If most men here are arguing with the truth from Pst K.....Hmmm.... Women are in trouble..... Many women will prefer being by themselves than being with these SIMPS.....I don't even know if Nairaland men know who SIMPs really are: IRRESPONSIBLE men, not anything less....

Nothing is wrong in pampering a woman in kind/cash.... Those asking if she is richer, will she still need pampering?... Don't you see how happy rich people are when people also remember them with gifts, no matter how little?

This one go just the open mouth waaaaaa

immortalcrown:
True because woman is the last creature by God. In other words, woman is the youngest of all creatures.

But women claim they are equal or even greater than men. Some women even call themselves kings. This is the problem. How do you care for a woman who doesn't believe you are better or equal to her?

A man is NOT better than a woman. A woman isn't the inferior gender. Each gender has areas in which they are stronger...

The instruction for a woman to submit is for husband and wife. It's not to say any woman is subject to any man. A wife is subject ONLY to her husband in the man/woman relationship context.

Most guys cannot just read and take key notes , he's simply referring to husband & they wife,brother to they female siblings and sons to they mum. And not boyfriends to they so called girlfriends

Zonefree:
Get a dog if you're looking for who to take care of. To take care of a Nigerian girl is an act of foolishness!

Make sure you do not give birth to a girl, have a sister or mother better still no get anything to do with a nigerian female (as per you just dropped and found yourself on earth)...you guys just come online and start ranting forgetting that it's one woman that birthed you, you have sisters and it's a woman that will give birth for you, and you will have a daughter.

Na as man get issues, woman get am....na because of this mentality you no get good experience...your thought attracts what comes to you.

damosky12:


A man is NOT better than a woman. A woman isn't the inferior gender. Each gender has areas in which they are stronger...

The instruction for a woman to submit is for husband and wife. It's not to say any woman is subject to any man. A wife is subject ONLY to her husband in the man/woman relationship context.

A man is greater than woman in the aspect of responsibility and protection of the family. This is the point.

I quite agree with him. Their fathers should take care of them until they're married off.

TMSMedia:
Nigerian pastor and relationship coach, Kingsley Okonkwo, has stated that women were not created to take care of themselves, IGBERETV reports.

He made the statement on his Twitter handle.

His tweets read;



https://twitter.com/kingsleypst/status/1595747211216048130?t=66JDJnwbCzRhVrqvIeTQpw&s=19

Same men complaining here that the man is wrong will be the one complaining that they can no longer control their woman because she has money, which is synonymous to Power.

Believe it or not. No woman can handle power, except she is heaven-sent to be in the position of power.

A woman is a multiplier (multiply, fruitful and replenish), na wetin you give her she go produce multiply and replenish back for you.

Na wetin you dey sow, you dey reap. Plant good seeds too

drimzsmoke:
I've tried explaining this indirectly on nairaland a few times but most of the guys here have their minds made up already

Is that not your blood even when you see your brother fighting you no go join?

If you do am for your girlfriend then you be mumulish simp

God1000:
He's a joker, I've seen hardworking women who are the breadwinners in their families


This is white lie, he's not helping the society with such message

Next time, try to read, digest and understand before spewing gibberish

making men simp......

bukatyne:


And what is the benefit of 'serving' a man (husband)?

getting taken care of

I don't know why this is a germane issue with the pastor, but to each is own.

Parents take care of a child (male or female)
A young adult takes care of him or her self
A couple takes care of each other.
If you are not married to her, or have agreed to a future together, everybody has a responsibility to themselves. No obligation from each other.
If you have not married him, or agreed to a future together, secure an income, have you space, start a career, do your thing and be responsible to yourself. NO obligations abeg

The stage of dating is not a sentence to each other. Everyone is free and should act responsibly in this freedom. When you both get to a proposal and acceptance stage, then you can start making plans of merging things together. Until then, its a NO!
If and when you get married, then you work towards a common purpose (securing a future for yourselves and your children).

It Is Hilarious How The Real SIMPle Men Cry Over Matters That Concerns The Other Gender.

See, Everybody Needs To Be Cared For Irrespective Of Their Sex!

The Greatest Sin Is When You Do Not Value That Love And Care A Person Have You. Taking Them As A Fool Or As A Means To Cash Out!

Never Take Your Peace Of Mind For Granted!

Fatale!

jimcaddy:
But it's the truth, I don't know why many man find this difficult to accept. Just be praying that God keeps on providing for you to be the man. As a man, you have the mandate to provide for your wife, daughter. If you don't, someone else will. So you have to. Don't try and water down the fact.

honestly

jimcaddy:
But it's the truth, I don't know why many man find this difficult to accept. Just be praying that God keeps on providing for you to be the man. As a man, you have the mandate to provide for your wife, daughter. If you don't, someone else will. So you have to. Don't try and water down the fact.

honestly. you take care of your daughters and your wife. for daughters it is inevitable another man (woo-er), will also attempt to co-take care of her for you because you won’t marry her, so it is for sure that other men will want to buy her gifts here and there to woo her for romantic relationship that should lead to marriage, even as you take care of her, and me personally i’ll allow it cus i won’t marry her and surely should let men who can take care of her in marriage also play such role in leading to the marriage, as much as i do same.


for my wife, i’ll surely provide for her, but thankfully she’ll be doing something worthwhile so she can buy one or two sometimes for herself. i pray i never get to marry such that the little i can’t provide for, she’ll look to another man to provide it for her(because that’s where they get slept with), i’ll provide to her to the best of my ability but if there is anywhere i’m lacking, please be patient with me or at least save up a little money for yourself to meet such demand, not by going out to get taken care of by another man.

Yungdav:
Most guys cannot just read and take key notes , he's simply referring to husband & they wife,brother to they female siblings and sons to they mum. And not boyfriends to they so called girlfriends

they are all thinking boyfriend-girlfriend.

whereas he meant take care of your sister, take care of your mother, take care of your wife.

sharone21:
If most men here are arguing with the truth from Pst K.....Hmmm.... Women are in trouble..... Many women will prefer being by themselves than being with these SIMPS.....I don't even know if Nairaland men know who SIMPs really are: IRRESPONSIBLE men, not anything less....

Nothing is wrong in pampering a woman in kind/cash.... Those asking if she is richer, will she still need pampering?... Don't you see how happy rich people are when people also remember them with gifts, no matter how little?

please add “pamper your sister, pamper your wife, and pamper your mother”, to your context.

Because that is what pastor meant, and not “pamper your girlfriend”.

Men should know this and know peace

dealslip:

When people make statement also see their context, he is not speaking as the society, he is speaking as a pastor. He is guided by the law of God not the society. Genuine pastors views are shaped by the word of God.

Where does the scripture say women are created to be taken care of? Are you meant to be a burden or a help??

Even if take care of dog it ll guide u n be dere to protect u to d last but dis other gender go jakpa once dey noticed dat d resources is not dere again

God1000:
He's a joker, I've seen hardworking women who are the breadwinners in their families


This is white lie, he's not helping the society with such message

Does this sound right in your ears? A woman is meant to be a helper; to help and support the man so they can grow faster and stronger, not become a sole provider.

It is an anomaly for a woman to be the bread winner when the man is alive. It's okay for her to do so for a few months or a few years if the man loses his job, but not permanently.

sharone21:
If most men here are arguing with the truth from Pst K.....Hmmm.... Women are in trouble..... Many women will prefer being by themselves than being with these SIMPS.....I don't even know if Nairaland men know who SIMPs really are: IRRESPONSIBLE men, not anything less....

Nothing is wrong in pampering a woman in kind/cash.... Those asking if she is richer, will she still need pampering?... Don't you see how happy rich people are when people also remember them with gifts, no matter how little?

And no one pampers the man? Marriage as an institution should be shut down. No more using men as financial slaves....

oojehshez:


Make sure you do not give birth to a girl, have a sister or mother better still no get anything to do with a nigerian female (as per you just dropped and found yourself on earth)...you guys just come online and start ranting forgetting that it's one woman that birthed you, you have sisters and it's a woman that will give birth for you, and you will have a daughter.

Na as man get issues, woman get am....na because of this mentality you no get good experience...your thought attracts what comes to you.

A woman goes to secondary school, university graduates, goes for nysc and gains about 2 years of work experience before thinking of marriage. Based on the fact she is a graduate, she should work and take care of her self with her own money....there's a huge scam of guys going on and only guys able to see thru blatant distortion of Holy Books can see thru it....

Godmother:


Does this sound right in your ears? A woman is meant to be a helper; to help and support the man so they can grow faster and stronger, not become a sole provider.

It is an anomaly for a woman to be the bread winner when the man is alive. It's okay for her to do so for a few months or a few years if the man loses his job, but not permanently.

That a woman is a "help meet" does not mean she should not help herself....both are not mutually exclusive...she is a university graduate she did not go to university to become a mere helper....she went to university so she can take care of herself financially....

emerged01:

... Not only in terms of material. Sometimes woman doesnt need your money but your time to prove you care about her.

Who then cares about the man is my question....he is just a mere financial slave...

Goodman247:
Ok, GOD created woman as a help mate to the man, the woman should assist in the running of the home

Most women still appoint a nanny to take care of the home and kids which means they still regard their role as "too much"....

For the logical thinkers out there, women are the main benefactors of marriage cos the man is forced to slave away for her.

I wish I was a lady so I just get married to a rich man and be comfy for life and just live a life of no stress....

SmartyPants:


Where does the scripture say women are created to be taken care of? Are you meant to be a burden or a help??

Let them answer oh

BigBashiru:


That a woman is a "help meet" does not mean she should not help herself....both are not mutually exclusive...she is a university graduate she did not go to university to become a mere helper....she went to university so she can take care of herself financially....

See my dear, there's a natural order of things:

Women were created to be taken care of, to crave love and security.

Men were created to want respect and to be protectors/providers

The problems of today arose because men are trying to change the narrative but still expecting the same results. Some men now expect the woman to foot the entire bill but still demand the full respect of the headship.

In my almost forty years on earth, I have seen and witnessed things. I have friends that are married and have been footing the family bills for over ten years. It's an anomaly

Godmother:



See my dear, there's a natural order of things:

Women were created to be taken care of, to crave love and security.

Men were created to want respect and to be protectors/providers

The problems of today arose because men are trying to change the narrative but still expecting the same results. Some men now expect the woman to foot the entire bill but still demand the full respect of the headship.

In my almost forty years on earth, I have seen and witnessed things. I have friends that are married and have been footing the family bills for over ten years. It's an anomaly

Ur so called "natural order of things" is a big fat lie and deep down you know it.... females are fully financially capable of taking care of themselves. Why go thru school and having a profession only for you to want to depend on someone else....that's SILLY