oluwaseyi0:
doesn't matter what you do for them they will come back for more

you got to know when to stop

Don't fight them just tell them you have a massive loan you are repaying

This Isn't right In the Spiritual Realm.

What I usually tell them Is I am very rich at the moment and I expect them to Copy.

Saying Negative Things to yourself can result to serious repercussions and consequences.

Be Guided.

Evii:
When God blesses you, the first thing you should do is to light up the candle of your family members and closed friends, so that when your candle goes off they'll return that same gesture. Else there will be total darkness.

This Post reeks of Wisdom. Welldone.

IgiveLadiesBj:
I doubt that story. He said he makes 2M monthly. So we're talking about 24M+ 13th month...
I strongly doubt it

Treassured:

Hmmm 2Wetin??

This can't be True

See this one for instance. Different field entirely, Low level staff o.

Blockchain developers working remotely from Naija earn as high as $20k per month.

Treassured:


This Isn't right In the Spiritual Realm.

What I usually tell them Is I am very rich at the moment and I expect them to Copy.

Saying Negative Things to yourself can result to serious repercussions and consequences.

Be Guided.

so na only negative utterances get consequences?

If I say I will be richer than Elon musk by month end , una go say no be by mouth . Lol

Senomie:
13million na jazz una jazz am abi wetin?
This ur bro is too generous to be a regular nigerian abroad relative

As for me from when i dey 5yrs till now na only $200 combined wey i don see from my devilish abroad relatives untop the 30yrs wey most of dem don stay there, no be like say i need dia moni but dem stingy die tufiakwa

I’m sure all of dem must be obidient as dem no dey give shishi

My papa first son don dey abroad (USA precisely) for years before my mama born me. Till this day, na only $50 of him money wey reach my mama back him 2006. I never receive anything from him and I no wan beg. Na only when person die for the family wey him dey send money to the eldest one wey dey Naija

yrhuhfy113:
this is so apt... I have faced this, traveling from country to country peacefully and enjoying my life till someone told my family that I travel frequently and BOOMMMM all hell of demands broke loose...

I wasn't married so the married ones began to place demands on me, tell their kids to call me so I can be manipulated to give... family responsibilites that I had no business with.

I had to first relocate from the address they all knew... to somewhere they would never be able to find me, then I traveled out... changed my numbers, then I came back to Lagos and put on the FAMILY SIM just to greet them via SMS and remove it quickly before they call.

Since then I have had peace, my own family has had peace, no more demands from extended relations

EVERYONE WILL SURVIVE

I blame you guys.

For me it cost me a lot but I made sure by 5 younger ones were all fixed up well. All five abroad 3 UK 2 USA. It did cost a lot but I have had my peace of mind since then.

Now I dey flex I then work online, I am having a blast now spending few weeks at a time in spanish Island.

No one in my family have the gut to ask for shishi again. Extended family now has multiple people to call if I don't pick (which I stopped doing after I fixed up the last born) they call my younger ones.

I thank baba God that they too are now pulling their one weight.

It is dangerous to be the only rich one or the only one with money in your family.

My advice to young men please set up your siblings as soon as you can and then ignore then. Then you will experience eternal peace and joy.

However I have come across friends with money they would rather have their siblings worship them than set them up. But then it is their money I can't fault them though.

yrhuhfy113:
this is so apt... I have faced this, traveling from country to country peacefully and enjoying my life till someone told my family that I travel frequently and BOOMMMM all hell of demands broke loose...

I wasn't married so the married ones began to place demands on me, tell their kids to call me so I can be manipulated to give... family responsibilites that I had no business with.

I had to first relocate from the address they all knew... to somewhere they would never be able to find me, then I traveled out... changed my numbers, then I came back to Lagos and put on the FAMILY SIM just to greet them via SMS and remove it quickly before they call.

Since then I have had peace, my own family has had peace, no more demands from extended relations

EVERYONE WILL SURVIVE

How about your parents?

Irupetepete:
Omo, uneasy lies the head that wears the crown...
I am not the rich relative, infact, I just go by everyday doing the best I can..
I am this person that doesn't know how to beg cos right from onset after sec school, been fending for myself till I got married...
Everyone knows the terrible situation in Nigeria right now so I can't but pity the rich among many poor relatives right now...

I have a junior brother who just came in from outside... He was looking fresh and fly but looking at him yesterday, I almost shed tears...
He has been the one shouldering many responsibilities and he is just 33yrs old...
He said Egbon, you self no need anything? I told him he shouldn't worry that I will manage...
I was eavesdropping one of his call last December and he was lamenting he has spent close to 13m in just 3months of coming home...
The problem we have as Nigerians is, everybody tends to have a problem or the other when their rich or abroad relatives land...
Spending for his immediate family isn't the problem but iru wa, giri wa,(diff. Sort of people) and as per naija mentality, if you don't do, they may inflict you with something or somehow diabolically stop you from traveling back.. The last time he was home was 8yrs ago, he sure me say if he travel again, na till retirement before he go come back....

So share your experience as per the aforementioned topic..

The problem is we lack financial piggybacking. He has 13m, he could had been empowering the relatives one by one to relieve the burden in advance. Well, na person wey wear shoe know where e dey pain am.. May be he did and they squandered.

Hendrixky:
Not easy


But the quickest way to become a Billionaire is to ensure you make your relatives especially your siblings a millionaire first

Only people with deep sense and critical thinkers will understand my statement above

Yea na waiting dem no no. Make all your relatives productive.. Out of 7, 3 will be very useful with your support and help you share the burden. I learned this method late.

Buddha3:


Ensure you make your relatives millionaires first?

LMAO!
No offence, how old are you please? Because from where I sit, you don't particularly sound like someone who has seen a decent measure of the Nigerian reality.

There are relatives who are bluntly uninterested in turning a hundred thousand into a million naira. They don't have the patience to turn over investments for small but steady profits. They are basically comfortable with the fact that you have a moderate inflow of income and can accommodate their needs and demands whenever they walk up to you. So whatever efforts you put into setting them up amounts to no good. I have two cousins I have particularly made a handful of efforts to help achieve financial stability. Today they want a hundred grand to put in a business idea they have, it's down the drain tomorrow. Next they want a keke for hire purchase purposes, funds are committed into buying it, 2 months later, keke is sold and they're back to calling your line.

Look, we were all created with opportunities, however unequal they may be. The fact you're in a place to lend a helping hand doesn't mean you should die in the process. Sometimes it's okay to shut in, close fences and tend to your own life. Everybody go dey alright finally.

Well said.
Struggled with this as well. Had to talk to some US friends about it who are in similar situations. One good friend told me he and his wife donate 10% of their income as a tithe. They said that the tithe didn't necessarily have to go to their church and they use part of that to sew into friends/family who need support. That made sense to me. So I do similar now and try not to go over it no matter the ask.. (the budget ended halfway this year and I did make an amendment a couple of weeks back for a close cousin who needed rent money).

Karlifate:


There's nothing deep or critical about your comment.

A family where there's unity & love, it's common sense for siblings to help each other out.

Alas! So many dysfunctional families in Nigeria.

I agree with you sir. Intend to send my siblings to the UK...not because I want anything in return but so that they can atleast be self sufficient. I haven't left Nigeria myself

TalkTalkTwins:
I've not made it in life yet but my phone is always on DND.
When I was starving, almost no one was there for me.

What is DND pls?

I remember when I was in the hospital for months. Na so I came back that week and this relative called saying that he wanted to discuss something urgent with me. This man came, even after seeing me in my condition, the goat went ahead to bill me for something. The Audacity ehn.
I was admitted for months, you never called nor visited, and we were in the same city o.
He saw me and was like, "ahh sorry o, I heard what happened o. Anyway, as I was saying...."
He left disappointed.

P1PrinceKT:

What is DND pls?

Do No Disturb.

Senomie:
13million na jazz una jazz am abi wetin?
This ur bro is too generous to be a regular nigerian abroad relative

As for me from when i dey 5yrs till now na only $200 combined wey i don see from my devilish abroad relatives untop the 30yrs wey most of dem don stay there, no be like say i need dia moni but dem stingy die tufiakwa

I’m sure all of dem must be obidient as dem no dey give shishi

na because of entitled people like you op open this post. Are your relatives owing you or na you send them go abroad?

See childish reasoning, you should consider yourself privileged to be on the giving side and besides no one knows what tomorrow be turn out. Death comes uninvited and your children will need helping hands too.

Me I dey give o but I fit curse you small but all nah cruise last last I will still give. New year Eve alone I did almost 2m transfer. Before Xmas I was doing transfers from morning till Dawn. I love my family both lagos and village and everyone must feel me. Mostly my uncle, the connection bw me and him even my dad gets jealous, maybe coz we smoke the same brand but me and him has too many secrets bw us so he knows how he makes my head swell.

Exactly. You know the game.
Nnewi people in Anambra State understand this very well that is why you can hardly see a poor family in Nnewi

Hendrixky:
Not easy


But the quickest way to become a Billionaire is to ensure you make your relatives especially your siblings a millionaire first

Only people with deep sense and critical thinkers will understand my statement above

Hendrixky:
Not easy


But the quickest way to become a Billionaire is to ensure you make your relatives especially your siblings a millionaire first

Only people with deep sense and critical thinkers will understand my statement above

Are you a billionaire

Wickedfact:


He is a damn idiot.

That's how he was running around early last year because his younger brother's family wanted to relocate to the UK. He was the one who sponsored 80% of their trip. His brother claimed he didn't have enough money. You don't have money, you are going to the UK for Masters with your wifen.

I pray it's will not be too late before he adjust.
Am not saying, he should not help relative. But!!! Not at his own happiness. The moment he get married now, the family will likely dislike his wife.

Wickedfact:



See this one for instance. Different field entirely, Low level staff o.

Blockchain developers working remotely from Naija earn as high as $20k per month.

What are you talking?
I said there's no way someone that earns 2M monthly in Nigeria will in the first week of January be asking people for 20k.

I know people who make way more.

I'm far from "rich". Rich in quote because it's relative, but I'm the only financially stable person in the family. Although I don't get billed from siblings back home in Nigeria but I lend a helping hand when they need it. Even at that, I calculated the funds I've sent home to support siblings and family as whole and it's running into millions in the space of a year. Only person with some sort of entitlement mentality is my pops. Just before christmas, I sent everyone money to share. I know the money will go a long way and I wanted everyone to have a good christmas. Pops had to tell me that I should add a few thousands to his share of the money. Shameful that I had to remind him that I also have a family to run - two "mini-me" to cater for. This is a man that had no financial hand in me being abroad, the man that mismanaged a fund I set up for a business project back home because I put him in charge of the logistics. (The only thing I thought he could do for me) The man that don't really care about his children's growth, education etc. I don't hate or despise him. He's just there and it's sad that I had to put him in his place. I guess majority of Nigerians abroad can relate to this or at least a variation of it to some extent. Because majority of us came from a struggling background.

I hope I would one day, be in the financial position to help one or two of my siblings out of the country, then I would consider my burdensome role fulfiled, as the eldest child.

LagBlogger:


I would have doubted it too until I watched a YouTube video of an NBA player who made more than 100 million USD in his career but retired bankrupt.

What did he do with most of his money? Spent it supporting family and friends.

That isn't true. How can you spend 100m supporting family and friends? When he was close to his last $5m, why did common sense not enter?

He was either wasteful or had no financial education. I won't be surprised if the IRS was after him or HE made some bad financial investments. He might have bought a stupidly mighty house or lost half his wealth in a bloody divorce battle.

Lance00009:

You can only make your sibling a millionaire when you are a billionaire

If you are a thousandnia make some of your relatives hundrednia, if you millionare... Thousandnia... Billionaire, millionaire etc

I have never collected anything from any friend or family abroad. Even if I dey die... I no dey ask anybody anything. I respect myself in peace. If God put me for your mind and you no call to ask how I’m doing.. God will send a stranger. Na me be that... but anytime I have.. I give people even without asking and I send to ophanage too

Senomie:
13million na jazz una jazz am abi wetin?
This ur bro is too generous to be a regular nigerian abroad relative

As for me from when i dey 5yrs till now na only $200 combined wey i don see from my devilish abroad relatives untop the 30yrs wey most of dem don stay there, no be like say i need dia moni but dem stingy die tufiakwa

I’m sure all of dem must be obidient as dem no dey give shishi

.

juwoonn:
I have never collected anything from any friend or family abroad. Even if I dey die... I no dey ask anybody anything. I respect myself in peace. If God put me for your mind and you no call to ask how I’m doing.. God will send a stranger. Na me be that... but anytime I have.. I give people even without asking and I send to ophanage too

Self respect but unfortunately, a lot of people think they are entitled to you and your money because you are living abroad, they don't know if you're facing any financial struggles.

IgiveLadiesBj:

What are you talking?
I said there's no way someone that earns 2M monthly in Nigeria will in the first week of January be asking people for 20k.

I know people who make way more.

Not just 2M, he got paid 4M in January.
Look at you. The debts he's stupidly put himself, his 2023 salary cannot repay all. Last year alone, he sponsored his ex-fiance abroad. He sponsored his younger brother and his wife abroad.
He's building a house for his Mom and another in the village cos their dad is late.
When I saw his msg for 20k, I thought someone stole his phone and wanted to use it to collect money, so I called him. He used his mouth to ask for 20k.

Zeezenho:
Outside my family nah only my afonja friends they beg like hell.i wonder why they are not making it in their darling Lagos.

Chaii, I am not trying to be tribalistic here but Yorubas can beg for Africa.

They criticize you when you refuse to give them money whereas some of them may even be richer than you.

Lance00009:
Sometimes does you are busy killing yourself for thinking you playing your part are perfectly waiting for ur funeral

This one enter deep word”

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