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Dathypebruv:
whats the 411 ?

leetylee:
takeoff is gone damn!

Dathypebruv:
You just knew ?

How can I wey Dey Ewon know news pass you

leetylee:

You nuh go leave me... I really nuh dey active and I nuh first Believe am cuz it's unreal....

He come be like say Na one of MK distant relative dem off dude has been sad

Dathypebruv:
fr

Haven't heard from him tho

leetylee:
blud, I wish you the best today, may it be in your favour.

Fingers crossed

Dathypebruv:
days are the same to me, nothing new under the sun

join the convo

Cc.
@Haynnie

Dathypebruv:
days are the same to me, nothing new under the sun

join the convo

Cc.
@Haynnie

Haynnie:
Gee I’m late

Dathypebruv:
You wey i see for ashawo thread

Haynnie:
I dey there na but not active

Dathypebruv:
na so, i also sight you for food section

boy dey h,come do small tin for me make i take follow up my stomach infrastructure budget for here

nor be dis everyday shakpa wey wan kee me

Haynnie:
Bro I called u back but the network no dey available
Anyways send aza make I drop small thing wey dey my hand for u. You go dey aiite ong

Dathypebruv:
correct g,i go text am for your dm now

Haynnie:
Seen

Dathypebruv:
thanks my gee,appreciate 100

Haynnie:
Bless God

Dathypebruv:
Please post MK album link here and review

Haynnie:
Ok

Dathypebruv:
i lost access to my account yesterday and its going to be tough Recovering it from here

leetylee:
Facebook??

Dathypebruv:
Something happened in this December that shook my entire being.

We have this guy that has been barbing my son's hair for over a year now. He does home service for us. But this particular weekend, he could not come. He said he was extra busy and if the barbing was that expedient, I should bring Simon to his shop. I didn't have any other alternative, so we went. He was busy when I got there, two more people were on queue as well, so I had to drop my son with his aunt there.

When I got back there to pick them up, I could not recognise my son. He had given him a new look. He barbed off the whole hair. The whole effing hair. I was stunned, no angry...No I was mad. Is mad even the right word? I was on the loose. Both vocally and facially. This is the same guy that has been barbing my boy for years. How could he have forgotten his trademark cut. The punk style (I'm not sure I know what the name is though). But that style that they'll leave a lil bit in front with a parting slant in between. I was enraged. I told him he was stupid and blind. I called him idiot. He told me he has forgotten his hairdo or so. I didn't even bother to listen to his explanation. I threw the money on the floor and left.

All through my drive home, I was still bitter at him. I kept cussing him beneath my breadth. Simon, obviously unaware of the whole situation was playing and having so much fun. He couldn't care less. When I got home, my spirit was troubled. I knew I had over-reacted. Is it not hair? Ordinary hair that will grow back within days. So I'm gonna trade this relationship because of hair? I told myself I just have to call him. I have to apologize.

And so I did. He was surprised. He pleaded with me on the phone. That his mind was elsewhere. And I shouldn't be angry. I was still fuming but I just had to accept the apology. Even if I rain fire and brimstone, the hair wouldn't glue itself back. He promised coming to my house the next day, Sunday to shapen the front. I didn't allow him do all that at his shop cos madness wouldn't let me be. I told him I was deeply sorry too. For letting out too much unecessary steam. For the abusive words. We ended the convo with laughter and my spirit became lighter.

Sunday came and we waited for him at the time he was supposed to come. I called his number and it kept ringing. Hours passed and it was still the same. I was already thinking, 'this people have come again'. After a while, I decided to take my son to his shop. If Mohammed cannot go to mountain, at least let mountain go to Mohammed. We got there and it was locked. 'No wahala' I thought. His house is just a stone throw to his shop. We arrived the house and we saw people wailing. 'What could have happened', I wondered to myself as I alighted from my car.

On getting there, I got one of the most shocking news of my life. This guy has passed away. This same guy gangan. Our barber. The one I saw yesterday. The one that was seemingly hale and hearty. I was told he died on his way to the theatre. He had been battling kidney problems. He has been managing his health. He told no one except his siblings. It became severe on Saturday evening and he had to be rushed to the hospital. My tears became uncontrollable. I felt so much pity for his aged mum. I was mad at myself. So he was sick, that yesterday. He has been sick...Ohmaigod! Even though I had mended my wrong, I was still frigging mad at myself. I cried and cried. A young nice guy, cut at his prime.

I got a lot of lessons from this experience.

●Be slow to anger, even when you have every reasons to
●Give people the opportunity to express themselves, even if you are convinced they'll talk trash. There might just be a lil sense in their explanations.
●React less when you are hurting. You never can tell the deep shit the other party is going through.
●Be empathic. Be sympathetic
●Learn to let go of things that cannot be changed
●Say sorry even though you are at the receiving end. It doesn't make you less of what you are. It only shows you value the relationship more than your ego.
●Forgive that person even though you are deeply hurt.
●Forgive again.
●Las las, forgive.

Make that call today, apologize, say you are sorry, let go. I know you are still grieving about the hurt, the betrayals. If the altercation is beyond saying sorry, if the wound is deep and can't be in any way covered, if the friendship can't be in any way re-ignited, just let go of it in your heart.

It's very much possible!

DECLOGG YOUR HEART OF UNECESSARY TOXIC FEELINGS!

Bury it with 2021.

Wishing us all a triumphant and bitter-free entry into 2022.

I'm glad I made that call.

Dathypebruv:
Yeah but its tricky shit, sometimes I'm logged out and other times I have access

Maybe due to network because its very poor here

Laturuturu:
You are right Atiku can't win in the eastern part of Nigeria. I agree with everything you said.
Valid points

Laturuturu:
You are right Atiku can't win in the eastern part of Nigeria. I agree with everything you said.
Valid points

leetylee:
probably What’s good though?

Dathypebruv:
happy sunday gee, looking forward to next month/year

Dathypebruv:
happy sunday gee, looking forward to next month/year

leetylee:
man not without you around