justmondris:


This kind statement nor Dey make divorce rate go higher. If you need someone that will always do whatever you tell her be it good or bad, the. You should marry a robot and be prepared for a doomed marriage. You will should not do some things you tell if it’s bad for the family or might lead to wahala latter. She has a brain to think for her self

I said “major family decisions “ not everything.

Calm down woman!

I am not sure any man wants a robotic wife…

I agree � with U,this kind thing fit destroy home.your wife may not always agree with U,but someone must have last say.Most women now want men to do what they want or say.so it has to be balanced,when a woman say if U don't buy me this or do this,U can't have this.A woman can advise her husband,a good husband must consider his wife in decision making.If U marry the wrong woman,when a man will appreciate a humble woman.Even a child has right but must submit to the authority of the parent.a woman also has right but must be humble enough,so both party must be humble

brain54:
Na these kind of statements Dey make divorce rate go higher…




Our old African fathers had more successful marriages. Because a man is the head of the house and makes major decisions for the family.
Now we must copy everything from oyinbo! All these are oyibo ideas.

African men must remember their roots!

ekerintee:
I agree � with U,this kind thing fit destroy home.your wife may not always agree with U,but someone must have last say.Most women now want men to do what they want or say.so it has to be balanced,when a woman say if U don't buy me this or do this,U can't have this.A woman can advise her husband,a good husband must consider his wife in decision making.If U marry the wrong woman,when a man will appreciate a humble woman.Even a child has right but must submit to the authority of the parent.a woman also has right but must be humble enough,so both party must be humble

You understand my point!

Make every GENDER just dey their own.
Any Gender you need just bargain price with am and invite am, when done open door for that GENDER to leave. Is it too difficult?

ASHAWO for example dey only quarrel you when you no pay or settle am. Same applies to contractors, mercenaries and expatriates

Women have evolved, they can never go back to the old ways of doing things.
A time will come when Ladies will attach price tag to submissiveness just like wives and Girlfriends bill their men. Expecting them to become submissive is stupidity. They have been empowered, exposed, and armed.

If a man decides to follow this principle n he marries the wrong woman.Then he will understand that this principle does not work when you marry a wrong person.She will tell you that you don't have right over me and can't tell me what to do because am not your child.if U tell her let's do this thing ,she will say I don't gree,then U have apc and PDP in your home.i sometimes feel sorry for pple who follow counsellor ,there is no perfect principle ,every case and home is different

brain54:

You understand my point!

ekerintee:
If a man decides to follow this principle n he marries the wrong woman.Then he will understand that this principle does not work when you marry a wrong person.She will tell you that you don't have right over me and can't tell me what to do because am not your child.if U tell her let's do this thing ,she will say I don't gree,then U have apc and PDP in your home.i sometimes feel sorry for pple who follow counsellor ,there is no perfect principle ,every case and home is different

No perfect principle. True.

Nothing is perfect. But to an extent the older generation of marriages did better and lasted longer than the present generation of marriages.

Which means they were doing something at least better.

In the end consider that most of those marriages were either forced or arranged marriages and you would understand that the older generation really handled marriage better than this generation. Compare to situations presently were people date/court for 10years and break up after 1 year of marriage. Even when they met voluntarily.


It tells me something is wrong! The oldies handled better. We as Africans should learn to modernize our ways and make them better rather than throw them out the window and embrace alien cultures. Especially when they do us no good.

RenerdLiam:


It’s foolishness to believe you are always right. Your wife should be there to see things a different way.

That’s what I encourage the women I am close with to do. If you think I’m wrong, don’t keep silent or just follow my lead. Try to disagree sometimes.

Although, this shouldn’t be too much.

No man truely in the real sense of the word told his wife what to do…

Usually he consulted the wife on issues while taking the final decision on family matters.

On other minor issues like cooking and other arrangements he left the woman completely at ease to use her discretion.

HaneefahRN:


Your old father's had long toxic marriages and their generation gave birth to this generation of women who saw the bullshit their mothers went through and would not tolerate it just to bear Mrs and they give no hoot about the judgemental society. You all should keep crying on social media and not build your home's with your wives

If you want to hear the ironic truth…



It is that it is this generation of marriages that are more toxic and (as you have admitted) short lived!

brain54:
Na these kind of statements Dey make divorce rate go higher…




Our old African fathers had more successful marriages. Because a man is the head of the house and makes major decisions for the family.
Now we must copy everything from oyinbo! All these are oyibo ideas.

African men must remember their roots!

God bless you for your golden statement.Western ideology has done more damage than good.

Generally,I think on future.there may not be marriages again,women are getting exposed and those things our mothers endured in marriage can't be endured by modern days women.More power is given to women now and some women abuse the process.some men also abuse power and authority.In general, humans change ,a man may be good and humble when he married ,something's happen along the line , challenges come and storm ,his behaviour changes.so also women do change.Marriage is so complex, wen you marry wrong person ,half of your life is gone

brain54:

No perfect principle. True.

Nothing is perfect. But to an extent the older generation of marriages did better and lasted longer than the present generation of marriages.

Which means they were doing something at least better.

In the end consider that most of those marriages were either forced or arranged marriages and you would understand that the older generation really handled marriage better than this generation. Compare to situations presently were people date/court for 10years and break up after 1 year of marriage. Even when they met voluntarily.


It tells me something is wrong! The oldies handled better. We as Africans should learn to modernize our ways and make them better rather than throw them out the window and embrace alien cultures. Especially when they do us no good.

Largest and biggest thing that make marriage last then is wife submissive to husband, a reasonable husband will not want all answers from wife to be yes but at least 75% most be as head,what make divorce numbers high this days is inability to submissive of wife to husband, remember if truly you are good husband you must take 80% of your house responsibility, isn't easy to be hustling around and come home and see disobedience wife, I think this man isn't married or not responsible at home, married man understand better.

ekerintee:
Generally,I think on future.there may not be marriages again,women are getting exposed and those things our mothers endured in marriage can't be endured by modern days women.More power is given to women now and some women abuse the process.some men also abuse power and authority.In general, humans change ,a man may be good and humble when he married ,something's happen along the line , challenges come and storm ,his behaviour changes.so also women do change.Marriage is so complex, wen you marry wrong person ,half of your life is gone

So in essence and conclusion you agree that although marriage is complex and a lot of things involved… a major cause divorce is the embrace of foreign influences and cultures.


There is another thread we’re I stated that in generations to come. Marriage as we know it today will not exist.

Maybe people would hookup just to have kids. Satisfy sexual urges.
No more commitment or companionship.


It might even get to a stage we’re people buying fertilized egg cells and spermatozoa just to have kids while avoiding marriage in itself.


The future is crazy and chaotic. I thank God I won’t be in existence by the time it gets there. Or maybe it may be sooner than I think.

Who knows…?

I think it's luck when you have a submissive wife in this generation.when you apply the principle with a wrong woman,marriage 2ill never last .She will challenge U in every thing ,she will even tell you that she knows more than u

AZControversial:


It's like this man is in love with trouble!

You manage to have a submissive wife, something divine, in this present dispensation where marriages barely stand the test of time. Yet, on your own, without pressure, you're seeking a partner who should readily challenge you?

Not saying you should have a puppet for a wife.
Simply saying some problems are better handled when they come to you not when you go searching for them!!!

ekerintee:
I think it's luck when you have a submissive wife in this generation.when you apply the principle with a wrong woman,marriage 2ill never last .She will challenge U in every thing ,she will even tell you that she knows more than u

Seriously..... its frightening!!!

Yes, education,etc .I live abroad and I see what marriage is like in this world.People are redefining marriage to suite them.i don't believe women shud be slave to men but a good woman must be submissive



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brain54:

So in essence and conclusion you agree that although marriage is complex and a lot of things involved… a major cause divorce is the embrace of foreign influences and cultures.

Promoter of Divorce in Marriage has spoken again.

Your wife is not your slave and not just your partner but your divine chosen partner to achieve your divine purpose ( both your and hers).

She is the foundation of your success without which you might be rich but difficult to achieve divine purpose.

Men and women are not equal but none is superior or better than the other. But as chos n the man as the head and the wife as his best companion.

It is not a debate but a simple understanding of the role of each in a family.

God bless all our wives, mothers and sisters.

And what if your wife refuses at some point what will he do? Remember the wife might even get a different idea on something the question is will he also listen to her own idea?

Who still listens to these idiots?

Who is she to you if she does things you do not want her to do?

Omicronvaccine:
If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife - Nigerian Man

A Nigerian Relationship and Marriage counsellor, AJ Morgan has taken to Twitter to kick against the ideology that a woman must do everything her husband tells her to do, IGBERETV reports.

He stated that if his wife does everything he tells her to do, then she is his child and not his wife.



https://twitter.com/ajeromorgan/status/1605083043462619137?t=UqpgtMUcW6oeSvTVnPkXNw&s=19

While some of his followers agreed with him, others insisted that man remains the head of the house and should direct affairs of the home.

Below are reactions from his followers.

https://igberetvnews.com/1434539/wife-everything-tell-shes-child-wife-nigerian-man/

Idiot will come here to rant when his wife begins misbehaving soon.
Anofia

ibkayee:

That’s good, wouldn’t want to give any credence to the stereotype that the black man can’t read either

Dang! Shots fired

Oh you did that boy greasy

ekerintee:
I think it's luck when you have a submissive wife in this generation.when you apply the principle with a wrong woman,marriage 2ill never last .She will challenge U in every thing ,she will even tell you that she knows more than u

We like to put the blame on women without looking inwards.
How many of you married friends went on " she has big bum bum, she is so fine, she is yellow in complexion, everywhere we go people look at her" to marry their wives, the real ones they had before the made money were all abandoned and 3 years into the marriage, they now want a submissive wife.
Life is a balance, you want the hot ones, you get what comes with them, you want the sex all day dummies, your kids will write jamb 6 times, you are ready to achieve and delegate, then you consult your intelligent wife ( if you married one) and she will give you a different perspective

brain54:
Na these kind of statements Dey make divorce rate go higher…




Our old African fathers had more successful marriages. Because a man is the head of the house and makes major decisions for the family.
Now we must copy everything from oyinbo! All these are oyibo ideas.

African men must remember their roots!

Shut up

Your wife is your mate

No one married each other oga


That's why my future wife is my agemate
I prefer it they way

Robenna:


Shut up

Your wife is your mate

No one married each other oga


That's why my future wife is my agemate
I prefer it they way

Out of point…


And you still Dey person to shut up join. I no even know wetin to reply you.


Just merry Xmas. I love you…!

brain54:
@kobojunkie
Even the reference you quoted admits that very little scholarly research has been done on this issue. Nigeria is not a nation that keep records, statistics or data.

I can bet my not so big hairy balls if you had 10 people on your street in whatever year you stated up there who came from divorced homes then in this 2022 you will have as much as 3 times more of such cases in your street.
It’s not even the numbers it’s the ratio. Go out and look around. Don’t take my words for it. Go out and stop hiding behind your keyboard reading useless statistics.
Open your eyes and see. Divorce these days is not an issue. It just happens like people eating breakfast and everyone moving on like nothing happened or they was not even a marriage that existed.
Open your eyes and see!

The guy is a clown
There are factors that contribute to divorces
Maybe he grew up in the ghetto
For instance i have the exact opposite experience to his.
Growing up, i had no single incidence of any divorce in my estate of about 1000 houses.
Not one that i knew of then
So....

Omicronvaccine:
If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife - Nigerian Man

A Nigerian Relationship and Marriage counsellor, AJ Morgan has taken to Twitter to kick against the ideology that a woman must do everything her husband tells her to do, IGBERETV reports.

He stated that if his wife does everything he tells her to do, then she is his child and not his wife.



https://twitter.com/ajeromorgan/status/1605083043462619137?t=UqpgtMUcW6oeSvTVnPkXNw&s=19

While some of his followers agreed with him, others insisted that man remains the head of the house and should direct affairs of the home.

Below are reactions from his followers.

https://igberetvnews.com/1434539/wife-everything-tell-shes-child-wife-nigerian-man/

He is right! As long as you are not too heady or stubborn and dogmatic, you have a right to your own opinions. Getting me to understand those opinions and why we should go with them as a wife without insults like our mothers did then is the way to go.

Omicronvaccine:
If My Wife Does Everything I Tell Her To Do, Then She's My Child, Not My Wife - Nigerian Man

A Nigerian Relationship and Marriage counsellor, AJ Morgan has taken to Twitter to kick against the ideology that a woman must do everything her husband tells her to do, IGBERETV reports.

He stated that if his wife does everything he tells her to do, then she is his child and not his wife.



https://twitter.com/ajeromorgan/status/1605083043462619137?t=UqpgtMUcW6oeSvTVnPkXNw&s=19

While some of his followers agreed with him, others insisted that man remains the head of the house and should direct affairs of the home.

Below are reactions from his followers.

https://igberetvnews.com/1434539/wife-everyt8hing-tell-shes-child-wife-nigerian-man/

I'm a man and I agree with him 100%.

We need to understand that as a humans we're not perfect, except God only. The bible called the woman a help meet, not just in some areas, but every part of life including the family. God made man the head of the family, but we need to also understand that men do mistakes too, and the wife is there to help by giving the husband a good advice, or by stopping him from taking any bad decision that will affect the family.

Is only a foolish woman that'll see his husband taking a bad decision and she will keep quiet. If a husband decided to sell his properties just to play bet, will you ( those criticising the man) as the wife allow him to do that?? The answer is no. So a woman must not agree to everything the husband says, that's if it's on the right side. And a wise woman will use wisdom to table the Matter to her husband. Not by doing it the rude way.

The statement only make Sense partially, however as the head of the house your order should stand at most times unless you just wannna be urchin horse band

The statement only make Sense partially, however as the head of the house your order should stand at most times unless you just wannna be urc.hin horse band

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brain54:
Na these kind of statements Dey make divorce rate go higher…




Our old African fathers had more successful marriages. Because a man is the head of the house and makes major decisions for the family.
Now we must copy everything from oyinbo! All these are oyibo ideas.

African men must remember their roots!

That's exactly what Adam thought, and ate the forbidden fruit...we're all still embracing the punishment after thousands of years.

There's a great program designed to reduce a man's place in the plan of God for humanity.

Real men, beware!