I have being living fine with my wife and two kids. She loves me an I love her too. Sincerely speaking she has being a very good wife. But now we have a problem, we got a tenant into our house last year, a single guy ever since this guy came into our house he has being showing so much love towards my kids buying them gifts from time to time almost everyday and this makes my wife like this guy and they have seem to be good friends, at first I feel cool with it thinking the guy is just nice and there is no strings attached, but lately I feel the intimacy is getting too much that even when am at home my wife would leave me inside and start talking to the guy outside at night, sometimes I would be inside and my wife would be cooking inside the kitchen this guy will leave whatever he is doing and go and keep my wife company in the kitchen, I started feeling disrespected I talked to her about it and she promised to ameliorate the third day same thing happened The guy came back from work and my wife was cooking at the kitchen before the guy even enter his room he went straight to the kitchen and start to keep her company again both of them alone at night all other tenants are in their rooms. I became very exasperated I had to walk up to the kitchen and tell her right in the guys presence that she is not okay and that is her last warning my intention of doing this is to let the guy know that am not cool with the intimacy between them that he should caution himself. now I feel am not being respected because after I warned her I believe she should have excused the guy and not give him so much attention again, now I think he is being kind to my kids just to gain my wife's attention, even if they both have a pure heart and nothing in mind if the intimacy continues It might later lead to relationship and sex, so I called her parents yesterday to inform them of what is happening they promise to talk to her, meanwhile she has invited the guy to our family church weeks ago. my only aunty that I can say she is the only family I gat because am the only child of my parents and am an orphan now, so I do not have many relatives this my aunt's husband is the pastor of the church. Now my wife has narrated the story to my aunt and she is now telling me I must not quarell with my wife or the guy because the guy is now a member of the church they do not want to loose a member I do not know what to do because my aunt seems to be at her side saying she can't do such thing but I know what I am seeing and experiencing at home if they can be doing such in my presence what would they do in my absence, and I do a shifting job I only sleep at hope for two weeks in a month am scared and confused, Don't want to loose her and I can't even give the guy a quit notice now because my only aunt wold be furious I don't want her to be mad at me she's the only family I gat am confused please advise me

Dude your wife is doing this intentional so play the bat game start by making a female tenant friend discuss with her ur plans then start the opposite thing ur wife its doing but first accuse ur wife of cheating that will put her on a still moody then kick off this plan i said here give that particular female lady attention that your wife will be jealous and regret her actions towards you. Ignore the male tenant let him be the swan in ur pawn game, warn ur kids never to collect anything from him again.

You don't have any business with the said guy but with your wife....

Personally, I'd ensure that she gets the message by all means...

I supposed you know what it means of you give the young lad a quit notice...Your wife will likely continue the intimacy from afar without you monitoring her.

Are you sure they're not ex lovers? And those kids could be his...


If a woman can't understand that as a married person, you have to keep distance from men, then she's never seeing herself as a married woman.


Also check on yourself...Have you been giving her the attention that she needs?

Hope we now understand why they said
Weak men create Hard times

As a man, if u cannot coordinate ur wife wit@ d interference of a third party, den u are not ripe enough to get married

wonderr:
I have being living fine with my wife and two kids. She loves me an I love her too. Sincerely speaking she has being a very good wife. But now we have a problem, we got a tenant into our house last year, a single guy ever since this guy came into our house he has being showing so much love towards my kids buying them gifts from time to time almost everyday and this makes my wife like this guy and they have seem to be good friends, at first I feel cool with it thinking the guy is just nice and there is no strings attached, but lately I feel the intimacy is getting too much that even when am at home my wife would leave me inside and start talking to the guy outside at night, sometimes I would be inside and my wife would be cooking inside the kitchen this guy will leave whatever he is doing and go and keep my wife company in the kitchen, I started feeling disrespected I talked to her about it and she promised to ameliorate the third day same thing happened The guy came back from work and my wife was cooking at the kitchen before the guy even enter his room he went straight to the kitchen and start to keep her company again both of them alone at night all other tenants are in their rooms. I became very exasperated I had to walk up to the kitchen and tell her right in the guys presence that she is not okay and that is her last warning my intention of doing this is to let the guy know that am not cool with the intimacy between them that he should caution himself. now I feel am not being respected because after I warned her I believe she should have excused the guy and not give him so much attention again, now I think he is being kind to my kids just to gain my wife's attention, even if they both have a pure heart and nothing in mind if the intimacy continues It might later lead to relationship and sex, so I called her parents yesterday to inform them of what is happening they promise to talk to her, meanwhile she has invited the guy to our family church weeks ago. my only aunty that I can say she is the only family I gat because am the only child of my parents and am an orphan now, so I do not have many relatives this my aunt's husband is the pastor of the church. Now my wife has narrated the story to my aunt and she is now telling me I must not quarell with my wife or the guy because the guy is now a member of the church they do not want to loose a member I do not know what to do because my aunt seems to be at her side saying she can't do such thing but I know what I am seeing and experiencing at home if they can be doing such in my presence what would they do in my absence, and I do a shifting job I only sleep at hope for two weeks in a month am scared and confused, Don't want to loose her and I can't even give the guy a quit notice now because my only aunt wold be furious I don't want her to be mad at me she's the only family I gat am confused please advise me

You are right to have shown concern...

Whatever you said in your write up...you have done no wrong at all

Listen to me.....women are delicate beings....no matter how strict a woman is...a smart man has a key to her heart even if she is married...


People don't know that...as married men lust around with single ladies... married women also like to lust around with men....the urge is always there...

Once a woman continuously smile (sheepishly) at a man for almost no reason during conversations....that man is just few meters away from her panties....

So if care is not taken ...that guy will have his way with your wife in no time....your wife got some feeling for him already


Now see what to do .....set them up with some of your very matured tenants.....I repeat very matured tenants....

Tell them everything you feel about this very guy's relationship with your wife...send one of them to advice the guy neutrally...and the rest should continue to keep an eye on him and your wife especially when you are not around...

Going forward, don't say anything to your wife about the guy....just be yourself...do your thing as if you have relented.....get feedbacks regularly from your watchdogs ...that's all...any silly info you gather up will tell you what to do next....

The guy is an idiot for wanting to keep friendship with a married woman whose husband is glaringly not happy with such friendship

..By default, the mind of a woman is weak and fragile.Too much freedom is a no no for women.How can you allow such nonsense to be happening for long without taking a bold decision to end that sh**t?.The guy has a bad motive towards your wife.She has already developed feelings for that guy.

Your suspicion is legit. But who is your wife not to listen to you? Why are some men like this? Who married who? Or did she pay your groom price? You don't need to involve any third party. Be very decisive with what you want and take a definite stand on this matter. Let her know the consequences of disobeying you which might lead to separation. Yes, it's that serious. Who born monkey?

In all (and this is very important), stop eating her food and don't sleep with her till she comes back to her senses. Be spiritually alert, also. Make spiritual consultations to know what she's up to. Women can do anything to get what they want, before she turn you to mumu.

It's a shame
You're a shame to yourself

Only a matter of time

Go and confront the guy and warn him never to step his foot inside your kitchen or else you'll lock him up. And when he's rent expires, increase it by 200%, and tell him if he doesn't pay in the next two weeks you'll padlock his room. In fact, anything that has to do with contribution in that compound, make his own share the highest if he complains, tell him to park out...Frustrate him in that compound until he gets the message and leaves. Believe me, the next place he'll rent he'll run away from married women.

Now to your wife...give her a strict warning that if you find her with that guy, whether talking on phone, smiling, greeting... etc, you'll send her back to her people. And stand by your word. Any day you find them talking, give her transportation fare and bundle her things out of your house. Women would only respect you if you use an iron hand on them. If you keep being soft and tolerating nonsense, she'll get pregnant for that guy and pin it on you.

Even the Bible said the violent taketh it by force. Sometimes in life you have to be violent, if not, people you're far better than would take you for granted.

U will soon regret ever knowing that ur Aunty. And

U will also regret not sending the guy packing early enough.

U are playing with penis wey no get control.

I pity u sha.

wonderr:
I have being living fine with my wife and two kids. She loves me an I love her too. Sincerely speaking she has being a very good wife. But now we have a problem, we got a tenant into our house last year, a single guy ever since this guy came into our house he has being showing so much love towards my kids buying them gifts from time to time almost everyday and this makes my wife like this guy and they have seem to be good friends, at first I feel cool with it thinking the guy is just nice and there is no strings attached, but lately I feel the intimacy is getting too much that even when am at home my wife would leave me inside and start talking to the guy outside at night, sometimes I would be inside and my wife would be cooking inside the kitchen this guy will leave whatever he is doing and go and keep my wife company in the kitchen, I started feeling disrespected I talked to her about it and she promised to ameliorate the third day same thing happened The guy came back from work and my wife was cooking at the kitchen before the guy even enter his room he went straight to the kitchen and start to keep her company again both of them alone at night all other tenants are in their rooms. I became very exasperated I had to walk up to the kitchen and tell her right in the guys presence that she is not okay and that is her last warning my intention of doing this is to let the guy know that am not cool with the intimacy between them that he should caution himself. now I feel am not being respected because after I warned her I believe she should have excused the guy and not give him so much attention again, now I think he is being kind to my kids just to gain my wife's attention, even if they both have a pure heart and nothing in mind if the intimacy continues It might later lead to relationship and sex, so I called her parents yesterday to inform them of what is happening they promise to talk to her, meanwhile she has invited the guy to our family church weeks ago. my only aunty that I can say she is the only family I gat because am the only child of my parents and am an orphan now, so I do not have many relatives this my aunt's husband is the pastor of the church. Now my wife has narrated the story to my aunt and she is now telling me I must not quarell with my wife or the guy because the guy is now a member of the church they do not want to loose a member I do not know what to do because my aunt seems to be at her side saying she can't do such thing but I know what I am seeing and experiencing at home if they can be doing such in my presence what would they do in my absence, and I do a shifting job I only sleep at hope for two weeks in a month am scared and confused, Don't want to loose her and I can't even give the guy a quit notice now because my only aunt wold be furious I don't want her to be mad at me she's the only family I gat am confused please advise me

ahahaha OMG I couldn't stop laughing while reading this my man you're just disturbing yourself for nothing haba. Life short o. Let me advice you, have a female friend, bring her home, even if is arrangee, do this for the 2 weeks you'll be at home and see magic. When she askes if her the same exact reply she gives you

You are simply a weak man..
You don't even need to gain attention outside your family.you need to caution your wife with the language she will understand..your are still alive and she's playing with your balls..
Too many weak men these days. Spits!

So many fake stories on nairaland.


Below is the thread you created some months ago about a girl you dated. And suddenly you have a wife and 2 kids ?

What do you people stand to gain when you make up stories?

Smh at the people on this thread dishing out advices to you

Starz825:


You are right to have shown concern...

Whatever you said in your write up...you have done no wrong at all

Listen to me.....women are delicate beings....no matter how strict a woman is...a smart man has a key to her heart even if she is married...

So There is no man that will take such disrespect...


People don't know that...as married men lust around with single ladies... married women also love to lust around with men....the urge is always there...

Once a woman begin to smile at a man for almost no reason....that man is just few meters away from her pants....

So if care is not taken ...that guy will have his way with your wife in no time....your wife got some feeling for him already


Now see what to do .....set them up with some of your very matured tenants.....I repeat very matured tenants....

Tell them everything you feel about this very guy's relationship with your wife...send one of them to advice the guy...and the rest should continue to keep an eye on me and your wife especially when you are not around...

Going forward, don't say anything to your wife about the guy....just be yourself...do your thing as if you have relented.....get feedbacks regularly from your watchdogs ...that's all...any silly info you gather up will tell you what to do next....

The guy is an idiot for wanting to keep a relationship with a married woman whose husband is glaringly not happy with such relationship..

thank you very much I really appreciate this

Lurdd:
You are simply a weak man..
You don't even need to gain attention outside your family.you need to caution your wife with the language she will understand..your are still alive and she's playing with your balls..
Too many weak men these days. Spits!

you have no idea of whom I am am not censorious but if I get angry once there might be irreparable damages that's why am just trying to subjugate the issue

Wotoporiously speaking

Two can play this game, na you dey dull

I rather born kidnapper than born pikin like you
Weak Simp
God abeg oo

Bonesbreaker:
Dude your wife is doing this intentional so play the bat game start by making a female tenant friend discuss with her ur plans then start the opposite thing ur wife its doing but first accuse ur wife of cheating that will put her on a still moody then kick off this plan i said here give that particular female lady attention that your wife will be jealous and regret her actions towards you. Ignore the male tenant let him be the swan in ur pawn game, warn ur kids never to collect anything from him again.

Short and simple. Just be careful with the female tenant too....

JASONjnr:
You don't have any business with the said guy but with your wife....

Personally, I'd ensure that she gets the message by all means...

I supposed you know what it means of you give the young lad a quit notice...Your wife will likely continue the intimacy from afar without you monitoring her.

Are you sure they're not ex lovers? And those kids could be his...


If a woman can't understand that as a married person, you have to keep distance from men, then she's never seeing herself as a married woman.


Also check on yourself...Have you been giving her the attention that she needs?

talking about attention our sexlife is horrible but she is the cause of it from time she seems to be the type of person that doesn't like sex that most time I have to beg her for it and because I do not want any altercations in my home I have to oblige and ask her for sex once in a while could this be the cause?

Eleyi tun le o...

Bonesbreaker:
Dude your wife is doing this intentional so play the bat game start by making a female tenant friend discuss with her ur plans then start the opposite thing ur wife its doing but first accuse ur wife of cheating that will put her on a still moody then kick off this plan i said here give that particular female lady attention that your wife will be jealous and regret her actions towards you. Ignore the male tenant let him be the swan in ur pawn game, warn ur kids never to collect anything from him again.

I support this.

If she is really your Aunty as you claimed then she should back you in the decision you are about to take. Your wife is only manipulating you and is wrong for a Married woman to be mingling with a single guy under your roof.

Terminate his rental contract and pay him off the remaining months. You must stamp your authority as a Man and ignore your Aunty because she will not be there to help you when your marriage will crash because of the guy.

Forget church matter. If your wife and the guy are good Christians, they would not even consider doing what they are doing in the first place.

Unending stories on Nairaland

Cameras!

wonderr:
I have being living fine with my wife and two kids. She loves me an I love her too. Sincerely speaking she has being a very good wife. But now we have a problem, we got a tenant into our house last year, a single guy ever since this guy came into our house he has being showing so much love towards my kids buying them gifts from time to time almost everyday and this makes my wife like this guy and they have seem to be good friends, at first I feel cool with it thinking the guy is just nice and there is no strings attached, but lately I feel the intimacy is getting too much that even when am at home my wife would leave me inside and start talking to the guy outside at night, sometimes I would be inside and my wife would be cooking inside the kitchen this guy will leave whatever he is doing and go and keep my wife company in the kitchen, I started feeling disrespected I talked to her about it and she promised to ameliorate the third day same thing happened The guy came back from work and my wife was cooking at the kitchen before the guy even enter his room he went straight to the kitchen and start to keep her company again both of them alone at night all other tenants are in their rooms. I became very exasperated I had to walk up to the kitchen and tell her right in the guys presence that she is not okay and that is her last warning my intention of doing this is to let the guy know that am not cool with the intimacy between them that he should caution himself. now I feel am not being respected because after I warned her I believe she should have excused the guy and not give him so much attention again, now I think he is being kind to my kids just to gain my wife's attention, even if they both have a pure heart and nothing in mind if the intimacy continues It might later lead to relationship and sex, so I called her parents yesterday to inform them of what is happening they promise to talk to her, meanwhile she has invited the guy to our family church weeks ago. my only aunty that I can say she is the only family I gat because am the only child of my parents and am an orphan now, so I do not have many relatives this my aunt's husband is the pastor of the church. Now my wife has narrated the story to my aunt and she is now telling me I must not quarell with my wife or the guy because the guy is now a member of the church they do not want to loose a member I do not know what to do because my aunt seems to be at her side saying she can't do such thing but I know what I am seeing and experiencing at home if they can be doing such in my presence what would they do in my absence, and I do a shifting job I only sleep at hope for two weeks in a month am scared and confused, Don't want to loose her and I can't even give the guy a quit notice now because my only aunt wold be furious I don't want her to be mad at me she's the only family I gat am confused please advise me

Fake story
Carry it and shove on your ass

"We got a tenant into our house last year" ..... who got the guy?... you or she? If it is she ... the tenant is not a random one. As a husband who is not much around.... why would you have a single male as tenant?.. I'm thinking that should be an automatic no no. That slipped by ... a guy you know nothing about is giving stuff to your kids?... nice guy? .... pedophile/ ritualistic didn't come to mind? You need to pay more attention guy .... women are not wired same as men. The aunt with the church does not care a damn about your feelings ... nor the possibility of your wife committing adultery.... she is concerned about the tithes the guy is giving... why would she support you and stop cash from flowing into her pocket? Then again she may also have her eyes on the guy since he seems to have no boundaries.
As it is now ... I think you have allowed it to go too far and they have now taken you for granted . You need to stop pleading and come out strong as a man... a husband. You need not talk to the guy .... it is your wife you need to control. I suggest you sit her down ... let her know you have done talking.... this is the last and you want to make it very simple and clear ... as from tomorrow.... should you see or hear of her talking to the guy... or see them together ... you don't care the reason ... you will do the needful. Then you leave and sit outside and be sharpening your cutlass... your new hobby. She will somehow get the message to the guy.... and he will kno what to do. BTW ... have younever done a DNA check of your kids?... or by now you are sure they are yours?

Please sir,talk to your tenant man to man, make him understand that's what he is doing can't be condoned anywhere... why would he enter your kitchen in the first place,next thing your wife would start comparing the both of you,tell your wife that if she can't stop over relating with him,you don't mind sending her out and there's nothing your aunt can do...na you wey wear shoes know where e dey pain oh...I made this mistake of reporting issues to people who only told me to endure in what I was going through, now like this it has escalated and they are now the ones insulting me... please do whatever is on your mind.

I don't help anyone. I don't plan to help anyone ever!
And I will not help anyone.
Let everybody carry him cross.

Your wife would soon get pregnant and trust me, it ain't gon be yours

How to know fake story tellers on nairaland.

They usually deliberately use bad grammar to try to make them look genuine. Writing without paragraphs and all to make it seem there are barely educated.

They always come up with the victim story. Some even deliberately try to sound really weak and helpless, just to seem believable.

The question is what is their motive? Are they being paid to come up with these stories or it's mere idleness? It baffles.