apart from me.
I’m actually tired of asking, I want to know what I can do to get the pain away.

I’ll be alone for a while.

Should I stop talking to him?
Should I report him to my mum?
Should I play along and just develop a coping mechanism?
What coping mechanism can i develop?
Should I keep complaining?
I didn’t allow him touch me before he travelled and he was pained.
I really just want my man, I don’t like how he’s not making me trust him anymore.
I don’t go after other peoples’ men why should mine be like this?
Can he possibly change?

Lol! Your husband dey Tiktok?

I don off!

Mammie330:
I got married few months ago after dating my husband for some years.

Our relationship was really beautiful and I was the envy of most ladies.

At some point we had a long distance relationship but Communication was smooth.

The first time he came to visit , I discovered he had been chatting with one girl, having flirty conversations and all. He said he was just catching cruise and apologized for that. I forgave him.

Another time I discovered he doesn't know how to set boundaries with ladies.
I complained about all that and he promised to change.
This is someone that comes to visit me at any given opportunity.
Then recently I found out he had been chatting with one girl on Tiktok.
The girl already started calling him baby and I saw where he told the girl he likes her already.
As usual he said it’s not serious, that he hasn’t seen the girl and he didn’t mean that.
The girl chatted him up and he flowed because he was bored.
Truth Is I’m hurt and ashamed.
Where’s the self respect?
Someone you don’t know from anywhere.
He eventually blocked the girl but I don’t even trust him anymore.
When we were together, he wasn’t anything like that and I’m wondering what went wrong.

He keeps talking about how much he loves me and how he wouldn’t have been married to anyone else if he didn’t get married to me but at this point I’m not even moved again.

I’ve asked him countless times why he is flirting with ladies online.
He said nothing.

He said he hasn’t touched any lady apart from me.
I’m actually tired of asking, I want to know what I can do to get the pain away.

I’ll be alone for a while.

Should I stop talking to him?
Should I report him to my mum?
Should I play along and just develop a coping mechanism?
What coping mechanism can i develop?
Should I keep complaining?
I didn’t allow him touch me before he travelled and he was pained.
I really just want my man, I don’t like how he’s not making me trust him anymore.
I don’t go after other peoples’ men why should mine be like this?
Can he possibly change?

"He hasn't touched any lady apart from you " ?

Your husband na chief butcher!

You should know the kind of man you married , sometimes I do flirt online but it end's there ,my wife knows I can't cheat on her if you like the send me nude pictures . though she's more afraid of me marrying a second wife but for cheating no time

November24:
Same you flirt with a guy by June abi... Ndiara, or u forgotto delete it from ur post

U dated yr husband for some years before getting married and in ur other thread u had flirted with a couple of guys in June and dated another while dropping off two. Now I just wonder where this ur husband was while u were fvckn the one u dated in June. Probably a LDR? Anyways u and ur husband fit each other. U are both public property or maybe he knows about ur philandering while he was away somewhere. No need to look for answers why or he's this way. Asked urself why u were that way in June.

Mammie330:
I got married few months ago after dating my husband for some years.

Our relationship was really beautiful and I was the envy of most ladies.

At some point we had a long distance relationship but Communication was smooth.

The first time he came to visit , I discovered he had been chatting with one girl, having flirty conversations and all. He said he was just catching cruise and apologized for that. I forgave him.

Another time I discovered he doesn't know how to set boundaries with ladies.
I complained about all that and he promised to change.
This is someone that comes to visit me at any given opportunity.
Then recently I found out he had been chatting with one girl on Tiktok.
The girl already started calling him baby and I saw where he told the girl he likes her already.
As usual he said it’s not serious, that he hasn’t seen the girl and he didn’t mean that.
The girl chatted him up and he flowed because he was bored.
Truth Is I’m hurt and ashamed.
Where’s the self respect?
Someone you don’t know from anywhere.
He eventually blocked the girl but I don’t even trust him anymore.
When we were together, he wasn’t anything like that and I’m wondering what went wrong.

He keeps talking about how much he loves me and how he wouldn’t have been married to anyone else if he didn’t get married to me but at this point I’m not even moved again.

I’ve asked him countless times why he is flirting with ladies online.
He said nothing.

He said he hasn’t touched any lady apart from me.
I’m actually tired of asking, I want to know what I can do to get the pain away.

I’ll be alone for a while.

Should I stop talking to him?
Should I report him to my mum?
Should I play along and just develop a coping mechanism?
What coping mechanism can i develop?
Should I keep complaining?
I didn’t allow him touch me before he travelled and he was pained.
I really just want my man, I don’t like how he’s not making me trust him anymore.
I don’t go after other peoples’ men why should mine be like this?
Can he possibly change?

Flirting is harmless, especially online flirting.

Flirts are usually very good at controlling the behavior, so they hardly ever CHEAT.

Some people consider flirting as cheating. But they are not the same thing.

In fact, research has shown that flirting is an essential part of human interaction. You see a beautiful specimen, you got to appreciate it.

Enjoy your marriage, my dear (I suppose that is me flirting with you. ).

Don't worry, SEX is the last thing on my mind.

Sounds like he’s doing this intentionally to get some reaction from you. He knows about something and he plans to kill you with jealousy. Be honest has he caught you chatting to other men? Have you compared him with other men in an argument or something? Your husband is getting you back for something! If he was cheating you would have zero clue until it’s too late. Maybe the only time you pay him attention is when you’re jealous and when you’re at peace you ignore him? Think don’t just blame!

Modified:

Mammie330:
I met this guy at a time.
It was at a hangout, and he had his eyes on me.
I noticed he was stealing glances at me but I pretended not to notice.

He wasn't my spec persay but man’s fine with good dress sense.

At That same gathering, my spec kind of man was also vying to get my attention, and I reciprocated to both.

We exchanged contact, and both of them were calling consistently, and we were vibing. (I'll call the first guy A and the second guy R).

I wasn't open to being in any relationship at the time so I didn't bulge tho they weren't asking too.

I automatically brother zoned R when I discovered he's a family friend and I kind of preferred A (first guy) .

Not too long I discovered he was really egoistic beyond normal phallus egoism.

He was friendly so I was still cool with it till he started acting like my boyfriend when he never asked me out. �

He gets angry when I miss his calls or always jealous when he sees guys around me.

At a point we drifted when he called me and my number was busy and he got really furious.

Anyways he didn’t ask me out until I got a boyfriend. But I didn’t leave my boyfriend for him. �

Ladies egoistic and self acclaimed Alpha Males will frustrate you.

A flirt married a flirt and has come to nl to complain! Smdh!

Public property is what you both are so!

Stop following your husband around like Monitoring Spirit

Elchapo212:
U dated yr husband for some years before getting married and in ur other thread u had flirted with a couple of guys in June and dated another while dropping off two. Now I just wonder where this ur husband was while u were fvckn the one u dated in June. Probably a LDR? Anyways u and ur husband fit each other. U are both public property or maybe he knows about ur philandering while he was away somewhere. No need to look for answers why or he's this way. Asked urself why u were that way in June.

Comprehension is hard for you.

I talked about ghosting one cause I didn't want to date him and also refusing to date the other one cause of his egoistic Alpha male attitude.
And those incidents happened several years before I met my husband.
Where did you see dating and flirting?

Mammie330:
I got married few months ago after dating my husband for some years.

Our relationship was really beautiful and I was the envy of most ladies.

At some point we had a long distance relationship but Communication was smooth.

The first time he came to visit , I discovered he had been chatting with one girl, having flirty conversations and all. He said he was just catching cruise and apologized for that. I forgave him.

Another time I discovered he doesn't know how to set boundaries with ladies.
I complained about all that and he promised to change.
This is someone that comes to visit me at any given opportunity.
Then recently I found out he had been chatting with one girl on Tiktok.
The girl already started calling him baby and I saw where he told the girl he likes her already.
As usual he said it’s not serious, that he hasn’t seen the girl and he didn’t mean that.
The girl chatted him up and he flowed because he was bored.
Truth Is I’m hurt and ashamed.
Where’s the self respect?
Someone you don’t know from anywhere.
He eventually blocked the girl but I don’t even trust him anymore.
When we were together, he wasn’t anything like that and I’m wondering what went wrong.

He keeps talking about how much he loves me and how he wouldn’t have been married to anyone else if he didn’t get married to me but at this point I’m not even moved again.

I’ve asked him countless times why he is flirting with ladies online.
He said nothing.

He said he hasn’t touched any lady apart from me.
I’m actually tired of asking, I want to know what I can do to get the pain away.

I’ll be alone for a while.

Should I stop talking to him?
Should I report him to my mum?
Should I play along and just develop a coping mechanism?
What coping mechanism can i develop?
Should I keep complaining?
I didn’t allow him touch me before he travelled and he was pained.
I really just want my man, I don’t like how he’s not making me trust him anymore.
I don’t go after other peoples’ men why should mine be like this?
Can he possibly change?

be flirting with a guy too but dont send pictures just talk dont meet up n ones a while let him try get to ur ok pone so he can see d chats.

You will only end up hurting yourself......

brosom:
Not every flirt be cheat, there are innocent ones.


Don't make mountain were there isn't.

Nice one

So Op you are also permitted to innocently flirt, since it is not cheating.

GOFRONT:
Madam, Dont forget, Men are Polygamous in Nature!!!

Says who?

olaeffect:
I wonder how some men foolishly allow a woman to suspect them.
Some men are just too disrespectful to their wives.
The kind of respect and honour I give my wife, even if she catches me in bed with another lady she will be looking round the room to see if it is a prank or I am being held at gunpoint

It's your stupidity for me

Pls test her by being on bed with another woman, it is just unfortunate you won't come here to tell us her reaction.

Ndidi2:
Naso my loving husband started, chatting different girls,some calling him and asking where he was,each time l confronted him he sd l don't even know them.
I believed him bc l thought he loved me enough not to cheat on me.
I don't want to tell story here


I advice you to hold him n prayer and tame him,it works

If u relax and believe him that he has nothing with those girls by the time u will find out how far he has gone u will be devastated.

I repeat guard him jealously through prayer.

Or divorce him, very simple and stress free, not every woman can endure trash in marriage like you while accumulating STDs in the process

Prayer without works is dead, the Bible says so, your husband will not pray for you if he catches you cheating, you will be chased out of the house, you enable these cheating men when you keep shut and resign it to fate, until women start standing up for themselves, all these nonsense will never change.

Mammie330:
I got married few months ago after dating my husband for some years.

Our relationship was really beautiful and I was the envy of most ladies.

At some point we had a long distance relationship but Communication was smooth.

The first time he came to visit , I discovered he had been chatting with one girl, having flirty conversations and all. He said he was just catching cruise and apologized for that. I forgave him.

Another time I discovered he doesn't know how to set boundaries with ladies.
I complained about all that and he promised to change.
This is someone that comes to visit me at any given opportunity.
Then recently I found out he had been chatting with one girl on Tiktok.
The girl already started calling him baby and I saw where he told the girl he likes her already.
As usual he said it’s not serious, that he hasn’t seen the girl and he didn’t mean that.
The girl chatted him up and he flowed because he was bored.
Truth Is I’m hurt and ashamed.
Where’s the self respect?
Someone you don’t know from anywhere.
He eventually blocked the girl but I don’t even trust him anymore.
When we were together, he wasn’t anything like that and I’m wondering what went wrong.

He keeps talking about how much he loves me and how he wouldn’t have been married to anyone else if he didn’t get married to me but at this point I’m not even moved again.

I’ve asked him countless times why he is flirting with ladies online.
He said nothing.

He said he hasn’t touched any lady apart from me.
I’m actually tired of asking, I want to know what I can do to get the pain away.

I’ll be alone for a while.

Should I stop talking to him?
Should I report him to my mum?
Should I play along and just develop a coping mechanism?
What coping mechanism can i develop?
Should I keep complaining?
I didn’t allow him touch me before he travelled and he was pained.
I really just want my man, I don’t like how he’s not making me trust him anymore.
I don’t go after other peoples’ men why should mine be like this?
Can he possibly change?

I didn’t allow him touch me before he travelled and he was pained,

how can u be so wicked and turn bk again to be playing victim

Ps at least now he has apologized, and rather than do d needful by getting intimate u denied him, when he now goes outside d same t.wat would come and open anoda post, aren't u a c.unt? bits!

Fountainofyouth:
Or divorce him, very simple and stress free, not every woman can endure trash in marriage like you while accumulating STDs in the process

Prayer without works is dead, the Bible says so, your husband will not pray for you if he catches you cheating, you will be chased out of the house, you enable these cheating men when you keep shut and resign it to fate, until women start standing up to themselves, all these nonsense will never change.

l didn't know bc he comes home weekend although l suspected but was reluctant and naive to dig
He knows the warrior he married.
When l caught him it was war.

Mydear, begging just too much
Kneeling, swearing three much.

No mata how l resent him sometimes, l still love him.but there are something l don't take anymore




He has genuinely changed and more open.
Na for me to put the past behind without reminding him when angry remain.

Your husband belongs to the streets. Some people belong to the streets they can't be tamed. I know a guy who is every girl in the neighbourhoods husband. Na so some people be

It ends in tears. Stop snooping around.

Fountainofyouth:
It's your stupidity for me

Pls test her by being on bed with another woman, it is just unfortunate you won't come here to tell us her reaction.

Wanted to reply you appropriately.
But I now realize that you may be an unmarried mannerless small girl, so let me just let it slide.
Let me allow the respect I have for my wife spill to you small

Your lack of respect for men in your upbringing is clearly evident. Sorry for your loss.

olaeffect:
Wanted to reply you appropriately.
But I now realize that you may be an unmarried mannerless small girl, so let me just let it slide.
Let me allow the respect I have for my wife spill to you small

Your lack of respect for men in your upbringing is clearly evident. Sorry for your loss.

Yes I am mannerless to stupid people, and you are part of them, because if you have regards for your wife, you will not have the effontery to degrade her with your previous nonsense comment just to get clout from foolish boys here, because if you catch your wife on bed with another man, you will burn the roof down raining fire and brimstone no matter how much you claim to trust her, nonsense.

Mammie330:
I got married few months ago after dating my husband for some years.

Our relationship was really beautiful and I was the envy of most ladies.

At some point we had a long distance relationship but Communication was smooth.

The first time he came to visit , I discovered he had been chatting with one girl, having flirty conversations and all. He said he was just catching cruise and apologized for that. I forgave him.

Another time I discovered he doesn't know how to set boundaries with ladies.
I complained about all that and he promised to change.
This is someone that comes to visit me at any given opportunity.
Then recently I found out he had been chatting with one girl on Tiktok.
The girl already started calling him baby and I saw where he told the girl he likes her already.
As usual he said it’s not serious, that he hasn’t seen the girl and he didn’t mean that.
The girl chatted him up and he flowed because he was bored.
Truth Is I’m hurt and ashamed.
Where’s the self respect?
Someone you don’t know from anywhere.
He eventually blocked the girl but I don’t even trust him anymore.
When we were together, he wasn’t anything like that and I’m wondering what went wrong.

He keeps talking about how much he loves me and how he wouldn’t have been married to anyone else if he didn’t get married to me but at this point I’m not even moved again.

I’ve asked him countless times why he is flirting with ladies online.
He said nothing.

He said he hasn’t touched any lady apart from me.
I’m actually tired of asking, I want to know what I can do to get the pain away.

I’ll be alone for a while.

Should I stop talking to him?
Should I report him to my mum?
Should I play along and just develop a coping mechanism?
What coping mechanism can i develop?
Should I keep complaining?
I didn’t allow him touch me before he travelled and he was pained.
I really just want my man, I don’t like how he’s not making me trust him anymore.
I don’t go after other peoples’ men why should mine be like this?
Can he possibly change?

Take your mind off it. So many men do this act. Of a truth, many guys catch cruise with it, with nothing really attached,,ok? I won't lie to you, I have a friend who was once into it. But it almost caused him his marriage, so, he had to stopped. He just like playing with ladies emotions.

Sometimes, when a girl falls deeply in love with him, to the extent of wanting to visit him for a romantic affair, he would immediately ditched her. The fact is, this guy (my friend) love his wife, and would not want anything that would hot her feelings, which made him stopped it.

So, my dear, he's not actually cheating on you. But if you want him to stop it without wasting much time, take it up with him, by calling him a cheat, threatening that you are done with the marriage. If truly nothing is attached, he will stop. The Lord is your strength.

yomi007k:
But would you as a man take such type of actions from a woman, I mean your wife flirting with other men ?

Yes or No?

Yes of course. Sometimes, my wife does that. Even, most times, she would even records their conversations. It boils down to trusting your partner.

Hollybratt:
He can never change again, just divorce!
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IRMC

Mumu you

GOFRONT:
Madam, Dont forget, Men are Polygamous in Nature!!!

Forget that phrase. Many guys and ladies do this. Some ladies would even make it look real by giving you "green light". You will just keep fooling yourself around them.

Divoc19:
Don't stress much by thinking about what he does out there.

The hard truth here is that you are alone in this marriage.

Enjoy him when he is around and think less of him when he is gone.

Only report him mildly for the record not for anybody to beat him up.

Babe this is your reality, you can't change a grown man.

Welcome to adulthood where problem nor dey finish

The way some of you guys here on nairaland reached conclusion baffles me.

November24:
Same you flirt with a guy by June abi... Ndiara, or u forgotto delete it from ur post

Thank you. An armed robber is joining hands with those beating a bandit caught in Adamawa.

How well do you engage him online when he is away from you?
Because I feel if you also chat with him online when he is away from you, he wouldn't have to fill the void with other ladies.

Please, both of you should evaluate your communication style.